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YourTimesGonnaCome
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Have a feeling my friends gonna relapse on heroin
#21674023 - 05/13/15 09:54 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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We met at the sober home. I was having mental problems from shrooms which is why I went there (I don't do drugs anymore, just drink like 2-3 beers 2x a week usually)...he went there for heroin. He relapsed while we were in the sober house and got arrested. But they let him back in the sober house. Now we both moved to a pretty upscale apt complex and he's right down the hall from me. First we were hush about drinking...I would tell him I was completely sober...because I didn't want to be a bad influence on him or whatever cuz I know he's an addict/alcoholic. I'm not one, it was more the mental issues for me (I'm diagnosed schizoaffective, dont plan on doing drugs ever again but enjoyed the lifestyle while it lasted which is why I'm here). So anyways, one day I told him I've had a couple beers, hoping he would come out with the response "You can maybe tolerate a couple beers but I can't do it"...But he came out and was like "HAHA THATS FUNNY! Because I drink every night!" pretty much. And he was drinking for the last 2-3 months in the sober house. He just can't stay sober for a day. Has reckless behavior. Drinks at work. Talks to girls in the elevator who were carrying drinks "Is that one for me"...now this is a nice upscale apartment and they could tell he's an addict and shouldn't be drinking...They just laughed at him. He's completely blind without reason because he's at least buzzed all the time. Drives everywhere buzzed and drives like a maniac...I swear I'm not getting in a car with him again because you never know when he's gonna go 60 mph for no reason. I can't take it anymore. I don't think I wanna hang out with him again because I know he's gonna relapse on heroin. What is he gonna do, drink everyday for the rest of his life? He still hangs out with his friends who do heroin, pop percocets, whatever. Says things like "I drink because if I don't drink I'm gonna do heroin", but I know drinking won't be enough one day for him. He still gets drug tested by the sober house too and that won't last forever.
I know there's nothing I can do but I feel this is a good community to vent to. Any thoughts on the situation?
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Don't feel like you should help. He can only help himself. Keep asking yourself if you get anything out of the friendship, if not, just bail.
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YourTimesGonnaCome
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Re: Have a feeling my friends gonna relapse on heroin [Re: GoldenEye]
#21674058 - 05/13/15 10:10 AM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Everything was good before I told him I was drinking a little. Now all he talks about is wanting to get fucked up. Don't get me wrong I used to get fucked up drinking too but I just can't do it anymore. I used to trip huge doses of acid/shrooms and smoke tons of weed. But I can't do it anymore. There was a night on cinco de mayo I had like 6 beers with him and ever since he's thinking I'm on the same page as he is.
I'm glad I told him though or I would've never known that he was doing what he's doing and would continue to hang out with him and drive around with him drunk/buzzed.
Would it be wrong to say something like "I can't hang out with you anymore as long as you're drinking the way you are"...or no?
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GoldenEye
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Of course not. Honesty is always good. He'll probably throw a tantrum and call you a pussy but that should be telling enough.
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Rebelutionsssss
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Just tell him you're trying to stop drinking. Let him know that you need to be sober. He will most likely call you a pussy or some other kinds of names but fuck it dude, just stick to your guns and say "later"
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Re: Have a feeling my friends gonna relapse on heroin [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#21688557 - 05/16/15 09:55 PM (8 years, 8 months ago) |
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Work on yourself harder so you can be maybe a good example for him of what can be. Often that is one of the best ways to help some one. I suspect we can't save everyone also. my 2 cents peace , love , n good luck
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