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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Ran-D]
#21795603 - 06/12/15 12:34 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I don't claim to understand my dreams 
The last fucking thing I need right now is too ass-finger a bitch on the run
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong] 1
#21795604 - 06/12/15 12:34 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Everyone's different, so I can't tell you what will work or won't for you.
But I honestly can't remember the last time I had sex. Quickie or deep bonding ungodly sex alike. I get sexual attention of course, but it's nothing like what things were before my son was born and it's definitely not an everyday thing. It took a couple years to get used to and there were many fights had before I did. I'm actually okay with how things are now. I'd like a little more, sure but I don't feel like not getting more is any strain or threat to our relationship. I love my wife, I can't imagine living without her. No lack of sex is going to break us apart at this point in our relationship.
I even understand the her not being into it like she used to be completely ruining the times you do get together.. Went through that as well. For the most part it seemed like she was doing it out of some sense of obligation and that just puts off all kinds of bad vibes. I can't imagine ever getting with a prostitute just because of that vibe. I want the woman to be into it as much as I am and if they're not, it's just not even worth it. If I want some disconnected girl only there purely for sexual arousal, there's an endless stream of porn I can use to obtain that.
Overall, things can get better. But they'll only do so once you both realize things are different and you learn how to navigate this entirely new paradigm. Intimacy no longer just happens, you have to make it happen. And making it happen while it still feeling natural is one of the most difficult things to achieve. It'll take work and there will be plenty of failures and frustration along the way. But it'll never happen if you just give up.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795609 - 06/12/15 12:38 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: The last fucking thing I need right now is too ass-finger a bitch on the run 
Ain't nobody got time for that.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Shroomslip]
#21795611 - 06/12/15 12:41 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I've never told you this before, but the majority of your posts are spot-on and pretty fucking excellent.
 Thanks for taking the time to write all this out.
I guess I'm in the toughest part of this process right now. Still trying to process and get used to it and trying not to take it personally.... Which, I'll be honest, I definitely am...
Your post(s) have given me something to think on.
I'll give it some more time and maybe try discussing it again (in a mature manner) and see if I can give it another shot when the timing is right.
Thanks again, bud.. Means a lot
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795637 - 06/12/15 01:00 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I like to help people. It's not very often I have much to offer in the way of wisdom or experience, but when I do I get a great satisfaction from doing so.
Hopefully you find your stride and learn to make things work out to where you're both happy. When I was younger everything was about sex and the thought of not having it seemed an impossibility to live with. I mean who doesn't like it, it's awesome. That caused a lot of our fights. We had many just over not having sex. But having a deep emotional bond with someone that isn't dependent on having it is so much better. If someone told me that when I was younger I'd probably think they were crazy or just trying to delude themselves into acceptance. Once you have it though, it makes perfect sense.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not by any means telling you to just forget about sex and find something deeper or anything. But if you stick with it through this and find your happiness in this new life, it will be far more rewarding than you ever had before the baby.
Find the time and ability to talk to her about all of this without either of you getting angry. If either of you are getting angry or feeling attacked, just walk away because no further good will come of that conversation. It will only deepen the divide. Just give it some time, 8 months seems like a lot, but with any luck you have at least the next 18 years together to figure this stuff out.
Also remember, once the toughest part is over, it's all downhill. An infant puts a lot more strain on a relationship than a toddler. Even if you two can't figure this out now, it won't be long before things ease up and you will stand a far better chance of it.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
Edited by Shroomslip (06/12/15 01:01 AM)
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795640 - 06/12/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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You and your wife should go to a therapist or something bro.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21795659 - 06/12/15 01:08 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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This is why guys take up fishing.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: passifloracaerulea]
#21795679 - 06/12/15 01:14 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So they can go all brokeback mountain with their fishing buddies?
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: passifloracaerulea]
#21795693 - 06/12/15 01:19 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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passifloracaerulea said: This is why guys take up fishing.
I found this more funny than you probably intended.
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r00tuuu123
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: passifloracaerulea]
#21796072 - 06/12/15 05:09 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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passifloracaerulea said: This is why guys take up fishing.
And I thought I just liked to fish. shLong I think your old lady is jealous of the bees. There can only be one queen.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#21796221 - 06/12/15 06:59 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I_was_the_walrus said: Ive been trying for a wet dream my entire life. Its something Ive never accomplished...but Im still trying.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Tybg]
#21796240 - 06/12/15 07:09 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I guess you finally hit true puberty.
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r00tuuu123
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Hayoxp]
#21796250 - 06/12/15 07:23 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hayoxp said: I guess you finally hit true puberty.
Let us know when you hit it assumeing you have a hand free to type. Oh and I had a question in another thread you posted that you were a queen, Would you help me pick out a nice outfit for my sister?
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: r00tuuu123]
#21796370 - 06/12/15 08:21 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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r00tuuu123 said:
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Hayoxp said: I guess you finally hit true puberty.
Let us know when you hit it assumeing you have a hand free to type. Oh and I had a question in another thread you posted that you were a queen, Would you help me pick out a nice outfit for my sister?
What? I'm not a queen man, but I'm an existence without gender.. the only reason I follow my lifestyle concerning sexuality with women. well that's me fulfilling my body's duty. My body is a man, so I follow the needs and act like a man.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Enjoywho]
#21796482 - 06/12/15 08:58 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said: When I have a girl over I'll fuck them when we're both half asleep. Theyll wake up. Or just insert myself inside them snuggling.
As for wet dreams I've never had one. I'm 24.
You're so cool bro. Tell me more
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Re: I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week. (evolved in to a "help me,we're not having sex" thread) [Re: shLong]
#21796495 - 06/12/15 09:03 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said:

Not quite sure what to make of that... I suppose I jerked it enough during puberty to never get backed up enough, and after that I was able to get laid enough to handle it, I suppose..
I guess with the pregnancy and baby, I haven't been meeting my quota and shLong n da boyz decided they've had enough...
Moral of the story, if you like sex, don't ever have a fucking baby 
It sounds like you guys need counseling/therapy.
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