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birdland

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All my best friends are in relationships
#19402266 - 01/11/14 03:55 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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And good for them. But it gets to me on nights like tonight, when they're all doing their own thing with their partner and I want to socialise but have no one to socialise with!
I figure I need a girlfriend or more single friends. Such a silly problem really but I get lonely when I see nobody except my housemates for the whole weekend, and they don't pretend to ever be more than mildly interested in me.
I'll find things to do, that's not a problem I guess. But i want peoples to validate my stupid existence
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402277 - 01/11/14 03:58 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Just curious what age range are you?
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402278 - 01/11/14 03:58 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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theres no single you know? if you wanna be noticed notice . sure ya may not waana like get all down but thats fun and all i can't say youre not in the right place. open up.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402284 - 01/11/14 04:01 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Go to some local music shows. When I go to see lesser known artists that I really like I tend to run into people with similar interests to me.
Also local music festivals with camping are another great place to meet tons of people. Look to see if there's a bar that has fire spinning or a drum circle on certain nights.
I don't know what you're into, but these are all places where I tend to meet some of the more interesting people...
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Caddilac]
#19402291 - 01/11/14 04:02 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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I've been in a similar situation lately.
So I became good friends with Jack Daniels and Jim Beam.
They're always ready to throw down.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402306 - 01/11/14 04:08 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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birdland said: And good for them. But it gets to me on nights like tonight, when they're all doing their own thing with their partner and I want to socialise but have no one to socialise with!
I figure I need a girlfriend or more single friends. Such a silly problem really but I get lonely when I see nobody except my housemates for the whole weekend, and they don't pretend to ever be more than mildly interested in me.
I'll find things to do, that's not a problem I guess. But i want peoples to validate my stupid existence 
I hear ya brother. It's always hard to be alone for an extended time. Especially when you know all of your friends are out enjoying themselves on the town...
Waiting in traffic. Sizing up other strangers who are sizing up them. Listening to their girlfriends bitch. Paying for overpriced drinks and food...
One can only dream...
Meanwhile, us poor fellows are in our dark rooms staring at computer screens. Stoned. Jerking off to 18 year old double team co-eds and deep anal divas 3. Eating cold pasta.
Oh well, there's always tomorrow to think about and all the possibilities that await us.
And if that doesn't pan out, there's always heroin.
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birdland

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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Acaterpillar]
#19402310 - 01/11/14 04:09 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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schwarg said: Just curious what age range are you?
I'm 22
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Caddilac said: theres no single you know? if you wanna be noticed notice . sure ya may not waana like get all down but thats fun and all i can't say youre not in the right place. open up.
huh?
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Acaterpillar said: Go to some local music shows. When I go to see lesser known artists that I really like I tend to run into people with similar interests to me.
Also local music festivals with camping are another great place to meet tons of people. Look to see if there's a bar that has fire spinning or a drum circle on certain nights.
I don't know what you're into, but these are all places where I tend to meet some of the more interesting people...
Yeah I'm in to all of those things. It's a confidence thing, I'm too shy to go to a bar by myself, or a gig. If there was a gig I was really keen for I'd go but there's not tonight, at least not a cheap one. Camping festivals are the shit, really! There's one next weekend I might go to and one the week after I'm definitely going to. Yeah I do need to meet some more people... I guess the problem is there's only a handful of people I'll usually call/text to hang out and they're often doing their own thing coz of relationships
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presentusthefuture said:
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birdland said: And good for them. But it gets to me on nights like tonight, when they're all doing their own thing with their partner and I want to socialise but have no one to socialise with!
I figure I need a girlfriend or more single friends. Such a silly problem really but I get lonely when I see nobody except my housemates for the whole weekend, and they don't pretend to ever be more than mildly interested in me.
I'll find things to do, that's not a problem I guess. But i want peoples to validate my stupid existence 
I hear ya brother. It's always hard to be alone for an extended time. Especially when you know all of your friends are out enjoying themselves on the town...
Waiting in traffic. Sizing up other strangers who are sizing up them. Listening to their girlfriends bitch. Paying for overpriced drinks and food...
One can only dream...
Meanwhile, us poor fellows are in our dark rooms staring at computer screens. Stoned. Jerking off to 18 year old double team co-eds and deep anal divas 3. Eating cold pasta.
Oh well, there's always tomorrow to think about and all the possibilities that await us.
And if that doesn't pan out, there's always heroin.

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birdland

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ThatKidWithTheFace said: I've been in a similar situation lately.
So I became good friends with Jack Daniels and Jim Beam.
They're always ready to throw down.
I've been drinking alone all week, and tonight is no exception.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402322 - 01/11/14 04:13 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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I'm also 22. It's not easy in the beginning, but you just have to ignore the inhibitions that are keeping you in your shell, and get out there.
Not everyone you meet will be the coolest person ever; but you'll find yourself in multiple circles of friends where there's always a variety of things happening.
If you go to local music shows often enough you'll start to recognize faces and remember names. Booze can be a great courage serum 
Also, try not smoking any herb before going out.
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And if that doesn't pan out, there's always heroin.

