|
Icyus
KavitārkikasiṃHa



Registered: 11/07/13
Posts: 3,502
Loc: Inbetween.
Last seen: 8 years, 1 month
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: solstice]
#19377057 - 01/06/14 12:08 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
And when you turn eighty, you will think of how ignorant you were thinking there was any use in lecturing anyone.
Edited by Icyus (01/06/14 12:09 PM)
|
solstice
Hempowered



Registered: 02/14/09
Posts: 2,003
Loc: Silly Cunt Valley
Last seen: 9 years, 10 months
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Icyus]
#19377092 - 01/06/14 12:18 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
Icyus said: And when you turn eighty, you will think of how ignorant you were thinking there was any use in lecturing anyone.
Uh, that wasn't meant as a '' lecture ''. It might have come off that way but all I was trying to say was that experience often makes you realize that you shouldn't take things too seriously. Taking things too seriously will usually materialize those worst case scenarios you're worried about. It's the worrying that kills.
-------------------- Man woke up in a world he did not understand and that is why he tries to interpret it - Carl Jung
|
psi
TOAST N' JAM


Registered: 09/05/99
Posts: 31,465
Loc: 613
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Icyus]
#19377100 - 01/06/14 12:20 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
Icyus said: Coffe shops... i wish we had em here too...
I always figured there were coffee shops pretty much everywhere. Do you live on a boat or something?
|
abltsandwich
JFK = Jelly Donut




Registered: 06/16/09
Posts: 11,537
Loc: Dildoville
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19377588 - 01/06/14 02:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
i know you guys keep telling me to go to the coffee shop but man i feel really weird doing that. it just feels weird as fuck to suddenly visit that obscure coffee shop that's kind of hole in the wall that i never visited before so i could talk to a girl. i mean, i don't even want to necessarily date her either i just want to be her friends but her coworker (guy) was passing by and said "oh hes handsome" and she said "haha he said youre cute" so they already think im hitting on her or some shit when im not. actually i don't know wtf is going on but all i know is if i go to the coffee shop by myself without her asking me to on facebook, ill feel very weird and awkward..
Uh, dude, visiting that obscure coffee shop to see her is exactly what you want to do. It's not weird, it tells her you took the time and are interested. You are interested, right? Then visit the shop, act a little indecisive then ask her what she gets for herself when she gets coffee, pretend to think like you're considering it in your head briefly, then say it sounds really good that you trust her judgement. Or be just slightly skeptical about one thing in a way that she can try and convince you on it a little bit, but without being difficult about it know what I mean? Then have her make you what she gets for herself. Eye contact and a smile at all times.
And dude if you can't work some kind of conversation from any of that that interaction you're screwed.
Edited by abltsandwich (01/06/14 03:05 PM)
|
Icyus
KavitārkikasiṃHa



Registered: 11/07/13
Posts: 3,502
Loc: Inbetween.
Last seen: 8 years, 1 month
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: abltsandwich]
#19377598 - 01/06/14 02:56 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I meant coffe shops as they have in the nnetherlands..
|
OZA
When the going gets weird.....



Registered: 03/29/12
Posts: 3,808
Last seen: 8 years, 8 months
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Icyus]
#19377616 - 01/06/14 03:01 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Everything is about confidence. If you think you've got nothing, you've got nothing. If you don't let your dwindling social life get you down, she won't care that you don't have many friends.
-------------------- The happiness consists in realizing that it is all a great strange dream.
|
Sheekle
FREE BURKE



Registered: 01/11/10
Posts: 53,153
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19377647 - 01/06/14 03:08 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
What exactly do you mean she "broke up with her boyfriend in front of you guys"
Like, she full blown officially broke off a relationship with someone that she'd considered her significant other - right out in public in the coffee shop, and then went and randomly sat down with you guys for some casual conversation right after?
Also, I don't think I'd say "yay! " is a conversation ender, that's just like an exclamation of like expressive emotion
Whatever happens though good vibes and stuff with the new friend and stuff
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
|
TrentBoyett
Aspiring Mycologist



Registered: 11/29/12
Posts: 16,000
Loc: Kazakhstan
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19377680 - 01/06/14 03:13 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
DSHSB.
|
solstice
Hempowered



Registered: 02/14/09
Posts: 2,003
Loc: Silly Cunt Valley
Last seen: 9 years, 10 months
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: TrentBoyett]
#19377738 - 01/06/14 03:24 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
TrentBoyett said: DSHSB.
Well that goes without saying, but he's gonna have to talk her into it and herein lies the problem...
-------------------- Man woke up in a world he did not understand and that is why he tries to interpret it - Carl Jung
|
AD420



Registered: 01/22/13
Posts: 772
Loc: MEXXX
Last seen: 6 years, 10 months
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: solstice]
#19377988 - 01/06/14 04:22 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
fuck the facebook talking op, just ask her out already! then proceed to DSHSB
|
evenbreak
Stranger
Registered: 01/16/11
Posts: 583
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: AD420]
#19378750 - 01/06/14 06:57 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
update: she responded to me asking "how's the shop" with "the shop is boring as usual. how's the xx" (xx is my job i told her about)
what do i say?
I'm serious. I am completely fucking godawful at conversation. I literally don't know what to say right now. In real life if this exchange went down, I would just say "its good..." and the conversation totally dies.
You guys don't understand how incompetent i am at social things.
And yes apparently her boyfriend was sitting in the corner by himself and she decided to sit with me and my friend and we started chatting, then when her bf went outside she said brb, went out, came back in, and said she just broke up with her bf.
The other guy at the coffee shop sat with us too and he was commenting on the whole situation and laughing his ass off.
Anyway, listen, i know i'm coming across as a big pussy right now. I know you guys told me to just go see her in person. But I absolutely can't do that without something leading up to it. I just can't. So will you guys please tell me how to steer the conversation so i can naturally and fluidly lead it into that direction? What is my next response to her question about how my job is that will have a good followup to the next subject? Or perhaps I should talk about my job for a while to build rapport first?
|
Sheekle
FREE BURKE



