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Friends with benefits a good thing
#19346354 - 12/30/13 01:41 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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What is your take on friends with benefits? Good? Bad? Personally y I don't think it's good mentally for the person but I guess everybody is different. I just got out of a relationship today actually.We had broken up about like a month ago actually but remained Friends with benefits.But I gotta be honest.It wasn't benefiting me at all.I don't know why they call it friends with benefits if only one person is benefiting from it.I should just stick to escorts and hookers I guess.But that's the thing I am not a horny beast that will just stick it in just about anything.I have to have a connection.I wish I could just sex up anything that walks but I can't.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII] 6
#19346360 - 12/30/13 01:44 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Fuck friends with benefits. It's pretending the emotion isn't there, which it clearly is. That's what girlfriends ARE - friends with benefits. When I was having a mutual breakup with my ex and she said we should be friends with benefits, I just told her either we're friends or we're more, that in between shit is for high school
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
#19346379 - 12/30/13 01:47 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think in concept it can be a good thing. But like the above poster said, it often times doesn't work out like originally planned.
Almost always someone develops feelings for their partner, and then that person gets hurt when the feelings aren't mutually shared.
I'm sort of in that situation right now. Friends with benefits with this one girl and I can tell she is getting attached to me on some level.
If you want to maintain it then you need to keep a certain amount of space between the two of you so the person who's getting hung up and have some time to decompress.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
#19346385 - 12/30/13 01:48 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Eh ive had fuck buddys work before. Zero commitment or having to spend money for dates and shit.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19346416 - 12/30/13 01:55 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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IISkuNkII said: What is your take on friends with benefits? Good? Bad? Personally y I don't think it's good mentally for the person but I guess everybody is different. I just got out of a relationship today actually.We had broken up about like a month ago actually but remained Friends with benefits.But I gotta be honest.It wasn't benefiting me at all.I don't know why they call it friends with benefits if only one person is benefiting from it.If any of you have been in this situation please share.
Gf for a year, broke up.. She had cravings for my wang so we got together again to fuck. Well i didn't think the shit through but meeting her was extremely awkward. We had not a clue what to talk about so we sat there for a while.. Silently.. Intel i just went over to her and kissed her.
I asked if it felt right or not, and she told me "lets just pretend we're dating again"
And we fucked,
And fucked.....
AND FUCKED.... It was good, for the moment..
Then the next day she shows up uninvited, no phone call or anything, and just hangs out in my house like we were back together, i was like what da FAQ..
I wasn't rude or mean i just asked, "what are you doing?"
Her response: what do you mean?
Me: "well what are you doing here?"
Well we DID have sex yesterday...
Me: but we DID break up last week too?
Oh fuck did that start a war.. She started freaking out getting pissed because she thought the sex was just me trying to win her back, when she was the one that suggested that we "PRETEND"
My morel to this story is that usually, when you introduce sex into a friendship, or try to relive the feelings you once had from previous sexual relations with a girl you've dated and or fucked; ...it just backfires mang.. Most the time it juuuuuusst backfires...
