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Be bold, motherfuckers. * 2
    #21789989 - 06/10/15 07:34 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Many of you have known me for a long time.  I haven't had any romantic interest (above that of the flesh) in anyone in a few years now.  Given my perspective on dating, my selection criteria, and my geographic location, the number of women I come across that check all the boxes is pretty slim.

Recently, I came across a woman that I was just smitten with.  All the right personality traits.  All the right quarks and priorities.  Genuine and smart and driven, you know, a good woman.  Plus, I'm physically attracted to her, which is a great bonus. 

She's dating someone.







So I told her to dump him and marry me.  My tone walked the line between blatant facetiousness and literal application.  The words said "dump him and marry me".  The voice said "dump him and get to know me".  The (socially required) attempt to cast my comment as a joke-in-passing was met with some reinforcing comment. 

Basically, I didn't let it turn into one of those "oh i liked this person but i never let them know" kind of things.




Because I'm done with that bullshit, and so should you be.  I'm a grown ass man, and I want what I want.



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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21790079 - 06/10/15 07:59 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

So what is your question?


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Amanita86] * 3
    #21790089 - 06/10/15 08:01 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Jerry Garcia was a junkie


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Amanita86] * 1
    #21790091 - 06/10/15 08:02 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I don't have a question.  Are you operating under the impression that everyone who posts in this forum has some question?  You shouldn't do that.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: The Doobie Dude] * 1
    #21790096 - 06/10/15 08:02 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

The Doobie Dude said:
Jerry Garcia was a junkie



go back to the pub.  what the fuck.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: The Doobie Dude]
    #21790097 - 06/10/15 08:02 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I know nothing of garcia beyond touch of grey..


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21790109 - 06/10/15 08:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

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memes said:
I don't have a question.  Are you operating under the impression that everyone who posts in this forum has some question?  You shouldn't do that.



No, but usually open minds always have some degree of 'question'.. in all honesty what I asked was just a rhetorical noise, to keep you talking.. to see, where you go..


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21790113 - 06/10/15 08:05 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

She's dating.  She's not married.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Amanita86]
    #21790136 - 06/10/15 08:09 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Baddass sig memes. Well at least I actually met you at DJ, next time I'll try to stick around. I got fucked up!! Tripped my ass off, found someone with some balloons, traded him a hit and ended up doing like 5 balloons before going in. Then I ate a kpin around when jimmy cliff came on and dont remeber much else. I lost my wallet there with a half sheet!!! Woops....Anyway, next show, we should meet up before hand.I love the sig!


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Aiko Aiko]
    #21790158 - 06/10/15 08:14 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Yea that shit was crazy.  I ran into this chick on the way to the bathroom and she kissed a rock of mdma onto my tounge and told me she had a quilt for the darkness.. I followed and we played nintendo powered off two potatos and a lemon.. when I woke up she was gone, but all my shit was still there... mad, flipped my mental bro.. Anyways hit me up man, we'll do it all over again..:peace:


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Amanita86] * 1
    #21790178 - 06/10/15 08:17 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

the pic isn't my sig, just a sign-off for the OP.  speaks to the passing nature of life, and how one shouldn't let people wander by just because you're shy or don't want to disrupt a social norm or some shit.

carpe diem and all that


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21790201 - 06/10/15 08:23 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

aren't you scared or worried that her man will come after you?  trying to make a move on an attached woman like that.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Amanita86]
    #21790216 - 06/10/15 08:26 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I do that too... It doesn't work for me. Now I'm beginning to think there is something in my subconscious blocking me from attracting available men. Every one i fall for seems to want nothing but a fuck buddy. Even if i dont have sex with them. Ive determined that one day I will meet someone who views things the same as I. My twin flame, soul mate, what have you. I'm seriously to the point to where, I give up looking. If I'm meant to be in a romantic relationship, he will come to me.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21790235 - 06/10/15 08:29 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

jenflower said:
If I'm meant to be in a romantic relationship, he will come to me.



I think you are quite right, Jen.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21790242 - 06/10/15 08:30 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I actually read somewhere that when you are subconsciously not available for a true loving relationship, you will actually draw in ones who are unavailable, or scare off potential. I'm going with that.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: WAN] * 1
    #21790257 - 06/10/15 08:33 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

WAN said:
aren't you scared or worried that her man will come after you?  trying to make a move on an attached woman like that.




no.

what's he going to do?  fight me?  we're not children.  this isn't the boonies.  i live in DC.  It's not like i'm stalking her to the bathroom; i told her straight up i was interested.  once.  putting it out there isn't a cardinal sin-against-the-brotherhood.  she's an American, goddamnit.  if she doesn't like him, she'll dump him and pursue me.  if she likes him, she'll ignore me.

that's where it is.

