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Rebelutionsssss
Mdmazing



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The death of your parents
#21691890 - 05/17/15 06:55 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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My parents are getting older and i have no idea if I can deal with their death. My mother and father have been my best friends my entire life and I'm not sure if I could deal with their death. it just seems like I will have nobody on my side once they leave :/
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TrippieHunter
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My dad swang by to pick up some herb today and he was talking about how he feels his time is almost up. He's 64 and I have always expected him to die
around this age. But he is the only one in my fam that I can talk to so it scares the shit out of me. So needless to say I share your fears my friend.
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Do everything you possibly can to help them if they need it and try to spend as much time with them as you can. Tell them how much they mean to you and that you appreciate everything they have done for you. Show them that they did a good job raising you. Be strong. It most definitely sucks when you lose your parents. Both of mine have passed away and I miss them bad.
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Amanita86
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I hear you. I was born into an older family and they've been dropping like flies lately, and the ones still left are showing their wear and tear. Im not too sure I'll manage walking the world alone if/when I out last the few who are left. That thought keeps me up a lot of nights, because its coming.
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Rebelutionsssss
Mdmazing



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Re: The death of your parents [Re: Amanita86]
#21692444 - 05/17/15 09:28 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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It's really been wearing on me lately my family literally gives me the motivation to get up in the morning
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Amanita86
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I took it hard when my grandpa went out, I destroyed an outback steak house bathroom, I fipped. When my grandma goes, you know.. make each day count is all I know too say. We're all riding this one until the wheels fall off.
In all honesty Ive found if you've made sure to leave the memories positive, you can live with that. It really does make the difference. The last thing my grand pap said to me was "come back when you can stay a little longer.."
Life's holding a lot of different brick solid factors over our heads, isn't it..
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I lost both my parents by the time I was 16. Alas, all people die. Cherish them and love them while you still have them around.
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Re: The death of your parents [Re: Le_Canard]
#21696480 - 05/18/15 10:28 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'd rather my parents be dead then listen to them talk about anything current
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Rebelutionsssss
Mdmazing



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I've been calling my parents more often to let them know how much I appreciate and love them for everything they've done for me. Feels good to let people know you care about them
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circastes
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I'm in this boat. Scared of my mum dying. What a hole in my life then...
STAY STRONG MEN!
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Re: The death of your parents [Re: circastes]
#21705518 - 05/21/15 08:05 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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My stepdad passed away recently. Although we we're never close when I was growing up, we really rekindled our relationship over the past 4-5 years, although never to the extent that was possible. It is a shame.
However - IMO, the death of a loved one shouldn't be something to fear. We are autonomous humans who must find our own way in the world. Your loved one would want nothing more than for you to go through life strong and guided while remembering the times you head with them fondly.
I don't understand the role of sadness and I don't feel too much of it - at least not to the extent that it becomes cumbersome. The best way to honour loved ones is to succeed the way they would have wanted you too.
My mother has been a total wreck after her mom died suddenly at a young age which caused her dad (my grandpa) to dive into alcoholism and drink himself to death before the age of 60. She's developed chronic pain and a host of psychological issues consequently and has become very low functioning and withdrawn. It is a terrible thing.
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Quote:
Rebelutionsssss said: My parents are getting older and i have no idea if I can deal with their death. My mother and father have been my best friends my entire life and I'm not sure if I could deal with their death. it just seems like I will have nobody on my side once they leave :/
You know whats worse, feeling like they are not there or an enemy while they are alive. Now that shit blows. I have no idea how I will react. When my father dies probably feel sad but I really dont know the guy on a personal level. Kind of does his own thing and lives across the country. My mom is straight malicious. I will be fucking pissed when she dies. Pissed that she chose the route she did.
I once heard a beautiful Buddhist story about a young man who went to the hell realms to rescue his mother. I always related to that, but the tragedy is journeying there are realizing that person is in hell by their own choice, with no intent to leave
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Tomorrow is not guaranteed to any of us..and who knows, you could go first.
Live your life today and try not to suffer from something that has not happened.
Enjoy being with them today
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