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is it ok to visit prostitutes?
#19331214 - 12/26/13 11:56 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I can't get laid because I'm too scared to put myself out there and I have poor social skills and a small social circle so i don't even know where to go.
But there's a website that has a list of all these prostitutes who live close to me. And when I call and text them, they're so responsive towards me. The female attention is intoxicating. I'm addicted to just browsing through the site and texting and calling them, and eventually the temptation would be too strong and i'll go see one of them.
But I have a low paying job and i can't make it a regular thing. And also, i feel so fucking ashamed. I feel like a total loser. I feel like if someone I know saw me and word spread that i'm seeing hookers, my life will be over and i'd be better off dead. But I still can't resist going to that website once in awhile when i'm horny.
Should i be feeling ashamed about this? Everyone needs and deserves intimacy, right? Maybe i shouldn't feel bad?
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#19331245 - 12/27/13 12:08 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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You are acting like a little girl op, theres nothing wrong about it You should bang some hooker pussy imo, that will give you experience at sex and also confidence so you can bang the non-hookers pussys.
DO IT
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: AD420]
#19331286 - 12/27/13 12:24 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Fuck that. Everyone deserves intimacy, yea, but don't trick yourself into thinking that banging a hooker is anything like 'intimacy'. Get over your fear of putting yourself out there. You just have to accept that failure and rejection is part of the game- but so is success. For free.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19331297 - 12/27/13 12:26 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I did it pretty regularly when I traveled a lot. It's nice to have some company waiting for you after a long flight without having to spend the effort getting to know people.
As for whether or not it's okay it really depends on your own, subjective morality. Some people believe prostitution to be exploitative, dangerous and dirty. Whereas others, like myself see this kind of companionship as simply another commodity to be bought without any ethical concerns.
I'd think of it like this: If you have a sore back and you pay a qualified masseuse give you the best massage she can give, should you be ashamed? does it make you a loser?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Dawks] 1
#19331300 - 12/27/13 12:30 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I feel really sorry for you OP. Not because you buy hookers, but because you have never experienced true intimacy.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: AD420] 2
#19331303 - 12/27/13 12:31 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
#19331325 - 12/27/13 12:41 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Crystal G said: I feel really sorry for you OP. Not because you buy hookers, but because you have never experienced true intimacy.
i spend my whole life feeling extreme infatuation over girls that give attention to me because i'm so hungry for intimacy.
makes me want to slit my fucking wrist to be so pathetic.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19331367 - 12/27/13 01:02 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Crystal G said: I feel really sorry for you OP. Not because you buy hookers, but because you have never experienced true intimacy.
i spend my whole life feeling extreme infatuation over girls that give attention to me because i'm so hungry for intimacy.
makes me want to slit my fucking wrist to be so pathetic.
You are not pathetic bro, but that mentality of you is.
You are a winner and you can have ANY pussy that you want, never forget that
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: AD420]
#19332257 - 12/27/13 09:24 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yes.
Come to Amsterdam in Netherlands or Antwerp in Belgium. You won't get any judgement and it's legal. Seeing as your culture is different I wouldn't do it either. Get a better job 
You work, why do you even give a shit about what other people think or is it their fucking business what you do with your money?
lol @ higher than thou G
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
#19332327 - 12/27/13 09:46 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Go bang those prostitutes, OP! Prostitution was practically invented for situations like yours. Don't feel bad about it, feel good about banging some chicks.
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Crystal G said: I feel really sorry for you OP. Not because you buy hookers, but because you have never experienced true intimacy.
I can't tell if you mean that you legitimately feel bad for OP, or if you're just being condescending/superior.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: AD420]
#19332388 - 12/27/13 10:08 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I feel legitimately bad for anyone who thinks buying sex is the same thing as meeting someone, developing attraction, and becoming intimate with them.
