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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny] 1
#19194413 - 11/26/13 09:53 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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pika* said: I feel like this forum is full of too much of the dark side of relationships. I guess maybe once we find a good one, we're too busy with the light & love to post about it on the shroomery - or maybe we feel like we would be bragging if we did?
I don't know, anyway, just wanted to open the floor for discussing your happy long term relationships! maybe it will give the rest of you hope, and inspiration to NEVER SETTLE!
I've been with my guy for a little over a year. We met online & started out as long distance (about 5-6 months) and then moved in together last february. He. is. amazing. I never knew I could share so much with a partner, and connect on so many levels. We teach each other, challenge each other, read books together, love music together and laugh together SO much. Co-created love magic.

tell me about your good love & how it works!
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I was friends with my current girlfriend for over one and a half to two years before we started dating. Now she's both my best friend, and the best sexual partner/girlfriend/soulmate I could have.
All things are impermanent, but I'm enjoying this for as long as it lasts.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: deCypher] 1
#19253007 - 12/09/13 10:28 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've officially been with my girl for 17 months (we were involved for eight months before that) and couldn't be happier 
She's working on a degree in nursing, I'm working on degree in Psychology, then I'll go through med school, then get my PhD in Psychiatry medicine. She wishes to be a nurse in a hospital, and I wish to conduct research at my state university.
She goes to school an hour and a half from where I live and stays in the dorms, yet we still manage to see each other nearly every weekend, and talk on the phone/skype all the time.
We have conflicting views spiritually (I have a spiritual side but it's based nearly entirely in science, she's Christian who abides by the New Testament, not the old), we have conflicting views politically (I'm an anarchist, she's a communist though we are both avid human rights supporters), have slightly different timelines for our desires involving marriage and children, yet with all these differences we still love each other enormously and actually enjoy them. Our arguments aren't typically arguments, rather intellectual debates and they don't get hateful either. She's also pansexual. I don't identify with any sexuality or gender much, though we do remain monogamous.
My woman is the most beautiful person I've ever been in contact with, and she makes me feel like the luckiest person in the world. I definitely want to be with her for the rest of my life, though I'd be alright opening our relationship sexually once we're living together.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny] 1
#20463025 - 08/23/14 01:51 AM (9 years, 6 months ago) |
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Just thought I would bring this thread back...always good to hear some uplifting relationship news amidst all the confusion, frustration & drama.

I'm still with my same partner, my sexy, brilliant, amazing man. we just got through setting up the office in our new house. we finally unpacked all our books and organized them onto three shelves. they look so sexy, hehe, we're such nerds for book porn. we've had some ups and downs around our recent move, but all in all we make a perfect team and are still co-creating magic moment to moment.
how bout y'all?
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny] 5
#20464100 - 08/23/14 11:05 AM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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Thanks for resurrecting this thread; it is a good one. I think everyone pretty much knows about my relationship, but I wanted to contribute anyway. So, for those of you who don't already know:
My fiance and I have known from the moment we met (5 years ago) that we wanted to be together. Of course, initially it was a physical attraction, but it quickly developed into a real connection that has lasted and deepened over the years. We're not perfect, and our relationship isn't "perfect" either, but we are perfect for each other. Yes, we disagree sometimes. We get angry sometimes. We're human. But we truly love and respect each other, and that's what makes our relationship work. The majority of our time is spent enjoying each other's company, no matter what we're doing. When we disagree, we talk it out. If we can't come to a common ground on something, we agree to disagree with the understanding that both our opinions are valid & deserving of respect.
We're currently expecting and couldn't be happier. The "party phase" of our relationship is over, but we don't miss it. We're happy to have the wonderful memories, and we're looking forward to the adventures ahead.
