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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Prisoner#1]
#19402419 - 01/11/14 05:12 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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woah poeticirony
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: T-Rex]
#19402457 - 01/11/14 05:29 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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Fuck. I can't unsee that shit. A new corner of the Internet I've never seen before.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: koods]
#19402475 - 01/11/14 05:44 AM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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oh you found the pictures? link me baby
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: T-Rex]
#19418577 - 01/14/14 05:49 PM (10 years, 16 days ago) |
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Exact opposite here. I scare girls away. "Can I hab your numbah"
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: Trvr]
#19419187 - 01/14/14 07:28 PM (10 years, 16 days ago) |
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Are you aware of my postings on the "kinkiest things you've ever done" thread? lol it involves 2 guys and a double sided toy haha....yeah, they tend to run away....pussies
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19423949 - 01/15/14 05:27 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: Are you aware of my postings on the "kinkiest things you've ever done" thread? lol it involves 2 guys and a double sided toy haha....yeah, they tend to run away....pussies 
Is this a post just to see how many guys you can lead into the snake den, then watch'em squirm...
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: sololas]
#19423997 - 01/15/14 05:37 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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No haha this post was made out of my own sexual frustration from not getting laid for an entire year. Guys will be soooooo interested in me until I tell them the kinky shit I'm into, then they don't seem too interested anymore
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424051 - 01/15/14 05:48 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: No haha this post was made out of my own sexual frustration from not getting laid for an entire year. Guys will be soooooo interested in me until I tell them the kinky shit I'm into, then they don't seem too interested anymore 
It's pretty damn weird to talk about the super kinky things you are into before you have even had sex for the first time.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424067 - 01/15/14 05:53 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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I just think the men are scared of the strap on agenda I would fit in that category as well and I but will roll with the rest in the streight category.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19424123 - 01/15/14 06:06 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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pwnasaurus said:
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chicksgrowtoo said: No haha this post was made out of my own sexual frustration from not getting laid for an entire year. Guys will be soooooo interested in me until I tell them the kinky shit I'm into, then they don't seem too interested anymore 
It's pretty damn weird to talk about the super kinky things you are into before you have even had sex for the first time.
Do I get to claim virginity after the year mark or something?
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424148 - 01/15/14 06:16 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said:
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pwnasaurus said: It's pretty damn weird to talk about the super kinky things you are into before you have even had sex for the first time.
Do I get to claim virginity after the year mark or something?
What? I don't understand what you're trying to say.
When I'm chilling and flirting with someone it's fun if there's a little bit of mystery and unknown. That's what flirting is all about. It's WEIRD to just start talking about pegging a guy you hardly know and have never been intimate with. It would be weird in general to just talk candidly about sex with someone you hardly know, never mind one of the most taboo kink out there.
It's similar to guy asking "can I kiss you" or "can we have sex" before you've hooked up. It kills the moment. Likewise it's a turn-off to be delving into these kinks in a normal conversation before you have been intimate. IMO it's better to just feel it out and go for it when it feels right.
I obviously can't say for sure but it sounds like you might just be a little socially awkward . Not trying to be mean, but it seems like you have some issues reading people or this wouldn't keep happening.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19424386 - 01/15/14 07:17 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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Haha I thought you had pegged me for a virgin. I'm not trying to have "moments" with these guys and they're not people I barely know either (they know I'm crazy)....it's also usually them that starts talking about the things that they're into and when I share what I'm into they're usually not into the same things
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424417 - 01/15/14 07:24 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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I still think you're approaching it in entirely the wrong way.
I bet that most of the guys you talk to aren't not into the same things as you - I'm betting most of them have never even TRIED any of them. You need to ease into it. If you have sex with someone a few times you can start adding in some kinks little by little. Diving in from never having a finger in the butt while getting a blowjob to getting pegged is not a realistic step.
Secondly, you don't have to get into all of your kinks to have an enjoyable sexual experience. If you haven't been laid in a year I assure you straight-up vanilla sex would be pretty fucking awesome and is probably very attainable for you.
