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tryptkaloids
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#21707627 - 05/21/15 07:37 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hi, this year i have lost all my best friends.. one of them said something about tripping being why i have changed into what i have (inpolite, rude, unthankful. I tend to make people feel bad for my feelings.. that last on is something i learned from my last girlfriend.) and recently me vocalizing my pain is causing me to make people feel bad and it has caused my best friend to ignore me completely. because i make him feel like shit.. and it's because my thoughts just escalate with negativity when im left out then i communicate them to him and it seems like im just coming at him. so i was talking to a mutual friend about this because i havn't gotten a word from my best friend and ki (mutual friend) and he thinks the bad thoughts are because i trip so frequently. I think it's because i'm constantly sitting on my ass waiting for my best friends to include me and invite me somewhere. i miss my best friend..
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Take control man. Why wait until you are invited? Invite them. Get moving.
What do you mean exactly when you say:
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Sometimes friends grow in different directions...
I have not seen my "best friend " in many years or had any direct contact with him.
It is not a bad thing to make new friends.
IMHO
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Re: exclusion [Re: Fog1] 1
#21707706 - 05/21/15 07:55 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Someone wise once told me:
Some people are in your life for a day, only to teach you a lesson. Others are in your life for a season, only to fulfil a need. Those who are there to do neither, are there for a lifetime.
Trouble arises when you confuse the people and their categories.
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Quote:
GoldenEye said: Someone wise once told me:
Some people are in your life for a day, only to teach you a lesson. Others are in your life for a season, only to fulfil a need. Those who are there to do neither, are there for a lifetime.
Trouble arises when you confuse the people and their categories.
That is a very wise person...
I could not have put that in any better words...
Thank you for sharing that
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tryptkaloids
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a little backstory will help. MY ex and i broke up then i did some bad things. lost some respect. my best friend and her started getting close. i was understanding but i didn't act it. i saw the logic in them liking each other. he could give her what i couldn't. anyway, she hates me and has all year and her shit talking kinda skews other people's opinions (shes really good at that) but my best bro (cisco) has been staying away from me and not coming to my place because the town i live in is her home and she get jealous when he comes to see me. so a couple weeks ago i tried figuring out why i have been the only one making an effort and basically he has sacraficed a lot to make her happy and i said theres no reason we can't all hang out out here. so they were gunna come out but the the got in a fight so they didn't then they said they were coming next weekend (last weekend) and they showed up and spent like 5 maybe ten minutes bullshitting with me. then the next day all my bestfriends (ki cisco and lilli) go on an hour road trip without me to see an old friend that i am closer to than lilli. so i texted cisco. this is a prime example of what i mean by making people feel bad for my feelings. and basically i made him feel like shit for not inviting me since i have been needing to reconnect with him for a year.. basically my friends abandoned me because i made a couple mistakes and was changed (by psyches or situation) now i'm negative and make people feel like shit when i'm just trying to explain my feelings.. my best friend is my soul mate.. no doubt about it.. i can't give up on him..
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i was fortunate to have all kinds of wonderful music fall into my lap at the perfect times in my life, yet one of my very favorites will always be a song about cisco.
give it time, don't worry; best friends usually understand and stay around. . . everyone has to learn on their own terms, their own experience, you can give them the golden key, but it is your golden key, theirs might be a little different. .
don't worry about drama and just find your own truth, your own beauty, your own love and peace in life, and once you do, you'll have the best thing life has offer.
self-trust, self-love and self-acceptance are among the most important things in life, and often come before success.
(I wrote a couple more but lost them, re-wrote the above. thankfully shroomery is so awesome and saves posts, haha)
could write much more and the best i left unwritten but self-trust is one of the most essential keys; it opens up most of the doors of consciousness, and lets you get many things done in the world as well.
you can be anything if you believe in you, to quote george harrison
good luck and good health,
it's all about energy,
find the right energy, for you and for the world, and everything else will follow and fall into place.
peace and love to you bro, don't worry about anything, it'll all work out once the heart is healed.
don't forget about universal love. :-) always remember it, and never forget! it's always there, and everywhere
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Thank you! my problem isn't trusting, loving or accepting myself. it's loving other people even more. trust me, you're preaching to the choir when it comes to believing in yourself. to combat your harrison quote "Believe and you're half way there" ~theodore roosevelt i think you're right. i just need to heal the heart. and I won't forget about the universal love my brother. My dog reminds me of that every day than you lots brother <3
-------------------- "Remember, kids, the difference between science and screwing around is writing it down" -adam savage Flowchart for Recommended plan of action. Learn the tried and true way to grow mushrooms Use the Damn search engine After you know what you're doing, take a break Pick a book, Make some chips! Josex said:Don't take the site seriously bro, ain't worth it.
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no problem brother; be well and safe on your journey
know in your heart what feels right, if it doesn't feel right, you don't have to do it.
and you'll always be protected
if not safe; find safety; once you know peace you can lead others safely there.
stay strong; we can create so much beauty when we know how.
take care.
-------------------- Innocent, Oldfield & Hegerland Julia Delaney, Bothy Band Rasta Girl, Sister Carol Genesis, Jorma K I Wish You Peace, Lawrence Laughing Do Your Thing, Moondog large . . music garden . . veryall peace them hiStarhouse - main Time Traveler's Guide
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