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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Dense Cake]
#19425115 - 01/15/14 09:48 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thanks...you didn't offend me at all lol
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Dense Cake]
#19425124 - 01/15/14 09:50 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Fantastic post. Basically what I said but expanded upon.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19425180 - 01/15/14 10:02 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ok, cool. Glad I didn't. Just hope that you can take something from that post. I don't want all those great guys out there to be missing out on what seems like a fantastic person, and what sounds like awesome sex. Everyone just needs a little reassurance sometimes that says "heyyyyyyy, it's all right, baby. We allllll good."
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Dense Cake]
#19426091 - 01/16/14 02:55 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Seriously? Screw the graces , they bring only missery.
I would appreciate people being straight forward. You just need to steer away from insecure boys.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Icyus]
#19426487 - 01/16/14 06:52 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Icyus said: Seriously? Screw the graces , they bring only missery.
I would appreciate people being straight forward. You just need to steer away from insecure boys.
OP has been straight forward with plenty of guys and it isn't working. She was clear about that. My post was about an alternative solution to her problem.
My post wasn't about OP being more indirect with her intentions, it was about her finding a new way to introduce men to her ideas about sex slowly and with care. Because face it, man... these sexual attitudes of women being the dominator are not the most common mindset in the United States. Guys have a hard time getting used to that at first if it has never happened to them before, and It's not necessarily because they are insecure, but it might be because they are inexperienced and don't know how to deal with the idea at first.
Being brutal and straight forward with men or acting disappointed in their sexual competence is not the answer if OP is looking to attract men. Maybe it is for some, but for the large majority who have never been pegged, and as most people have indicated in this thread, it would take some getting used to at first and a little encouragement.
Also it's spelled misery*.
Just because somebody is opposed to something at first doesn't mean they are insecure. They just might not know what they're missing. But with luck OP can turn that sort of mentality upside down for these men.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Dense Cake]
#19426534 - 01/16/14 07:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Someone who would reject an other because they are too kinky clearly are either judgemental or insecure in their sexuality. It is noting wrong with not willing to join in on something, but to reject someone becuase of it, without even trying? This seems to have hit you personally.. i will leave it at that..
yes... it is quite uncommon for the majority.. would someone really even wish to communicate with the majority of people on earth, more so in the us? I citizise your definition of men that cannot handle such.. that are repulsed by honesty. That is behqvior or children.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Icyus] 1
#19426590 - 01/16/14 07:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Icyus said: Someone who would reject an other because they are too kinky clearly are either judgemental or insecure in their sexuality.
This isn't true for obvious reasons.
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Icyus said:It is noting wrong with not willing to join in on something, but to reject someone becuase of it, without even trying? This seems to have hit you personally.. i will leave it at that..
Sorry that's the way the world works. People are quick to judge. If OP can be more seductive and thorough with her presentation, then her sexual results will improve. No, this hasn't hit me personally.
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Icyus said:yes... it is quite uncommon for the majority.. would someone really even wish to communicate with the majority of people on earth, more so in the us?
Simple statistics say that OP is going to be dealing more with the majority than the minority. It's not that she wishes to communicate with everyone, but the fact is she is going to continue to run into people that aren't ready for kinky sex, and will have to work to get some results out of them if she finds anything attractive about them.
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Icyus said:I citizise your definition of men that cannot handle such.. that are repulsed by honesty. That is behqvior or children.
Just because a guy doesn't know what to do or say when a girl expresses a desire to fuck them from behind? Seriously, that's a big deal for a lot of guys. I personally might try it, but a lot of guys would be completely opposed. It's not because they're insecure. They're just not used to that idea.
Do you even know what the definition of insecurity is? Maybe I should be using different words, because the way I see it there are a lot of really healthy men out there who love sex and are confident in sex and know how to handle themselves, but not all of them are going to be ready to get ass fucked. To me that doesn't make them insecure, because they're already secure in what they know to be good and healthy sex. But when somebody comes along with a dildo they get a little weirded out because it's not what they're used to, and that's fine. Why should we knock them because they aren't used to that and are afraid to try? Shit, I'd be skeptical. I think anybody would who has never tried it.
It's not the behavior of a child, it's the behavior of a healthy person who isn't sure they want to get involved in something they aren't familiar with. Back the fuck up and let people experiment in a positive environment with easy-to-understand concepts and you will see positive results. Criticize them for their 'insecurity' as you call it, and they will run like scared babies.
It's the simple facts of fucking life. I'm done trying to argue this with you.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Dense Cake]
#19426615 - 01/16/14 07:43 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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There's a reason you have 5 shrooms and he just recently opted out of ratings. Another great post. While his uses ad hominem attacks and blanket judgemental statements, yours present logical points and helpful suggestions.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19426921 - 01/16/14 09:25 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: no... I said I don't find vanilla sex enjoyable, also you're probably more kinky than me if you fuck random strangers from bars lol
I never have, actually, but I'm not opposed to doing so .