To the single folks reading this thread: -Real love exists, and it's totally attainable. -Don't attach yourself to preconceived notions of what a happy relationship looks like; each one is unique. -Be honest with yourself and others about who you truly are, and above all, love and respect yourself. -You've got to be happy with yourself before you can really be happy with someone else. THIS DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE PERFECT, whatever your definition of that is. It simply means that you have to accept yourself and be comfortable with your own company.
It's nice to see so many happy couples on the Shroomery. I'm definitely in an optimistic mood now.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: sun_spots] 1
#20464180 - 08/23/14 11:26 AM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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That was well said
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: zappaisgod] 1
#20464272 - 08/23/14 11:53 AM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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Thank you
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: sun_spots] 1
#20469192 - 08/24/14 10:10 AM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yes, very well said sun_spots!!!
When I said perfect, that's how I meant it too. We're definitely not perfect and our relationship isn't perfect, but that's just perfectly "us", if that makes any sense.....
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny] 1
#20469632 - 08/24/14 11:46 AM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: LuuuCid] 1
#20469710 - 08/24/14 12:05 PM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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anyone else feel the same with their partner?
that you look into each others eyes and see deep down, the soul of the other?
Yes. I have this strange thing happen sometimes...I'm looking at him and feel overwhelmed with love and then he kind of glows. It's hard to explain and never happened before him.
We celebrate 3 years together tomorrow. He is my best friend, my confidant, my lover. He is the comfort in my world.
that's exactly it!!! its so spiritual (i guess that would be the right word) just overwhelms you like nothing else. time some how freezes. i melt. every time.
we celebrate almost 2 years. i feel like i would be lost with out him. hes my rock, my comfort, everything. its well sublime
isnt it great to share something like this with someone? we are lucky compared to most id say. im so greatful for it.
Personally, i can look into the soul of anyone who arent completely deffensive or detached from reality.. hard to find others who can aswell though.. how did you learn, before or after, with only that person or several?
That spiritual connection with a personal form for love, with such closeness.. it is what Ive allways been looking for.. how long did it take before you were able to do this? Or was it instantanious?
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: Icyus] 1
#20473405 - 08/25/14 05:11 AM (9 years, 5 months ago) |
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Icyus said:
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LuuuCid said:
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SillyMe said:
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LuuuCid said:
anyone else feel the same with their partner?
that you look into each others eyes and see deep down, the soul of the other?
Yes. I have this strange thing happen sometimes...I'm looking at him and feel overwhelmed with love and then he kind of glows. It's hard to explain and never happened before him.
We celebrate 3 years together tomorrow. He is my best friend, my confidant, my lover. He is the comfort in my world.
that's exactly it!!! its so spiritual (i guess that would be the right word) just overwhelms you like nothing else. time some how freezes. i melt. every time.
we celebrate almost 2 years. i feel like i would be lost with out him. hes my rock, my comfort, everything. its well sublime
isnt it great to share something like this with someone? we are lucky compared to most id say. im so greatful for it.
Personally, i can look into the soul of anyone who arent completely deffensive or detached from reality.. hard to find others who can aswell though.. how did you learn, before or after, with only that person or several?
That spiritual connection with a personal form for love, with such closeness.. it is what Ive allways been looking for.. how long did it take before you were able to do this? Or was it instantanious?
I never learned, it just happened - and pretty quickly into the relationship. I don't believe in love at first sight but he certainly made me question the possibility. It was the strangest thing, the way he glowed - a soft golden light around him and during those moments he just somehow looked different. The way I felt connected to him in an unearthly manner. Maybe it had something to do with him being the only person who I ever let in - who I really opened myself up to - as my heart is pretty reserved.
Sadly, we are no longer together. It's been months and I long for the day that the tears stop flowing.
I did experience one other strange occurrence a long time ago. A guy I worked with who I didn't know well at all - he kept to himself. He was a very spiritual person - his life seemed to only consisted of work and his religion. I think he was a buddhist - not sure - he was vegan and often took vows of silence. But one day I looked up from my computer as he was walking across the room and there was a blue light surrounding him.
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