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i can't seem to get over my ex
#21686278 - 05/16/15 08:43 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah.... my ex broke up with me in decemember, and i'm still thinking about her constantly. it really sucks, cause i want to be over her.... but there is still a part of me that wants her back! i miss her a lot and it sucks cause next year we're going to the same university and living down the hall from each other. i woke up thinking of her today and then got kinda sad... and the suckiest thing is, she won't even text me back or anything but in person she acts all buddy buddy. i feel if we were able to hang out at least once, i could out this shit behind me or something.... idk this was my first real girlfriend and we dated for like a year and a half.
how can i get over her? i've talked to girls since we broke up, but i still find myself thinking about her.... ughghgh this really sucks.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Sorry bro, if you really loved her and what not you won't ever get over her. You will see other peop,e but there will always be a part of you wishing you could get back to that projected utopia.
I am 8.5 years separated from my x, although we used to play around and flirt, and I still miss it immensely.
Just wait til you feeling good and fine and you see her with someone else and boom, like that heartache never left.
Don't worry about it, life has a fair bit of grieving in it. Just try and focus on yourself and what you would like to do.
Obsessing will only make it worse and if you are anything like me make you feel embarrassed about all the wasted time and energy.
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Do you really love her? Then let her go. It could be that she doesn't want to lead you on, so she doesn't text you back.
So the best thing you can do is to make a conscious effort to remove the current thought patterns you have, and replace them with ones of hope regarding other women and possibilities, or just another hobby really. You are in more control over your thoughts then you think. Every time I think of my ex, I make it a point to switch the topic of interest, or do something that encompasses my mind, gym/sports/games/tv shows, etc. the list goes on, and the best part is you get to pick it!
Do not be a victim to your own delusion, fight back. Many of us have been there. I have, you are not alone. Don't waste your effort. in the future, say months, or years from now do you want to be thinkin of what she is doing and who she is with, or, about what you are doing, who you are with, and how you love the person you are with, as much as she loves you.
I like this song, The value of the perspective. it shows two sides: 'this is where you are at' and 'this is where you want to be' It is called "if you cant hang."
Beginning of the song ( this is where you are at, what you do not want )
Met a girl at seventeen Thought she meant the world to me, So I gave her everything, She turned out to be a cheat Said she'd been thinking for a long time And she found somebody new
and then later on in the song at the end:
"I met a girl at twenty-three Knew she meant the world to me, So I gave her everything, And she did the same for me."
That is what you want.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21690025 - 05/17/15 10:24 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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i guess i just need to force myself to stop thinking about her and stop feeling so bad about the break up. i think i'm harping on it so much because she broke up with me because of drugs and i was in a really dark place. it just sucks being left alone when you really, really need someone. and that happens to me all too much.
fuck it. i gotta get her out of my mind and just live. there's other girls... hell i've been talkin to a girl who has waaay more common interests than my ex and me.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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its hard getting over people.It kind of sounds like you have to though. I think the best thing to do would be distance. don't call her or text her. don't try to hang out with her again. If she isn't responsive to you that says a lot i am sad to say. Maybe she really does still like you but just feels like she can't have you in her life and she probably still thinks you do way to many drugs.
Don't dig yourself a deeper hole of sadness, its gonna get better, you'll still think about her from time to time but it won't hurt as bad.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21691714 - 05/17/15 06:21 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah... it seems i have to force myself out of this. i think i'll be fine though.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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I'm getting over my ex too. I broke up with her though, such a long long complicated 5 year story.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21693888 - 05/18/15 09:55 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Just think there is 7.5 billion people on this planet, whatever you had with that person, you can have with anyother. ok but only a few % of that are women in the datable range. But still its a lot of options.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: CaptainKurt]
#21693962 - 05/18/15 10:27 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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See I dont believe that for a second, to say that undermines each specific persons beauty, their traits, what makes them "them" and not everyone else. You can find something new, but when it all goes south, you'll never find again who it was you 'had'..
It still fucks me up, thinking about certain people Ive had in my life when I kind of fall back into my head and try and take a shot at understanding...
You can find something new, but you'll never get back what was.. that right there can fuck a brother up sometimes..
I have a few ex's I'd hit the road for at 3am if they called me up and needed a hand. I never got 'over them', things just changed..
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sanchothestoner said: i guess i just need to force myself to stop thinking about her and stop feeling so bad about the break up. i think i'm harping on it so much because she broke up with me because of drugs and i was in a really dark place. it just sucks being left alone when you really, really need someone. and that happens to me all too much.
fuck it. i gotta get her out of my mind and just live. there's other girls... hell i've been talkin to a girl who has waaay more common interests than my ex and me.
take vacations. lots of vacations. i recommend vegas.
also try talking to some old friends on facebook. sometimes reconnecting with girls you havent talked to or seen in a while can open you up to new and fun experiences
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Amanita86]
#21696675 - 05/18/15 11:24 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Amanita86 said: See I dont believe that for a second, to say that undermines each specific persons beauty, their traits, what makes them "them" and not everyone else. You can find something new, but when it all goes south, you'll never find again who it was you 'had'..
It still fucks me up, thinking about certain people Ive had in my life when I kind of fall back into my head and try and take a shot at understanding...