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AD420 said: you can have ANY pussy that you want, never forget that:)
No. You can't. There are some chicks who just won't be into you, just like there are chicks you just aren't into. But so what. There are plenty out there who will be into you if you learn to make some effort.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: nooneman]
#19332516 - 12/27/13 10:45 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lynnch said: I feel legitimately bad for anyone who thinks buying sex is the same thing as meeting someone, developing attraction, and becoming intimate with them.
Why does that make you feel legitimately bad?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Dawks]
#19332591 - 12/27/13 11:12 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Because it's a shame that anyone is that misled and confused. Because it's right in the OP, everyone deserves some intimacy. And in that same thread, everyone deserves the experience of being attracted to someone, feeling your heart race as you approach them, the elation that comes when they accept you, a journey through lust and love with them, the moment where you find their fatal flaw or yours, have your heart shattered and know the true loneliness that only comes from the loss of another person, and then the realization that you are strong enough to go through it all again just to taste those brief moments of bliss. It teaches you a lot about yourself, and people.
Or you could pay a couple hundred bucks extra for the '"real" girlfriend experience', who knows, maybe you won't be able to tell the difference.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Lynnch]
#19332901 - 12/27/13 12:56 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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OP if you're in Canada its legal so, I dunno, you're call.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19334229 - 12/27/13 07:44 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Shit whats wrong with getting a hooker? $$$ for sex
I don't make it a secret from anybody
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: nooneman]
#19334247 - 12/27/13 07:50 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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nooneman said: I can't tell if you mean that you legitimately feel bad for OP, or if you're just being condescending/superior.
No I legitimately feel sorry for OP, clearly you couldn't tell, but my post was more of an "Aww I'm so sorry" type of meaning behind my post.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
#19334672 - 12/27/13 09:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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ok, listen...
So if you know a friend who visits prostitutes, are you going to view him as a loser because he doesn't have game to get sex without paying for it? Especially if he is known for being bad with women? I feel like looking down on someone like that is pretty much a given, am i wrong?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19334687 - 12/27/13 09:59 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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So if you know a friend who visits prostitutes, are you going to view him as a loser because he doesn't have game to get sex without paying for it? Especially if he is known for being bad with women? I feel like looking down on someone like that is pretty much a given, am i wrong?
Not really, depends on their age for me. Even still, mine as well get laid somehow and it might help your confidence
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Repertoire89]
#19334781 - 12/27/13 10:28 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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If I found out my bro had banged a hooker when he went to vegas, or paid a stripper a little extra one time or whatever I would laugh and high-five him and ask him to tell the story.
If I found out my bro was regularly paying for sex to fill a void of human contact and intimacy I would tell him he has a problem.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Lynnch] 2
#19334805 - 12/27/13 10:34 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lynnch said: If I found out my bro was regularly paying for sex to fill a void of human contact and intimacy I would tell him he has a problem.
why?
what is the problem?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: demiu5] 1
#19334937 - 12/27/13 11:23 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lynnch said: If I found out my bro was regularly paying for sex to fill a void of human contact and intimacy I would tell him he has a problem.
You think paying for sex is a thing happy healthy well-adjusted people do on the regular?
It's not even the paying for sex that is wrong. It's the pretending that sex and human relation as a commodity is anything approaching the experience of actual intimacy.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Lynnch]
#19334947 - 12/27/13 11:26 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lynnch said: It's not even the paying for sex that is wrong. It's the pretending that sex and human relation as a commodity is anything approaching the experience of actual intimacy.
Yes, I agree with this. You are commodifying an experience that is supposed to be intimate and expressive of deep bonding and true feelings. You as a buyer might feel that way about the woman you are buying, but the woman you are buying is a professional, and definitely does not feel the same way about you.
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#19335053 - 12/28/13 12:02 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lynnch said: You think paying for sex is a thing happy healthy well-adjusted people do on the regular?
