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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690355 - 05/17/15 12:21 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I've only loaned out money once and will never do it again. Everyone seems to see loans as "hey free shit!"
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Shroomslip]
#21690369 - 05/17/15 12:24 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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What made you want to loan her money anyways, do you like this woman?
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We've kissed a couple times. I do like her. She's really cute. It's complicated.
Because I ride in her car. And that's how we get to work. I missed all last week because it was broken. So when she called me I said sure that's fine. And now apparently I'm fucked out of my money. And have to walk a distance to get to work.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Shroomslip]
#21690386 - 05/17/15 12:28 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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You just learned a $60 lesson.
Need to learn it again?
Nope, didn't think that was the case...
The answer is learning how to say NO, the right way.
Some people are really good at it.
You just have to learn how to harness the power of a positive NO.
Google it and there's tons of ways to "flake" without looking or coming off like a lame.
Yup, you're welcome.
Now, apply, rinse and repeat.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: IL0g1cal]
#21690406 - 05/17/15 12:31 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I just can't live like that. Money is literally nothing to me. I can use it to buy other things and do stuff. When a friend in need asks me for some sure. Take it.
What pisses me off is when I try to collect and they negate there contractual agreement. Fuck man I'm helping you here.
It's just dumb what money will do to otherwise good friendships.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690424 - 05/17/15 12:35 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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i've had to help out people and i've had people help me. as long as everyone is on the same page it's not a problem.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: millzy]
#21690448 - 05/17/15 12:41 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Likewise.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690468 - 05/17/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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She probably rationalizing something. Like you should help her becuase you like her or something shit like that.
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Probably she always calls me for help. Our entire relationship is based on me listening to her talk about her problems.
I pay gas money shit I just stopped by her house the other day just walking about and gave her a 20. I know she's broke I know she's barely surviving and working her ass off. I just don't understand this.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690502 - 05/17/15 12:57 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Every statement you made before "I just don't understand this" gives a pretty clear picture of what's going on here.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: D.M.T]
#21690539 - 05/17/15 01:10 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm just kind of pissed and venting. I don't even think I'm looking for opinions but some good ones have been given.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690692 - 05/17/15 01:53 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I actually try to avoid people that are too nice. I feel like they have a hidden agenda of some sort.
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Nah I have no hidden agenda beside helping out fellow people. But when time comes to collect damn right I get pissed when they say you'll have this money on this day and then don't follow through.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
Edited by Enjoywho (05/17/15 02:08 PM)
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690737 - 05/17/15 02:09 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Damn that girl is nuts dude
Looks like she wasn't your friend really to begin with
SOrry bud,
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: SunnyD]
#21690749 - 05/17/15 02:14 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Ya my history with her is ridiculous to begin with. More than I care to talk about.
I don't know a lot of people here. Well I do but I considered her someone I can actually talk to and trust. Real bummer I knew it was a bad idea.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho] 1
#21690782 - 05/17/15 02:29 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
Enjoywho said: Probably she always calls me for help. Our entire relationship is based on me listening to her talk about her problems.
I pay gas money shit I just stopped by her house the other day just walking about and gave her a 20. I know she's broke I know she's barely surviving and working her ass off. I just don't understand this.
lol I kinda made a thread about this in the sexuality and relationship forum called "would you friends with a unavailable woman" The thread was about being friends with a woman and if its worth it because often they will just talk to you about their problems and use you for favors. Sounds like you got yourself up shit creek buddy, your doing all these nice things and being her therapist and your not getting anything physical from her except a kiss.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690823 - 05/17/15 02:40 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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there are only very few people I trust enough to loan money to.. whatever the reason I know I can count on them to get it back in time.. others can fuck off.. unless the money would go for having fun together and the person has done right by me before, I don't mind spending a little on my friends.. I never expect it back tho.. nothing will drive a wedge between friends better than lending money..
I used to be pretty bad with money management in the past, but nowadays if it ever should come to that I have to take a loan from someone, I make it my first priority to repay it.. it's only fair for the other person helping me out..
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Individual]
#21690927 - 05/17/15 03:09 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I haven't done it in a long time. Because I knew it was a bad idea. I just wanted to help I dunno.
Theyres nothing between us except riding to work. That's what I helped fix. And ya I casually fuck with her and her me back. We've actually had a pretty good friendship until this.
All though she does talk about her problems too much. The other day she told a 20 minute story about the stove in her new place. So I just started randomly intetmitting stove related puns as book titles. 
Im going to be really sad if I lose her as a friend. 
Over 60$ it's literally nothing I'm not concerned about the money but the point of it.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
Edited by Enjoywho (05/17/15 03:12 PM)
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: Enjoywho]
#21690943 - 05/17/15 03:14 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Don't loan money to people you aren't fine parting with. I've made the mistake before, but it was always with people that loaned me money in the past so I didn't have much of a choice. Brings up the next point, don't borrow money from people either.
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Re: Loaning friends money [Re: fapjack]
#21690957 - 05/17/15 03:18 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yep I've lost 2 many friends over it. Where everything is great until money is involved.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
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