You can find something new, but you'll never get back what was.. that right there can fuck a brother up sometimes..
I have a few ex's I'd hit the road for at 3am if they called me up and needed a hand. I never got 'over them', things just changed..
i actually believe in the 7.5 billion philosophy. sure you get used to certain traits of a person who is no longer there, so youre going to miss what youve been used to. but all it takes is to meet a girl 10x more awesome than the one you knew before and youll be like what was her name again?
its true and you know it haha. and ill bet the odds of anyone meeting someone cooler than the person they used to date is much higher than anyone would think. just get out, live your life, be happy to be alive, and have fun!
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: ManianFH]
#21697475 - 05/19/15 08:01 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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sanchothestoner said: i guess i just need to force myself to stop thinking about her and stop feeling so bad about the break up. i think i'm harping on it so much because she broke up with me because of drugs and i was in a really dark place. it just sucks being left alone when you really, really need someone. and that happens to me all too much.
fuck it. i gotta get her out of my mind and just live. there's other girls... hell i've been talkin to a girl who has waaay more common interests than my ex and me.
take vacations. lots of vacations. i recommend vegas.
also try talking to some old friends on facebook. sometimes reconnecting with girls you havent talked to or seen in a while can open you up to new and fun experiences 
that's funny you say vegas. yesterday i was telling my dad how i wanna go to vegas this summer and kick it with family we have over there.
i have been talking to old friends too, which is nice. but i don't have a facebook or anything so some reconnecting and talking to people is a bit more difficult.... which were my intentions.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Sometimes it takes a while homie. It can take years. People can leave lasting impressions that may never just go away. If you loved them then you can still love them even if you aren't together anymore. Its just appreciating the time you had together and being thankful for the experience and moving on to giving and loving someone else.
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Corporal Kielbasa said: Sometimes it takes a while homie. It can take years. People can leave lasting impressions that may never just go away. If you loved them then you can still love them even if you aren't together anymore. Its just appreciating the time you had together and being thankful for the experience and moving on to giving and loving someone else.
yeah, it's hard. this was my first real relationship too.... so makes it harder. i'm getting over her though.... kinda forcing myself to. i don't get why i'm so strung up on her.... she fucking left me when i needed someone the most. i have to get over that and know everything will be ok. someone else will come along, until i have to work on myself.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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sanchothestoner said: i think i'm harping on it so much because she broke up with me because of drugs and i was in a really dark place. it just sucks being left alone when you really, really need someone. and that happens to me all too much.
I try not to bring this up much because it's sadsack sort of shit; so I'll post this anonymously. I was born addicted to crack and had to go through withdrawels since the day I was born. My biological mother put so much red tape around the adoption papers that I'd never find out who she was or even a last name. I'll not even get into the fucked up childhood somebody who's adopted can go through. Suffice it to say that people really don't take care of what's not theirs. Going through abandonment issues in your time of need from the moment you were born can do QUITE a number on your psyche. You want to know the truth though? Love takes work, real work. The kind of compromise that only real affection can conjure. With her leaving you you have to look at it as a freedom. Freedom to go out into the world and find somebody new. Someone happy to find you where you are at and be there for that person. Believe me guy, if this big ol' bag of super crazy can find it, I guarantee you can.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21698030 - 05/19/15 11:16 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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You bet your ass, there's something too be said for being somebody who chooses to live. We all have our secrets. "The rose that grew from concrete". I sir, salute you.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #2]
#21698070 - 05/19/15 11:26 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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No need for any of that. The point I was trying to get across is that no matter what the situation is, there's always room for a little hope. Fuck it we're here anyways right?
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21698096 - 05/19/15 11:37 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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That's me getting excited. Yeah we're here, and this is just the beginning. We have a long road, apparently my enthusiasm gets the best of me when I finally meet someone with some get up and go.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21698128 - 05/19/15 11:51 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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sanchothestoner said: i think i'm harping on it so much because she broke up with me because of drugs and i was in a really dark place. it just sucks being left alone when you really, really need someone. and that happens to me all too much.
I try not to bring this up much because it's sadsack sort of shit; so I'll post this anonymously. I was born addicted to crack and had to go through withdrawels since the day I was born. My biological mother put so much red tape around the adoption papers that I'd never find out who she was or even a last name. I'll not even get into the fucked up childhood somebody who's adopted can go through. Suffice it to say that people really don't take care of what's not theirs. Going through abandonment issues in your time of need from the moment you were born can do QUITE a number on your psyche. You want to know the truth though? Love takes work, real work. The kind of compromise that only real affection can conjure. With her leaving you you have to look at it as a freedom. Freedom to go out into the world and find somebody new. Someone happy to find you where you are at and be there for that person. Believe me guy, if this big ol' bag of super crazy can find it, I guarantee you can. 
thanks. i needed this. their is this deep rooted part of me that believes i don't deserve any love. it leads me to do things i never wanted to do, and then i have to deal with the aftermath. i can only hope that someday someone will help me get out of that and allow me to finally love. i think all this has to do with my abusive mother. she's really done a number on me.
