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Ahh but man. That's the beauty of it all isn't it? Those troughs have to be experienced to get back to the crests in life. All we can really do is get back up the next day and move forward because there is no looking back. Fuck I've had ALOT of success in certain areas of my life and because of a "breakdown" completely screwed myself. 
But thats what's great about moving forward! There's always that opportunity just waiting to be found ahead. Kinda like if you started 2 boats perpendicular beside each other in the ocean. If you move one boat just 2 degrees in the other direction eventually their paths will completely diverge! Sometimes the ONLY option we have is to take the choices moment to moment and follow instinct. It's the only thing that keeps me going anyway.
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Well i got back with my ex-girlfriend last night. We broke up last fall and our lives changed and bad things happened. She was dating someone else for a while but was still seeing me as well. I was only down because her boyfriend said something to me one time that i didn't like and sleeping with her while they were going out was very ironic to what he had said to me. I also love this lady to death even though she's pretty crazy. so there's always that.
She broke up with her boyfriend pretty fast, they were still hanging out and she told me she didn't have time for me, which hurt my feelings so i didn't call her for almost a month but then she started to miss me so now were seeing eachother again. Before this we had been dating for 4 years.
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Suspector
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21703552 - 05/20/15 06:53 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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i would keep her as a #2, and allow someone to fill the #1 spot, she seems to have done that with you. probably is
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21703663 - 05/20/15 07:19 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Actually i forgot to mention this but she isn't even hanging out with him or talking to the other dude anymore and hasn't been for almost a month now.
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Suspector
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21703720 - 05/20/15 07:26 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah but, you are probably a spare tire, till she finds a new wheel with excellent grip
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21704144 - 05/20/15 08:51 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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eh thats kind of like saying unless your trying to be with someone forever your just waiting for them to break up with you.
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Suspector
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21704694 - 05/20/15 11:14 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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huh?
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Suspector]
#21709449 - 05/22/15 07:43 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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i'm hanging out with her today... possibly another friend too. but we'll see. definitely gonna be alone with her fora while and i don't really know how i feel. i'm actually starting to get over her but of course there's that lil voice inside me that wants her. idk even when i got her text asking to hang out i was just thought like "ehh i guess"
everything should be fine. let's see how it goes
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Dont show up, completely be a no show. If you care about long term
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Don't make any quick decisions, just hang out be chill, probably best if you go sober.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21713353 - 05/23/15 08:00 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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twas a completely chill time. we did hang out with another friend, which was nice cause i hadn't hung out with her in a long time. they just wanted to know how i was doing cause all my friends have been really worried about me recently. she gave me a ride home and we got some lunch as well. i honestly think she was shocked at how put together i was. but i'm getting over her pretty fast now so everything was cool.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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nice dude
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Everything]
#21724303 - 05/26/15 10:19 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I've been through this before and I also thought in that way "I'll never get over her" only to realize that saying stupid shit like that is what makes the hardest.
Seriously, just stop thinking about her, stop fantasizing of getting back together with her, stop wishing things could be better, stop clinging to that false hope of one day fixing things. Just stop and live.
Hanging onto such thoughts are doing nothing but prevent you from moving forward, healing and most importantly, evolving into the person that you want to be. I know it sounds impossible, I know it sounds hard, but the expression "no pain no gain" holds true. It takes time and that time will be extremely slow but as slowly slowly you negate yourself of such negative feelings, of such sadness, you'll start to realize that you have been given freedom, freedom to experience some one new, freedom to be you and evolve you, freedom to start depending on yourself more.
Most importantly keep busy. Keeping yourself busy with anything, hobby, work, school, learning, reading..etc will prevent negative thoughts and her from creeping onto your mind.
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Re: i can't seem to get over my ex [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#21728411 - 05/27/15 11:44 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Rosen_Rot said: I've been through this before and I also thought in that way "I'll never get over her" only to realize that saying stupid shit like that is what makes the hardest.
Seriously, just stop thinking about her, stop fantasizing of getting back together with her, stop wishing things could be better, stop clinging to that false hope of one day fixing things. Just stop and live.
Hanging onto such thoughts are doing nothing but prevent you from moving forward, healing and most importantly, evolving into the person that you want to be. I know it sounds impossible, I know it sounds hard, but the expression "no pain no gain" holds true. It takes time and that time will be extremely slow but as slowly slowly you negate yourself of such negative feelings, of such sadness, you'll start to realize that you have been given freedom, freedom to experience some one new, freedom to be you and evolve you, freedom to start depending on yourself more.
Most importantly keep busy. Keeping yourself busy with anything, hobby, work, school, learning, reading..etc will prevent negative thoughts and her from creeping onto your mind.
pretty much what i've been doing. and now there's this girl back in town that i'm certain i can get with. she texted me last night saying she wants to hang out now that she's back
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And where is your ex now? Nowhere that's where! Congrats!
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You better fucking make a move this time man
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If you don't then...
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The Doobie Dude said: You better fucking make a move this time man
haha yeah i am. last time just was not the right time, for sure.
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Corporal Kielbasa said: Sometimes it takes a while homie. It can take years. People can leave lasting impressions that may never just go away. If you loved them then you can still love them even if you aren't together anymore. Its just appreciating the time you had together and being thankful for the experience and moving on to giving and loving someone else.
What has helped me get over some of my ex's is making either a physical or mental list of all the attributes of that specific person that are negative/ that I dislike. then when i'm feeling down about them or missing them i look back at that list.
Personally i'm still in love with my ex and I know i'm probably going to be for a while.... you'll find someone else though it just takes time. If you two are really meant to be together then it will happen.
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i can't seem to get over my ex
+ + porn + doing things I enjoy doing like playing music, chilling with friends, finding other girls to fuck and enjoy the freedom of being single and having time and no kids; All these things help relieve me from a lot of these problems. But that really differs for everyone in each specific situation. We all go through it at some point if we ever enter any relationship though. Keep in mind that everything ends at some point, better sooner than later with some things - Especially with these kinds of things. If you can accept that though, you have hope yet. It's not a bad thing, it's just how life is. Being too attached to things and people can leave you suffering mentally and possibly physically; Although every person that breathes will make this mistake at one point or another, typically many times throughout their lifespan. The key is to learn from the things that happen throughout your lifespan, and focus towards a life that you want. I'm saying I wouldn't look at the end of a past relationship all too bleakly as it could instead be looked at as the start of a whole new chapter of your life you get to write yourself.
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