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Life is short
#19380700 - 01/07/14 02:21 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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My friend died in a car accident Sunday morning. I didn't want to post anything but I can't sleep and I can't get this out of my head. I wasn't really close with him but my entire group of friends was. When one of us loves, we all love. When one of us hurts, we all hurt. The grief is deep... its like everything has been in slow motion. It's a trip thinking about how delicate life is. It blows my mind all over when I think about how I will never laugh with him again... It's difficult to fathom that he is gone. This kid was a badass mofo and he was killed by someone who wasn't paying attention pulling into his lane. It's so fucking simple.. it could happen to any of us, but you never think it will be one of your own. Life is short. It is easily given and easily taken away. Tell the people that you love that you love them and hold them close -- treat everybody in your life with love and respect -- you may never see them again. RIP buddy you are deeply loved and will be sorely missed.
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Had something similar happen about a week ago, Life sometimes takes people too early. Stay strong
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He's dead and no maudlin lament will change that fact. Everyone will die. This is just a reminder, and is no reason to change how you treat anyone else.
You'll have your head wrapped around it in a few days and then it will stop being such a tragedy.
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I know how you feel. In april a friend was shot and killed at a party. As you, I was not super close with him, but he knew my whole circle of friends and hundreds of other people in the area. He was the brighest light. He was called sunshine. He affected a lot of peoples life. We had a memorial at the beach and hundreds of people came out and made a huge circle. It was crazy to see how many people he affected. And they live streamed the same thing in his hometown in MI. It was hard for people o go to all the festivals and Burning Man this year without him. We still think about him all of the time.
Life is definitely short
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sVs said: He's dead and no maudlin lament will change that fact. Everyone will die. This is just a reminder, and is no reason to change how you treat anyone else.
You'll have your head wrapped around it in a few days and then it will stop being such a tragedy.
It would be a tragedy if you found a way to conceptualize the death of a loved one such that you shut down your own feelings. 
The death of a loved one was the beginning of a profound change in my experience of life. I remember crying for most of a week and much of the following month, remembering this person. Although it's been some time, I still miss this person and still cry now and then when I take the time to sit and remember them. I can't imagine it being otherwise and that's ok. Life is tragic; sadness is natural and not something I need to fix.
Before this happened, I thought I had a pretty good understanding of life and death, of impermanence; I had studied and contemplated them for years as part of my Buddhist practice. The moment I heard the news, it was clear: I had no clue!
My heart goes out to you, emptyspace. I hope that you'll be kind to yourself and will allow yourself to feel whatever arises and let it be.
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Re: Life is short [Re: hmmn]
#19380770 - 01/07/14 03:11 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Death is not tragic or something that bothers me greatly. I can miss those who are dead but I do not struggle to accept the loss. There's no repression of emotion; there is no emotion to repress. Death comes, death takes everyone. Life is marked by ephemerality and uncertainty. Getting on board with the fact early on will prevent a lot of emotional turbulence down the road.
My point being, no reason to drown yourself in the grieving process or to treat a death like a drastic, life-altering moment. Take it as it is, acknowledge your loss, and move along.
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sVs said: Death is not tragic or something that bothers me greatly. I can miss those who are dead but I do not struggle to accept the loss. There's no repression of emotion; there is no emotion to repress. Death comes, death takes everyone. Life is marked by ephemerality and uncertainty. Getting on board with the fact early on will prevent a lot of emotional turbulence down the road.
My point being, no reason to drown yourself in the grieving process or to treat a death like a drastic, life-altering moment. Take it as it is, acknowledge your loss, and move along.
Yeah no thanks. That is a shitty way to live life. I value and embrace all emotions from extreme sadness to extreme bliss. Life has its ups and downs. No one is saying to dwell on it, but mourning is normal and it heals. However if you prefer to go through life as an emotionless robot, more power to you
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Why are you threatened by something different from how you choose to live your life? On what basis can you safely declare it as shitty? I'd much prefer, and do, choose to live my life free of the constraints of emotional over-indulgence. Give it a try and see where it takes you.
