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OfflineEkstaza
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How do I get out of this situation?
    #2176640 - 12/14/03 01:23 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Last friday night, while under the influence of several drugs, and during some emotional women trouble, I made a big mistake. I slept with a woman that is a friend of some good friends of mine and I really regret it. I never expected this kind of thing to happen,but as we were sitting there playing cards and watching TV she started to make advances and I did not stop her. Step by step, she went further and further and I let her because it had been a while since anyone had paid that much attention to my needs. She made statements during and after the sex that she expects to have me again. I really don't want to see this woman again, but I don't want to hurt her feelings either. I know that I screwed up and now I need to fix this. What would be a good way to go about explaining to her that I don't want a relationship with her? The end result will be that I don't see this woman again one way or the other, but I'd rather it be on good terms.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: Ekstaza]
    #2176702 - 12/14/03 02:06 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Just tell her exactly what you told us. Tell her you like her as a friend, but you made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. You don't really 'owe' anything to this woman, other than the truth.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: LeViTY]
    #2176727 - 12/14/03 02:20 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

i agree. honesty with tact is usualy the best way to keep a problem of comunicating feelings from snowballing into a bigger problem.

i wish you luck in this.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: Ekstaza]
    #2177180 - 12/14/03 05:32 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I've been in a similar situation.

Friends showed their true colors and I fell for her. It's been smooth sailing ever since.

Personally, in a short-term sense, I look for certain qualities in women. If they're down for drugs and they're down for sex, and are looking to please my needs, then it's time to get fucked up, get fucked, and tend to her needs :wink:

You seem to have made up your mind about it, though. Might as well be honest with her. G'luck.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: ]
    #2178216 - 12/15/03 01:37 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

The truth is always best when it comes to intimate situtations. If she does'nt stop making advances after you tell her the truth then tell her some bull story, like you are impotent and you were only able to perform last time because you slipped in a viagra when she was'nt looking. Works like a charm everytime and will keep her friends off of ya as well.
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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: timetravel]
    #2179957 - 12/15/03 05:01 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I don't really think you should lie to her like that. Tell her the truth. You're only human and people make mistakes. It was an issue of being in the heat of the moment and things went farther then they should have. Let her know how you feel and if she refuses to respect your wishes, just cut off all ties completely with her. As long as you are honest, that's all that matters. If she can't handle it, there is no need to make up excuses. That's her own problem. Just cut off all communication etc with her. She'll get the hint after that if she doesn't when you tell her the truth.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: sykobish]
    #2180243 - 12/15/03 07:05 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I have been dragging my feet on this issue so that I can think it through. In the mean time she has called me several times and even asked me to spend last night with her, which I told her no. I really suck at this kind of thing. I'll normally do anything to avoid this kind of situation. This time I want to face it but I think it will be bad anyway.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: Ekstaza]
    #2180263 - 12/15/03 07:12 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

You should face it. It'll make you feel better in the long run even if it ends up not as you wish in the present. You will know you were honest to her and honest to yourself and that's all that matters. If she can't handle the truth, then that's her own problem.

You've got to tell her tho. Or this will drag out and quite possibly turn out worse then you want it to.

Good luck with that.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: sykobish]
    #2180632 - 12/15/03 09:14 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Right now I just have to wait 'til she calls again. I don't have any way of getting in touch with her except waiting at her place until she comes home and I am not doing that.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: Ekstaza]
    #2184209 - 12/17/03 01:00 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Well I finally got to talk to her and she basically agreed that we had made a mistake no matter how good it was at the time. She pretty much left the door open to come back if I ever wanted to which I don't think will happen. We are still going to hang out as friends.


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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: Ekstaza]
    #2184325 - 12/17/03 01:59 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

it sounds like it worked out well. it won't always be so easy, but this should help reenforce the way to handle things like this so that when they don't, it will still work out better than if you where to deal with it in a less constructive manner.

i am glad to hear you are still able to be friends. that is always a pluss.

cheers,
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Re: How do I get out of this situation? [Re: canid]
    #2184553 - 12/17/03 04:27 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

:eyemouth:Same thoughts as the above post. Like i said: The truth is always best when it comes to intimate situtations. But sometimes there are "nut cases" who once they see the big penis stay hooked on like a leach. Then I use the viagra story. Drops em like a cigarete "glut" in a hot jungle. Should note that: Shroomer babes don't give a damm about glut and fire. With them you have to make love, and hope for the best. I like the "glut" best. Saturn


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