i've been being told recently how much everyone loves me and wants to see me do better, but i couldn't give a shit. and it sucks. it's like i don't feel any of the love that everyone is showering down onto me. that might be why i cherished that relationship so much... it made me love and feel loved.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Ahh but man. That's the beauty of it all isn't it? Those troughs have to be experienced to get back to the crests in life. All we can really do is get back up the next day and move forward because there is no looking back. Fuck I've had ALOT of success in certain areas of my life and because of a "breakdown" completely screwed myself. 
But thats what's great about moving forward! There's always that opportunity just waiting to be found ahead. Kinda like if you started 2 boats perpendicular beside each other in the ocean. If you move one boat just 2 degrees in the other direction eventually their paths will completely diverge! Sometimes the ONLY option we have is to take the choices moment to moment and follow instinct. It's the only thing that keeps me going anyway.
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Well i got back with my ex-girlfriend last night. We broke up last fall and our lives changed and bad things happened. She was dating someone else for a while but was still seeing me as well. I was only down because her boyfriend said something to me one time that i didn't like and sleeping with her while they were going out was very ironic to what he had said to me. I also love this lady to death even though she's pretty crazy. so there's always that.
She broke up with her boyfriend pretty fast, they were still hanging out and she told me she didn't have time for me, which hurt my feelings so i didn't call her for almost a month but then she started to miss me so now were seeing eachother again. Before this we had been dating for 4 years.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21703552 - 05/20/15 06:53 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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i would keep her as a #2, and allow someone to fill the #1 spot, she seems to have done that with you. probably is
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21703663 - 05/20/15 07:19 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Actually i forgot to mention this but she isn't even hanging out with him or talking to the other dude anymore and hasn't been for almost a month now.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21703720 - 05/20/15 07:26 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah but, you are probably a spare tire, till she finds a new wheel with excellent grip
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21704144 - 05/20/15 08:51 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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eh thats kind of like saying unless your trying to be with someone forever your just waiting for them to break up with you.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21704694 - 05/20/15 11:14 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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huh?
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21709449 - 05/22/15 07:43 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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i'm hanging out with her today... possibly another friend too. but we'll see. definitely gonna be alone with her fora while and i don't really know how i feel. i'm actually starting to get over her but of course there's that lil voice inside me that wants her. idk even when i got her text asking to hang out i was just thought like "ehh i guess"
everything should be fine. let's see how it goes
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Dont show up, completely be a no show. If you care about long term
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Don't make any quick decisions, just hang out be chill, probably best if you go sober.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21713353 - 05/23/15 08:00 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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twas a completely chill time. we did hang out with another friend, which was nice cause i hadn't hung out with her in a long time. they just wanted to know how i was doing cause all my friends have been really worried about me recently. she gave me a ride home and we got some lunch as well. i honestly think she was shocked at how put together i was. but i'm getting over her pretty fast now so everything was cool.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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nice dude
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
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I've been through this before and I also thought in that way "I'll never get over her" only to realize that saying stupid shit like that is what makes the hardest.
Seriously, just stop thinking about her, stop fantasizing of getting back together with her, stop wishing things could be better, stop clinging to that false hope of one day fixing things. Just stop and live.
Hanging onto such thoughts are doing nothing but prevent you from moving forward, healing and most importantly, evolving into the person that you want to be. I know it sounds impossible, I know it sounds hard, but the expression "no pain no gain" holds true. It takes time and that time will be extremely slow but as slowly slowly you negate yourself of such negative feelings, of such sadness, you'll start to realize that you have been given freedom, freedom to experience some one new, freedom to be you and evolve you, freedom to start depending on yourself more.
Most importantly keep busy. Keeping yourself busy with anything, hobby, work, school, learning, reading..etc will prevent negative thoughts and her from creeping onto your mind.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Rosen_Rot]
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Rosen_Rot said: I've been through this before and I also thought in that way "I'll never get over her" only to realize that saying stupid shit like that is what makes the hardest.
Seriously, just stop thinking about her, stop fantasizing of getting back together with her, stop wishing things could be better, stop clinging to that false hope of one day fixing things. Just stop and live.
Hanging onto such thoughts are doing nothing but prevent you from moving forward, healing and most importantly, evolving into the person that you want to be. I know it sounds impossible, I know it sounds hard, but the expression "no pain no gain" holds true. It takes time and that time will be extremely slow but as slowly slowly you negate yourself of such negative feelings, of such sadness, you'll start to realize that you have been given freedom, freedom to experience some one new, freedom to be you and evolve you, freedom to start depending on yourself more.
Most importantly keep busy. Keeping yourself busy with anything, hobby, work, school, learning, reading..etc will prevent negative thoughts and her from creeping onto your mind.
pretty much what i've been doing. and now there's this girl back in town that i'm certain i can get with. she texted me last night saying she wants to hang out now that she's back
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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And where is your ex now? Nowhere that's where! Congrats!
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You better fucking make a move this time man
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sanchothestoner
Satan's Grandson



