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LittleDaddy



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Moved too fast in the moment
#21712778 - 05/23/15 01:09 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hey, girl and I on our second date. Went wonderful. End of night I kissed her first time. Kissing progressed. I moved to the neck, she said I was moving too fast so I stopped. Afterward, she said she had to go in like 10 minutes, though she did say she had to leave soon after she came over. I brought it up breifly later and applogized and didn't try kissing her the rest of the night. How bad is this?
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: LittleDaddy]
#21713046 - 05/23/15 05:12 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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What did she say when you brought it up? How did she react?
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akira_akuma
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: secondorder]
#21713071 - 05/23/15 05:30 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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why bring it up later? can't it just have been left alone? so what she had to leave... big deal.
i see no problem here. other than you making a big deal about it. let it go.
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LittleDaddy



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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: akira_akuma]
#21713480 - 05/23/15 08:50 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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She was calm about it, I felt like I kind of was dramatic, but I think it's because I was stoned.
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LittleDaddy



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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: secondorder]
#21713484 - 05/23/15 08:52 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I just asked if everything was alright, she said everything's fine, it's just not what she came over for, and then I said it just felt like some tension in the air and I apologized and moved on.
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Edited by LittleDaddy (05/23/15 08:53 AM)
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: LittleDaddy]
#21713515 - 05/23/15 09:05 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Sounds like she's not a big fan of the cock to me.
Yay 500 posts.
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: MajickMuffin]
#21713669 - 05/23/15 10:12 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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She just came to toke and bounce huh? I'd watch women like this OP. That 3 date rule really tends to bring the Looney toons out.
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MajickMuffin
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Maybe she got a man
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LittleDaddy



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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: MajickMuffin]
#21713764 - 05/23/15 10:49 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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We hungout for a few hours before on a pretty good date. I asked for her to come over.
everything was good up until that point, she seemed to have been into it, I just didn't acknowledge the subtle signs she was dishing and was being too stoned afterward lol. We'll see where it goes.
It's just weird to me - I suppose I'm used to girls being cool with it.
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Edited by LittleDaddy (05/23/15 10:53 AM)
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: LittleDaddy] 2
#21713815 - 05/23/15 11:12 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Do you call yourself littledaddy IRL? Could be the problem. :p
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: vandago]
#21713845 - 05/23/15 11:24 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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What's bad is that you apologised for it. You should have ironically apologised with a smirk and say something along the lines of: "well I'm sorry, but you're just too fucking hot". Smiling the whole time and looking her in the eyes. Then just move in for another kiss. Confidence is key.
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: GoldenEye]
#21713875 - 05/23/15 11:37 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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For realllll. Taking notes for next encounter/girl. Appreciate it homies.
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: LittleDaddy] 1
#21714101 - 05/23/15 12:54 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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If a girl doesn't want you making advances on her, do NOT take that guy's advice and ignore her request. Maybe just give her one more kiss when she's leaving or something, if it wasn't awkward from what just happened.
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: Cosmopolite]
#21714707 - 05/23/15 04:06 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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She might think you aren't hot enough or she didn't feel confident with you and besides that we are only reading few lines of your version of the facts. She could also be idealizing a romantic relationship and expecting you to go slowly. Whatever reason is behind her actions, do not push it or say things like 'you are hot' like the one suggested before and respect her boundaries. Be gentle and show genuine interest and time will tell you what's she up to.
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: Cosmopolite]
#21715389 - 05/23/15 07:48 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
Cosmopolite said: If a girl doesn't want you making advances on her, do NOT take that guy's advice and ignore her request. Maybe just give her one more kiss when she's leaving or something, if it wasn't awkward from what just happened.
I didn't say kiss her in the neck anyways. They were already making out, only the neck was off limits apparently. No reason they couldn't continue making out normally 
Anyway, it's impossible to give advice on a situation I wasn't in myself. You just need to be there to read the thing properly...
Of course I'm not suggesting to date rape her. If the smirk and the remark weren't met with a proper response of course you wouldn't go back to kissing her. But I'm pretty sure if you shrugged off coming on to strong she would have been fine with continuing what was going on before. Apologising is what makes it awkward.
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: GoldenEye]
#21715423 - 05/23/15 07:58 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
GoldenEye said: Apologising is what makes it awkward.
This
Anything beyond "Whoops, sorry" is weird
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Re: Moved too fast in the moment [Re: bloodsheen]
#21716145 - 05/24/15 12:27 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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All good dude. Sounds like she likes you but people like to take things at different speeds. You invite her over and do the first kiss and go straight for her neck obviously she is nervous or doesn't want to have sex right yet. Just keep hanging out and having a good time. Forget about what you said. Don't ever bring it up ever again. Don't say corny-ass lines that feign deviance...it's so painfully obvious (as per advice another poster wrote). Do this if you genuinely want to spend time with her and enjoy her for more than just sex. She probably just wants to get comfortable with you before anything else happens. You have no idea what her reason was at this point.
Again don't bring it up ever again. Move on and keep having awesome times together!
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