If it wasn't so late already I'd go down to the chemist, get some get some codeine/paracetamol and do a cwe.
But it's probably a good thing it's too late. And I've seen heroin completely take over people who were lonely or depressed when they started using. They've since just dropped off the face of the earth.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Acaterpillar]
#19402328 - 01/11/14 04:18 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Unless you are a hipster going to local shows is pointless. At least that is the state of the local scene here.
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birdland

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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Acaterpillar]
#19402331 - 01/11/14 04:19 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Acaterpillar said: I'm also 22. It's not easy in the beginning, but you just have to ignore the inhibitions that are keeping you in your shell, and get out there.
Not everyone you meet will be the coolest person ever; but you'll find yourself in multiple circles of friends where there's always a variety of things happening.
If you go to local music shows often enough you'll start to recognize faces and remember names. Booze can be a great courage serum 
Also, try not smoking any herb before going out.
Yeah I wouldn't get stoned before doing that. You're right I've just got to go. I should look in to more local gigs when I have free nights, like in advance since I always leave things too late like tonight and then I'm stuck at home again. The main thing I have trouble with when meeting new people is what to talk about. Of course practise and alcohol help that but I still feel like I'm pretty shit in that aspect.
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birdland

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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Othyem]
#19402334 - 01/11/14 04:23 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Othyem said: Unless you are a hipster going to local shows is pointless. At least that is the state of the local scene here.
Yes it's similar here except there's a lot of good hipster-free edm gigs. I've just got to suss more of them out!
I went to a gig on Monday with a free ticket because my friend's girlfriend was sick and the crowd there were just awful. The venue was packed too! 
Judgemental I know, but they were mostly rude and superficial. At least the people I had interacted with
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402343 - 01/11/14 04:32 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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birdland said: I'm 22
Are you in college?
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: schwarg]
#19402348 - 01/11/14 04:34 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Yeah but I'm on 4 months of holidays atm.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402361 - 01/11/14 04:40 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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So am I too. I'm assuming you're Australian, given your ability to buy codeine and your use of the words 'housemates', 'holidays' and 'keen'.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402362 - 01/11/14 04:41 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Dude just make new social connections with people from school. Meet people, meet their friends, meet their friend's friends. In time you'll meet the kind of people you're looking for.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: schwarg]
#19402387 - 01/11/14 04:52 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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schwarg said: Dude just make new social connections with people from school. Meet people, meet their friends, meet their friend's friends. In time you'll meet the kind of people you're looking for.
Yeah I know dude, just needed to rant.
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presentusthefuture said: So am I too. I'm assuming you're Australian, given your ability to buy codeine and your use of the words 'housemates', 'holidays' and 'keen'.
What are you, some kind of mind reader!?
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402411 - 01/11/14 05:07 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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No. Just stoned.
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birdland

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Will be joining you shortly
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19402505 - 01/11/14 05:58 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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you see this? this is the world's smallest violin --->
...oh? you don't see it?
but can you hear it?
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: greenspectral] 2
#19402510 - 01/11/14 06:02 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Dude wtf is that sound? Learn to play violin
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland] 1
#19404014 - 01/11/14 02:03 PM (10 years, 19 days ago) |
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birdland said: And good for them. But it gets to me on nights like tonight, when they're all doing their own thing with their partner and I want to socialise but have no one to socialise with!
I figure I need a girlfriend or more single friends. Such a silly problem really but I get lonely when I see nobody except my housemates for the whole weekend, and they don't pretend to ever be more than mildly interested in me.
I'll find things to do, that's not a problem I guess. But i want peoples to validate my stupid existence 
i dont see why people ditch their normal groups of friends once they've found someone who can be more considerable as a signifigicant other, the more the merrier i say, all things in moderation
i think it must get old spending 100% of ur time with one person anyways
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Sheekle]
#19404141 - 01/11/14 02:32 PM (10 years, 19 days ago) |
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Sheekle said: i dont see why people ditch their normal groups of friends once they've found someone who can be more considerable as a signifigicant other, the more the merrier i say, all things in moderation
i think it must get old spending 100% of ur time with one person anyways
totally feel Sheekle. actually, i've seen couples get into like power ego games where they have this like mutual ego feedback shit going on. almost makes them unbearable to be around, especially if you're single it can be quite obnoxious.
but oh well. 
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: greenspectral] 1
#19404223 - 01/11/14 02:52 PM (10 years, 19 days ago) |
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greenspectral said: i've seen couples get into like power ego games where they have this like mutual ego feedback shit going on.
yeah man power struggles are a pretty common part of relationships i think, like if one partner feels like after exposing their full sense of self that something is a threat to them or that they're being percieved as less than what they should be, then it's natural to try and compensate for it by gaining dominance in other ways. the other party takes the other's need for dominance as a threat themselves, sometimes without being entirely aware as to why they're doing it, which makes them feel the need to retaliate. it builds up off itself as both parties try and gain dominance, neither are willing to give up power on their end, and what was once the power of love which drove them, turns into the love of power.
i think this can be overcome with taking the time to understand each other and loving patience, but in our fast-paced society it's not too common to step back and take the time to try and analyze and fix things, and many choose to rather push each other away instead of striving towards unity
often times ironically couples will continue to stay together despite disliking each other, because of the societial pressures of "relationships" being composed of either "offically together" or "broken up", instead of life being seen as a grey area world of ebbs and flows
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: Sheekle] 1
#19404350 - 01/11/14 03:22 PM (10 years, 19 days ago) |
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Sheekle said: often times ironically couples will continue to stay together despite disliking each other, because of the societial pressures of "relationships" being composed of either "offically together" or "broken up", instead of life being seen as a grey area world of ebbs and flows
and the fallacy of dualistic thinking rears its ugly head yet again...it's such a simple fallacy to see, but it seems incredibly difficult for a lot of people to wrap their minds around. this one little understanding can change everything.
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Re: All my best friends are in relationships [Re: birdland]
#19404721 - 01/11/14 04:47 PM (10 years, 19 days ago) |
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I feel you one of my best friends is having a baby next week with his girlfriend. My other best friend is doing some kind of yoko ono john Lennon deal where they just fuck in their room all the time and she doesn't really let him go anywhere. So at the end of the night when we are one taking shots and or smoking weed, they get to go cuddle and fuck someone they love. All I get to do is drink more or go to sleep . However I'm getting my insurance on my car back soon so I am going to hit some bars,fests and things of that sort. You never know until you try
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