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I'm bursting with sexual energy
#20883107 - 11/24/14 10:53 AM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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I fell out of love with my ex a long time ago. He just moved out about a month ago, we haven't had sex in about a year. I just didn't want to. I was completely turned off by him. I didn't hate him, I wasn't resentful... I just didn't feel sexual towards him at all. We're still friends. Just not friends with benefits.
Then he moved out and now I can't turn it off again. It's like the switch was flipped. I can't even have a conversation with an attractive male without wondering what it would be like to take a bite out of their face.
I need a rebound bang, but I don't really have one lined up, so I'm stuck in limbo. I'm trying to do something productive with all this energy, but I have no idea how to channel it. I joined Tinder to see if I could find a nice boy to change my oil, but that was a giant FAIL.
I was starting to think I was broken, I couldn't figure out why I didn't want to have sex...but it was just my ex. Now he's gone and I'm all fired up again. At least I'm not broken.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883342 - 11/24/14 12:10 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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sounds like you got your head straight - you'll get it in soon enough. i know you're not looking for advice on how to find dick, so i'll just offer these words of encouragement and understanding~
i need to get laid too, but i'm packed full of sexual insecurities
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883366 - 11/24/14 12:17 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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Being broken is not good, glad to hear you aren't. If you have all of that sexual energy built up then why not just masturbate. Why do you have to have sex? Unless you want to chance becoming pregnant...
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883376 - 11/24/14 12:19 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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I masturbate daily. If I didn't then I would be all over women. It'd be bad.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883403 - 11/24/14 12:26 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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CherryBom said: I fell out of love with my ex a long time ago. He just moved out about a month ago, we haven't had sex in about a year. I just didn't want to. I was completely turned off by him. I didn't hate him, I wasn't resentful... I just didn't feel sexual towards him at all. We're still friends. Just not friends with benefits.
Then he moved out and now I can't turn it off again. It's like the switch was flipped. I can't even have a conversation with an attractive male without wondering what it would be like to take a bite out of their face.
I need a rebound bang, but I don't really have one lined up, so I'm stuck in limbo. I'm trying to do something productive with all this energy, but I have no idea how to channel it. I joined Tinder to see if I could find a nice boy to change my oil, but that was a giant FAIL.
I was starting to think I was broken, I couldn't figure out why I didn't want to have sex...but it was just my ex. Now he's gone and I'm all fired up again. At least I'm not broken.
Why did you fall out of love with your ex if you don't mind answering? I am always interested in the mechanisms that cause a couple to grow apart.
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Yeah, that works too, I guess. But it's not the same. I need a nice man to bite.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883433 - 11/24/14 12:34 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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LOL…that's the first time I've ever heard a lady say anything remotely resembling, "Umkay…so where can I find some dick?" Answer: just about anywhere.
Reminds me of a Chris Rock bit:
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom] 1
#20883440 - 11/24/14 12:35 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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Tymo, it's really complicated.
I love him dearly...I'm just not in love with him. We had a great run, but we live together, work together and it's just too much. I spend 24 hours a day with him and there's no relief. He requires constant nurturing and attention, he's a bit of selfish asshole too. I felt like I was catering to his needs and getting jack shit back in return.
He's a nice enough guy. He's just not MY GUY. So I fell out of love. We still work together, I still see him every single goddamn day. We still chat, we are true friends. My vagina just dried up around him.
Now I need a new man to chew on.
Badly.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883445 - 11/24/14 12:37 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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Have you broken up with him?
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Oh yeah. He moved out about a month ago. The day he moved out I got my mojo back.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: BittrBuffalo]
#20883552 - 11/24/14 01:04 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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Bittr, I know right?
The guy I really want to sink my teeth into is in a relationship, so he's out...but he told me all I have to do is ask and I shall receive.
I just don't know how to ask?
"Hi, I'm super wound up. I just got out of a sexless long-term relationship. I need someone fun to bang frequently and on call. I can't even look at men without wondering what their O face looks like. Would you like to get naked??"
I tried Tinder, and I just can't with those idiots.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883576 - 11/24/14 01:11 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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CherryBom said: We had a great run, but we live together, work together and it's just too much. I spend 24 hours a day with him and there's no relief. He requires constant nurturing and attention, he's a bit of selfish asshole too. I felt like I was catering to his needs and getting jack shit back in return.
OH EM GEE it's so hard to not want to murder someone when you're around them that goddamn much. That sucks. 
And he needed a substitute mother on top of it…barf. No wonder your vag dried up around him, he was a full-time job and a half. I've dated guys like that, too…the ones that expect you to give them their binky and kiss them on the forehead. That's when it's time for a boot in the ass instead, lol. It's nice when guys can be grown-ups and take care of themselves. I don't think they know when they're being total babies.
Definitely don't bang a dude in a relationship…that has the opportunity to get REAL bad. Unless it's an "open" relationship…you'd have to really make sure it's actually open though, it's not like that many guys are above lying about that shit to get some new pussy. You don't need all that nonsense. You probably know this already, though.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883596 - 11/24/14 01:15 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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You should say: "My pussy is hungry."
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: CherryBom]
#20883641 - 11/24/14 01:27 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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CherryBom said: "Hi, I'm super wound up. I just got out of a sexless long-term relationship. I need someone fun to bang frequently and on call. I can't even look at men without wondering what their O face looks like. Would you like to get naked??"
you're overthinking it. either text, call, or invite him over - and simply say "lets' fuck". i promise it will work.
i have a girl that's interested in me, and she beats around the bush with word games and other childish things, trying to get me to take initiative. nothing is more of a turn-off to me. if you want me, say you want me and go for it. welcome to the man's side of things.
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: memes]
#20883652 - 11/24/14 01:30 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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memes said: i have a girl that's interested in me, and she beats around the bush with word games and other childish things, trying to get me to take initiative. nothing is more of a turn-off to me. if you want me, say you want me and go for it. welcome to the man's side of things.
Some girls are too beta to do that.
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egalitarianism is not a one-track movement. what i posted above obviously only pertains to me. i was just throwing it out there for Bom so she knows how simple it really can be (and not many men will shirk away from such a come-on)
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: memes]
#20883695 - 11/24/14 01:40 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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Are you sure about that memes? Have you had a girl flat out offer you sex like that? I have and it turned me off in a way I could not have fathomed. I didn't like it at all. That doesn't mean that all men won't like it of course
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: GoldenEye]
#20883703 - 11/24/14 01:42 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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It just depends on the guy. Most guys will think that a girl they don't know that says "let's fuck" is a total slut. Some guys like sluts, some don't. If CherryBom says what she thought about saying, which was "Hi, I'm super wound up. I just got out of a sexless long-term relationship. I need someone fun to bang frequently and on call. I can't even look at men without wondering what their O face looks like. Would you like to get naked??", then I believe that most men would not consider that to be something that a slut would say.
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I'm not sure if it's the slut thing. Although my first reaction to the girl in question was: "How often do you do this?" I think it could also be the complete lack of excitement. Attraction is something that has to do with tension that needs to be built up. "Hey, let's get out of here, I want you" just doesn't build up anything
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Re: I'm bursting with sexual energy [Re: GoldenEye]
#20883731 - 11/24/14 01:47 PM (9 years, 2 months ago) |
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You bring up a good point.
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