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Anonymous #1

Advice
    #21065390 - 01/04/15 11:21 AM (9 years, 4 months ago)

A girl I am crazy for has finally hit me back up after she has been ignoring me now she messaged a long message saying she doesn't know if she wants me back in her life as aa friend which is what I want and she seems afraid im over her and shes very confused I can tell but I am too. I want her in my life pretty bad what should I do if I can get some PM to PM help that would be better than a comment on this post I am looking for real help but if you want to post a joke or your 2 cents I say go ahead I believe in freedom of speech :smile: thx to those who help

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Anonymous #2

Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #1] * 3
    #21065438 - 01/04/15 11:32 AM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Ignore her

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Anonymous #1

Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #21065454 - 01/04/15 11:37 AM (9 years, 4 months ago)

will she come back again? I will do anything for this girl its not necessarily I want to be with her I just wnt her back in my life she was a great person. I messed it up with her. she did end her message saying she would appreciate if I didn't respond to the message.

btw thank you for the advice but I need a lil more advice than just ignore her.

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Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #21066081 - 01/04/15 01:50 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

People want what they can't have. Play it cool dude. If she said don't respond, don't respond.

Hopefully time and space will help heal whatever damage you caused her.

Let her take the lead, she will probably write you again, but the ball is in her court. Let her make the next move, be patient and don't get desperate.

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Re: Advice [Re: WhiteNoise]
    #21066101 - 01/04/15 01:56 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

don't respond to the message, obviously.  give her more time to figure out wtf she's doing or thinking.

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Anonymous #1

Re: Advice [Re: WhiteNoise]
    #21066196 - 01/04/15 02:25 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

I know I haven't responded I am waiting and hoping...

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Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #21072933 - 01/05/15 07:02 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Not answering her sounds like such a silly game. This is probably what bothered you about her actions, so you're now doing the same? How does this make any sense?
Try telling her what you truly think, what you want or what you're reluctant about, as well as what bothered you. Then she can make up her own mind. Surely we must learn how to embrace even rejection, otherwise everybody would reinforce immature connections till the time they die, and go through even more emotional turmoil. This false sense of pride is crap imo.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Advice [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #21072951 - 01/05/15 07:05 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

MushroomTrip said:
Not answering her sounds like such a silly game. This is probably what bothered you about her actions, so you're now doing the same? How does this make any sense?
Try telling her what you truly think, what you want or what you're reluctant about, as well as what bothered you. Then she can make up her own mind. Surely we must learn how to embrace even rejection, otherwise everybody would reinforce immature connections till the time they die, and go through even more emotional turmoil. This false sense of pride is crap imo.





are you sure? like from experience can you say this works?
i now believe everything is a game and you gotta make the right plays to win. i care about this girl a lot and i dont want to play a game but i will do anything to have her back in my life. i feel like ignoring her is a silly game that may just backfire yknow

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Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #21073024 - 01/05/15 07:17 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Whether she wants you or not, your games aren't going to change anything. Nor the lack of them. What you can achieve by honesty is to increase your chances to make her figure out if she wants you or not. This includes the possibility of rejection, and rejection doesn't kill. Accepting it is part of growing up and being emotionally independent. And one has more chances for happiness once one becomes emotionally independent. So, nobody can tell if it will work the way you want it to work. On the other hand, if you play games, even if you make her seek you more, it can only be because of a false impression, and once she has you, she could dump you, which will probably suck more. Does this pay off, you think?


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Anonymous #1

Re: Advice [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #21073088 - 01/05/15 07:28 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

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MushroomTrip said:
Whether she wants you or not, your games aren't going to change anything. Nor the lack of them. What you can achieve by honesty is to increase your chances to make her figure out if she wants you or not. This includes the possibility of rejection, and rejection doesn't kill. Accepting it is part of growing up and being emotionally independent. And one has more chances for happiness once one becomes emotionally independent. So, nobody can tell if it will work the way you want it to work. On the other hand, if you play games, even if you make her seek you more, it can only be because of a false impression, and once she has you, she could dump you, which will probably suck more. Does this pay off, you think?





i like your post and see what you mean thank you for the help. what you said makes sense. i am going to message her. she said in a venting message that i needed to convince her to talk again because all i did before was say sorry and beg. i have a slight idea of what i am gonna say wish me luck and if you got anymore advice throw it down in the post again thank you

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Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #21073166 - 01/05/15 07:39 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Good luck! :peace:
That's all I have to say for now, but if things evolve, do post and I'll give you an opinion.


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Re: Advice [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #21073192 - 01/05/15 07:42 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

you need to back the fuck up. obviously your spirit isnt good for hers and she realizes that.  sorry dude.


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Re: Advice [Re: sprinkles]
    #21073329 - 01/05/15 07:59 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

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sprinkles said:
you need to back the fuck up. obviously your spirit isnt good for hers and she realizes that.  sorry dude.



watch out its sprinkles! hahaah

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Re: Advice [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #21073343 - 01/05/15 08:00 PM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

MushroomTrip said:
Good luck! :peace:
That's all I have to say for now, but if things evolve, do post and I'll give you an opinion.





will do thanks again helpful user :smile:

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Re: Advice [Re: Trichome_Delta9]
    #21075004 - 01/06/15 01:09 AM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Giving her a little time and space isn't playing games..

She needs to sort some things out and figure out if she misses you and wants you in her life.
It's probably a good idea for you gain a little independence and not need to hit her up all the time.

Care to elaborate on how you "messed things up?"
I don't think we have a very clear picture of the situation.

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Anonymous #1

Re: Advice [Re: WhiteNoise]
    #21076624 - 01/06/15 11:13 AM (9 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

WhiteNoise said:
Giving her a little time and space isn't playing games..

She needs to sort some things out and figure out if she misses you and wants you in her life.
It's probably a good idea for you gain a little independence and not need to hit her up all the time.

Care to elaborate on how you "messed things up?"
I don't think we have a very clear picture of the situation.





i tried too hard. more info can be shared in PMs if you find out who i am in the post.

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