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Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years
    #21823152 - 06/18/15 11:03 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I managed to find her on Facebook but i cant send her a message or ask for friendship, these features are disabled on her page for some reason...

So i found her in a directory and got her address...

Although she is now married we were VERY close and passionate together in high school and in the letter i am going to  say: i tried to reach anyone from my school i knew and your the only person i found. Now i know your married and i dont want to cause any trouble but i just wondering if we could re light our friendship .

What else you guys think i should add to the letter?


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] * 5
    #21823167 - 06/18/15 11:08 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

So you want to be a homewrecker?


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] * 2
    #21823176 - 06/18/15 11:11 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

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desant said:
I managed to find her on Facebook but i cant send her a message or ask for friendship, these features are disabled on her page for some reason...

So i found her in a directory and got her address...

Although she is now married we were VERY close and passionate together in high school and in the letter i am going to  say: i tried to reach anyone from my school i knew and your the only person i found. Now i know your married and i dont want to cause any trouble but i just wondering if we could re light our friendship .

What else you guys think i should add to the letter?




I think she blocked you


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Beanhead]
    #21823181 - 06/18/15 11:14 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

yeah its gonna be super tough to hit her up and not make it seem like ur trying to get laid

specially if shes the only one youre hitting up and you told her that


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] * 5
    #21823186 - 06/18/15 11:17 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

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desant said:
I managed to find her on Facebook but i cant send her a message or ask for friendship, these features are disabled on her page for some reason...

So i found her in a directory and got her address...

Although she is now married we were VERY close and passionate together in high school and in the letter i am going to  say: i tried to reach anyone from my school i knew and your the only person i found. Now i know your married and i dont want to cause any trouble but i just wondering if we could re light our friendship .

What else you guys think i should add to the letter?



I think you should throw it away


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] * 2
    #21823508 - 06/18/15 12:58 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

You probably should just forget that idea and find some new friends.
:badmanthisfeels:


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: stratocast]
    #21823517 - 06/18/15 01:00 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

How long have you been outta high school OP?


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: stratocast]
    #21823810 - 06/18/15 02:10 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

15 years, its in the title of this thread :facepalm:


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You probably should just forget that idea and find some new friends.
:badmanthisfeels:





Nah i still think about my high school buddies, and beside this chick KNOWS me and knows me well, she not gonna think im hitting on her or anything like that


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
    #21823818 - 06/18/15 02:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

But unfortunately her husband might think that


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Drumdude27]
    #21823823 - 06/18/15 02:12 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

So do u think its a bad idea


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
    #21823836 - 06/18/15 02:14 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

If you ever cherished that friendship, keep the memories and let her be.  I can guarantee that sending this letter is not going to work how you think it will.


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
    #21823837 - 06/18/15 02:14 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

It's either a great idea or a terrible idea. No in between on that one. If you feel that you can be friends with her without falling for her again, then maybe it's worth it.


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Drumdude27]
    #21823901 - 06/18/15 02:31 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

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Drumdude27 said:
It's either a great idea or a terrible idea. No in between on that one. If you feel that you can be friends with her without falling for her again, then maybe it's worth it.





I hope u right

Burke Dennings , you might be right too...

Im uncertain... even if i send her the letter, whats the worst that can happen? She puts it in a bin.  But i doubt that since we were close friends so something might come out of this :wink:


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: Drumdude27]
    #21823915 - 06/18/15 02:33 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Thats a long time ago. She probably changed a lot.


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: twelvelookslikeu]
    #21823935 - 06/18/15 02:39 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

it's a terrible idea. but you'll do it anyway, so when you write it, make sure you know the difference between you're and your, to avoid looking illiterate.


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] * 2
    #21823942 - 06/18/15 02:40 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

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Malcolm_Xtasy said:

I think you should throw it away




either this, or take any reference to "rekindling a friendship" out of it.

just send a greeting letter or something, ask about things...life...what have you.
if she brings it up, then cool....otherwise, you're kinda coming off a bit hasty


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: 1234go]
    #21824155 - 06/18/15 03:32 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

good advice


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant]
    #21824182 - 06/18/15 03:41 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

If you say "I know you're married and don't want to start trouble." She is going to think you're stalking her and trying to fuck her. It also sounds like you're just looking for anybody from High School and she was your only option.  I've had ex-gf's contact me and they just said something like "I wanted to see how you're doing." Then later they slowly started to ask if I was married or available.

Maybe say something like this.

Hi this is Desant. I was thinking about all the fun we had in H.S. and wanted to say hello and see how you're doing

Or whatever you want, you know her better than us, but your original letter wouldn't fly with my ex gfs.


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: desant] * 1
    #21827156 - 06/19/15 08:23 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I would make spelling and grammar impeccable (like correcting "your" to 'you're), don't write about 're lighting' anything (ignition means passion), and be honest, you are not and your interest in her is completely transparent). She is just anyone to you, and what's more, you could probably find your class at Classmates.com. My wife doesn't like the fact that I reunited by phone with the girl I fell deeply in love with in college and never forgot, especially since she has been a sex-worker her entire life. But when my old girlfriend came to South Florida, she made excuses not to see me because she knew I wasn't going to cheat on my wife. Better for you to express yourself honestly about your feelings (I did that with the girl I had a crush on in high school at a reunion. My wife is extraordinarily patient, but she also knows that I am faithful). In THAT instance, the woman got the wrong idea (after I gushed about her), and e-mailed me about visiting my city. When I did not indicate I'd be interested in leaving my wife for her, she cut me off and never responded to further e-mails. She was not interested in being friends after her years of divorce and dating. Just sharing my perceptions.

Keep it in the past, or share your past feelings. They will not raise an intimidating  red flag to her and she may decide to reciprocate. Wish her much happiness in her life. Being happy for others is rare. Most people experience deficiencies which come out in these attempts. For me, I've made a hobby of contacting former girls from high school including older ones who I would never have spoken with, just to share what I remember of them and to compliment them. I've never been rebuffed for that, it's always been received in the spirit of me getting closure with my karmic attachments (even if they didn't think of it that way). In other words, if your motive is pure, it's well-received.


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Re: Sending a letter to my high school friend who i havent seen for 15 years [Re: 1234go]
    #21827169 - 06/19/15 08:27 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

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1234go said:
Quote:

Malcolm_Xtasy said:

I think you should throw it away




either this, or take any reference to "rekindling a friendship" out of it.

just send a greeting letter or something, ask about things...life...what have you.
if she brings it up, then cool....otherwise, you're kinda coming off a bit hasty




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