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Acaterpillar]
#19346423 - 12/30/13 01:56 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Indeed.I told her I had felt we were more than friends.But I guess she didn't feel the same way.I'm really mad at myself now because I liked having sex with her and I know now that isn't a possibility. She told me today that its gotta stop.That my feelings for her are too much.I get protective over the one I'm with.She said she would hit me up in a month.But I guess that's what they all say.I probably won't hear from her again.oh well
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19346467 - 12/30/13 02:06 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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IISkuNkII said: Indeed.I told her I had felt we were more than friends.But I guess she didn't feel the same way.I'm really mad at myself now because I liked having sex with her and I know now that isn't a possibility. She told me today that its gotta stop.That my feelings for her are too much.I get protective over the one I'm with.She said she would hit me up in a month.But I guess that's what they all say.I probably won't hear from her again.oh well 
Gotta let that go man. Sex is awesome but it's not worth the heartache. If the affection isn't there on her end you need to be real for yourself and stop the chase. It isn't worth it
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
#19346490 - 12/30/13 02:11 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I know.It's hard sometimes..I catch myself thinking about her.I'm sure time will heal.I obviously can't make her feel the same way.I just feel used but at the same time for some strange reason I feel kinda good it's over.I'm not happy but I'm not sad either.I'm sure I'll be eating these words tomorrow.It's gonna be my first night not going to be able to get to talk to her.She changed her number yesterday and hasn't given it to me.Yesterday I kinda blew up her phone because I had confronted her on a lie she had told me.Yesterday night at like 10 she tested me telling me she was going to bed.Didn't respond until like 2 telling her good night.Not even 2 mins pass and I get a text saying goodnight I love you.I tested back ask what she was doing up.She tells me that she woke up to per.I figured she was lying then and there.Find out in the morning that she had been talking to one of her exes when she was like 15.She's 20 now I am about to be 23.I shouldn't worry about this guy because he lives in Florida and we are in Virginia.But today she came by and we talked a little and just sent going to talk for awhile.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19346503 - 12/30/13 02:13 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, it won't happen with the snap of a finger. As slowly as it happens though and as sore as you may get during that time because you're not with her, what matters is that you do move on. You answered to yourself, you can't make her feel the same way. We've got a new year ahead, find a new girl who is worth your time.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
#19346518 - 12/30/13 02:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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OZA said: Yeah, it won't happen with the snap of a finger. As slowly as it happens though and as sore as you may get during that time because you're not with her, what matters is that you do move on. You answered to yourself, you can't make her feel the same way. We've got a new year ahead, find a new girl who is worth your time.
Wow man.. I need a therapist like you:) made me feel better, and you weren't even talking to me lol
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA] 1
#19346536 - 12/30/13 02:19 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I've always considered friends with benefits something impossible to do with an ex. It is really only possible for people that have never been emotional involved. Even then fwb could evolve into a relationship if both parties are willing.
To me, what most of you guys are describing is the infamous "break up sex". One person or both is ready to be out of the relationship, but still has sexual needs and feels safer doing it with an ex vs. going out and getting some strange. This usually persists for weeks/months until they get back together, find someone else, or shit gets too weird and they leave.
Just my experience, because break up sex and fwb are two entirely seperate concepts in my mind. You can try to tell each other, "lets be friends with benefits", but very rarely will both parties feel 100% detached emotionally.
On that note. Break up sex is awesome and so is having a fuck buddy.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
#19346570 - 12/30/13 02:25 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm trying.I'ma get rid of things in the house that remind me of her and get on with life.It's not gonna be easy.But I gotta do it.I cHat base my life around her anymore because then I don't have a life.Thanks man you actually made me feel better as well.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII] 1
#19346610 - 12/30/13 02:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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IISkuNkII said: I'm trying.I'ma get rid of things in the house that remind me of her and get on with life.It's not gonna be easy.But I gotta do it.I cHat base my life around her anymore because then I don't have a life.Thanks man you actually made me feel better as well.
Having friends around you can help tremendously. It will still take time, but having people around, preferably that are not mutual friends, can take your mind off things and keep you moving forward.
I was in a very simlar situation years ago but she had no friends of her own excect those she met through me for the most part. I had to find a new network to socialize with and keep the reminders of her away.
Best of luck in the new year!
