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diablo33180
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Did i just fuck up my friendship?
#21089908 - 01/08/15 09:17 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well story goes about 2 weeks back before new years. My best friends girlfriend wanted to repaint her tiny room and wanted to pay me 200$ for it. I told her and him i would do it for free aslong as she buys the paint (brushes & rollers) on me basically free labor. A week goes by no word. After newyears i help her assemble an ikea cabinet (free). Ask my friend about the paint job he says he will let me know asap. I work construction so i dont really have free time like that matter of fact after newyears i was handed multiple projects to deal with. On the 2nd of jan my friends sister lost her husband. I figured i give him some time and reask again.... Well today i learned that i wont have the time to help his girl out and told my friend "im sorry but my job got in the way of the paint job i wont be able to do it.." his replay was. ""Well my family has all been dealing with alot . And my girl has been right here with me tru this. Sorry we aren't thinking about her paint job or fixing a window. Thanks alot. Don't worry we won't need your help thanks for the understanding asshole hope you feel better about yourself" " those are the words he sent me Me and him been friends for over 15 years im not sure if i might of said something wrong to him. Was i too soon to remind him? Or is he over reacting. How should i approach this i really dont want to lose a good friendship.
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Sheekle
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180] 3
#21089923 - 01/08/15 09:20 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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You did nothing wrong, that was a complete over-reaction on his part and had nothing to do with you in any way.
In my opinion.
Don't sweat other people's bullshit
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180]
#21089925 - 01/08/15 09:21 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sounds like he's being a dick.
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180]
#21089931 - 01/08/15 09:24 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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diablo33180 said: Well story goes about 2 weeks back before new years. My best friends girlfriend wanted to repaint her tiny room and wanted to pay me 200$ for it. I told her and him i would do it for free aslong as she buys the paint (brushes & rollers) on me basically free labor. A week goes by no word. After newyears i help her assemble an ikea cabinet (free). Ask my friend about the paint job he says he will let me know asap. I work construction so i dont really have free time like that matter of fact after newyears i was handed multiple projects to deal with. On the 2nd of jan my friends sister lost her husband. I figured i give him some time and reask again.... Well today i learned that i wont have the time to help his girl out and told my friend "im sorry but my job got in the way of the paint job i wont be able to do it.." his replay was. ""Well my family has all been dealing with alot . And my girl has been right here with me tru this. Sorry we aren't thinking about her paint job or fixing a window. Thanks alot. Don't worry we won't need your help thanks for the understanding asshole hope you feel better about yourself" " those are the words he sent me Me and him been friends for over 15 years im not sure if i might of said something wrong to him. Was i too soon to remind him? Or is he over reacting. How should i approach this i really dont want to lose a good friendship.
yeah don't sweat it im sure hes getting bitched at by his bitchy gf and hes taking it out on you. i would just let him calm down he will apologize and if he doesn't he wasn't a good friend afterall.
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ipraytomushrooms
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Sounds like he's being a prick. You did nothing wrong OP, I wouldn't worry about it. He's probably just had a rough week with all the shit they've been going through and,decided to take his frustration out on you.
If he is as good of a friend as you say he is then he will apologize after realizing the mistake he made.
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diablo33180
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I was just about to go to sleep before he sent me that shit fucked my night up... I dont know even how to reply to his assholeness i understand its his sisters husband but shit.
Edit you guys may be right his gf's birthday was on Tuesday so some shit probably went down . I guess i can ride it out and wait.
Edited by diablo33180 (01/08/15 09:30 PM)
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larry.fisherman
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180] 4
#21089955 - 01/08/15 09:29 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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He was out of line. I wouldn't even reply personally. I'd wait until he gets back to you. Give him a chance to think about that shit because he's clearly all whiny right now.
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Sheekle
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180]
#21089966 - 01/08/15 09:31 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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I would say "buthrt" or "Melt harder." if I was in a neutral mood or I would be all kind and caring if I was in a good mood
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: Sheekle]
#21089972 - 01/08/15 09:32 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sheekle said: You did nothing wrong, that was a complete over-reaction on his part and had nothing to do with you in any way.
In my opinion.
Don't sweat other people's bullshit
This.
If he's truly a good friend, he'll get over it in no time. If anything, you should be mad at your buddy OP. His reaction was pretty messed up IMO.
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180] 1
#21089990 - 01/08/15 09:38 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm in the middle on this one.
You did nothing wrong for sure, but I'm not so positive he's SUCH an asshole. We all act shitty when we're in bad moods.
If his siter's husband died, it puts a damper on everyone in the family's mood. He's obviously affected by this.
He took this reminder like "dude you know I'm dealing with this, I don't care about the fucking paint job someone just died" (which is what I'm assuming you mean by "lost" unless it's like a divorce. People have different ways to say different things)
He was definitely out of line.
If it were ME I would just attempt to be compassionate about the situation and look past his anger.
You don't have to reply, but if he talks to you just be nice.
You didn't lose your best friend man, he's just going through a lot of emotions he probably doesn't know how to handle.
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: kr0nik0] 1
#21090016 - 01/08/15 09:41 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks for your replys i just wanted to make sure i was not out of line. A death is a death but life goes on after. I guess i will give him extra time to cool off and understand. Once again thanks made me feel alot better.
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180]
#21090026 - 01/08/15 09:43 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just a friendly reminder isn't out of line....
And yes a death is a death but it's still within a week's time from that happening you know? But still nothing wrong on your part. Be understanding of his predicament.
Now... if HE starts getting all pissy AGAIN, after you don't reply, then you may have to consider that HE don't care about your friendship.
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It's been a week. He should be over the point where he's a dickhead by now. I wouldn't even reply to him. That's bullshit.
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diablo33180
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: D.M.T]
#21090189 - 01/08/15 10:26 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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I been waiting for a reply about painting her room for 3 weeks now soon to be 4 weeks... The death happened unexpectedly but even after that we talked and joked. Then he shits on me like that when i tell him i am no longer going to have the free time to help him/her out. Shit we had some ups and downs but shit like that i never expected. But like i said i will give him time if he cools then he cools but if not then thats a 15 year friendship in the trash over his sisters 3 year long husband
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180]
#21090206 - 01/08/15 10:29 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quit taking life so seriously, just let other people's bullshit roll off your shoulders.
Sometimes people are stupid douches, whatever.
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: Sheekle] 1
#21090216 - 01/08/15 10:33 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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Melt harder
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: Blend]
#21090243 - 01/08/15 10:42 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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@Sheekle: I'm telling you, you need your own line of them.
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: PatrickKn]
#21090267 - 01/08/15 10:46 PM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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PatrickKn said: @Sheekle: I'm telling you, you need your own line of them.

LOL
I really liked the buthrt trash one from the other day
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Painting a room for him would have been a favor. He can't get pissed at you for not doing a favor. He can only be thankful if you do decide to help him
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Re: Did i just fuck up my friendship? [Re: diablo33180]
#21091498 - 01/09/15 08:44 AM (9 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'd wait a while to let him calm down and be rational, see if he contacts you, and if not, hit him up after some time has gone by, and just say something like "hey man, I think you took what I said the wrong way"
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