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Anonymous #1
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Masturbation addiction
#21810845 - 06/15/15 01:48 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm not sure how serious the responses to this post will be (if any) but I figured I'd post anyways as I don't really have any other appropriate places to discuss this and can't find any decent help from the Internet (though there seems to be alot of). I was going to post this in the anonymous forum but doubted the seriousness of response I'd get there.
Anyway, Hi I'm [...] and I'm a masturbation addict. This is some shit that's been troubling me on-and-off for most of my entire adult life. I started when I was about 12, having been raised BY the Internet having a computer in my room and neglectful abusive parents. Now as you all know there is an innumerable amount of pornography available on it and as a kid I had access to any of it. I worked up to as a kid and adolescent wanking it 3-6 times a day and while over the years that has tapered off to usually one occasionally twice a day now a few days a week I just can't seem to stop it completely or reduce it down to once a month or so like I want to.
Now you say - 'just get in a satisfying regular sexual relationship.' Well that hasn't seemed to work. I've had a handful of girlfriends I was sexually active with but still wacked it regularly even while I was living with one of them. Mind you that practice was certainly was not good for the relationships. Physically pleasuring myself instead of having mutual pleasure with my girlfriend. Lessening her value to me and improperly/unintentionally isolating myself from the relationship. Now as a bachelor for some years I also think that this issue impedes my chances of finding another lady to share life with.
I've gone weeks and 3-6+ plus months without tickling me winkey myself a couple times before but end up going back to it. I suppose there is a component of sexual frustration in there as when I took a hiatus those handful of times I wasn't getting any other sexual pleasure either as I'm not now. But I've told myself I was going to stop it for good like 5 times in the past two weeks with one or two days in between but just rubbed one out again after two days of not.
I've thought about Sex Addicts Anonymous but I had a really horrible experience with the twelve-step program before which I assume they use and don't have transportation at the moment. A specialized counselor would probably be my best bet but I don't have that kind of money either.
I dunno, It was helpful to get this trouble typed out and others to see it at-least. People might find it amusing I assume which I understand but I don't find it amusing in the least.
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Anonymous #1
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Maybe this should have gone in the "sexuality and relationships" forum. Oh well.
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m4dScientist
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hey man.
first off, I think you need to get it out of your head that its abnormal to jerk off everyday. youre a human being, with sexual needs, and I don't see the problem with jerking off once per day, as you seem to be doing as of late. ill admit, 3-6 times per day is a bit much, but its progress, not perfection. and beating off once per day, compared to six, is a huge achievement.
secondly, you may or may not benefit from sex addicts anonymous. mind you, SEX addicts anonymous. most of the people I know who are in that program, are addicted to sex. whether it be fucking people of the same sex, trannys, hookers, etc. all youre doing is looking for something outside of yourself, to make you feel better internally. same thing people do with drugs, alchohol, prostitutes, etc. I am going to go ahead and assume that youre probably not happy with your current state, and use masturbation as a way to distract yourself from the angst youre experiencing.
also, if youre beating off 6 times a day, you have wayyyyyyy to much time on your hands!
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Anonymous #2
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masturbation goes hand in hand with everything. 1) imagine the life that the mushroom would guide you to have, could it be that maybe you could look for a woman that does too. and you could have that in common. 2) Curb it maybe focus on grooming yourself and masterbating your ego and personality instead. masturbate your character for what its worth.
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LoveNaborFuckHater
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My advice is stay busy. The more I'm at home doing nothing, bored, the more I do it. Several times a week if not once a day. Once a day is too much to do I'll take a day off every few days if I get like that but I used to as much as you did (maybe not 6 though). Anyways when I'm staying busy I'll go two weeks or more and just completely forget about it. Then I'll thing wow it's been quite a while and I haven't even noticed it. Be happy, entertained, and busy.
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Anonymous #3
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This post is a good start. You shouldnt need to quit.
Just...dont choose to masturbate IF/WHEN you can share the pleasure of mutual sex with a woman instead. As long as your not masturbating INSTEAD of participating fully in relationship i cant see this being a real problem.