Registered: 01/11/10
Posts: 53,153
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19378775 - 01/06/14 07:02 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
evenbreak said: update: she responded to me asking "how's the shop" with "the shop is boring as usual. how's the xx" (xx is my job i told her about)
what do i say?
I believe something along the lines of "My job is absolutely awful and I'm personally offended that you would ask me such an outrageous question" would be an appropriate thing to say in this situation
Kidding aside, I'd probably tell her how your job's going. Maybe include any unusually exciting or interesting things that may have happened recently at it, and perhaps also bring up another topic into the conversation
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
|
evenbreak
Stranger
Registered: 01/16/11
Posts: 583
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Sheekle]
#19378789 - 01/06/14 07:05 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
ok, i told her my job sucked the other day because of something happening and i'd rather work at her place and ended that sentence with an lol to make sure she knows im joking
|
unam sanctum



Registered: 04/20/11
Posts: 6,702
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19378853 - 01/06/14 07:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
you're taking this all far too seriously. I didn't read the entire thread but in the first half of page one you already admitted you view yourself as a loser. if you've committed to that belief how do you expect to convince anyone else otherwise?
|
showme
Stranger


Registered: 01/23/09
Posts: 1,782
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: unam sanctum]
#19379333 - 01/06/14 08:38 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
don't really know what to add to the comments already, fascinating btw, but as a girl I feel that you are taking it too seriously and care a little too much and maybe you just need to let it go and consider that in the grand scheme of things you have a lot more to offer the world even if this doesn't work out. desperation usually will kill fun. people want to get to know people who are passionate and after something, this might be why you feel drawn to her, so be the same. pick something worthy of pursuing, know why you want it, and be reckless in going after it... if you don't get it, look at it from the standpoint of hey, at least you gave it your all and THAT'S what makes you count for something.
-------------------- Imagination is the organ of meaning.
|
evenbreak
Stranger
Registered: 01/16/11
Posts: 583
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: showme]
#19386122 - 01/08/14 12:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
ok... even if she seems interested in talking to me on facebook, how do I know she's not just one of those people who really enjoy facebook conversations because she's bored but has no interest in hanging out with me?
|
AD420



Registered: 01/22/13
Posts: 772
Loc: MEXXX
Last seen: 6 years, 10 months
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: unam sanctum]
#19386163 - 01/08/14 12:59 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
unam sanctum said: you're taking this all far too seriously. I didn't read the entire thread but in the first half of page one you already admitted you view yourself as a loser. if you've committed to that belief how do you expect to convince anyone else otherwise?

You are thinking too much op, just go with the flow and stop asking yourself those ''what if''?? stupid questions
Ask her out man, ask her what she's doing on her weekend if she already has plans just tell her that you were planning to ask her out man its not that hard
Worst thing can happen is that you won't fuck that pussy but who cares? at least you tried
Stop acting like a fucking loser and bang that gurl
|
showme
Stranger


Registered: 01/23/09
Posts: 1,782
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19396371 - 01/09/14 10:50 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Quote:
evenbreak said: ok... even if she seems interested in talking to me on facebook, how do I know she's not just one of those people who really enjoy facebook conversations because she's bored but has no interest in hanging out with me?
1st, you DON'T know, no one knows anything for sure, but seriously the odds of that are like me going, how do I know i'm not going to get into a fatal car wreck today? that doesn't stop me from driving around for my job. you are never going to be 100% sure of anything and the only reward in life is from taking risks! don't be scared
second, WTF, i catch myself thinking about your situation when i'm in my car randomly one day and i'm MAD! because this girl is practically SCREAMING "I WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU!!! LET'S GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER!!!!!!!"
WTF OP! Stop being scared and just be a human, you want to know her, she wants to know you, maybe stop treating her like some fucking tool for making friends and more like a new possible friendship/relationship!!!!!!!!!!! WITH SOMEONE WHO ALREADY IS INTERESTED IN THE SAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
EXCLAMATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
-------------------- Imagination is the organ of meaning.
|
moonrockmushy
High on Spite



Registered: 07/01/05
Posts: 19,068
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19396519 - 01/09/14 11:28 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Judging by your posts you are like 1 million times more adventerous and social than me. I dunno if people remember but this guy has had some epic escapes he's shared with us.
|
Enjoywho
Rags to Bitches



Registered: 07/06/09
Posts: 20,880
Last seen: 2 years, 7 months
|
Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: moonrockmushy] 2
#19396730 - 01/10/14 12:09 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Every time he posts it's so painful to read.
We can't have your conversations for you.
I imagine him getting a date with her being on the shroomery.
"She asked how my steak was what do I say!!!?!?!?!?!"
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
|
|