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AlwaysChildish said: Sounds like you're a pretty stoic dude. When you say 'sympathy', what do you mean? You do not care for your wife anymore? Do you feel the same way toward your daughter?
I think I would be able to better understand the situation if I knew better what you were actually longing for again.
Also, did these feelings come up because your wife was on pain killers for awhile, or has this been a problem ever since returning to civilian life?
I do care for my wife and I still feel the same way, I do belive that you hit the nail on the head by suggesting it was due to her taking pain killers and that I have always had issues with Opium Use and users and had completely shut anything to-do with pain killers in my life.
As long as I take my Nightmare meds and My Seizure meds/AKA Phoenix Tears. Huge plus been on the Phoenix tears for 3 months and have had one seizure in that three month span, where as before I would have 5 a month.
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Murzelpfrumpft said: Well, I think it greatly depends on your chances of recovery from combat.
I'm not really surprised war fucks with your personality, it's probably necessary to become desensitized to avoid being emotionally damaged by combat scenes.
So, how long ago is this? Might your brain injuries still be recovering? Give it some time, a few years at least.
What I can tell from myself is, back when I suffered from major injuries and horrible memories from a crippling accident of mine, I did not think I could ever come back to normal life with what I had to see. It took me years to handle my emotions and memories and finally, after 5 years the pain slowly fades away.
A friend of mine had a dad who served the special forces. He did not really make it back to real life. He was cold as a stone, so he lost his family.
So, take care and don't fuck it up. Plus, be nice to yourself. Don't do shit to yourself that stresses you out to an extent you suffer permanent emotional damages from it. I hope you get paid a shitload of money for your injuries and if your wife gets sick again, get someone who deals with it. There's a very limited amount of stress humans can bear, from some point on your inner life shuts its-self down to prevent damage. Don't let it get that far ever again.
I wish you the best, take your time and recover.
Really Using all of your IM-PUT Muzzle.. Solid info.
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preschooler said: to op: I think you r realizing what u r doing so that is the first step in fixing the problem. Personally I think youll be fine as long as u realize it and are taking steps to improve. Talk to a dr about maybe going on some benzos or anti anxiety medication(for u obviously). This will release some anxiety n tension n you and therefore ruboff on her. Also it will allow u to be more patient with her.
Try to do normal things. Like go out to eat or see a movie with her if she feels upto it. Cheers sir... and im am a parent. Not one of those "oprah" people.
The wife and I have just talked about what you have posted and agree that me realizing the issues at hand is a huge step forward. I am Taking Valium but that's all I will take, very anti pharmaceuticals tho.
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Tomandjerry58
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That's ok in my book. Ive had great breakthroughs in my personal life with benzos. It just helps to calm down without using mj. Which kinda fucks me up more than I need to be.
That's good that you've talked about it.... try n continue to do so and try to do things with each other. That don't involve stress.
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shLong



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I'm curious... Why did you register here with these questions? I mean, you're more than welcome to, by all means... But I am curious why you chose this site to ask these very difficult questions... My advice would be weak, so I don't even wanna try. But, regardless, I sincerely wish you the best of luck.
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Re: Wife and I [Re: shLong]
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In no particular order...
Shroom while around her. Since she's pregnant, no need for you both to take em if she has reasons not to, you can just take em yourself, IMO they'll still help. Same for MDMA.
Medication - were you on this same medication you are now, back when you still had sympathy? I've heard mentions of people on SSRI's for instance, changing behavior in this way. Not familiar with it in detail, but might be relevant.
On another level, trying to force sympathy seems to me at least, a very bad idea. It's one of those things that happen in their own good time, if at all. I'd either try to disconnect and get some other things going, give it some more time, or simply talk openly about your feelings, as they are presently, in reality. Sympathy comes and goes. Express what you do feel, if anything, and take it from there. Here's where MDMA can really help, so I'd strongly consider it.
Finally, if the eyes don't work for expressing feelings accurately, go with the skin. A few slow long careful and caring massages should send the message more clearly.
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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