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sanchothestoner
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i think i want my ex back
#21598296 - 04/26/15 08:33 AM (9 years, 24 days ago) |
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so in december, my ex broke up with me. i believe this mostly had to do with my heavy drug use and my state of mind at the time. i got into heroin, and that shit fucked me up. turned me into a monster and i lost the girl of my dreams...
we're both gonna be up at humboldt next year, things between us are good now, and i definitely know she still has at least some feelings for me. i really wanna get her back, but then i also think... what if i meet someone super awesome at humboldt?
i'm pretty confused about how i feel right now... should i try to get her back? or just let things be? if i do try, how should i go about it? fuck i really miss this chick now that i'm thinkin about it...
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Exes are exes and should stay exes most of the time. You also asked what if you meet someone else out there..which sounds like you aren't really that determined to get her back. If you are okay with being with someone else, I think you should leave it be.
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Damn good advice. I could never understand why on earth people wanted to remain as friends either as exes unless they have kids then it makes perfect sense. Or to at least be cordial for the sake of sanity. Otherwise, cya.
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sanchothestoner
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well, she broke up with me. i didn't want it to happen at all. osculate, i guess i'm just always the type to play out different scenarios in my head. but i definitely still have feelings for her and think about her... like yeah there's girls that i've talked to since we broke up, but it's 4 months later and i still want her.
to my surprise, i just got a missed call from her... now i'm curious.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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wait to see what you encounter when you get there first before you make any decisions
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sanchothestoner
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Re: i think i want my ex back [Re: Connoisseur]
#21600788 - 04/26/15 07:10 PM (9 years, 24 days ago) |
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she ended up calling me back and we talked on the phone for a while. it was really nice, and i guess she wanted to see how i was doing because she hadn't seen me or talked to me for a while. that phone call definitely tripped me out.... oh and turns out we're gonna be on the same floor, right down the hall from each other at humboldt!
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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I agree with the first response in the thread.
However, if the end of the relationship was a result if problems that you have since fixed, then I say give it a go.
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LunarEclipse
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sanchothestoner said: she ended up calling me back and we talked on the phone for a while. it was really nice, and i guess she wanted to see how i was doing because she hadn't seen me or talked to me for a while. that phone call definitely tripped me out.... oh and turns out we're gonna be on the same floor, right down the hall from each other at humboldt!
instead of being on the floor together, use the bed. unless the floor is clean which is doubtful.
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Don't trust some clueless people about relationship advice! If i followed 90% crap that people say about exes and friendzones I wouldn't be happilly living with my girlfriend! Everything can be fixed. Period. And I mean it.
And if you lost somebody you love because of drugs, you might overthink their consumption. And by the signs she's giving she seems.. INTERESTED.
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Re: i think i want my ex back [Re: Zhu]
#21604176 - 04/27/15 02:27 PM (9 years, 23 days ago) |
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i really do think that once i'm cleaned up and in a better place, she might actually take me back. the things that bugged her the most was how suicidal i was and my intense drug consumption. and i'm working on both right now.
i'm just gonna see how things go.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Just don't forget to post about it. I love stories with a happy ending. And I bet you can make it happen, dude!
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Re: i think i want my ex back [Re: Zhu]
#21607449 - 04/28/15 03:56 AM (9 years, 22 days ago) |
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If you want to try to get back together with your ex, then by all means do it. But don't half ass it. Don't question it. Do it with your heart 100%. Getting an old relationship to work again is much harder than finding a new one. Take it from me, I was with my ex for seven years, three of which we were off and on. And ya know what, we still broke up. A lot. And for the same exact reasons three years ago. If you really want to make it work make a conscious effort every day. Otherwise, save everyone the time and heart break. I'm not saying it's impossible. It will just be very, very hard and you really really have to want it. Not kinda want it. Not maybe. You need to want this more than anything.
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sanchothestoner said: that phone call definitely tripped me out.... oh and turns out we're gonna be on the same floor, right down the hall from each other at humboldt!
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Re: i think i want my ex back [Re: thebeardguy]
#21614971 - 04/29/15 08:00 PM (9 years, 21 days ago) |
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thebeardguy said: I agree with the first response in the thread.
However, if the end of the relationship was a result if problems that you have since fixed, then I say give it a go.
I'd Gove it a shot Don't force that thing in there 
If you 2 love each other still go for it Drugs man
If you let them destroy you things around you leave Friends lovers jobs or your life
Go for it sancho
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Re: i think i want my ex back [Re: SunnyD]
#21617379 - 04/30/15 12:26 PM (9 years, 20 days ago) |
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ya u hafta go in with 100% heart and comitment if not youll be making exceptions here and there which will turn into the norm good for u man, i wish my ex wrote your post this is inspiring
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sanchothestoner
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yeah if i really want to win her back, i need to show her i have changed. fucked up a lil this weekend, and i know it's just an excuse, i was getting 3-4 hours a sleep a night. need a bexno to keep me a sleep. but i know mean i'm doing good except fot the meds i just got put on.... they made me feel weird, awake and in my dreams.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Suspector
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sanchothestoner said: yeah if i really want to win her back, i need to show her i have changed. fucked up a lil this weekend, and i know it's just an excuse, i was getting 3-4 hours a sleep a night. need a bexno to keep me a sleep. but i know mean i'm doing good except fot the meds i just got put on.... they made me feel weird, awake and in my dreams.
lol... what helped me was socially recognizing that most people, interesting people, do not do heavy drugs. cool people like Christopher Hitchens always mentioned how drugs make people lame and boring.. go for the casual glass of scotch or some shit when you are in a good mood. Open your eyes to a better perspective like most people do
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Re: i think i want my ex back [Re: Suspector]
#21638938 - 05/05/15 10:27 AM (9 years, 15 days ago) |
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I HOPE that was trolling. Scotch not being a "hard" drug is a lame joke.
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TheGreenArrow said:
I HOPE that was trolling. Scotch not being a "hard" drug is a lame joke.

I never said Scotch wasn't hard. did I? Maybe I could of worded it better, but any being with more than a nut for brains would get the gist of what I am saying. I was referring to just staying away from your stereotypical, impure, non controlled drugs, that dull you out till you are a retard.
Regardless,
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OsculateOfDemise said: Exes are exes and should stay exes most of the time. You also asked what if you meet someone else out there..which sounds like you aren't really that determined to get her back. If you are okay with being with someone else, I think you should leave it be.
This.
It is best to just let go. It is only sad, if you allow it to be sad. I think I mentioned this earlier, that- humans work in thought patterns. We can alter these thought patterns. Imagine a slide of 10 pictures being your daily thoughts. we need to make a conscious effort to replace the pictures with other thoughts. Keep the good ones, exchange the bad ones, systematically. Make a consistent effort, and you are gold.
-------------------- I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn't work that way. So I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness.
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