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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Enjoywho]
#21795436 - 06/11/15 11:07 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said: Nom Nom Nom. We supposed to be sleeping. It's great try it some time. There aways like yum. Yummy.
Haha! Dude my fucking sides hurt from laughing so hard off this site
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eira
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795440 - 06/11/15 11:08 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Harsh place to be, shlong. From what I understand, physical intimacy after giving birth is something you have to work harder at--it's not like the easy "click" that happens usually when you're in the whirlwind of sexual attraction
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shLong said: I am that baby's father... I want to be my lady's lover again
If you talk about it again, mention this line...because it's golden
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795446 - 06/11/15 11:11 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: I fingered a strange woman's asshole as she was hiding from the police and then butt fucked her 
Dreams are fucking weird 
Which female member was it. ... .

Or member with a wig on.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795467 - 06/11/15 11:19 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I still get teh sex after baby. It did take a while though..
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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: eira]
#21795470 - 06/11/15 11:22 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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@ trekie  Not sure if I ever dreamt about a female member here.
It was just a random skeezer that let me finger and bang her butt 
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eira said:

Harsh place to be, shlong. From what I understand, physical intimacy after giving birth is something you have to work harder at--it's not like the easy "click" that happens usually when you're in the whirlwind of sexual attraction
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shLong said: I am that baby's father... I want to be my lady's lover again
If you talk about it again, mention this line...because it's golden

