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vandago



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Women with kids.
#19334921 - 12/27/13 11:17 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I've been single for a while now....
It seems the only girls who are interested in me have offspring....and there's a lot of them. I have at least 10 girls that try on a regular basis to get me to hang out, go out, come over, cook for me, drink with me etc....
A lot of them I am pretty attracted to, but I want NOTHING to do with someone elses kids on that level. I feel completely uncomfortable trying an NSA thing with these girls because I feel they are all looking for something more.
Does anyone here have any experience dating single women with kids when it didn't turn into a mess?
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aw11driver



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Re: Women with kids. [Re: vandago]
#19334979 - 12/27/13 11:33 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well be up front from the start about your feelings. I dont know ive only been in the situation once and ive been with the girl for 9 years, i was 18 and she had a 2 year old. But i can say NSA with a woman with kids could only work if the kids were never involved, thats how i would handle that though. You never know you could be missing out on the woman of your dreams only because she has kids.
Well happy hunting to you!
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vandago



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I've laid it down before..." I don't want a relationship with your kids. I don't want this to get serious, and I am not asking for anything from you other than company and affection occasionally."
It always turns into " I love you, do you want to come to the park with us..."
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: vandago]
#19336219 - 12/28/13 09:30 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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what is the age range of these women? how is their financial standing?
my one relationship with a woman (girl, young, 23 at the time) with a kid failed because of her own immaturity, lack of self-respect, and lack of knowing what she wanted.
i could see a relatively stable woman, with a stable job, who is not constantly stressed by finances, who doesn't have a little, out-of-control shit for a kid, as a potentially lasting relation
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Greendreams

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#19337713 - 12/28/13 04:33 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Patlal
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I couldn't date someone with kids either. If I ever take care of kids, they are gonna be my kids.
I'm close to my 30s so getting girls without kids will only become harder
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: Patlal]
#19338018 - 12/28/13 05:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Dude I'm 19 and it seems hard to find girls not already married/with kids. Community college man.
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: Atrium] 1
#19338034 - 12/28/13 05:59 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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If you want "girls" date girls; who holler and scream and whine. If you want a woman, find one. I see more than kids being involved here. There are plenty chicks who just wanna bang and go to work, I bet your trouble is you do not truly want a NSA situation. Re evaluate and try again.
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vandago



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No I don't really want an NSA when it comes down to it. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I guess I want someone around who gives a shit, and any mom who throws her kid to some random person to sit just to go get drunk loses all respect from me INSTANTLY.
It's like demiu5 said....any woman that flirts with me with a kid, is on welfare, not working, and not stable....most don't even drive....and have extreme baby daddy issues. I can't fathom what these girls see in me....I don't even give them more then a friendly hello...I think I look easy to control.....
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Maharishi_2_U
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: vandago]
#19340510 - 12/29/13 07:07 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'd reccomend a new venue, sir. I don't know where you are hanging out that you are surrounded by welfare moms with no car, the pjs??? Try the produce department at a high end grocer or a gym, possibly a local recreation center or higher learning center. If they do not drive I am assuming you are going to wherever these gems are, go somewhere else bro ;-) My buddy tells me girls are like parking spots, all the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.
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Quote:
Maharishi_2_U said: My buddy tells me girls are like parking spots, all the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.
Or you pay money for a spot that's only good for a couple hours....
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: bchighway]
#19342594 - 12/29/13 05:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Vandango let me shed some light with you by talking about my current relationship. Me-25, She-27, Her kid-3.
I do not want kids. I never EVER imagined myself dating a girl up until a few months ago who had a kid. She moved out of her ex-husband's this year into her own place and has a stable job. Pays for all her bills. The father is still in the kid's life. Me and her get to hang out all the time because of this.
This girl is pretty amazing and I am glad that she is in my life currently.
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automan
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: vandago]
#19342804 - 12/29/13 05:56 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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vandago said: No I don't really want an NSA when it comes down to it. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I guess I want someone around who gives a shit, and any mom who throws her kid to some random person to sit just to go get drunk loses all respect from me INSTANTLY.
It's like demiu5 said....any woman that flirts with me with a kid, is on welfare, not working, and not stable....most don't even drive....and have extreme baby daddy issues. I can't fathom what these girls see in me....I don't even give them more then a friendly hello...I think I look easy to control.....
yeah, man, don't form relationships with those women. dating a woman with kids is entirely different than dating an unstable woman on welfare with kids. i've dated all kinds of women with kids, but they were all smart, capable, self sufficient, home owner women with kids. to me, you post is less about not dating women with kids and more of DONT DATE HOOD RATS.
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Re: Women with kids. [Re: automan]
#19346497 - 12/30/13 02:12 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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automan said:
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vandago said: No I don't really want an NSA when it comes down to it. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I guess I want someone around who gives a shit, and any mom who throws her kid to some random person to sit just to go get drunk loses all respect from me INSTANTLY.
It's like demiu5 said....any woman that flirts with me with a kid, is on welfare, not working, and not stable....most don't even drive....and have extreme baby daddy issues. I can't fathom what these girls see in me....I don't even give them more then a friendly hello...I think I look easy to control.....
yeah, man, don't form relationships with those women. dating a woman with kids is entirely different than dating an unstable woman on welfare with kids. i've dated all kinds of women with kids, but they were all smart, capable, self sufficient, home owner women with kids. to me, you post is less about not dating women with kids and more of DONT DATE HOOD RATS.
QFT.
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