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CherryBom
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My ex boyfriends lady friend 1
#20959081 - 12/10/14 07:16 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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Something very weird happened to me today. I'll start at the beginning.
About 5 or 6 years ago, I met my ex. We fell in love really quickly and everything was lovely....UNTIL, he met this bitch at work. He had a part time job as a line cook at one of those restaurants where the servers wear t-shirts like dresses and push up bras are a uniform standard. I fucking hated her. Everything about her. I hated that she was 'friends' with my boyfriend, I hated that he paid attention to her, I hated that they would text each other.
Nothing ever happened, I know this. But I know he liked her, for whatever that was worth. I called her every name in the book. I told him I was going to leave him if he kept talking to her, he called me insecure. He let me read his phone sometimes to prove that nothing funny was going on, they were just friends. Weird friends, but WHATEVER. He also deleted his threads at intervals.
So fast forward to now. We're broken up. It's fine. We're friends, best break up I've ever had in my life. Now, I have met a friend at work. He's pretty fun. I like him. We get along very well. I wouldn't mind making out with him a little bit, but he's got a girlfriend, they've been together for awhile.
I feel bad sometimes because now I'M HER. I'm THAT BITCH. He calls me sometimes late at night when shes not around...I don't always answer because I feel bad about it. We text each other dirty pictures and stuff and I know he deletes them because he told me she checks his phone sometimes.
So today, I thought of that bitch I hated so much when she was being all technically friendly with my man. I don't think she wanted to steal him from me, I think she just liked the attention that he gave her. Just like I like the attention I get from my new friend.
I would never in a million years steal another womans man. I don't play dirty. I just genuinely enjoy his company... but I guess I have a little bit more sympathy for that bitch then I did when I perceived her as a threat.
We all like to be liked.
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: CherryBom]
#20959132 - 12/10/14 07:27 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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CherryBom said: Something very weird happened to me today. I'll start at the beginning.
About 5 or 6 years ago, I met my ex. We fell in love really quickly and everything was lovely....UNTIL, he met this bitch at work. He had a part time job as a line cook at one of those restaurants where the servers wear t-shirts like dresses and push up bras are a uniform standard. I fucking hated her. Everything about her. I hated that she was 'friends' with my boyfriend, I hated that he paid attention to her, I hated that they would text each other.
Nothing ever happened, I know this. But I know he liked her, for whatever that was worth. I called her every name in the book. I told him I was going to leave him if he kept talking to her, he called me insecure. He let me read his phone sometimes to prove that nothing funny was going on, they were just friends. Weird friends, but WHATEVER. He also deleted his threads at intervals.
So fast forward to now. We're broken up. It's fine. We're friends, best break up I've ever had in my life. Now, I have met a friend at work. He's pretty fun. I like him. We get along very well. I wouldn't mind making out with him a little bit, but he's got a girlfriend, they've been together for awhile.
I feel bad sometimes because now I'M HER. I'm THAT BITCH. He calls me sometimes late at night when shes not around...I don't always answer because I feel bad about it. We text each other dirty pictures and stuff and I know he deletes them because he told me she checks his phone sometimes.
So today, I thought of that bitch I hated so much when she was being all technically friendly with my man. I don't think she wanted to steal him from me, I think she just liked the attention that he gave her. Just like I like the attention I get from my new friend.
I would never in a million years steal another womans man. I don't play dirty. I just genuinely enjoy his company... but I guess I have a little bit more sympathy for that bitch then I did when I perceived her as a threat.
We all like to be liked.
"I would never in a million years steal another womans man."
No one can steal another person, it takes two to tango.
If someone cheats on their mate, it's on them.
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: qman]
#20959146 - 12/10/14 07:30 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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This sounds very foreign to me. It is very normal for people to have many friends of the same and opposite sex, what was it particularly about her that you hated so much?
Maybe I have more sympathy for the guy, because I've been that guy. With a crazed lunatic who is jealous of every male who comes into contact with you, and feels like he has to force me to stop seeing all my friends.
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CherryBom
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: Crystal G]
#20959156 - 12/10/14 07:34 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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I hated that he lied to me about her mostly. I felt like he was holding onto her like a just in case or a back up plan. It was my first and only experience with jealousy.
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: CherryBom]
#20959184 - 12/10/14 07:38 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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good woman
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DrRedBush
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: CherryBom]
#20959185 - 12/10/14 07:38 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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CherryBom said: Something very weird happened to me today. I'll start at the beginning.
About 5 or 6 years ago, I met my ex. We fell in love really quickly and everything was lovely....UNTIL, he met this bitch at work. He had a part time job as a line cook at one of those restaurants where the servers wear t-shirts like dresses and push up bras are a uniform standard. I fucking hated her. Everything about her. I hated that she was 'friends' with my boyfriend, I hated that he paid attention to her, I hated that they would text each other.
Nothing ever happened, I know this. But I know he liked her, for whatever that was worth. I called her every name in the book. I told him I was going to leave him if he kept talking to her, he called me insecure. He let me read his phone sometimes to prove that nothing funny was going on, they were just friends. Weird friends, but WHATEVER. He also deleted his threads at intervals.
So fast forward to now. We're broken up. It's fine. We're friends, best break up I've ever had in my life. Now, I have met a friend at work. He's pretty fun. I like him. We get along very well. I wouldn't mind making out with him a little bit, but he's got a girlfriend, they've been together for awhile.
I feel bad sometimes because now I'M HER. I'm THAT BITCH. He calls me sometimes late at night when shes not around...I don't always answer because I feel bad about it. We text each other dirty pictures and stuff and I know he deletes them because he told me she checks his phone sometimes.
So today, I thought of that bitch I hated so much when she was being all technically friendly with my man. I don't think she wanted to steal him from me, I think she just liked the attention that he gave her. Just like I like the attention I get from my new friend.
I would never in a million years steal another womans man. I don't play dirty. I just genuinely enjoy his company... but I guess I have a little bit more sympathy for that bitch then I did when I perceived her as a threat.
We all like to be liked.
It's natural :-) Don't feel bad life is crazy you never know what might happen Just be safe
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: CherryBom]
#20959252 - 12/10/14 07:54 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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We all like to be liked.
very true.
Like qman said though, it takes two to tango. It's partly on him for having the sort of relationship he is having with you right now. He is liking the attention as well.
Like you said, we all like to be liked.
It's a great feeling when it happens
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Re: My ex boyfriends lady friend [Re: Masked] 1
#20962374 - 12/11/14 02:51 PM (9 years, 1 month ago) |
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The whole ....my man/ my girl thing is usually temporary while you're young anyway. I mean, How often do people find their mates on the first or second try? One thing that I have learned through all my years is to not "just settle" on a mate because they're ok, nice, have a good job...what ever. I mean Cherry, you said that you and dude broke up anyway...you weren't happy for some reason or another.
If someone jumps out at you and stops you in your tracks...he might be worth pursuing. If he has eyes for you....he isn't satisfied with his gf anyway and will, most likely, break up with her in the future....with or without you.
I'm not saying that this guy is "the one"..lol, but I have, in the past, sold myself short and I see people and friends all day long that are in relationships that are just vanilla and unfulfilled. Life is fleeting....don't sell yourself short...there is some dude out there that will rock your world.Just be aware of your instincts and trust them.
-------------------- Look Deep Into Nature,and Then You Will Understand Everything Better. Albert Einstein
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