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: TheMaster]
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Friends with benefits are awesome IMO. The second she starts showing emotions, that your cue to bail out and never come back.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: TheMaster]
#19346651 - 12/30/13 02:48 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thank you.I'm actually at a friend's house to right now.She is a mutual friend though.We've actually become quite good friends recently and before all this happened.So I consider her more my friend than hers.I feel bad though because I told her I would quit smoking weed so th her and yet I've been steadily smoking up.I feel bad every time I do.So I'm probably gonna stop soon.Just not today.I'll start tomorrow.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Patlal]
#19346658 - 12/30/13 02:52 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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A girl and i successfully pulled off FWB for around a year. One day i told her i lliked another girl, and she was like, well, i guess thats it then. Were still friends even though i never see her anymore. Cool chick.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19346672 - 12/30/13 02:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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IISkuNkII said: Thank you.I'm actually at a friend's house to right now.She is a mutual friend though.We've actually become quite good friends recently and before all this happened.So I consider her more my friend than hers.I feel bad though because I told her I would quit smoking weed so th her and yet I've been steadily smoking up.I feel bad every time I do.So I'm probably gonna stop soon.Just not today.I'll start tomorrow.
Funny, I actually ended up dating/living with one of my ex's old roommates who is hot as fuck. Really pissed her off that I chose her old roomy's circle of friends to hang out with too, so that was a bonus.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: ManianFH]
#19346675 - 12/30/13 02:55 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I tried the whole friends with benefits thing earlier this year. The poor girl got attached and I didn't want nothing like that.
I honestly think the failure of my last relationship was Karma for the way I led her on.
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I'm the same way dude. I have to have a connection with someone to have sex with them. I'm not into random hookups and when I meet someone I'm interested in dating, I don't "put out" right away. I make sure they like me the same way I like them beforehand.
Why don't you get a fleshlight or something that you can FUCK, then when you just want to get off, watch some good porn and fuck the fleshlight. You don't need a connection with an inanimate object or with a porn movie in order to get off.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: occollegeboi]
#19346756 - 12/30/13 03:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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As intriguing as that sounds I'm gonna have to pass up on that idea.I don't like having to do it.I like the feel of a woman not plastic.I'm just gonna have to go all out and attempt to find a new partner.Which is exactly what I hate doing is meeting new people.fuck social anxiety.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Dr.Dankhead]
#19346761 - 12/30/13 03:18 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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OZA said: Yeah, it won't happen with the snap of a finger. As slowly as it happens though and as sore as you may get during that time because you're not with her, what matters is that you do move on. You answered to yourself, you can't make her feel the same way. We've got a new year ahead, find a new girl who is worth your time.
Wow man.. I need a therapist like you:) made me feel better, and you weren't even talking to me lol
Lol my pleasure man, been through a lot of this myself.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
#19347083 - 12/30/13 04:22 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII] 1
#19347119 - 12/30/13 04:27 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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just take ur testicles out and vacuum all the semen out of them and replace it with like golden paint so u cum gold and u'll look like a pimp like this turtle
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Sheekle]
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LOL that has seriously made my day.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19347634 - 12/30/13 05:55 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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the idea of "friends with benefits" is a really attractive one to me. it just means you start the relationship with sex, and keep it light and simple.
i think this works out better for people who aren't really interested in the traditional way of doing things, as its a bit out dated for current society.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: DebuteMachine]
#19347678 - 12/30/13 06:07 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well I'm sure that way would work out better.I had a relationship with the girl beforehand and then it turned into friend's with benefits.But like I said I didn't benefit from it meaning she wasn't putting out when I wanted it only when she wanted to use me for my man meat. and usually when she wanted it I didn't.Oh the horror story of that one time where I got soft in the act.Then here comes the "you don't love me anymore" stuff..Most awkward moment of my life man.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19347700 - 12/30/13 06:11 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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IISkuNkII said: Then here comes the "you don't love me anymore" stuff..Most awkward moment of my life man.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
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IISkuNkII said: Oh the horror story of that one time where I got soft in the act.Then here comes the "you don't love me anymore" stuff..Most awkward moment of my life man.
Your boner died while having sex with someone and what they had to say about it was "you don't love me anymore"?
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Sheekle]
#19347729 - 12/30/13 06:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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That's exactly what I'm saying happened.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19347740 - 12/30/13 06:19 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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that strikes me as really weird
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Sheekle]
#19347750 - 12/30/13 06:21 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Why so?I need mention that she was kinda the lazy submissive type.So sometimes it would become boring doing the same old thing every time.Which resulted in my penis getting flimsy sometimes.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19347797 - 12/30/13 06:29 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME ANYMORE SKUNK???
