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Sheekle
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How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood?
#21526874 - 04/10/15 12:29 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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It seems like a high percentage of the time that I open up to others, it's usually taken as sarcasm or as if I have a hidden agenda or malicious intentions. Like, everybody seems to have lived such a shitty life that the idea of any sort of genuine human connection is something to be scoffed at.
Or maybe it's just me? Perhaps my normally silly behaviors and odd ways of going about doing things really cease the idea of me saying anything valuable dead in it's tracks to everyone?
Perhaps I should start wearing goth make-up and hire a parade of people to play me songs on the worlds smallest violins.
I feel like this might actually be a historical human struggle.
Maybe I should become an advocate of the coke, booze, and hookers lifestyle and toss away my unrealistic ideologies of people being reasonable or sincere into the trash bin?
I'm not saying that EVERYBODY misunderstands me obviously, just the VAST majority of people I engage in a sincere conversation.
DO YOU FEEL MISUNDERSTOOD?
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Sheekle]
#21526883 - 04/10/15 12:32 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't get this post. Wtf!
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Sheekle
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Supachopped719]
#21526886 - 04/10/15 12:32 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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lol
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Sheekle]
#21526887 - 04/10/15 12:33 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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Happens to me literally everyday.. People don't get us sheekle. Just don't get us.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Sheekle]
#21526890 - 04/10/15 12:34 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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Everyone has ADD and doesn't listen to a single word you say after 3 seconds.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Astral Pain]
#21526896 - 04/10/15 12:36 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Astral Pain said: Everyone has ADD and doesn't listen to a single word you say after 3 seconds.
Dude, I know right? Shit fucking trips me out.
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Astral Pain]
#21526901 - 04/10/15 12:39 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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What's bad is me and my girlfriend can't not understand each other. I basically play 20 questions about ten times a day. It impossible to get what she's saying out of her. It drives me nuts. And I just keep explaining shit as many different ways as I can till she gets it. She doesn't mind though lol.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Sheekle]
#21526904 - 04/10/15 12:39 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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^That double negative..
When i was doing more drugs then I currently am, which is really just smoking and not even that often, I felt like this all the time. I still do, but it doesn't eat at me as much
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Sheekle]
#21526934 - 04/10/15 12:50 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sheekle said: Maybe I should become an advocate of the coke, booze, and hookers lifestyle and toss away my unrealistic ideologies of people being reasonable or sincere into the trash bin?
Know exactly what you mean... But fuck you anyway, random internet jerk.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: TheMule73]
#21526991 - 04/10/15 01:12 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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This reminds me of this one time tripping. And out of the dozens of times I tripped, very rarely was it with people, but this time it was.
After initially my friend thinking i wasn't 'seeing it' (you know like seeing the acting of our own egos/knowing we really are just always putting on a show), he realized to himself that everyone is different and then said "you know you know!"
And it was awesome cus I was like YES!, but I still was kinda wearing the exterior that I had. And I don't think he could understand why I was. And my way of letting go is to kinda first analyze all of the aspects of myself that were to be let go of in the first place and trying to understand why that made me, me...and then eventually i realize that thinking about that stuff is preventing me from actually letting go, and then I would you know succumb to the psychedelic and get all groovy with the vibrations and whatnot...but at first, I have to really tackle my ego head on before I can just say goodbye to it (and tbh, that's actually one of my fav parts of tripping). And then eventually he was seeing where I was mis-interpreting his meaning behind some of the stuff he was saying. And that right there, that mis-interpretation on my part, was just my ego kind of projecting itself onto his statements. And i immediately had realized that, but i like figuring out why i was doing that.
My point is, i think, is that miscommunication falls on both people at times. In the case above, my ego was warping his statements in my head causing a miscommunication, and on his end it took him a bit to figure out how to play into my reasoning as to eventually use it to both of our benefits and come out with a successful "non-mis-communication" (for lack of a better word).
So during daily interactions yeah theres gonna be a ton of misunderstanding going on. But if you can figure out where they're misunderstanding you....then you can figure out a better way to present what you're trying to say/get at. And that kinda sucks, having to play into what works for the other person, but that's how human's communicate.
But if you do your part and try to understand the deeper issue of why one is mis-understanding you, then you might be able to lead your words/statements down a path more familiar to that person. Of course, you still might come across some thick people who will kind of unconsciously make an effort to misunderstand.
Idk if any of that makes sense..
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: dee_N_ae]
#21526994 - 04/10/15 01:13 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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It's fun to say ridiculous things facetiously and get a reaction out of people. I used to fuck with people by acting like i didn't understand them and then they would explain it in a really pathetic way. They would often think i wasn't that intelligent, but i really don't care. You can learn a lot about how much someone knows about something by acting like you don't understand and having them explain it to you.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Cosmopolite]
#21527006 - 04/10/15 01:15 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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That sounds annoying.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: ModestMouse]
#21527015 - 04/10/15 01:18 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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I didn't do it to my friends i just did it to retards. 'Cause hey, even a retard has to feel like there's someone below him.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Cosmopolite]
#21527020 - 04/10/15 01:21 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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You don't sound very intellegent, it's weird that you would resort to such immaturity to try to gauge others intelligence, and base your opinion on their reactions to your unintelligent actions..
Sounds more like you making a fool of yourself
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Dr.Dankhead]
#21527032 - 04/10/15 01:24 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well you can't really ever understand the way people think, but you can tell how good their critical thinking and problem solving skills are by how well they explain things to people. That is, if they know a lot about what they are talking about. You can also tell if they have no idea what they are talking about. Everyone sizes each other up all of the time. I just do it with more tact my friend. Plus i was younger when i did that a lot, and i'm not that old as it is.
Edited by Cosmopolite (04/10/15 01:26 AM)
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Cosmopolite]
#21527038 - 04/10/15 01:26 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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I see, I see..
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Dr.Dankhead]
#21527052 - 04/10/15 01:31 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm just fucking around I didn't actually used to do that, what i would do is just not put fourth any intellectual effort at all into my relationships with acquaintances, and a couple of times i found out people thought i was dense. I really don't give a shit how smart i seem to people because i'm confident in that respect, and it's not like you can read peoples minds anyway so you really have no idea. I actually do have a friend who is facetious all the time and you're right after a while it does get annoying.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Sheekle] 1
#21527080 - 04/10/15 01:41 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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The Japanese say everyone has 3 faces, #1: The face you show to your friends #2: Face you show your loved ones and Finally there is a face you don't show to anyone except yourself. This ties in to being misunderstood. Communication is a big factor for people understanding you. Sometimes that in itself isn't enough though. In those times yes I do feel misunderstood often.
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Re: How common is the feeling of being consistently misunderstood? [Re: Seriously_trippin]
#21527084 - 04/10/15 01:42 AM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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I screen shot that. I like that
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