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Mquire
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Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk)
#21683569 - 05/15/15 03:24 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Idk, my friends talk a lot of smack to eachother. I can't tell if it's stemming from insecurity and designed to bring eachother down a peg, or if I'm just being too sensative. Where is the line?
Like I'm really short, and im not gonna lie it pisses me off because they call me little guy. It's an objective fact sure, but it's the way they say it that bothers me. It's like they get pleasure out of pointing it out and it makes them feel better about themselves.
Wtf is shit talking supposed to be?
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Mquire]
#21683613 - 05/15/15 03:38 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Usually that shit stems from people having their own insecurities/problems, almost like a reflection of their inner workings. Dont let it get to you!
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: counter s]
#21685891 - 05/16/15 04:22 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I make a conscious effort to not have people like that in my circle of friends
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: popori]
#21685915 - 05/16/15 05:05 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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My father, in his 70s, moves in circles where they all got these nicknames for decades now. With them is harmless but yeah I totally get what you mean. Its all about intent.
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Mquire]
#21686790 - 05/16/15 11:39 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Mquire said: Idk, my friends talk a lot of smack to eachother. I can't tell if it's stemming from insecurity and designed to bring eachother down a peg, or if I'm just being too sensative. Where is the line?
Like I'm really short, and im not gonna lie it pisses me off because they call me little guy. It's an objective fact sure, but it's the way they say it that bothers me. It's like they get pleasure out of pointing it out and it makes them feel better about themselves.
Wtf is shit talking supposed to be?
Sounds like some sadomasochistic bulshit. I tend to limit my intake with these friends, I am on the verge of cutting one of who is like that. I have cut people off before who are like that. You must know, it is not you It is that person, or persons that are disrespecting you and cannot just enjoy your presence without feeling better about themselves. There is a fine line between joking around with a friend who makes it noticable you are joking around, and someone putting you down.
Hence, my questionable friend told me in front of a group of people who don't know me well, "you are like the kid in highschool that sat at home depressed all day with no friends sayin ohhh!! life sucks!! contemplating cutting himself." followed by obnoxious laughing by him alone. I wasn't acting strange to my knowledge, if anything his own friends thought it was strange of him, it completely came out of left field and was not influenced by the current conversation. So, this was totally disrespectful, and untrue considering I have known him for a long time and he knows I ran shit/bitches in high school. Regardless if it was true or not true. It doesn't matter. All that matters is that this was some incredibly immature, rude, narcissistic, capricious, sadomasochist, self-regarding bulshit that you would expect from someone who you should not respect. He does shit like this sometimes to other people he has known for awhile, so yeah I was a little embarrassed and humiliated at first, but later on I reminded myself, that it isn't me, it is him. He is a total dick with a ego that other mature individuals, the ones worth any time, will not want to be around as time passes
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Jobbypot Smith
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Mquire]
#21687582 - 05/16/15 04:32 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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After being in the 'outsider' group for years, i've noticed that the main popular/athletic/party people allways shit talk at eachother with really personal insults. My group, being slightly the 'weirdos', are the most kindest, sweetest people i have ever met. Despite being outsiders, they are 'morally normal' Recently some others have come into our group and they adopt this 'putdown' mentality. We has to put up with it for a long time but since its no longer necessary, its clear that everyone is sick with their shit and starting to push them away. I realised that i dont want these people in the next stage of my life and so I'm doing the same.
If it really is bad, then don't put up with it. I guess we are outsiders because we don't accept being dragged down. People are fucked
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Jobbypot Smith]
#21687867 - 05/16/15 06:26 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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we rag on each other but only when one of us is being stupid or says something the other knows is bullshit. idk i have thick skin.
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Mescalean]
#21688043 - 05/16/15 07:13 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah I tease my friends all the time but I expect it back. It's never something meant to be insulting or hurt anyone's feelings. Banter if you were. Having said that the guy I live with takes it to another level when we are around other people and specifically tries to insult me and bring me down in the eyes of others. He is a douche and I do not spend much time with him as a result. If it's people actually trying to put you down, they are arses.
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: The peg]
#21688094 - 05/16/15 07:30 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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The peg said: Yeah I tease my friends all the time but I expect it back. It's never something meant to be insulting or hurt anyone's feelings. Banter if you were. Having said that the guy I live with takes it to another level when we are around other people and specifically tries to insult me and bring me down in the eyes of others. He is a douche and I do not spend much time with him as a result. If it's people actually trying to put you down, they are arses.
Pretty much. I make fun of one for using colored contacts. Call him a F** and we can both laugh about it. "pussy" is thrown around a lot too. Make fun of each others taste in women. I am apparently a racist fuck ( he's half black i call him the whitest kid i know to make fun of him) because I like pastey girls because of some subconscious desire to cleanse my gene pool. we both can laugh about it. My nipple size has come under scrutiny "milk duds".
I also grew up with a father who found it funny to give retarded people money to go and grab a girls butt or say something perverted to them. Would also throw homeless people money for shit. 50 bucks one year for a bum to pee in a super soaker, spray this neighbor who always called the HOA on us and run. I'm a product of my environment I guess.
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Mescalean]
#21688230 - 05/16/15 08:14 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think there is a fine line between dissing someone and joking around. Or atleast going 'overboard' to the point where you aren't sure if someone means it. Ultimately, if you are here questioning it, then it is not okay. That is my 2 cents. You can either talk to them about it OP or ditch them
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Anonymous #1]
#21692019 - 05/17/15 07:34 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Good friends usually shit talk quite abit. If it is something that truely bothers you, speak up bro! Don't just let is boil, tell them whats up. If
they're your friends they'll understands, if it goes on fuck em and move on. True friends will get you and probably feel really bad.
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: TrippieHunter]
#21692480 - 05/17/15 09:38 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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um , friends are encouraging, if not disparaging for their friends, truly unless they are in some misunderstanding, or some kind of "moodiness".
or just not really friends. friends do not smack talk others unless it's a genuine roast, maybe about some quirk or factor, but not about a person general appearance of nature.
what the hell kinda of person judges someone on that?
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: akira_akuma]
#21692745 - 05/17/15 10:53 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Re: Am I too sensative, or do I need new friends? (About smack-talk) [Re: Mquire]
#21692816 - 05/17/15 11:12 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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been in a shop with a bunch of dude for many of years.
smack talk is pretty much inevitable.. if someone stops giving you shit, than you know a problem has formed.
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