Thanks.. But the thing that gets me is even though she may not be feeling randy, it's not like she can't 'give me a hand' so to speak.. That's the part that gets me. Just kinda feel like WTF... Like she doesn't even give a fuck.
Plus, I saw she watched some porn in the past week or so. (we share a laptop.. I wasn't snooping). That's not a problem in our relationship.. But given the circumstances... It made me think.
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Bitter Cactus
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795479 - 06/11/15 11:26 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: I guess it's time for more of the ol 5 knuckle shuffle. 
We went from sex like 3-5 times a week to fucking nothing at all...
At first I was all like 'eh, it'll pass I'm sure'.. Then the days, then weeks, then months start rolling past and it's like WTF...
I've been getting pretty salty actually... Been decent about it and everything.. Haven't been being a dick or anything, but now that I think about it, I think I'm starting to develop a grudge of some sort. Then I feel guilty and selfish for feeling like that and then that makes me feel shitty. I've brought it up once and she says she's just not in the mood ever and that our priorities must be different now since the baby is here... She's 100% mom and co-parent and I'm just the co-parent, too, in her eyes or something.
I still have a sex drive and I guess she doesn't see that, or if she does, doesn't care. I don't know if I'm out of line or being selfish, but I feel like in order to be the best mom and dad for Opal we need to be good partners, too.. Kind of feel like I'm way far back on the back burner.
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eira
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795491 - 06/11/15 11:30 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: Thanks.. But the thing that gets me is even though she may not be feeling randy, it's not like she can't 'give me a hand' so to speak.. That's the part that gets me. Just kinda feel like WTF... Like she doesn't even give a fuck.
Plus, I saw she watched some porn in the past week or so. (we share a laptop.. I wasn't snooping). That's not a problem in our relationship.. But given the circumstances... It made me think.
When was the last time you did the whole romantic thing, or just went on a date? might be worth it to snap you both out of "parent-mode" and into "lover-mode." Have a family member babysit
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Bitter Cactus
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: eira]
#21795497 - 06/11/15 11:33 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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The new female viagra pill could not be coming out any sooner.
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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: eira]
#21795531 - 06/11/15 11:45 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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@ eira We went out on a nice date like 2 months ago.. (whenever I posted about that awesome steak I had, lol)
Instead of going to pick up the baby I drove home so we could get some alone time (with it pretty much known was for sex)... We started fucking around and I was going down on her and all that and then she gave me a little bit of head... When I tried to transition in to sex she stopped me and said she'd just give me head... So a few mins later I couldn't cum because all I could think about was why we weren't having sex.. So I stopped her, got dressed and went and got the baby...
A couple weeks ago when the baby fell asleep early I took her in the bedroom without prompting and tried getting it going without any prior mention of it (since planning sex is lame and we both agree in that)... After a bit of making out I started going down on her and the whole time she wasn't in to it at all and seemed bored for lack of a better term... She then told me to get the lube and get going... That kinds threw me for a loop.. Pretty much wanting to get it over with.... She said she wanted me to hurry before the baby woke up.. I pretty much lost my hard-on right then and that was it... She says it hurts now (she delivered via c-section btw) and a few other reasons.
The next day I was pretty upset and mentioned it to her. She said that our priorities must be way different. She said that the baby takes priority now. Also that she feels like we need to reconnect before we have sex again... Not sure what she meant by that.. But yeah...
She has slept on the couch since November since it was more comfortable for her while pregnant.. . And the after the baby, she continued to because she had the baby is a thing in the living room... It was only until that talk that following day that she's started sleeping with me again...
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795535 - 06/11/15 11:48 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sounds hot
glad dudes dont get pregnant thats my preferance
but everynow n then theres a girl i bond with i get thee hots for her
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Bitter Cactus
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: SunnyD]
#21795538 - 06/11/15 11:49 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Damn that's why you don't have kids folks.
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21795544 - 06/11/15 11:51 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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had my first around last year at 22. they've been happening every few months now.
about half of the time i end up waking before i cum though, for whatever reason. when that happens, i usually get up and jerk one off
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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Bitter Cactus]
#21795546 - 06/11/15 11:53 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Bitter Cactus said: Damn that's why you don't have kids folks.
I didn't realize it'd turn in to this, though  Don't get me wrong, I fucking love the baby and my lady.. But this is rough for me
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795557 - 06/12/15 12:02 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sorry to say, but what a bunch of bullshit to tell you, you dont have your priorities right! Like as having sex would somehow hurt the baby or something  I hope you will find out what the real problems are dude
Goodluck
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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: tomnl]
#21795563 - 06/12/15 12:06 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks..
I think she was saying that her priorities are the baby and mine should be too... Not sex
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Shroomslip
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong] 2
#21795565 - 06/12/15 12:07 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm sure someone is going to dispute or pick apart what I'm about to say, but... Sex life changes after a baby. Things just don't go back to like they used to be. Things are different now and you have to recognize/accept that. Honestly that's the way it should be anyways. If things just went back to how they were, then that would mean neither party is admitting/accepting the fact that it's not just the two of you anymore, and it's not all just about your own personal desires.
It's something to think about and talk over. Planned sex is lame, but there's not a whole lot of room for spontaneity when you have a baby to care for. If you want the intimacy back, you're going to need to make some compromises that you viewed as unacceptable before. Things aren't the same anymore, so you can't treat them as if they are. Over the next 18 years you're going to have to make a lot of adaptions to your life that in any other circumstance you simply wouldn't.
I had my kid pretty young, I had to do a lot of growing up that I just wasn't ready to do at that point in my life, but I had little choice. It was grow up well before I was ready to or abandon my kid just because I found partying to be more important. While I was at home caring for my kid, every single other person my age was out partying and going to clubs and just in general having fun. It was hard to do, and it's still not easy, but someday I just want my son to tell me how he appreciates that I didn't do to him what my parents did to me. All I want is to be a better father to him than mine was to me.
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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: Shroomslip]
#21795583 - 06/12/15 12:19 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Good fucking post.
That's where I'm torn, though... I know things are different.. But to be partners, I feel that sex is a vital part of that... We connect in other ways, but sexuality in a relationship can't be ignored... I know we're not going to be going at it like chimps again, but once in the past 8 months or whatever.. I don't know if that can be sustained long term
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VivaLaMushie
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: shLong]
#21795589 - 06/12/15 12:24 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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After we lost ours in 2012, and having to have a surgical procedure, I didn't want to have sex for months. I was terrified of pain, or just having any thing up there AT ALL. I usually just gave him head during this time because I did feel bad, although he told me it was fine. The first time we had sex it hurt so we stopped. Then waited a few weeks then I jumped his bones. Been fine since.
I can't imagine how a woman would feel after carrying a child full term, and especially delivering via c section. Those hurt extremely bad for a long time I hear.
But, I don't understand the whole "we need to reconnect" statement either You two should be closer than ever since having the baby. So, I would ask her to explain that.
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shLong



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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#21795594 - 06/12/15 12:30 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah, I don't wanna push her away or hurt her or anything...
I just want some semblance of what we had.
I've read tons of forum posts and articles about this and it seems common enough... I just really don't want this to slip to a point of no return where all intimacy is lost and we're just roommates raising a child.
Again, I don't want to be selfish and inconsiderate... That's the last thing I want....
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Re: So, I had my 1st wet dream of my life this week... I'm 32 [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#21795599 - 06/12/15 12:32 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So shlongs jizzin in his pants dreaming about sodomizing outlaws, and enjoywho is raping girls in their sleep. This is a fun thread.
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