the point of this thread is:  she didnt know i had any interest at all until I told her.  so, i told her.  where i typically never would in the past (like many shroomerites, i'm sure)


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21790272 - 06/10/15 08:36 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

:thumbup:

stoked to hear it buddy.

good work not being shy and letting that shit slip by.  as easy as it is to say right now at my desk that i would do the same, it's even easier to come up with excuses not to.

go get her tiger :murray:


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21790289 - 06/10/15 08:38 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

jenflower said:
I do that too... It doesn't work for me. Now I'm beginning to think there is something in my subconscious blocking me from attracting available men. Every one i fall for seems to want nothing but a fuck buddy. Even if i dont have sex with them. Ive determined that one day I will meet someone who views things the same as I. My twin flame, soul mate, what have you. I'm seriously to the point to where, I give up looking. If I'm meant to be in a romantic relationship, he will come to me.



Never comprimise, they say the best spice for food is hunger... anything less and your hug will get a little less solid..

Im not sure I've met you btw..

Amanita :hatsoff:


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21790292 - 06/10/15 08:39 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

This really just baffles me, because I've always told them, and its never worked. Now I'm doing the opposite, which is what you've done. But honestly... Just because it didn't work for her doesn't mean it won't for the next one. Maybe this one time was just a warm up. Maybe you're ready to date now. Also, something I'm learning as well... Things take time. Change comes with time as well.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21790314 - 06/10/15 08:43 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Not saying it didnt work with her; it's only been a few days.  Like i mentioned, i don't meet a lot of women who I see a lot of long-term potential with, so it's not like I'll be off the market if she realizes weeks or months down the road that she has an interest in picking up what i'm throwin down.

it's all about full & open information.  always.  just throw it all out there, let the chips fall where they may~


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Amanita86]
    #21790315 - 06/10/15 08:43 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Nice to meet you! We should all have everything we believe we deserve, but within good reason. And i guess we all really do have the ability to get what we lack. Spiritual awakening comes with loneliness though, I believe. Unfortunately. But its all gravy.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower] * 2
    #21790341 - 06/10/15 08:47 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I hope I see some chick I met at Mountain Jam over the weekend again in the future, at some other fest or something.

I met her for like 5 minutes when I was peaking on acid, and it was heavenly.

I went hunting for her later on but couldn't find her again. :singletear:


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Sheekle] * 2
    #21790365 - 06/10/15 08:51 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

ah, the illusive festie chick.

they're almost like unicorns.

'cept it's not a crime to get freaky with 'em


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21790391 - 06/10/15 08:57 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

BTW, Uncle Johns Band is one of my favorites! Ain't no time to hate, barely time to wait!! Get'r rolling, since you've started!


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21790844 - 06/10/15 10:51 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

awesome dude! I hope one day I can find a woman that compels me that hard to put myself out there like that. good on you dude. let us know


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Black_Sunset] * 1
    #21792675 - 06/11/15 11:40 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: koods]
    #21792937 - 06/11/15 01:07 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

For real


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21811328 - 06/15/15 04:08 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

did she dump her loser bf yet?


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes] * 1
    #21813331 - 06/16/15 02:42 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

If you see long-term potential in someone you can steal away from their boyfriend with a single direct line like that then how long term do you think she is going to be with you until someone comes along with a couple of slick lines to steal her from you?


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: abltsandwich]
    #21825140 - 06/18/15 07:22 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

OP, I met a girl at LiB and we have been talking on the phone and chatting ever since.  She even sends me these really sweet nude pictures of herself before bedtime.  She meets all of you listed criteria, and to say I am smitten would be a great understatement.  I have never hit it off with another individual like i did with her.  Ever.  And i really dont expect I ever will.  It was a very special connection with her.  Hard to describe but I just knew right there she was a once in a lifetime person. 

We were sort of planning how we would work a relationship in the future, but there were two primary complicating factors:

1) She lives in southern california and I live a really fucking long way from there.  Intermountain northwest to be very precise about my location. 
2) She has a boyfriend.

Well all signs were pointed to this guy being a goner, but she had to make some very important decisions.  She had a trip to Europe planned with him, and about a week into her trip, of course, I get the message.  He proposed to her and she said yes, wished me the best, and is now fucking gone. 

I don't think she was playing around or leading me on or anything.  I believe she genuinely felt the same way as I did.  She was just in this difficult position, and when it came down to it, she went with what she knew rather than taking a gamble with a new person. 

If I was not able to make it happen with her, then I feel very pessimistic about making a relationship work with someone else.  I mean if an instant connection like that isn't enough, then I don't know what the fuck is. 

I wish you the best of luck, OP.  We're all waiting to hear how it turns out for you :super:



Update: she arrived back home today, and is messaging me as I type this.  And I don't have the stomach for this type of shit...