This would be considered kinky??
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Shpongle1]
#19426994 - 01/16/14 09:37 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: no... I said I don't find vanilla sex enjoyable, also you're probably more kinky than me if you fuck random strangers from bars lol
I never have, actually, but I'm not opposed to doing so .
This would be considered kinky??
Not even a little bit in my mind.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Shpongle1]
#19427005 - 01/16/14 09:38 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: no... I said I don't find vanilla sex enjoyable, also you're probably more kinky than me if you fuck random strangers from bars lol
I never have, actually, but I'm not opposed to doing so .
This would be considered kinky??
I'm in college, and if this is kinky.... then I'm one kinky dude (I already was one anyways)
Although, I'm not sure if the same rules apply in "the real world"
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: AlwaysChildish]
#19427141 - 01/16/14 10:00 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I was just saying I don't fuck strangers from bars....which seems to be what a lot of people are thinking. That would be very taboo to me the same way my fetishes seem taboo to everyone...
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: AlwaysChildish]
#19430652 - 01/16/14 09:52 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said:That would be very taboo to me the same way my fetishes seem taboo to everyone...
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AlwaysChildish said:I'm in college, and if this is kinky.... then I'm one kinky dude (I already was one anyways)
You all are right. Humans are humans. We all function differently and various things are gonna make our gears turn. We will inevitably spend a lot of time online trying to figure out different ways that our social lives could pass, but in the end it's all just going to hit the pavement with a smack.
Everybody has their own way of enjoying a relationship. It's quite lovely, and I love reading and learning about the diversity. I think it's cool how we all talk and get to know each other up to a point of our values and make unconscious decisions on whether we are right for each other. Even over the internet it is quite blatant how we clique and form our attractions.
I'm feeling the love. Keep up the interesting conversation.
Here's one question that can get people to continue talking about this healthily: Is it possible that any of you men opposed to being dominated could succumb to OP's interests? And OP, is it possible that you could be seduced by a really handsome guy you met out at a bar on the first night of knowing him? I mean, in the most interesting dimension of a parallel universe, could it happen?
I'll come back once more has been said.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Dense Cake]
#19431028 - 01/16/14 11:09 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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could definitely happen.
then again, i'm not a man nor am i opposed to being dominated (or dominating for that matter).
you are correct in that being open to suggestions such as what the OP is in to is something that comes with sexual trust and has nothing to do with insecurity. and let's face it, some people will just never be open to such suggestions, period--their loss. being relatively deviant myself, i can say that i would never expect someone to be down for what i'm in to the first few (or more) times of being intimate, regardless of whether it's a purely sexual relationship or something more. then again, i'm in to some strange stuff that may or may not be healthy. it is what it is. personally, i'm not worried about it. granted, i haven't been intimate in any way with someone in a very long time so it's possible i have no idea what i'm talking about.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#19431306 - 01/17/14 12:04 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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seems more detrimental to deny what gets you off than to just let it be. as long as no ones getting hurt (unless they want to ) who gives a fuck anyways 
10 pages i couldnt read, but theres nothing wrong with having a dry spell OP. I dont know if ill ever have another dry spell cause im probably gonna marry the girl im with now. but if i did, i would fucking celebrate. not cause sex isnt awesome but being out of the game shit that is a lot of extra time to have to onesself.
you could learn to play the flute
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: ManianFH]
#19482991 - 01/27/14 07:14 PM (10 years, 28 days ago) |
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You let me fist pump your asshole while I piss on you Ill let you wear a stap on.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19483144 - 01/27/14 07:38 PM (10 years, 28 days ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: I like to bring girls into the mix, strap-ons, some bondage, roll playing and whatnot. I wouldn't be completely opposed to fucking the guy instead of him fucking me if you know what I mean
I know some people who would definitely be into this. Try hanging around some LARP nerds and i think you'll find what you're looking for
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: JacksonMetaller]
#19483812 - 01/27/14 09:50 PM (10 years, 28 days ago) |
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From what I've gathered the guys your talking about are more or less really good guy friends, whom you've happened to ask if they are keen for some non-committal fun? Then possibly they are thinking straight up sex and your thinking rimjobs and dildos? And if that's the case I think you need to find more open minded friends, I know myself I prefer being friends with girls and if they want to have some fun without commitment (not dating just good friends with benefits) then that's a bonus. The funny thing is girls are more open to kinky things than guys for some reason, but then again I also think woman are more sexually aware then guys.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: newageshaman]
#19485333 - 01/28/14 09:19 AM (10 years, 28 days ago) |
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The funny thing is girls are more open to kinky things than guys for some reason
That's a bold statement.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Shpongle1]
#19486745 - 01/28/14 03:27 PM (10 years, 27 days ago) |
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The funny thing is girls are more open to kinky things than guys for some reason
That's a bold statement.
in my experience its true however. I'm friends with quite a few women and one of their main complaints about their boyfriends is that they don't want to try the kinky shit that the girl is into.
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