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Re: Marriage [Re: Hobozen]
#19401163 - 01/10/14 09:02 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Amen
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Repertoire89
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Can always find a mute
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'All Gone Pete Tong' is a movie about a famous DJ who becomes deaf. Loses his mind because of it. Learns how to cope and finds a mute lover who teaches him sign language. It is a beautiful story.
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Re: Marriage [Re: Hobozen]
#19401315 - 01/10/14 09:43 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would literally kill myself within days of losing my hearing, no point in living. Sepuku
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Maybe you could find peace. Who knows it could even be easier. The senses seem to get in the way much of the time.
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Re: Marriage [Re: Hobozen]
#19401387 - 01/10/14 10:03 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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im sure you can find some online if you have some $$$
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Re: Marriage [Re: quinn]
#19401408 - 01/10/14 10:09 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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you mean like ketamine from the deepweb? that sure is peaceful.
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Re: Marriage [Re: Hobozen]
#19401431 - 01/10/14 10:18 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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blankk said: Maybe you could find peace. Who knows it could even be easier. The senses seem to get in the way much of the time.
I wouldn't wait to find out, just buy a gun and off myself. Outside of music there's nothing worth staying in this hellhole for
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Man, I don't know what I'd do without music. I'd surely lose it (again).
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DividedQuantum said: In strict truth, there is only room for one will in anyone's life.
this is an absolute truth .. being is the conscious which cannot be objectively or realistically but one constant source .. free
and it is very wrong to deal with another freedom .. it is also very wrong for everything value
freedom is out of objective value and not value by itself alone it is out of realizing things matter that conscious is free
when people like each others, they can do things for each others instead of finding comfort in doing nothing all together
if you do something right to another, you tie him abstractly in a positive reality of him so he would be more free but also having to be positively conscious about you if that reality is to his rights of being really
that is how all people agree of loving or being attached to others that gave them something precious to their true being positive ways
so true love is what sponsor else freedom rights .. when marriage is the opposite fact then marriage is an institution of evil inventions meaning to kill true love, for freedom rights possessions and slavery
being married is to pretend loving by forcing the partner to do what the other want, so to never be real again nor objective for the rest of his life
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DividedQuantum said: People with strong will and independence of mind should never get married. That goes for men and women.
In marriage the woman must be, well, the woman, and the man must be obedient and docile -- to the core. If you don't fit into the traditional categories, you'll probably run into trouble. In strict truth, there is only room for one will in anyone's life, but people will get married, and if you do not conform to the proper mold, you are very likely in for misery and worse. People generally don't take these notions into account, and it is no surprise that the divorce rate is over fifty percent.
You're probably unmarried, or if you are, you married the wrong person. I married a woman who did an excellent job of hiding her mental illness until after we we married! I nevertheless continued in it for 10 years. After a four year hiatus of divorce and dating, I met a woman whom I've been with since 1996. We've lived together since 1997, and legally married on 11/11/11. We are both strong-willed and independent, and we get along famously! Never had a bad argument or intentionally hurt one another's feelings. I haven't had any indiscretions, except for kissing a 20 year old girl who had never been kissed, in 1996. I've had a few temptations and opportunities, but I've never cheated. Neither has she (I'd bet my life on it). At age 60, sex is not the big motivator that it was for the first 50 years. We're both about Awakening.
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MarkostheGnostic said:
You're probably unmarried, or if you are, you married the wrong person. I married a woman who did an excellent job of hiding her mental illness until after we we married! I nevertheless continued in it for 10 years. After a four year hiatus of divorce and dating, I met a woman whom I've been with since 1996. We've lived together since 1997, and legally married on 11/11/11. We are both strong-willed and independent, and we get along famously! Never had a bad argument or intentionally hurt one another's feelings. I haven't had any indiscretions, except for kissing a 20 year old girl who had never been kissed, in 1996. I've had a few temptations and opportunities, but I've never cheated. Neither has she (I'd bet my life on it). At age 60, sex is not the big motivator that it was for the first 50 years. We're both about Awakening.
That's awesome, and I'm happy for you. Would you be willing to admit that you're the exception? I also feel that, getting married later in life is a *much* better idea. Short of maybe forty, nine times in ten I'm not sure anyone really knows what they're doing, or who they really are.
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I'd second that^
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I don't know enough examples to venture how exceptional we are, but I will say that I had to sacrifice my pre-conceived desires in order to get into this relationship. I mean, I had to transcend my desire for another tall blonde, for a curvy Black woman. She, in turn, had to jettison her proclivity for a Black man to get with this fair-haired blue-eyed Caucasian. There was a newly discovered physical attraction outside of our programming, but the attraction had to be on other levels too, or it wouldn't have lasted this long after any physical novelty had subsided. Physical attraction (Eros) is what large numbers of people think love consists in. I have long known about Agapé, and about Philias, but only recently have I learned about Ludus, Pragma and Philautia, by name. Without names, and their clarifying descriptions, is it any wonder that multitudes of failed marriages occurs. When the intoxication of Eros has subsided, as all intoxications do after a honeymoon phase, the absence of intensity leaves most people in an ocean of confused feelings. They don't know what else to focus on besides their 2nd chakra fires. The other forms of love are stronger in the long run, and more enduring. But given the puerile impatience of the average 20-something, they will be doomed to failures because they overlook these other forms of love, and foolishly identify with Eros. With time and age, when libidinal energies diminish, these higher chakra energies will be what relationship is made out of.
http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/the-ancient-greeks-6-words-for-love-and-why-knowing-them-can-change-your-life?utm_source=FB&utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=20131227#.Ur7rEfzJtvU.facebook
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DividedQuantum
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Well said.
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DividedQuantum said: Well said.
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