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Tasty_Smurf_House
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I just found out...
#2027332 - 10/20/03 11:23 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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my girlfriend got raped and beaten when she was like fucking 12 and it hurts me so fucking much and I don't know what to do or how to deal with it. I had an ex-girlfriend who had also been raped and it bugged me through our whole entire 7 month relationship. Now the girl i'm with now I love completely and would do anything for her but now all I can think about is her getting beaten and molested and raped when she was 12. That's so fucked up. I fucking hate people who rape people. Seriously, if you've raped someone, i'm going to hunt you down and kill you because it's what you deserve. But anyways back to reality, how do I cope with this so it doesn't become a burden on my mind and our relationship because now I don't even really want to have sex with her that much any more because just thinking about it makes me feel bad because of what happened to her and I just don't know what to do.
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pattern
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Be there for her, hold her, give her a hug.
Sometimes she will feel depressed when the memory comes back. Maybe she will hear a song that reminds her of that time. Be there with your shoulder for her to lean on.
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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Re: I just found out... [Re: pattern]
#2027364 - 10/20/03 11:32 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah... that's what I did tonight when I found out. But fuck, I feel so helpless to it all. Shit like that pisses me off to no end.
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pattern
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There's nothing you can do tho, its in her past. I had a girlfriend who had been raped too, and she had been beaten up alot by an ex boyfriend, but I let her know I loved her no matter what her past was, and that I would never hurt her or let that happen to her.
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alakona
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-------------------- making you want to be a better person since 2008. TrippinTeddy said: sometimes when I'm raping a bitch, I like to tickle her ribs and under neath her arms, and I say "loosen up bitch, lets have fun now because if I have to kill your squirming ass, only one of us will be having fun, and you can't have a party all by yourself can you?" Then its usually all laughs and good times from there.
Edited by alakona (10/21/03 12:16 AM)
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bigfatdork
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Re: I just found out... [Re: alakona]
#2027838 - 10/21/03 03:27 AM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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find out who he was and kill him... I know it's not right, but it's the only thing I can think of when I think about rape
-------------------- "But it was alright, he had won the battle against himself, He Loved Big Brother"
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Anonymous #1
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I've been in your shoes all you can really do is forget about it if it's not bothering her then drop it you don't want to stir up bad memories for her.
life sucks shit happens just gotta keep on L.I.V.I.N.
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sykobish
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These days, I dont think there is one girl out there that hasn't either been raped, or molested, or both.. I've had both happen to me. It's horrible for both the person who it happened to, and the people who love them.
All i can suggest is to be there for her. Don't be afraid to have sex with her, cuz if she is comfortable having sex with you and you refuse then she may feel like she's dirty. Just by showing her that you love her, and would never hurt her intentionally will help her deal with her past. But that's what it is.. it's the past, and theres nothing either of you can do to change that. But what you can do is be there for her, to support her, and be someone she can confide in about anything with no fear.
-------------------- I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it. One. -={Nite-Crew}=- *-_Thread_Jacker_-* To love is to admire with the heart; to admire is to love with the mind. - Th?ophile Gautier. Seek not every quality in one individual - Confucius. Global Living Space
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MilkVein
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Re: I just found out... [Re: sykobish]
#2029426 - 10/21/03 04:30 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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god will strike down the wicked....
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tak
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Re: I just found out... [Re: MilkVein]
#2029444 - 10/21/03 04:34 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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I know a few girls who have mentioned being raped to me, 2 were girlfriends. Neither told thier best friends, or family, or cops. They were too embarrased. These are only 2 girls who have told me too, im sure not everyone would like me to know that kind of shit.
I dont know this for fact, but im pretty sure this is a common thing, and girls are pretty scared to tell...anyone.
Its some fucked up shit, and pisses me off.
Whats happend has happend, but focus on making sure it doesnt happen again, to you, her, or anyone. Knowing what goes on in the world is the first step in stopping it.
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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Re: I just found out... [Re: tak]
#2029846 - 10/21/03 06:26 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Thanks everyone. I feel lot's better now.
alakona and skyobish, i'm sorry to hear that's happened to you.
But yeah, thanks everyone for everything!
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enotake2
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Stats are one in four are sexually assaulted before the age of 16 and there are plenty of years after that for assault if it didn't happen to you young. So I wouldn't be surprised if it has happened to even the majority of women. I reckon just let her know you believe her and, like th others said, support her.
-------------------- Computer games don't affect kids. I mean if Pacman affected our generation as kids, we'd all be running around in a darkened room, munching pills and listening to repetitive electronic music. "Being bitter and hateful is like drinking a vial of poison and hoping the other person gets sick" FreakQLibrium "My motto from here on out is: If someone or something (including me) in my life is conducting themselves in such a way that they can be seen on Jerry Springer, it's time to take out the garbage!!! When you stop taking their behaviour personally and see their antics as a true reflection on their character, it becomes absolutely nauseating." Anon. on abusive relationships.
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