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Anonymous #1
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am I a peice of shit?
#21787007 - 06/10/15 06:02 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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So I'm 22 a virgin and never been in a relationship ( as a result of being very shy in highschool) I have exceptionally high standards, as I'm a above average good looking guy ( I know it's not an excuse, I just do) like everyone I meet assumes I get ladies and get laid ( I just lie and say yeah, and don't go into details) and I finally met someone who is like a 6/10, and she tells me she has feelings for me and really likes me... And even tho I kinda like her personality I can't help but want her to be better looking, and kinda have been stringing her along until I decide if I want to.commit or not..( I kinda just want to fool around with her and have sex) And no I never said I like you back, because I don't want to get her hopes up and hurt her feelings. And I know she won't do anything if we aren't bf/gf as she expressed how much it pisses her off that her close friend has a fwb relationship with a guy... So anyways would it really be that bad if I act like I want to be with her and try to fool around, until somebody I like better comes along? And just phase her out gradually per say? Or would that be a piece of shit move ( I really don't like hurting peoples feelings) and you never know I may end up " liking " her. Anyways I know this is random and getting long, but I've been lonely for a long time and I've finally met someone, and I'm just really confused about what to do
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Oeric McKenna
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Yeah. thats something a fucking asshole would do
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koraks
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Yeah, that would be a dick move, but if that's going to hold you back is up to you.
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Anonymous #2
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Go buy your self a prostitute, and don't let your piece of shit attitude be her problem... Damn ill bet your ugly as shit! 22 year old over average hansom virgin????? Hahahahaha....
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Anonymous #1
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Re: am I a peice of shit? [Re: koraks]
#21787050 - 06/10/15 06:26 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm just confused... I just feel as a good looking guy I need a better looking girl... It's just I have such high standards for a gf worthy girl, although I'd fuck most woman.. And I realize I need get good at fucking for when I actually meet a hot and sexy lady she'd expect me to be at fucking, and if it's bad she'd probably leave for a guy who's better in bed..
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Anonymous #1
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I would never fuck a hooker, it not catching an std... And it's true I was just really shy in highschool and at parties would only talk to guys and drink, and if a chick talked to me I'd get nervous and awkward. And sinse highschool I've lost contact with lots of people and have working full time and lots of weekends so I wasnt getting out, meeting new people.
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Anonymous #2
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You think relationship is all about sex?? If you find your perfect match, it all comes naturally and imo sex gets waaaay better when truly love and respect her.
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Anonymous #2
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Lol, you think only hookers have std? I wouldn't stick my unprotected dick in a unknown pussy this days, even if its not a,prostitute...
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Anonymous #1
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For the part yes, and from how my buddies talk, if I were to meet a super hot chick and be blowing my load in 20 secs and not giving her an orgasm, she'd leave... As they say sex will be the deal breaker, if it's bad she's gone..
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Anonymous #1
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Same here, I turned down a bj a year ago this chick that was obviously a huge slut and I didn't have a condom as I wasn't expecting to get anything that night
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larry.fisherman
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High standards is a cop out. You will be alone forever if you expect perfection from anyone including yourself. It's actually quite asinine. You think you're this great catch that deserves the world, but you're being a dick about love so what does that say about you?
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Anonymous #1
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Thing is I don't think I'm great catch.. I don't know why but anyone that's below say an 8 I find flaws with.. Like buddies will be like " wowbthat chicks hot! " and I'll be sitting there thinking meh, she isn't hot
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larry.fisherman
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Maybe you would prefer a hard cock.
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koods
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Drop the fucking rating system. It's subjective garbage,
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Mr.GuessWork
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Re: am I a peice of shit? [Re: koods]
#21787219 - 06/10/15 07:45 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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koods said: Drop the fucking rating system. It's subjective garbage,
This. OP, most of the criticism you put forth about this girl is subjective garbage. You need to fix that. Otherwise you're going to unknowingly be an asshole and hurt somebody's feelings for superficial bullshit reasons. Don't compromise your moral standards for sex either. Getting laid isn't worth your integrity. And like others have said, sex is way more rewarding when you actually care about the person. All that emotional stuff is a big part of sex, so don't skip out on it. Here's the kind of sexual ecxtasy you should be shooting for:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Expanded_orgasm
It's got to have trust and all those other warm luvy feeling in place to work though.
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Anonymous #1
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How can I change my thinking?
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Bigjonbrews
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Take a heavy dose of some good ole shrooms and rip that ego apart!
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Mr.GuessWork
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Quote:
Anonymous said: How can I change my thinking?
Read stuff, talk to people about it that aren't in your immediate group of friends, talk to people online. Your mind will change on it's own if you keep learning and thinking about what people have to say. You probably just need some more perspective. It'll take some time. Just keep trying to sort out your feelings to your satisfaction and don't settle for ideas that bother you.
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Anonymous #1
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Thx for the helpful advice, which why I posted here because obviously my friends have no morals and were encouraging me to do the asshole move.. And I know deep down my thinking is wrong.... Just for some reason I keep thinking looks are more important than personality
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larry.fisherman
shoulda died already



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Think about it this way - looks are your first impression.
How many times have you heard that first impressions are important?
Now, how many times have those first impressions been accurate?
Do you think your first impression encompasses all that you are?
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Black_Sunset
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Don't fucking do it. Youre just going to be on here in 6 months asking us what you should do because you strung this poor girl along and this better looking new girl came into your life.
Save her some pain man. and yourself
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koraks
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Just for some reason I keep thinking looks are more important than personality
Experience will tell you that looks are also important, but so is personality. There's only one way to learn this and that's by dating. So whenever you feel up to it, get started and build some experience. There's usually no first time right in love!
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Anonymous #1
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Re: am I a peice of shit? [Re: koraks]
#21791224 - 06/11/15 12:47 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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What makes it more sad, a month before I met this chick, I took this other chick I met who I considered pretty( like a 7) and she was sooo boring, anti partying, anti weed, anti everything, after second date I never talked or replid to her texts agian... So this is the second chick I've ever dated, so I realize personality plays a big role... I guess I'm trying to be too picky and want to have the best of both worlds
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Konyap

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Black_Sunset
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Re: am I a peice of shit? [Re: Konyap]
#21791269 - 06/11/15 01:00 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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2 chicks in 1 month I say you are on your way to meeting someone great. Accept that you have high standards and stick to them...you will be MUCH happier and have a healthy relationship if you genuinely feel you want to be with the other person.
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Thank you! But to clarify this was over a 4 month span, I've been talking to the current one for like 2 months... It's just I feel like if I meet a hot chick and have no relationship experience I'll sabotage myself, cuz I really don't know how to be in one or even progress to sex foe that matter
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sprinkles
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easy. love someone before you sleep with them, especially the first one. If you dont love her, dont sleep with her. Tell her it's friends or nothing. If she doesnt like that screw her (no pun intended), no loss because you didnt really want to be with her anyway.
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koraks
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Re: am I a peice of shit? [Re: sprinkles]
#21792440 - 06/11/15 10:17 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dunno man, and it's probably to do with how you define love, but for me, love cokes long after initially sleeping with someone. It's a crucial step in the process and certainly not the end of it.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: am I a peice of shit? [Re: koraks]
#21794753 - 06/11/15 08:06 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hmmmm exactly... which why I worried if I met someone experienced, sinse most people are, they take my inexperience as a flaw and ditch me
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