Put these two pieces together and you can find a partner is open-minded and willing to try some new things once they are comfortable.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19424443 - 01/15/14 07:31 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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I see what you're saying about the vanilla sex but vanilla sex is not going to do much for me and the bored look on my face may offend the guy
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424489 - 01/15/14 07:42 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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Are you incapable of enjoying sex unless you are pegging a guy? If so you I think you are going to have a pretty trying sexual life. I think a lot of guys are into, or are open-minded enough to try, a lot of the things you have suggested, but just not the first time you have sex with them.
If you are willing to get comfortable with each other and work up to it then you will find many partners willing to try new things with you. I think you have extremely unrealistic expectations.
I wouldn't take a girl home from the bar and try to bang her in the ass (unless she asked for it explicitly). Likewise most guys feel the same way, probably even more so as most have little experience in that department.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19424553 - 01/15/14 07:57 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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no... I said I don't find vanilla sex enjoyable, also you're probably more kinky than me if you fuck random strangers from bars lol
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424583 - 01/15/14 08:03 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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I like a gal that tells it like it is. If she wants to peg me, at least she tells me to my face. I've found that being more up front with my desires has let me experience more and I've been more satisfied. No reason to try and take any back doors, lol.
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19424586 - 01/15/14 08:04 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: no... I said I don't find vanilla sex enjoyable, also you're probably more kinky than me if you fuck random strangers from bars lol
I never have, actually, but I'm not opposed to doing so .
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19424599 - 01/15/14 08:08 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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Hey, whatever fucks your chicken man if that works for you go for it
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Re: My honesty about how kinky I am is scaring guys away [Re: chicksgrowtoo] 1
#19425038 - 01/15/14 09:31 PM (10 years, 15 days ago) |
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chicksgrowtoo said: Hey, whatever fucks your chicken man if that works for you go for it
You're changing the subject; being a little too abrasive, etc. These are impatient personality traits that don't make introducing kinky sexual behavior into a relationship easy.
I'm going to try not to insult you here, but I need to tell it like I see it, because I've noticed a lot of trends through out this 2 week long thread.
First, just because you are bored with vanilla sex doesn't mean that it will offend the dude if you let them know that... but you have to try to enjoy it and be nice about that at the same time. You can't just be like, "Sorry, this isn't working." Because even if it isn't, how the fuck are you going to earn their sexual trust if you don't at least tell them in bed that their body and their sex is good enough to go a step further onto your level? You need to find something impressing about that person, even through the boring shit, and then flatter them. You need to express to them how great it would be for you if you could go further. DO NOT emphasize or even mention how much they'll have to bend just to make it work. Don't act like it's going to be work for them or make a big deal out of it.
This is how relationships work. Baby steps. Enlighten them on your ways when the time is right, and roll with the punches. Don't expect anything from that person without getting to know them a little bit better first, and then, if you are understanding enough and everything is working well, and you're got a positive attitude rather than the same old "guhhh, I'm bored" mentality, then you will see them be able to do things with you that you never thought they'd open up to. Shit, maybe you'd even be able to do stuff you've never dreamed of.

And you'll realize later that the reason why is because you got them to like you; you earned their sexual trust rather than being lazy and just hoping that you both would walk right into a sexual relationship and have all of the shit down... As if.
You have to be more patient and open minded with this stuff, IMO. Silently hoping that it will just work, or that a magical sex God who loves being dominated will just enter your life and embrace it all, will take a very long time to work. Whereas if you take my advice and work your ass off to initiate new men into your routine, they could end up loving you for it.
But like I said, it's going to take patience and hard work and not lazily sitting around for a year wishing that somebody will just make it happen for you.
Again, really sorry if this offends you, and I don't mean to make a knock on your character, it's just some shit I saw from this thread that I wanted to point out... and nobody seems to have really said it in so many words. You seem like a really cool chick and I would totally do half (maybe more) of that shit with you from your original post. I know where you're coming from, and I'm sorry the last year has been so frustrating for you.
Good luck,
Edited by Dense Cake (01/15/14 09:45 PM)
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