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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: lets drive around] 1
#19353125 - 12/31/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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just improvise and hope for the best lol
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Me_Roy]
#19353134 - 12/31/13 10:59 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Me_Roy said: You're not that into Facebook. That's perfect -- it shows that you like hanging out with people irl.
You'll have to go to the coffee shop alone -- that's also perfect. She'll probably gather that you're interested in her in some way or another. This is how you start a relationship.
Just bring a book in case the conversation doesn't come naturally and you have to kill some time.
That's a really good idea. But our boy here has got some mega anxiety. I might actually run with this myself. AVGN game at a coffee shop. I will attract all the ladies as I say "AAASSSSSSSSS!!!!" on my last life.
Then be like, "What? You've never played a shitty game before?!?!"
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: DebuteMachine]
#19353179 - 12/31/13 11:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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DebuteMachine said:
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Me_Roy said: You're not that into Facebook. That's perfect -- it shows that you like hanging out with people irl.
You'll have to go to the coffee shop alone -- that's also perfect. She'll probably gather that you're interested in her in some way or another. This is how you start a relationship.
Just bring a book in case the conversation doesn't come naturally and you have to kill some time.
That's a really good idea. But our boy here has got some mega anxiety. I might actually run with this myself. AVGN game at a coffee shop. I will attract all the ladies as I say "AAASSSSSSSSS!!!!" on my last life.
Then be like, "What? You've never played a shitty game before?!?!"
I wish I could be there to see her reaction lol
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: lets drive around]
#19353180 - 12/31/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lol, I would probably get stymied really bad until I let out I was just acting. That's when the DSHSB comes in.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: DebuteMachine]
#19353183 - 12/31/13 11:18 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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She likes you for you. Not for the friends that you may or may not have. If she asks about why you don't have any friends on facebook just tell her that you rarely use it. If you have gotten this far with her then you are obviously a really cool and likable guy. Have some confidence in yourself brotha! Life is too short to question how likable of a person you are. Love yourself. Love life. Love this world. If you can do those things you will have no problem accomplishing any feat you set your mind to.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19353220 - 12/31/13 11:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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evenbreak said: i almost didn't want to add her to facebook cause then she'd see my nonexistant social life... i haven't touched my facebook for years. She enjoyed chilling with me and my friend because we both came across as cool guys, but she didn't really get to know me. If she knew i was a loser with no friends she might find me much less likable as a person. So I basically need to find a way to get her to keep finding me as a likable person despite my current situation...
And I can't go back because then i'd go back by myself without my friend and it would be obvoius that I would only be going to see her and that seems desperate and something a loser would do. I can only go back if she asks me to or something.
I think i could safely call myself socially incompetent because i have no clue how to escalate this to a friendship. Wtf do I say?? We never hung out in the first place, and it seems so forward to just ask her to hang out over facebook so I need to really ease into it, but i'm not sure how. What kind of silly flirty things can I say?

You can do whatever dude but your entire post reaks of self pity.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Enjoywho]
#19353231 - 12/31/13 11:42 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enjoywho said: You can do whatever dude but your entire post reaks of self pity.
This, dude.
Being alone doesn't mean that you're a loser. It just means that the circumstances led you to live your life this way, but you really can handle it better than that. Just think that you're good at being independent or something. Don't let what society wants you to think get to your head.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: mr sniffles]
#19353278 - 12/31/13 11:58 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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your over thinking this lol
for one, life doesnt revolve around facebook. You could have never even had one in the first place and she wouldnt even known the difference. Their could be plenty of reasons of why you dont go on facebook.
Two, as the other have stated, she found you on facebook, the works done. Just message her and say.. im bored, would you like to go get some food? And most likely.. the convo will build from there. Or.. im bored, lets go bowling. Or.. I got no plans for the weekend, lets plan something! Anything.
You can't go back to the coffee shop? Did they just recently pass a law that says "fellow evenbreak is banned from the coffee shop and will be help accountable"? Go to the coffee shop and get your favorite coffee and if you happen to run into her, act surprised and say no way! Shell ask, what are you doing? You, oh, just getting my favorite coffee before work/going home/going to shit.. Would you like to try my favorite coffee? And then the convo will build from there. Or say.. No way, i can't believe your here of all places, are you doing anything today? If she says yes, say what about the next day.. If she says no, ask her if shes hungry and wants to get food. If she claims shes busy the whole week with no other open days (rejection) just say.. oh, well Ill shoot you a text soon then. Then walk away so its not so awkward.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: tripp23]
#19353282 - 01/01/14 12:00 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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tripp has got some game. /thread yo
until OP responds again i think we pretty much beat this into the ground, lol.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: DebuteMachine]
#19353413 - 01/01/14 01:17 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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DebuteMachine said: tripp has got some game. /thread yo
until OP responds again i think we pretty much beat this into the ground, lol.
lol its not as hard as people make it out to be. Whats hard is finding a good girl you "click" with.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: DebuteMachine]
#19353414 - 01/01/14 01:18 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i just msged her on facebook saying "hah how did you find me" and plan to lead it up with a joke about how shes a stalker cause we joked about how shes creepy for guessing/remembering my name from high school when i never met her before.
