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Kuhl
New Kid


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Art of crit·i·cism
#21357516 - 03/03/15 05:47 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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Criticism from peer pressure to drinking alcohol on teens and losing their virginity to adults who are battling to fit in to be a perceived functioning member of society.
You hear someone tell you, good job- keep up the good work. You don't mind the compliment, but you don't discard it either. It's a sign of comparison from the complimenter to the complimentee.
The next day a person whom you know is complaining they're not good enough. This person does not feel they are doing a good job or good work. What is it that is the basis for this sense of unworthiness even though they may be working just as hard?
The act of criticism is valued to some emotional level to all. I believe it guides our personal inner critic to please other's but push an individual to their potential. Selfish criticism is never harmful,one must of built an emotional shield against critics of society to stand by their work. This person who's been elevated in society may be closest to a "true" expectation of someone who has become independent of criticism to only expand potential in others.
Are we helpless subjects of an imaginary criticizer of meeting expectations of human ingenuity in order to satisfy one value by progressing society in all areas of homo sapien expression?
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CosmicJoke
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Re: Art of crit·i·cism [Re: Kuhl]
#21357602 - 03/03/15 06:09 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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What I personally think is that inner-critique for many becomes an unconscious part of their core ego structure from early childhood rearing. It's something of a feeling-sensation that they aren't good enough just as they are.... So people cling to their own individual differences - if only they had bigger breasts, or bigger genitals, or a big diamond, or a nice house, or a nice car, or two loving parents... They fixate on some arbitrary bullshit - if only they had that, then things would be okay.
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Loaded Shaman
Psychophysiologist



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Criticism, regardless of whether it's internal or external, is always ultimately a choice of perception of the individual. Subconscious thought programs from early childhood will absolutely have an impact and influence, but these influences can be lessened with progressive conscious awareness of such by the individual.
I would assert that most human interaction that elicits an emotional response is ultimately (yes, environment has a massive influence here - but the individual is always free to choose independently of environment) arbitrary, unconscious reaction.
TL;DR: Criticism is useful, but it can be empowering if the individual becomes conscious of their blind spots and seeks to change them, rather than becoming insecure or depressed.
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  "Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance." — Confucius
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