Registered: 12/06/11
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The Doobie Dude said: You better fucking make a move this time man
haha yeah i am. last time just was not the right time, for sure.
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psych_fck
Artist


Registered: 02/26/15
Posts: 382
Loc: Miami, FL
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Corporal Kielbasa said: Sometimes it takes a while homie. It can take years. People can leave lasting impressions that may never just go away. If you loved them then you can still love them even if you aren't together anymore. Its just appreciating the time you had together and being thankful for the experience and moving on to giving and loving someone else.
What has helped me get over some of my ex's is making either a physical or mental list of all the attributes of that specific person that are negative/ that I dislike. then when i'm feeling down about them or missing them i look back at that list.
Personally i'm still in love with my ex and I know i'm probably going to be for a while.... you'll find someone else though it just takes time. If you two are really meant to be together then it will happen.
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Kamille Bidan


Registered: 07/01/13
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Loc: In The Stars
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i can't seem to get over my ex
+ + porn + doing things I enjoy doing like playing music, chilling with friends, finding other girls to fuck and enjoy the freedom of being single and having time and no kids; All these things help relieve me from a lot of these problems. But that really differs for everyone in each specific situation. We all go through it at some point if we ever enter any relationship though. Keep in mind that everything ends at some point, better sooner than later with some things - Especially with these kinds of things. If you can accept that though, you have hope yet. It's not a bad thing, it's just how life is. Being too attached to things and people can leave you suffering mentally and possibly physically; Although every person that breathes will make this mistake at one point or another, typically many times throughout their lifespan. The key is to learn from the things that happen throughout your lifespan, and focus towards a life that you want. I'm saying I wouldn't look at the end of a past relationship all too bleakly as it could instead be looked at as the start of a whole new chapter of your life you get to write yourself.
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Rosen_Rot
Learning



Registered: 12/06/14
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Loc: Goa
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: psych_fck]
#21743877 - 05/31/15 05:26 AM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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What helps me is burning all of their stuff. I am a firm believer in energy and keeping their items around will just help you remember things you don't want to remember, kinda similar to that feeling when you enter a room and something bad has happened, there is no evidence but the air is crackling with negative vibes.
So I just burn. burn burn burn.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #3]
#21745955 - 05/31/15 07:25 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Mental Taco