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: fbi365]
    #21825305 - 06/18/15 08:09 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Instant connections.... maybe you knew her in a past life. If you believe in that sort of stuff.

You cant deny that these types of connections arent real. They are very real. Ive felt them too, but only noticed them when I was very aware and in the moment. Ive felt connections like these with men, as well as women. As for the men, Three of which I do not ever speak to, and two that have turned out to be very dear friends, who we both share an unconditional love for one another. Not 'boyfriends' mind you. And one of the two I can be sexually active with, but it isnt topic of thought. Relationships are not what people think they are. I believe that if we meet someone that gives that immediate intimate connection, we need to pay attention, it can very much teach us about ourself. Whether or not it can, or is meant to, manifest into a sexual/intimate relationship, or 'dating', is entirely up to both parties, and the universe.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21825378 - 06/18/15 08:29 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I believe in something close to "meant to be together" and that the decisions we make in this life matter. 

And that bad timing is a motherfucker...


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: fbi365]
    #21825416 - 06/18/15 08:36 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

fbi365; i've been into this song recently, it's very appropriate for her situation


Jimmy McCracklin: Think

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Now if I give up, my friends I know
And in return, you give up yours, before we think
What would we do later on
What kind of life would we have, just in case we both were wrong

I could give up my woman, you could give up your man
But it don't make sense to, take the chance, before we think
What would we do later on
What kind of life would we have, just in case we both were wrong

They say love is a gamble, and we know that's true
So why gamble on me and and, why should I on you before we think
What would we do later on
What kind of life would we have, just in case we both were wrong






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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21825470 - 06/18/15 08:47 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Ha! That's great.  Lucid poetry.  I think that song is kind of agnostic to the answer, but it definitely makes you think.  What would I do if I was in her situation?  I have no clue.   

I always turn to music in situations like these and let my ears do all the talking.  I felt a little bit differently this time though.  I wrote something that is a lot like a poem the other night.  Actually two poems, for the first time in fifteen years just to kind of decompress.  It was cool.  Well the poem was actually garbage, nothing what Jimmy McCracklin wrote, but I think I might keep doing it for a while and see what happens.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: fbi365]
    #21825499 - 06/18/15 08:55 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

absolutely should :thumbup:

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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21826851 - 06/19/15 06:08 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Yes, but then HOW are we 'meant to be together?' This is where love gets tricky. If a a person is single and lonely, wouldn't the perception be a bit misconstrued? Like, starvation. When we are starving, a piece of bread is as good as a Thanksgiving feast. When we are full, a piece of bread is too much, or not good enough if we are full all the time. Both of these perceptions can be altered, though. We can be starving, but only accept the Thanksgiving feast, and full but want more bread. It all depends on where we are in life and how we perceive life and our relationship with the particular food.

We are taught, 'Grow up, hit 18, go to college, get a job, meet a significant other, get married have babies, grow old together.' Well, the majority of society is taught this anyway. Though I know this is brainwashing at its best, others do not. We can have an instant connection with one, and maybe they just havent gotten it yet. We cant wait around on them to figure it out. Well, we can, but that may take years, and who's to say that while waiting on them, we arent missing out on many other life lessons, or that the actual 'one' goes right past us and we dont even know it. This is why we cant wait around or dwell.

Being in the moment is extremely hard for most of western dominated society. But this is how 'they' maintain control. and it isnt something that we can just make 'go away' at the sign of danger. Being in the moment is learned and practiced. As one mentioned in a different thread about Time, the only thing consistent and measurable is Change.

As for OP, maybe this happening is a sign for him to pay more attention to his intuition, thus being able to more accurately recognize a deep connection when he comes across one. The more he does this, the more meaning he will find in each of his connections. If she decided to leave her boyfriend, maybe she felt it too, and is at the same place he is. If she didnt, maybe she will realize that there is something missing in her relationships and make a change for the better for her life. Or she may could stay exactly how she is. One can talk all they want, but if the receiver of the information isnt actually 'listening,' what good does it do?

There again, waiting around or trying to get her to listen does no good. We have to do what we feel is right for ourselves. If he continues to talk to her, regardless of her decision, then that's ok, if it feeds his soul somehow. And it very well may. We will ultimately do what we feel we should do, for our own well being. Again, this can be misconstrued by feeding into what society thinks we should do, rather than what we FEEL we should do.

What I was saying about knowing her in a past life, well there is obviously a reason for meeting her again, it just may not be as big as he thinks. One sentence can change someones life. Just as years worth of conversation can be meaningless. Its all about perception and how in tune you are with your own needs and wants.

I may be jumping around a bit with my explanations but Im just now starting to figure this all out. We all seek unconditional love right? Well, I have that, with several friends, male and female. It may not be what i thought it was supposed to be 5 years ago, but its there.