What makes you the expert being happy and well adjusted. Let me guess, everyone who shares your core values is happy and well adjusted and everyone who has different values and beliefs is an unhappy deviant? How original 
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Lynnch said: Because it's a shame that anyone is that misled and confused. Because it's right in the OP, everyone deserves some intimacy. And in that same thread, everyone deserves the experience of yada yada hippie idealism
No one is entitled to anything in life. You get what you get because you're lucky and you can only try your best on top of that. Something like 15% of the world's population are never even given the opportunity of learn to read and plenty more cant find adequete food and shelter for their families but we know that OP is entitled to true love, right?
The OP's post made him come across as awkward, self absorbed and self pitying. I wouldn't want to be intimate with someone like that and apparently neither does anyone else. Why exactly does the OP deserve intimacy? is simply being alive enough? what did he do to earn it? If anything his post is more of an indication as to why he does not deserve intimacy.
If OP is willing to fork out money for a whore than he'll get exactly what he deserves: string free secks with a professional.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Dawks]
#19335141 - 12/28/13 12:28 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Dawks said: If OP is willing to fork out money for a whore than he'll get exactly what he deserves: string free secks with a professional.
That's not what he's looking for though...
edit: Nvm I just got the message you were conveying.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Dawks]
#19335310 - 12/28/13 01:39 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Dawks said: No one is entitled to anything in life. You get what you get because you're lucky and you can only try your best on top of that. Something like 15% of the world's population are never even given the opportunity of learn to read and plenty more cant find adequete food and shelter for their families but we know that OP is entitled to true love, right?
The OP's post made him come across as awkward, self absorbed and self pitying. I wouldn't want to be intimate with someone like that and apparently neither does anyone else. Why exactly does the OP deserve intimacy? is simply being alive enough? what did he do to earn it? If anything his post is more of an indication as to why he does not deserve intimacy.
If OP is willing to fork out money for a whore than he'll get exactly what he deserves: string free secks with a professional.
Jesus, have some sympathy for others for fuck sake. This comes across as way more self centered and self absorbed than OP's post did. This is like saying "I have no sympathy for the fact that you got cancer because no one is entitled to a healthy life."
You're just using the word "entitlement" as an excuse for not giving a fuck about other people. The whole idea that OP "doesn't deserve intimacy" is amazingly self centered. You think you "deserve" intimacy? Who decides who "deserves" what? There isn't some universal standard about who "deserves" what. It's just an arbitrary judgment call on your part. Thinking that anyone "deserves" a shit life is almost sociopathic.
Stop making excuses for not giving a fuck about other people.
You feel entitled to things that you feel like you earned, but the idea that certain actions earned you an entitlement this or that is just an arbitrary judgment call on your part. You're even more entitled than OP.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Dawks]
#19335322 - 12/28/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Dawks said: What makes you the expert being happy and well adjusted. Let me guess, everyone who shares your core values is happy and well adjusted and everyone who has different values and beliefs is an unhappy deviant? How original 
You make a nice argument when you put words in my mouth bud Did I say anyone who pays for sex is an unhappy deviant? No. But again, in your opinion, do happy healthy well-adjusted people go out and buy hookers instead of working at real relationships? Most people would say no. This would be a completely different thread if OP came in here saying "Hey I'm bored of the dating scene and just want to have carefree sex with a pro, what do you guys think?"
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Lynnch said: Because it's a shame that anyone is that misled and confused. Because it's right in the OP, everyone deserves some intimacy. And in that same thread, everyone deserves the experience of yada yada hippie idealism
No one is entitled to anything in life. You get what you get because you're lucky and you can only try your best on top of that. blah blah blah negative insulting douchebaggery...
Ooh Entitlement, there's a loaded word. Again, not what I said. Being entitled is not the same as being deserving.
