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Osker246
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my world is falling down....
#1987813 - 10/07/03 06:37 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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My mother had been diagnosed with breast cancer not to long ago and the news was heartbreaking. But now a couple weeks after the operation after we had thought it has been all removed we had just found today that the cancer has spread to the inside of both of her lungs. I'm am just so confused right now....im full of pain that wont go away I don't even know what to do. At this point right now tears are just flowing non stop I just want it to all end right now but it wont...
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dickdeadly
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#1987823 - 10/07/03 06:40 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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i know this is NOTHING compared, but when my gf of three years told me she'd never take me back, i cried like a baby. it's the worst feeling in the world to have someone being ripped from you. crying helps, emotionally and chemically. i'm very sorry. you probably shouldn't be here, because people may say mean things and i don't know if you can handle that right now.
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#1987832 - 10/07/03 06:44 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm sorry, man.
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FreakQlibrium
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: dickdeadly]
#1987833 - 10/07/03 06:44 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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^^^^ What he said, perhaps you should be posting this in the support forum....sorry about your and your mon's situation man.....
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dickdeadly
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: FreakQlibrium]
#1987838 - 10/07/03 06:45 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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in my opinion, when life gets so terrible you can't handle it, the best things to turn to are religion and family.
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#1987856 - 10/07/03 06:51 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Osker246
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: dickdeadly]
#1987862 - 10/07/03 06:52 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea after finding about the breast cancer I became more closer to my family than ever. Now that I think about it I just don't know if that was the smartest move since I have now become more emotionally attached to all my family.
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dickdeadly
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#1987869 - 10/07/03 06:54 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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if you're not attached to them right now, who are you going to be attached to, and who will help you the most, and who will understand your pain more than anyone? think how your father feels. you did not choose your mother. he CHOSE this woman because he LOVES her. more than anyone else in the world. take care of each other. take care. i wish you the best.
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: dickdeadly]
#1987873 - 10/07/03 06:55 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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i saw osker live a couple of years ago. there were a total of 9 people in the audience and they didn't even play a full set. fuckers.
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: ]
#1987877 - 10/07/03 06:56 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Turning to god isn't so bad, faith can do more than you think.
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Osker246
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: dickdeadly]
#1987881 - 10/07/03 06:57 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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I should have posted this in the support forum. If a mod who ever reads this first could you please move it to there. I would greatly appreciate it. To those wishing me the best I just want to say thanks. I just dont really know who to turn to right now.
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The_Red_Crayon
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: dickdeadly]
#1988087 - 10/07/03 08:03 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Im very sorry for you and your family. I wish the best for you and your mother.
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#1988912 - 10/08/03 12:18 AM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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sorry to hear things are going poorly FOR NOW. Regardless of what happens don't think things are falling down or they will start to.. your world is just barely getting built, man - You will be able to relax again
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Edited by Strumpling (10/08/03 12:23 AM)
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#1991155 - 10/08/03 07:29 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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The prognosis for metastatic cancer, particularly in the lungs, is poor, but you know this. If you want to PM me (as a therapist) on this, feel free. I helped my own Mother die when it was her time, and there are things a son or daughter can do to help a parent make this transition easier when the time comes. I am a crisis intervention specialist also, and I've had considerable training in death and dying, not to mention practicing for my own passing for many years. Peace.
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Osker246
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thanks markos it feels good to know I can talk to somebody. I have dosed earlier on some mushrooms hoping to seek answers and thoughts I have had about this. Even though this is hard to believe, I have now learned to accept all of whats going on in my life which is making this easier for me. I want to thank you guys for the support on this.
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#1993251 - 10/09/03 12:30 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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My dad got cancer a few years ago. The tumours were in his neck either lyphoma or hodgekins.
He had surgery and they were removed. unfortunately they found more that were inoperable. He ended up getting radiation therapy and that took care of it... hopefully.
i didn't cry until the last of his treatments. I really wish I had done it earlier. I kind of denied that there was anything wrong while he went through it. Now I realize i should have talked about how i felt with him, parents know you love them but they especially need to hear it.
now to my point:
Never lose hope, love and support can do wonders for illnesses. Be there for her no matter what. Let her know why you love her and why you need her. This is hard for you but she is the one with cancer. She needs you just as much as you need her, now more than ever.
Don't be afraid, get your feelings out in the open. It will do you and her much better. I promise.
You may even learn something about yourself in the process.
Good luck, PM me if you want.
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: no-tone]
#1995699 - 10/09/03 11:33 PM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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im sorry to hear that your mother has cancer..my aunt had cancer..and we are very very very close..so i know kinda how you feel...and i know it hurts...what i did...was help others...taking out all my pain and sadness..and chanelling them into something positive..you hurt so much inside..maybe making someone else feel good for a second * no matter how small it is* might make you heal a little bit more faster..best of luck for you..and make your mother pull threw if safe... *best wishes* *marie*
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: no-tone]
#2001968 - 10/12/03 05:52 AM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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Look at Bob Dylan for fuck's sake. Who would have thought in the sixties he'd have turned into an evangelical christian?
While I have zero faith now and cannot contemplate ever being in the slightest bit religious, you don't know what the future holds. People need ways of dealing with things, and religion for some people is a very powerful thing. If that's the path a person takes, who am I to say God doesn't exist?
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Re: my world is falling down.... [Re: Osker246]
#2002054 - 10/12/03 07:28 AM (20 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear that man!
I wish you and your family the best.
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