Then there is sex. That is what separates a friendship from a romantic relationship right? Still trying to figure that one out. What would life be like if we could go to our dear friends of the opposite sex, whom we have a deep connection with, and get laid every once in a while? ha. Thats not socially acceptable either


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21826885 - 06/19/15 06:31 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Tread lightly on the whole other relationship thing brotha. Like, put yourself in that guys shoes...


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21827189 - 06/19/15 08:34 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

I really enjoy your views jenflower.....very wise for what I would think to be a somewhat young girl. You remind me alot of my girlfriend who I believe has also been there in a past life. It took me a very long time and alot of hardships and missteps to arrive at my current thinking...but, it parallels yours in many ways.
One thing that I have learned in my 55 yrs. on this planet and is an absolute in life...."Sex changes everything"Relationships of any kind are simply not the same after.:sunny::peace:
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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Thayendanegea]
    #21827247 - 06/19/15 08:54 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

From my experience women are much more receptive towards actions than words...


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21827813 - 06/19/15 11:36 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Telling her to dump her BF is a bit aggressive, you don't want her to blame you for ending her relationship. Also then she would do that same thing to you if you were in a relationship with her. Don't fool yourself. lol

Being friends with a woman when she knows you want her works better to then hiding your intentions and being one of those "nice guys". For one, if she knows you want her but continues to talk to you and hang out once and awhile, that prob means she likes you but is holding back because she is taken. Just drop some sexual inneduo once and awhile so she knows your still interested and not gay. Never let her win by completely friendzoning you. When she does become single then you may have a good chance hooking up with her.

I think this is why when women become single they are dating another man almost instantly, its because they already had a replacement lined up from other men that were staying in the background.

Chris Rock says it well...


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Thayendanegea]
    #21829510 - 06/19/15 07:06 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Thank you. I'm 27, and though I am young,your words are very reassuring. I've wondered if I'm losing my mind sometimes. Ha-ha. I've yet to meet another male or anyone for that matter who views things as I. Thank you again!


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Thayendanegea]
    #21829765 - 06/19/15 07:57 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

What is it about sex that changes it? I'm in an odd relationship. We are dear friends, he's not from here, moved here about 4 years ago, and I met him literally a week after. We had a fling 3 years ago. Started being physical recently. It's weird though. It's like we are in the middle of what relationships are supposed to be and what they really are.

Not trying to move away from OP. but maybe this will help.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower] * 2
    #21829852 - 06/19/15 08:17 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

you can digress from the OP's intent; this thread was just for me to vent and encourage others not to hold back on things in life.

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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21830224 - 06/19/15 09:38 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Digress? I believe that people can learn from all aspects of life. I'm just kind of going with it. Given that he was originally posting about not knowing what to do, and I had experienced something similar, I may have been helping. But we are unsure. We are all connected and his post came at the correct time of my life. Coincidence? I think not.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21831369 - 06/20/15 05:45 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

And wow, you are the OP. I FEEL LIKE A JACKASS. Sorry about that.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: memes]
    #21831450 - 06/20/15 06:45 AM (8 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

memes said:
you can digress from the OP's intent; this thread was just for me to vent and encourage others not to hold back on things in life.

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Speaking of not holding back, have you followed up on your "proposal" or was spilling your beans out on the table and walking away good enough?


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #21860643 - 06/26/15 03:42 PM (8 years, 7 months ago)

any update on office babe?

nothing too new in my word of "attempting to date".

redownloaded tinder :shrug:

free summer music series just started though, and babes are a plentiful finally.  this place has been baron for the last 6 months.


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: jenflower]
    #21873703 - 06/29/15 01:46 PM (8 years, 6 months ago)

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What is it about sex that changes it? I'm in an odd relationship. We are dear friends, he's not from here, moved here about 4 years ago, and I met him literally a week after. We had a fling 3 years ago. Started being physical recently. It's weird though. It's like we are in the middle of what relationships are supposed to be and what they really are.

Not trying to move away from OP. but maybe this will help.



I'm not sure exactly what it is...but for me... sex with a friend never really turned out well. One of us would eventually try to avoid the other for whatever reason. There was a level of comfort with each other that we seemed to trade away for a night of physical lust. This always seemed to happen, in my mind anyway, the moment after we finished each other. An uncomfortable quiet that would wind up lingering for many months.I guess it has to do with expectations ...or even perceived expectations. IDK:shrug:
You are much younger than I and may have different comfort levels than I do....so my philosophies may not even apply to you if you are more of a free soul....one  that just enjoys taking in lifes nectars and can share that sense with your friend.:sunny::peace:


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Re: Be bold, motherfuckers. [Re: Thayendanegea]
    #21873754 - 06/29/15 01:59 PM (8 years, 6 months ago)

I'm just weird. I've decided that's what it is. Ha ha.


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