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19347824 - 12/30/13 06:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Not the fact that you lost your boner, the fact she equated that with "not loving her anymore"
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: DebuteMachine]
#19347837 - 12/30/13 06:39 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Sheekle]
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Well they both were really awkward.I wasn't able to get it back up.So I put my hairy legs on top oh her and left my penis in her butt.I had to think of something to say which I forgot what it was but she later was comforted by me laying on her.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19347886 - 12/30/13 06:47 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Exes can never be fwb guys. The feels were set in place long ago.
Now with a chick where going into it you understand the agreement are fucking awesome.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Enjoywho]
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Enjoywho said: Exes can never be fwb guys. The feels were set in place long ago.
Now with a chick where going into it you understand the agreement are fucking awesome.

yea until she wants more...or you...
it don't take much to tip the balance
i suppose the key is to know when enough is enough, and call it off before it gets to that point
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Never said it was perfect. 
That shit does happen I've been on both ends. Also had the one's that work out great til one cops feels for someone else. It always worked great. It is what it is. Nothing is ever perfect but it does come pretty close sometimes.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Enjoywho]
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I like it, I used to have this friend that was sooo hot but she had an ugly and dumb personality, So it was cool to bang her without having her as a Gf (I would go to her house, bang her and then byebye no strings attached).
Good times .
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: AD420]
#19349333 - 12/31/13 12:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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anytime i had a friend with benefit it got weird quick. not for me becuase i am hedonistic as fuck and can have sex with a girl without catching feelings but the girls always felt all weird after a couple weeks. like they were being used or something
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: thelanzii]
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Though, come to think of it . . . There's this cute ass Mexican girl I've always wanted a piece of that's saying she'd be down to fuck. She doesn't want a relationship (she already has one ) she just said she was curious what kind of fuck I was.
I can dig it.
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I would advise again doing that.Banging another dudes girl can bring serious consequences.But hey do what you want man.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19349443 - 12/31/13 12:39 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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some dudes willing to kill over that shit
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: OZA]
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OZA said: Fuck friends with benefits. It's pretending the emotion isn't there, which it clearly is. That's what girlfriends ARE - friends with benefits. When I was having a mutual breakup with my ex and she said we should be friends with benefits, I just told her either we're friends or we're more, that in between shit is for high school
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
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IISkuNkII said: I would advise again doing that.Banging another dudes girl can bring serious consequences.But hey do what you want man.
If I love someone, It would be my last mission on earth to litteraly skin any one who'd hurt him/her alive...
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
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IISkuNkII said: I would advise again doing that.Banging another dudes girl can bring serious consequences.But hey do what you want man.
I ain't scared of an ass-whippin'.
Especially if this bitch is as good a fuck as she looks.
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And what if it doesn't turn out that way? What if he catches you in the act of banging his girl? And he pulls out a gun on your.I guarantee that would scare the shit outta you.Also it means you have no respect for other people's relationship.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
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IISkuNkII said: What is your take on friends with benefits? Good? Bad? Personally y I don't think it's good mentally for the person but I guess everybody is different. I just got out of a relationship today actually.We had broken up about like a month ago actually but remained Friends with benefits.But I gotta be honest.It wasn't benefiting me at all.I don't know why they call it friends with benefits if only one person is benefiting from it.I should just stick to escorts and hookers I guess.But that's the thing I am not a horny beast that will just stick it in just about anything.I have to have a connection.I wish I could just sex up anything that walks but I can't.
I think "friends with benefits" is just baby's first step away from cancerous monogamy.
Monogamy is a construct of society man and it only aims to oppress you.
Sex is a social activity. Slightly deeper and more intimate that say, having a conversation but still a social activity that should not be exclusive.
