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Absolem0918
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just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know.
#21807045 - 06/14/15 04:19 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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so i havent been on here in a while but i figured this would be a good place for advice. so heres the story..
first off i support lgbt but i dont know how to handle this situation.. my best friend of roughly 7 years has been living with me for a few weeks until he can find an apartment since him and his girl split. today hes at work and i opened his laptop to use the internet (he leaves it out for us to use so no i wasnt being nosey... yet.) so the first thing i notice is the main page when you open google chrome shows a few of the recent pages people have been on. on there i saw a craigslist add that had M4M so-and-so as the title.... no one that lives here is gay so it caught my attention and after reading it i popped the history open and its FULL of M4M craiglist adds, worst of all one of the first ones that popped up was one he posted inviting a guy to my house while no one was here... which is a massive issue to me but thats a whole different story.
so my question is how do i approach him about this? im pissed that he would secretly invite people over here for any reason. and i have no problem talking to him about that, but this has to be a serious secret of his and i cant tell him to not bring peole here unless i bring up this craigslist add... idk what to do he gets off work soon. any suggestions or similar situations?
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Absolem0918] 1
#21807064 - 06/14/15 04:25 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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just be like "dude, i dont care about what ur into but dont be bringin random dudes from craigslist over my house when im not home, wtf man"
then if hes cool and understanding - have a few beers, have a laugh about it
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Absolem0918
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Sheekle]
#21807105 - 06/14/15 04:34 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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well this is the plan so far but theres a chance that he has a serious meltdown over me finding out and i dont want that to happen so im kind of lost about how to approach it properly
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Absolem0918]
#21807107 - 06/14/15 04:35 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I think you need to just be honest. Say you saw the M4M listing., your curiosity got the best of you. I'm not sure how you figured out he had invited someone over, though. Sounds like you would have had to read his emails to see that. If he had made an ad on craiglist for people to come over, than that may not mean he really intended to go through with it. A lot of ads on craigslist are "aspirational"
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Sheekle] 1
#21807111 - 06/14/15 04:36 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sheekle said: just be like "dude, i dont care about what ur into but dont be bringin random dudes from craigslist over my house when im not home, wtf man"
Yeah,, invite them over when I'm home damn it.
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: koods] 2
#21807123 - 06/14/15 04:40 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Also, tell him to use grindr. Craigslist is sketchy as hell.
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: koods]
#21807449 - 06/14/15 06:08 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: Also, tell him to use grindr. Craigslist is sketchy as hell.
unless ur looking for top-class glory holes, then craigslist can be legit
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: koods]
#21807463 - 06/14/15 06:13 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: Also, tell him to use grindr. Craigslist is sketchy as hell.
True dat, even I used to use Grindr
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Sheekle]
#21807520 - 06/14/15 06:28 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sheekle said:
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koods said: Also, tell him to use grindr. Craigslist is sketchy as hell.
unless ur looking for top-class glory holes, then craigslist can be legit
You're all talk
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Absolem0918
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Crystal G]
#21807531 - 06/14/15 06:30 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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well.. i talked to him about it. ill keep the details to myself out of respect for my friend but all in all everythings good. took the simple approach just texting him, figured it would be overly awkward face to face.
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Crystal G]
#21807544 - 06/14/15 06:32 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Crystal G said:
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koods said: Also, tell him to use grindr. Craigslist is sketchy as hell.
True dat, even I used to use Grindr 
Well there goes the grindr clearance.
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Sheekle]
#21807672 - 06/14/15 07:15 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sheekle said: then if hes cool and understanding - have a few beers, have a laugh about it
then suck his cock, ya know like a good friend would
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Lucis]
#21807679 - 06/14/15 07:16 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Xactly
Or have him suck yours. he probably needs the practice.
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Edited by koods (06/14/15 07:17 PM)
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: koods]
#21814994 - 06/16/15 02:57 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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One should be real desperate to use craiglist, most of the users have just left jail.
You should also go to the bi side of things and be his lover for him to stop bringing strangers. Friendship with benefits. Always use condom!
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#21815472 - 06/16/15 04:33 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Look OP. Why do you care what he is? Don't put him in any boxes, don't take him outta any. Hell I'm not sure there's even s box to begin with.
Good luck.
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Sheekle
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: TheGreenArrow] 1
#21815512 - 06/16/15 04:40 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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TheGreenArrow said: Look OP. Why do you care what he is? Don't put him in any boxes, don't take him outta any. Hell I'm not sure there's even s box to begin with.
Good luck.
u didnt read the OP
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Lucis]
#21815728 - 06/16/15 05:40 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Fennario said:
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Sheekle said: then if hes cool and understanding - have a few beers, have a laugh about it
then suck his cock, ya know like a good friend would 
oh baby mhmmm
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: SunnyD] 2
#21820952 - 06/17/15 09:25 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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The best option would have been to reply to one of the ads and when he gives you the address be like yo that's my address wtf brah?
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Gorlax]
#21839553 - 06/21/15 10:01 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Gorlax said: The best option would have been to reply to one of the ads and when he gives you the address be like yo that's my address wtf brah?
Haha yes this one, and then explain the story. I'd avoid admitting I snooped through a good friends emails.
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Re: just found out my best friend is bi. he doesnt know i know. [Re: Absolem0918] 1
#21850361 - 06/24/15 12:57 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Absolem0918 said: well.. i talked to him about it. ill keep the details to myself out of respect for my friend but all in all everythings good. took the simple approach just texting him, figured it would be overly awkward face to face.
You're killing me!!! You're really going to leave out the best/most interesting part of the story?!?!
Oh well, I guess you might know folks here IRL so I understand your reasoning, glad to hear it all worked out with out getting too weird/awkward.
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