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what the f does this mean?
#19396977 - 01/10/14 01:18 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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so every time i see my boyfriend and i leave (2 1/2 hour distance since he moved for a better job) he always hugs me, kisses me and tells me please dont break up with me.. like this has got to be the third time he's done it since hes left.
the main reason i ask, is because my ex previous from him (dated from age 16-19, long distance 2 1/2 3 hour drive) would also do the same fucking thing. i dont understand why guys do this. why?
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they don't want you to break up with them? lol
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Anonymous #1
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but why the hell do they need to tell me this? like thats where im getting at. i dont understand why you'd have to say something like that..
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mushroom_sandwich
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maybe they were worried that the distance was putting strain on the relationship?
i'm actually curious about long distance relationships, are they pretty difficult?
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Anonymous #1
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but the thing is, it wasnt. at all. we had a good visit. and everything was just so perfect. then he had to go and say that. and oh yes. but i will admit, you get extremely deep feelings for the person. its kinda nice, because its like you get the space you need, but it sucks because you can only see that person when you have gas money and time. that part makes it hard. real hard.
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I bet it does make it difficult, but I can see it being doable if you really care about the person and want the relationship to work.
maybe try asking him why he's saying that? and I hope it all works out for you.
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Anonymous #1
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exactly, its all how you feel and if its worth it. but thank you. i dont know if i want to ask him. but its just confusing because my ex did it too.. but thank you mushroom sandwich(: btw, those are definitely the way to eat them(;
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They feel they're not worth your time any more, and are slowly turning into pussy-whipped insecure bitches, instead of the awesome men you went for when you started dating. If this continues (and it probably will) looks to me like you'll lose all respect and will eventually have to break up. 
I myself choose much more cordial greetings when seeing a girl again, like "Sup dawg, how ya been?" or "Dude! You look awesome!!!"
I found that cool girls respond great to being treated like one of the guys
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I agree! lol best of luck, but in my experience it is best to just be honest.
tell him he shouldn't be worried about you leaving, and that it's a bit of a turn off when he asks you not to leave him.
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Quote:
Anonymous said: so every time i see my boyfriend and i leave (2 1/2 hour distance since he moved for a better job) he always hugs me, kisses me and tells me please dont break up with me.. like this has got to be the third time he's done it since hes left.
the main reason i ask, is because my ex previous from him (dated from age 16-19, long distance 2 1/2 3 hour drive) would also do the same fucking thing. i dont understand why guys do this. why?
Sounds like he is pretty insecure. Ugh why do guys do this to themselves...
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Because he's not stupid, he knows long distance relationships have a timer on them. Also, he's probably a little insecure. It could be a lot of things, you guys should talk about it.
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Re: what the f does this mean? [Re: 4nik8]
#19397584 - 01/10/14 07:04 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Maybe he feels guilty for moving away fom you?
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Re: what the f does this mean? [Re: 4nik8]
#19397594 - 01/10/14 07:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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4nik8 said: Because he's not stupid, he knows long distance relationships have a timer on them. Also, he's probably a little insecure. It could be a lot of things, you guys should talk about it.
A "little" insecure? Also he is not doing the relationship any favors by acting like that.
Also long distance relationships can work, it just depends on the maturity of the two people, their goals, and how they see their future. Two people in a long distance relationship who just start college most likely won't last - people grow up a lot. As most people get older they tend to know what they want and have goals and a way to realize those goals.
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lomg distance is hard to deal with
especially if the girl is cute, you can trust a girl all you want, but if the girl is a cutie you know a bunch of guys are gonna be trying to hook up with em
personally you would have to be a REALLY special girl to me for me to ever deal with a long distance relationship
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Well, the maturity factor is not there obviously because she's posting here instead of doing the mature thing and talking about it with her boyfriend. A lot of assumptions have to be made by anyone not close to the people involved so our advise or opinions are really moot.
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Re: what the f does this mean? [Re: 4nik8]
#19397743 - 01/10/14 07:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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4nik8 said: Well, the maturity factor is not there obviously because she's posting here instead of doing the mature thing and talking about it with her boyfriend. A lot of assumptions have to be made by anyone not close to the people involved so our advise or opinions are really moot.
OP is hardly immature for asking here - it shows a level of maturity to ask for other people's opinion in the first place.
I agree they should talk about it together.
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Talking will do little to fix things. Once the wuss vibes are put clearly on the table (and seems like the dude has already done that) the apple core is already pretty rotten. Might still look good on the outside for a while, but IMO wheels are already in motion.
The fact that he acts like this is just the tip of the iceberg, and OP probably knows and feels it. A lot more is not quite kosher down there in the depths. Where the backbone, balls and solid certainty of a man should be, our hero has this:

To clarify, I'm not being an asshole here, I've done some similar shit as well, I think most guys do during their lives. Loneliness fucks with a man's mind like a motherfucker. But once you've actually put on your pink panties and your tutu and spent a few dates acting like a ballerina, I'd say the game is pretty much over.
Kiss, hug and "don't break up with me?" 
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two things....he is insecure...and op is probably very hot.
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