Monogamy is this abomination that dictates you should only have this social experience with one other person. How ridiculous is that? I mean if someone told you that you can only ever have conversations with your best friend and that it's immoral to talk to anyone else you'd think they're insane - yet that same restriction has been imposed on your natural sexuality and people allow themselves to adopt this philosophy as their own, similarly to how they adopt the attitude that "drugs are bad."
Ideally OP you want to cultivate a polyamorous lifestyle with other freeminded people. Sex shouldn't be a perverse thing that you can only have with your best friend after a certain amount of time if they so happen to be the correct gender. Sex should be something lighthearted you share with all your friends for mutual pleasure and bonding.
Open your mind, cast away the shackles of monogamy and liberate yourself sexually. It may take a little while at first to find yourself likeminded friends but once you do you won't look back and will laugh at the silly drones and their "relationship problems"
>inb4 butthurt drones
tl;dr Get together with all your friends, drop copious amounts of LSD, remove your clothes and let the universe take its course.
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IISkuNkII said: I would advise again doing that.Banging another dudes girl can bring serious consequences.But hey do what you want man.
I ain't scared of an ass-whippin'.
Especially if this bitch is as good a fuck as she looks.
A few years ago I had a buddy fucking this cougar down the street from where I used to live. One day her husband "left" for work and waited around the corner.
My buddy showed up and they started to get down to business. Shortly after, the doorbell rang and my buddy (for some stupid reason) went to answer the door. Her husband blew his head off once the door swung open and then killed himself.
This is second hand info from the cougar/neighbors and police report, but all very much true.
Be careful man.
Only (partially) funny part was my other buddy that lived in the same cul de sac as the cougar was a dealer and dumped a fair amount of buds and blow down the garbage disposal/toilet because he thought they were there for him. Somehow he never heard the gunshots...
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Dawks]
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IISkuNkII said: What is your take on friends with benefits? Good? Bad? Personally y I don't think it's good mentally for the person but I guess everybody is different. I just got out of a relationship today actually.We had broken up about like a month ago actually but remained Friends with benefits.But I gotta be honest.It wasn't benefiting me at all.I don't know why they call it friends with benefits if only one person is benefiting from it.I should just stick to escorts and hookers I guess.But that's the thing I am not a horny beast that will just stick it in just about anything.I have to have a connection.I wish I could just sex up anything that walks but I can't.
I think "friends with benefits" is just baby's first step away from cancerous monogamy.
Monogamy is a construct of society man and it only aims to oppress you.
Sex is a social activity. Slightly deeper and more intimate that say, having a conversation but still a social activity that should not be exclusive.
Monogamy is this abomination that dictates you should only have this social experience with one other person. How ridiculous is that? I mean if someone told you that you can only ever have conversations with your best friend and that it's immoral to talk to anyone else you'd think they're insane - yet that same restriction has been imposed on your natural sexuality and people allow themselves to adopt this philosophy as their own, similarly to how they adopt the attitude that "drugs are bad."
Ideally OP you want to cultivate a polyamorous lifestyle with other freeminded people. Sex shouldn't be a perverse thing that you can only have with your best friend after a certain amount of time if they so happen to be the correct gender. Sex should be something lighthearted you share with all your friends for mutual pleasure and bonding.
Open your mind, cast away the shackles of monogamy and liberate yourself sexually. It may take a little while at first to find yourself likeminded friends but once you do you won't look back and will laugh at the silly drones and their "relationship problems"
>inb4 butthurt drones
tl;dr Get together with all your friends, drop copious amounts of LSD, remove your clothes and let the universe take its course.
Ok my grammar isn't that huge.But basically what I understood from that paragraph is that I should drop lsd and have group orgys?I don't think I could with mother man in the picture.Now if it was all women that would be a different story.But please elaborate if I misunderstood what you just said.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
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I'm WTF is mother man... You mean other men? Lol
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: koods]
#19352975 - 12/31/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 30 days ago) |
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I cant seem to escape becoming other peoples FWB. I hate it. I always become emotionally attached and they never feel the same.