Registered: 07/02/14
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Loc: Hell
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Goodluck Sancho, i just went thru my girl breaking it off after 8 fucking years man what a cold hearted bitch. She had no good reason for it either (they never do). i was so good to her gave her all that she wanted still fucken with me cuz im trying to figure out why she wanted to be done all i can think of is theirs some other dude which is fucked up.
But you gotta move on reach out to your bros and family they will always be there for you. And take it from me mine wouldnt text back so i kept blowing her up with heartfilled text then days later she text back with "Mental Taco were done, there is no hope. just drop it." like wtf that just made me feel like a dumbass for pouring my heart out to her.
Gonna be hard for me to get back into the dating game it seem people dont meet the old fashioned way anymore its all thru social media and texts and bars, and i dont think im gonna meet the kinda girl im looking for at a bar.... But keep your head up im tryna keep my up and been reaching out to my buds and they have been awesome at keeping me afloat.
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Uzziel
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Mental Taco]
#21746251 - 05/31/15 08:43 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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What do you mean she had no good reason?
Yeah, she did. She didn't want to be with you. I'd say that's a pretty good fucking reason.
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Kamille Bidan


Registered: 07/01/13
Posts: 301
Loc: In The Stars
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Uzziel]
#21757544 - 06/03/15 02:01 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Uzziel said: What do you mean she had no good reason?
Yeah, she did. She didn't want to be with you. I'd say that's a pretty good fucking reason.
No, she didn't have good reasoning to do what she did - Why? Well, that's simple: She was with him. What does that matter? Oh, well that's also simple: She didn't have to choose to be with him, but she did choose to be with him. Still a bit confused? Let's dig a bit deeper: Not everyone seeks being in a relationship for the same reasons. Regardless, if you neglected to findout what your partner's reasons were for wanting a relationship before starting the relationship with them, that's on you. Now that that's out of the way, consider this: Maybe the dude in this case wanted to be with her because he wanted a relationship that would last. Not everyone is interested in wasting their time, and yes - There's many tests the guy could've put her through from the get-go to makesure she was legit about her feelings (though in the end it was proven she wasn't anyways); But still he may've been wanting to find the person he'd spend his life with, and then this bimbo comes along, dates him (likely cause she doesn't mind a fling here and there to pass the time or have something to do), and then eventually goes "nah, I'mma move on - Later", that's fucked. There was no reason to be with that person in the first place. Just stay single, or find someone who is down for a fling where they already know ahead of time "This relationship is not going to make it.". In my opinion, she had no reasoning. This is a touchy subject, and opinions are cool and all - But let's look at the bigger picture, and observe how the impacts of such a situation can potentially effect one or the other's or both of their lives negatively. Just sayin', but personally - I've found the key of all keys: Never be with anyone. &I'm fucking loving it!
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Titus_Pullo


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OP, women are vile creatures. Men are truly the more sensitive and sincere race. After 5 months I find a long-term break up really hits you...This is common for men. Women on the other hand will cry the day of the break up, MAYBE 2 days. After that they will select from NUMEROUS dudes that have been orbiting her waiting, for her to be single and suck some dick. Women always have orbiters to select from, and they know this throughout the entirety of a relationship. Men on the other hand put their heart and soul into relationship, there is only one women to a man when he is in love. Yes they are more likely to fuck up and cheat, but that is an act of testosterone and alcohol not malice like when a woman cheats.
Some of you may start on about double standards but know for certain that what I said is true. So basically OP, now that you know the truth, now that you know your ex-gf is a slut that has probably already had 4-5 cocks bigger than yours inside her you can finally be released of your torment. Know that she was always a vile whore, like every other woman (except your mother). Now, for the rest of your life treat women like the whores they are. DO NOT INVEST IN WOMEN. ONLY INVEST IN YOURSELF. All your time, effort and money should be spent and invested into yourself. A gf is basically a hot piece of tail you cart along to look cool infront of your friends, but in reality they should be nothing more then a means to empty your balls.
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Nymeria



Registered: 04/28/15
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Titus_Pullo]
#21758880 - 06/03/15 07:49 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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I hope you choke on your own cum you cuntface pussy. You should die a slow horrible death you stupid assclown wanker...
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Titus_Pullo


Registered: 01/23/10
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Nymeria]
#21759030 - 06/03/15 08:18 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Slut detected.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Titus_Pullo]
#21759033 - 06/03/15 08:18 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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titus pullo needs to get laid.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #3]
#21759141 - 06/03/15 08:46 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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He speaks the truth.
Trthhrt
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Sheekle
FREE BURKE



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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Anonymous #5]
#21759153 - 06/03/15 08:48 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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dont say trthhrt thats impersonating me
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Nymeria]
#21759350 - 06/03/15 09:39 PM (8 years, 7 months ago) |
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Nymeria said: I hope you choke on your own cum you cuntface pussy. You should die a slow horrible death you stupid assclown wanker...
I feel that Nymeria needs a cock in her butt.
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