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empty space said: My friend died in a car accident Sunday morning. I didn't want to post anything but I can't sleep and I can't get this out of my head. I wasn't really close with him but my entire group of friends was. When one of us loves, we all love. When one of us hurts, we all hurt. The grief is deep... its like everything has been in slow motion. It's a trip thinking about how delicate life is. It blows my mind all over when I think about how I will never laugh with him again... It's difficult to fathom that he is gone. This kid was a badass mofo and he was killed by someone who wasn't paying attention pulling into his lane. It's so fucking simple.. it could happen to any of us, but you never think it will be one of your own. Life is short. It is easily given and easily taken away. Tell the people that you love that you love them and hold them close -- treat everybody in your life with love and respect -- you may never see them again. RIP buddy you are deeply loved and will be sorely missed.
RIP one of my best friends died in a car accident too
I do believe in the afterlife though, we are souls in bodies appreciate what we have at all times, tomorrow we might not have it but there is plenty left to life for, family,friends,pets,hobbies,learning new etc.
... also dont trip after such disasters, spend some time with family/friends etc. tripping will only make the loss greater likely
peace
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sVs whileunrealistic has the right idea
death shouldn't define the way we live day to day
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empty space
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Guys, lets not fight! Personally, I prefer to embrace my emotions. Yes, I am sad, but I am alive. We will mourn and we will grow. Life must go on.
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sVs said: Why are you threatened by something different from how you choose to live your life? On what basis can you safely declare it as shitty? I'd much prefer, and do, choose to live my life free of the constraints of emotional over-indulgence. Give it a try and see where it takes you.
Why would I want to give it a try? People are instilled with emotions for a reason. Why would I want to suppress that. I am not one for suppressing my nature. And if you are implying that you have no emotions to suppress then you are most likely have some chemical imbalance in your brain that causes you to live in such emotional poverty.
Where did I say I was threatened? Also, I never implied that anyone should over-indulge in any emotion, just that we should experience each emotion to its fullest. And if you live without any emotion at all, as you so implied, that would be a terribly bland existence. The ups and downs make life interesting. If life was experienced in the same emotionless state of mind all of the time it would be pretty fucking boring, thus shitty.
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Re: Life is short [Re: Konyap]
#19380873 - 01/07/14 04:06 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Illyabo said: sVs whileunrealistic has the right idea
death shouldn't define the way we live day to day
Nowhere in this thread is anyone saying that you should let death define the way we live . . .
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I'd be glad to continue this discussion, but it is rather poor form to continue to derail this guy's thread. If you have any genuine interest in furthering this conversation, I cordially invite you to send me a message.
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Anyway, my condolences OP. I know how you feel
This is sunshine who got shot earlier this year, and at his memorial
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Sunshine from the shroomery got shot?
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Re: Life is short [Re: Konyap]
#19381048 - 01/07/14 05:53 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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IDK if he was a member here or not. That is just what people called him
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Re: Life is short [Re: Konyap]
#19381057 - 01/07/14 06:00 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Illyabo said: Sunshine from the shroomery got shot?
No.
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Re: Life is short [Re: TopPmz]
#19381073 - 01/07/14 06:10 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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You may not agree with my belief system, but death isn't the cessation of life, but instead a transformation of it. The particulars and end result of the transformation can vary radically from person to person (which is in itself kind of beautiful).
Just as you're friends physical death marks a transformation of his life, it marks the transformation of the dynamics of your relationship with him. It's not an end to the relationship unless you let it be. Things will change, but change is neither positive or negative. I'd wager to say we all have attachment to the way things are, so our egos as well as our resistance to change make us want to say, "No, fuck you. This sort of change is most definitely a turn for the worst." The fact of the matter is that death is just as much a gift as the physical life which was bestowed upon your friend. I urge you to seize this opportunity to make the most of change.
And I wish you and your loved ones, as well as his, the best in these trying times. I will keep this soul in my thoughts and prayers.
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Re: Life is short [Re: TopPmz] 1
#19381218 - 01/07/14 07:43 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Illyabo said: Sunshine from the shroomery got shot?
No.
That's what I thought. I was like, no way that dude had dreadlocks.
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