then i'm going to tell her i never even use facebook so its hard to find me and im going to ask if she wants to help me make some friends to add on facebook......
that sounds weird when i type it out. do you guys think my plan is stupid/not going to work?
i know you guys keep telling me to go to the coffee shop but man i feel really weird doing that. it just feels weird as fuck to suddenly visit that obscure coffee shop that's kind of hole in the wall that i never visited before so i could talk to a girl. i mean, i don't even want to necessarily date her either i just want to be her friends but her coworker (guy) was passing by and said "oh hes handsome" and she said "haha he said youre cute" so they already think im hitting on her or some shit when im not. actually i don't know wtf is going on but all i know is if i go to the coffee shop by myself without her asking me to on facebook, ill feel very weird and awkward..
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19353422 - 01/01/14 01:21 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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everything is kosher, just ask her to help make some friends IRL and not on facebook.
last paragraph: hole in the wall = win. holy fuck hole in the walls are awesome.
also, you're reading into what they are saying too much. they aren't looking at your like you're making a move, shes already made a move on you ffs.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak] 1
#19353612 - 01/01/14 03:13 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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evenbreak said: i just msged her on facebook saying "hah how did you find me" and plan to lead it up with a joke about how shes a stalker cause we joked about how shes creepy for guessing/remembering my name from high school when i never met her before.
then i'm going to tell her i never even use facebook so its hard to find me and im going to ask if she wants to help me make some friends to add on facebook......
that sounds weird when i type it out. do you guys think my plan is stupid/not going to work?
i know you guys keep telling me to go to the coffee shop but man i feel really weird doing that. it just feels weird as fuck to suddenly visit that obscure coffee shop that's kind of hole in the wall that i never visited before so i could talk to a girl. i mean, i don't even want to necessarily date her either i just want to be her friends but her coworker (guy) was passing by and said "oh hes handsome" and she said "haha he said youre cute" so they already think im hitting on her or some shit when im not. actually i don't know wtf is going on but all i know is if i go to the coffee shop by myself without her asking me to on facebook, ill feel very weird and awkward..
not to be mean man, but that's a terrible idea.
you've gotten nothing but good advice in this thread yet refuse to follow it, just like on EVERY other thread you make about girl problems.
Either a: go to the fluffing coffee shop or b: ask her to HANG OUT IN REAL LIFE over fb
I mean hell, if you ask her over fb and she says no WHICH SHE WON'T then big deal, you literally never have to see her again.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: mushroom_sandwich]
#19376257 - 01/06/14 08:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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alright well i said "haha how did u get my facebook?" and she said "from your friend's facebook. happy new years" and i said "you too" and then it died off
i figured i misinterpreted her signals and she wasn't really interested in anytihng more than just being facebook friends
but today she messaged me again saying "hii!" so i figured that's a pretty good sign of interest so i said "hey gurl" and "hows the shop"... hpoefully this will lead somewhere!
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19376435 - 01/06/14 09:03 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just admit your shy. She probably digs that
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: King Klick]
#19376442 - 01/06/14 09:06 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Coffe shops... i wish we had em here too...
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: lets drive around]
#19376471 - 01/06/14 09:14 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Me_Roy said: Go to the coffee shop to see her.
And ask her when she is planning on taking you out to dinner.
Do this, trust us.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: evenbreak]
#19376784 - 01/06/14 11:00 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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evenbreak said: alright well i said "haha how did u get my facebook?" and she said "from your friend's facebook. happy new years" and i said "you too" and then it died off
i figured i misinterpreted her signals and she wasn't really interested in anytihng more than just being facebook friends
but today she messaged me again saying "hii!" so i figured that's a pretty good sign of interest so i said "hey gurl" and "hows the shop"... hpoefully this will lead somewhere!
hopefully it will lead somewhere?
No, its not going to lead anywhere until YOU ask her if she wants to hang out.
Most girls dont like to 'make a move'
Thats considered the guys job. Most girls are too shy to ask a guy out
She wants you to do this, thats why she keeps talking to you. But, if you dont do it soon, she will think you aren't interested and she will move on.
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: MilkdudTitties] 1
#19376848 - 01/06/14 11:16 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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This thread is fuckin hilarious. OP you sound like a nice dude but you need to grow some balls. Go back to the coffee shop, make some small talk, eventually ask her to hang out. It doesn't get much easier than this
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Re: socially incompetent, tell me how to be friends with this girl [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] 2
#19377052 - 01/06/14 12:06 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Man OP... I wish I could slap you. In a nice way. It's crazy how, in this day and age, even the most natural, normal things become huge obstacles to people. I don't know how old you are OP, but I assume you're not that old and believe me, when you get to your thirties, you'll think back on how shy and overthinking you were and you'll facepalm.
Push forward man! Life is all about taking chances. If something ever falls on your lap, throw it away, it's not worth it. You need to earn things.
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