I just broke it off with a girl last week, then another girl wanted me to come stay with her for new years, she was kissing me within an hour of me showing up, and things got real sexual.
I dont know if everyones desperate or if im really freakin hot, but it sucks. BITCHES ONLY WANT ME FOR MY BODY!!! I JUST WANNA BE LOVED!!!
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: SalviaGod]
#19353167 - 12/31/13 11:13 PM (10 years, 30 days ago) |
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Hmm....I thought I was the only MAN who doesn't care about sex and would rather have a relationship. Guess not.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: thelanzii]
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Nemmies said: some dudes willing to kill over that shit
and they would be mentally retarded.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: koods]
#19354998 - 01/01/14 02:49 PM (10 years, 29 days ago) |
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koods said: I'm WTF is mother man... You mean other men? Lol
Yes sorry about that this kindle fire has auto correct and sometimes I don't reread the sentence
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: NotTheDevil]
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Nemmies said: some dudes willing to kill over that shit
and they would be mentally retarded.
then they will keep being so after you are dead...
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: NotTheDevil]
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Nemmies said: some dudes willing to kill over that shit
and they would be mentally retarded.
Where did you come up with that?Most people in a relationship get protective over the one they love.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19355037 - 01/01/14 03:02 PM (10 years, 29 days ago) |
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...You, I believe to incorrect too..
If your love cheats on you, and you respond by killing the accomploce.. that is not love, but as a deffence of territory... meaning the love was like the love for an object... not true love..
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19355046 - 01/01/14 03:05 PM (10 years, 29 days ago) |
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Monogamy works best when raising a family, otherwise fuck away...
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Shins]
#19355080 - 01/01/14 03:14 PM (10 years, 29 days ago) |
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It doesnt have to... it need not do so.. i dont see why I bother...
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Icyus]
#19355131 - 01/01/14 03:33 PM (10 years, 29 days ago) |
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Icyus said: ...You, I believe to incorrect too..
If your love cheats on you, and you respond by killing the accomploce.. that is not love, but as a deffence of territory... meaning the love was like the love for an object... not true love..
That makes sense.So my love for her isn't true?I've often questioned that myself a lot.I think you guys are helping me figure all this out without even knowing it.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
#19355623 - 01/01/14 05:46 PM (10 years, 29 days ago) |
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It is what it is... you may care deeply for someone though you do not love them.. it is a feeling, i would say.. not being in love, but true love.. the fact that nothing else in your life matters.. that you would give up your life, your soul (the principle) or let your live be eternal torture so the person would be happy.. in your eyes atleast..
True love is quite a rare thing.. almost all those preaching about it havent a clue what it is... it is very rare.. what most people, if you excuse my generalizing, refer to as love is simply affection... this being said by me who has never shared it with anyone and probably never will, but i believe it to be so.. not that this is a comforting to my ego, but that I have expereanced this, which I atleast beloeve to be love.. and the pain of it too.. yin yang and all that ..
Be abliss then.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Icyus]
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Icyus said: It is what it is... you may care deeply for someone though you do not love them.. it is a feeling, i would say.. not being in love, but true love.. the fact that nothing else in your life matters.. that you would give up your life, your soul (the principle) or let your live be eternal torture so the person would be happy.. in your eyes atleast..
True love is quite a rare thing.. almost all those preaching about it havent a clue what it is... it is very rare.. what most people, if you excuse my generalizing, refer to as love is simply affection... this being said by me who has never shared it with anyone and probably never will, but i believe it to be so.. not that this is a comforting to my ego, but that I have expereanced this, which I atleast beloeve to be love.. and the pain of it too.. yin yang and all that ..
Be abliss then.