Its only an addiction if someone (you or other) is being hurt
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Heyowana
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Keep it up. Strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and your abdomen. It's supposed to be fun. The better the orgasm feels the more worthwhile the experience. Having been chronic myself I started doing the deer exercise. Just google it. It doesn't matter then how many times you orgasm then, you'll always feel on top of the world. I think it's silly trying to fit in with a stereotype. We are all different so stop feeling guilty. You are not excessive. People that try and curb their sex energy never have much success. Some of the nastiest people are celibate. The extreme features in their character become worse. Let your body decide how often you need to masturbate. Don't worry about it most of all.
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Blazeyy
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You might not think this but it's normal, for me it is anyway.
-------------------- I give you the choice of 2 pills.
With each containing one of the following: Cyanide... Psilocin... Would you take the risk? Didn't think so. This is why Positive Identification prior to consumption is important.
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fuzzysig
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Re: Masturbation addiction [Re: Blazeyy]
#21843135 - 06/22/15 08:02 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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so you masturbate because you like the process. or masturbate because its an easy way to relieve the tension. and/or because its easier than getting sexy time from your girlfriend. figure that one our first.
cant help you with first choice. but if its second then 1 you can make it more difficult to have acess to porn.( if you save pictures then make a rule not to save them) or shortcuts... aka. dificult access to porn.
2 most likely neither you or your parents taught you how to relieve tension and stress. so you got used to beating off to relax and continue on with your day.
3 if it takes considerable amount of energy to get real sex. or your gf is using sex to get things from you later. aka. I give you pussy but you wash the dishes tomorrow. or even worse. start drama or any other shit. where you beat it and close the internet explorer. done moving on with your life until next time.
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Rebelutionsssss
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Re: Masturbation addiction [Re: fuzzysig]
#21843193 - 06/22/15 08:12 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dude almost everyone jacks it once or twice a day it's normal as fuck if you're not getting laid. Hell I even wanked it 2 times a day when I was getting pussy daily. It's normalllll
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Vsnares.Zappa
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I'm addicted to oxygen OP
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MoxyOx
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I get too lazy and apathetic if I masturbate daily. Too much. I like to just save like 3 hours on the weekend to either sex or masturbation and just go ape shit. Get it all out and get that goooooood sleep.
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gcs
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Do you still watch porn? If you can stop watching porn completely, I think that's the best thing. Going periods without masturbating will help too, if you can manage it, but start off light.
There's a supportive community which may be of help to you, reddit.com/r/nofap
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turtletipping
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You might try reading the SAA literature on your own and seeing what you can get out of it. Sex addiction is different from other addictions because sex is a natural and healthy part of the human experience. The trick is tweezering out the healthy bits from the rest of the shit show.
Abstinence: https://saa-recovery.org/SAALiterature/English/Abstinence/
Full: https://saa-recovery.org/SAALiterature/English/SAABook/
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AstralProjection
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No big deal man... maybe the self deprecation is the problem. Maybe you should meditate a bit on what is driving these feelings.
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Anonymous #4
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the urge to fuck is very strong. if the brain knows it can release, it will. some people have said it's normal and it is, but only if you feel it is. if it is not normal feeling to you then who is anyone to tell you otherwise? you know yourself and if you feel you jerk it too often then just work toward stopping gradually. no one is going to stop you from masturbating except yourself. it is a very very difficult thing and i have only ever made it as long as 5 or 6 days in my adult life without getting off somehow. for me it is trouble to be home by myself especially once i start surfing the internet so i try and stay off then net and keep my hand off my cock and it works out well most of the time.
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fuzzysig
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its normal to do it but its not normal to beat of every day as a way to relax or stress relief. you need to find another way to relax besides beeting off
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fuzzysig
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Re: Masturbation addiction [Re: fuzzysig]
#21879889 - 06/30/15 07:54 PM (8 years, 6 months ago) |
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my roommate used to do pushups instead.
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PDU
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I can relate OP - I say just to keep it in the front of mind and cut out the porn.
If abstinence isn't an option consider the triggers/urges and the feelings associated with them.
-------------------- GO OUTSIDE.
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