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Anonymous #1
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My Sister Is Out Of Her Mind
#19596256 - 02/20/14 06:32 PM (10 years, 3 days ago) |
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So I have this sister who is very abusive and is going through a lot right now. A year ago she was raped and has not received any help for it and now more lately there has been a noticeable change in her behavior, she is becoming more aggressive and is making threats through body language like she's going to stab me. She tried to get me arrested because I called the police since she was swinging a hammer at me, she is refusing to get any help for what happened to her and it is only getting worse. I try to study and she harrases me and I don't know how to handle because she is out of her fucking mind and if I try to call the police she'll try to make something up that to get me arrested. She has been through really serious abusive relationships and put's on a front to be nice to people but hides her angry behavior. How do you deal with someone like that everyday?
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Anonymous #2
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sounds like my soon to be ex wife, idk what to say, I've been separated from her for a year.
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Anonymous #3
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Move out or force them to. You can't force help on someone but it's not your responsibility to just put up with their behavior. Just because they were abused doesn't give them the right to do it to others. They are still accountable for their own actions. Anyone who does or would condemn you for not tolerating her behavior is only speaking on the politically correct bullshit they've been fed and have never actually had to put up with someone like that.
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Anonymous #1
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Yeah but we fight a lot I say one thing to her and she goes rampage and suddenly uses that as an excuse to act out in very irrational ways, she tries to hurt me every second she gets. I don't pay the rent so it isn't my call and I don't have a job so those two options are pretty much out the door, I'm in school fulltime right now and am taking very challenging courses at the moment, she doesn't work, doesn't do anything at all and is completely okay with that. But when I say one thing to her she suddenly wants to try to hurt me and than say that I am "abusing" her. I am taking very intense classes with a very large workload so finding a job for me is a bit of a stretch right now.
Edited by Anonymous (02/20/14 07:03 PM)
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Anonymous #3
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I know everyone is all "oooo don't call the cops ever" here, but I'd say that's your only option then. Short of the assholish seeming advice of "get a job and gtfo asap".
You only have so many options here..
1. Leave 2. Make her leave 3. Deal with it 4. Make her get help
2 and 4 can be synonymous. you can't help people who don't want it, but maybe getting put on a psychiatric hold will jostle some shit loose and she'll start to accept it, or maybe a night in jail will make her realize she can't keep acting this way. Eventually she's going to do it to the wrong person, I guarantee it. As she does it more and more to people she's comfortable with, she'll branch out to others. The people she's comfortable with probably just so happen to be the ones who don't immediately want her in jail, the others she branches to probably will.
1 is self explanatory. Do whatever you have to accomplish it. Find a job, find a friend to stay with, whatever.
3 You shouldn't have to do. You shouldn't have to put up with her behavior anymore than she should have had to deal with sexual acts being forced upon her.
2 and 4 can be accomplished separately as well. 2, well does she pay rent? If she doesn't, there's no reason you should have to leave over her. Talk to whoever does pay rent and go from there. 4 sit down and tell her what I've said here. That her being raped doesn't give her the right to be abusive to everyone else. If she's got anger or trust problems that make her freak out and do these things, she needs to seek help, period. She can't go on chasing people with hammers and shit every time she gets mad. My guess is she is just using it as excuse though. She sounds a lot like my mom to be honest. I know I haven't heard much but reading all you've said the very first thing that came to my mind is "holy shit that's my mother right there". My mother is emotionally and physically abusive but she uses everything as an excuse to be that way. Just goes on being how she is and refuses help, and anytime she's "cornered" about her behavior, she has a hundred different excuses for her behavior she feels absolves her from all responsibility.
As far as I can see, these are your options, if there is things I'm missing, there's not many.
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Anonymous #4
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Just tell you sister that you love her unconditionally.
Anytime she insults you, or tries to pick a spoil, just tell her in kind words ...that all you have is love, no judgements or insults....just love.
Better write a will, just in case she beats in your head with a hammer and kills you.
But all is good....you don't really die, just change gears
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Anonymous #5
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dont you have a fancy smart phone to capture that shit.
my mom was acting crazy but i couldnt prove it til I got a phone with recorded /camera.
now shes nice and medicated. thank you technology..
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Anonymous #6
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maybe she needs some mushrooms
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Anonymous #7
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Quote:
Anonymous #5 said: dont you have a fancy smart phone to capture that shit.
my mom was acting crazy but i couldnt prove it til I got a phone with recorded /camera.
now shes nice and medicated. thank you technology..
lol wtf
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Anonymous #8
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Help her get help. She needs her family to pay for a therapist. You need to be a man and help your sister. She went through a very bad situation and needs professional help. Please help her get help!
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Anonymous #9
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Quote:
Anonymous #8 said: Help her get help. She needs her family to pay for a therapist. You need to be a man and help your sister. She went through a very bad situation and needs professional help. Please help her get help!
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