I don't know what I'd call it for certain.I feel that I'm not in love with her anymore.I still care deeply for her and would do anything I could to help her out.I guess that means I'm not result in love anymore.Sometimes I feel that I'm just falling back into familarity.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: IISkuNkII]
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Icyus said: It is what it is... you may care deeply for someone though you do not love them.. it is a feeling, i would say.. not being in love, but true love.. the fact that nothing else in your life matters.. that you would give up your life, your soul (the principle) or let your live be eternal torture so the person would be happy.. in your eyes atleast..
True love is quite a rare thing.. almost all those preaching about it havent a clue what it is... it is very rare.. what most people, if you excuse my generalizing, refer to as love is simply affection... this being said by me who has never shared it with anyone and probably never will, but i believe it to be so.. not that this is a comforting to my ego, but that I have expereanced this, which I atleast beloeve to be love.. and the pain of it too.. yin yang and all that ..
Be abliss then.
I don't know what I'd call it for certain.I feel that I'm not in love with her anymore.I still care deeply for her and would do anything I could to help her out.I guess that means I'm not result in love anymore.Sometimes I feel that I'm just falling back into familarity.
sounds like you were experiencing lust
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IISkuNkII said:
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Icyus said: It is what it is... you may care deeply for someone though you do not love them.. it is a feeling, i would say.. not being in love, but true love.. the fact that nothing else in your life matters.. that you would give up your life, your soul (the principle) or let your live be eternal torture so the person would be happy.. in your eyes atleast..
True love is quite a rare thing.. almost all those preaching about it havent a clue what it is... it is very rare.. what most people, if you excuse my generalizing, refer to as love is simply affection... this being said by me who has never shared it with anyone and probably never will, but i believe it to be so.. not that this is a comforting to my ego, but that I have expereanced this, which I atleast beloeve to be love.. and the pain of it too.. yin yang and all that ..
Be abliss then.
I don't know what I'd call it for certain.I feel that I'm not in love with her anymore.I still care deeply for her and would do anything I could to help her out.I guess that means I'm not result in love anymore.Sometimes I feel that I'm just falling back into familarity.
sounds like you were experiencing lust
Sadly I'd have to say the same thing.At first when we broke up I cold truely say that I was still in love with her.I now know that it isn't right for me to keep trying to persuade her.Thanks for all your comments guys.You've all helped me make it through a really rough time and I can't thank you guys enough.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: Icyus]
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So basically you usually have to paymoney opposed to exchanging sexual pleasures sort of similar to a "you scratch my back I scratch yours" approach to it? Tbh I want to findsomeone that can have that attitude, where we are both being satisfied & while I can and will pay her if Im fucking her all the time and giving her immense pleasure we should beon the same wavelength as far as that goes.
Idk if you find someone willing to FWB is it mostly a trade of fluids or cash? Because while I have money to burn I believe it we are both being satisfied then why should I pay extra and you don't? It sounds a little unfair no? If thats the way this world works then whats the point of prudent economics? If you are looking to save as much money for the future youd want to work around having to pay what you don't have to. Don't getme wrong I'm far from cheap but i only have around 5k in my bank right now, hardly enough to make it in this world. Albeit I'm living w my parentscurently & gettng a job at panera soon but still I'd like to have some stored away. Keep in mind I rarely waste money. I don't do drugs or anything so kind of just sits in there decaying away.
Being something of a pure celestial angel I'm somewhat new to the decadent scene. I don't know how these dealers work and what shoddy methods they use ove unsuspecting victims. I hope I can find someone halfway reasonable and doesn't demand my wallet for a little pussy. I will make that sacrifice if necessary however. Anyone can fill me in(literally).
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: drkkenny]
#20151350 - 06/18/14 07:26 PM (9 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: drkkenny]
#20151631 - 06/18/14 08:19 PM (9 years, 7 months ago) |
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Friends with benefits doesn't require money, kenny.
You're thinking of prostitution.
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Re: Friends with benefits a good thing [Re: TopPmz]
#20152659 - 06/18/14 11:23 PM (9 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm still new to this game.I've always been an asexual/puritan...thankgod I converted its much more"exciting"or"lively"may be the word im looking for.
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