Love, Intimacy, and sex is obviously a big part of what it is to be human. None of us would be here if it weren't for that. Its such a core part of our existence, such a driving force behind much of what we do, that yes we all deserve to experience it. A little Love is just about the only thing we all unconditionally deserve. That's the whole point. OP thinks the only way he'll deserve it is to go out and pay money for it. That's not true. It's not a question of deserving it or not, it's of where and how to go to find it.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Lynnch]
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that guy is right though... awkward, self absorbed, and self pitying describes me perfectly. And like he said, why would anyone want to be intimate with someone like that? Personally, I wouldn't. I've been with a girl like that before. She's the only girl i've had sex with without paying for it, and I got so turned off by her attitude and depression and anxiety and obsession over me.... yet all those traits? That's like... almost a mirror image of mine.
So fucking sad. But anyway we are getting off topic. I am surprised to hear that you guys wouldn't look down on your friend if you found out he visits hookers? What if they aren't escorts, but streetwalkers? Would you look down on him then?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Lynnch]
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Lynnch said: If I found out my bro was regularly paying for sex to fill a void of human contact and intimacy I would tell him he has a problem.
You think paying for sex is a thing happy healthy well-adjusted people do on the regular?
It's not even the paying for sex that is wrong. It's the pretending that sex and human relation as a commodity is anything approaching the experience of actual intimacy.
you're making the assumption that that is their train of thought/emotion. you do realize there are [rare?] people who don't want/need connection? they can discern the lines of emotional connection and purely physical pleasure
if you are not able to do so, then fine, but don't tell me it's ["it"=your opinion] the only way things are.
how many people in 'loving, emotional/physical relationships' are really all that happy and healthy? and if they are, why is the rate of people "cheating" on others so high? did you ever think there are other kinds of "voids", as you say, to be fulfilled?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: demiu5]
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Jesus. OP Said:
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Anonymous said: Should i be feeling ashamed about this? Everyone needs and deserves intimacy, right? Maybe i shouldn't feel bad?
I'm not assuming anything; "pretending that sex and human relation as a commodity is anything approaching the experience of actual intimacy" has nothing to do with "people who don't want or need connection." Quit going off topic just so you can try to start an argument.
OP dude, it's good that you can recognize your own flaws, but beating yourself up over them and telling yourself you're undeserving of love does nothing to help you. You should be building yourself up out of the hole, not digging it deeper. What are your good traits? I would be really worried about any friend who was regularly picking up streetwalkers, that to me, would be an indication of sexual disfunction/problems relating to people. I'd also think he was an idiot for paying for a nasty version of something he could get for free.
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Lynnch said: If I found out my bro was regularly paying for sex to fill a void of human contact and intimacy I would tell him he has a problem.
You think paying for sex is a thing happy healthy well-adjusted people do on the regular?
It's not even the paying for sex that is wrong. It's the pretending that sex and human relation as a commodity is anything approaching the experience of actual intimacy.
you're making the assumption that that is their train of thought/emotion. you do realize there are [rare?] people who don't want/need connection? they can discern the lines of emotional connection and purely physical pleasure?
OP IS CLEARLY NOT ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE, THOUGH.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
#19337254 - 12/28/13 02:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, it would probably be healthier to separate prostitutes and emotions
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Whats there to feel ashamed about? One adult wants sexual contact and is willing to pay, another adult wants money and is okay with offering sexual contact. Who the fuck has the right to get in between that and say its 'wrong' and 'illegal'. Stupid as fuck and fuck anyone who thinks its okay to push their bullshit 'morality' on to other people when it has NOTHING to do with them.
Having prostitution illegal only serves to create way more societal harm than having it legal.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#19338212 - 12/28/13 06:44 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Many men with a GF or wife visit prostitutes on a regular basis, sometimes they don't get sex at home, so they pay for it.
To the OP, if only "losers" visited prostitutes, then why are highly successful men willing to pay top dollar ($5000-$10,000 per night) for high end escorts?
Just hire a whore and enjoy yourself, stop over thinking the whole thing.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: qman]
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qman said: Many men with a GF or wife visit prostitutes on a regular basis, sometimes they don't get sex at home, so they pay for it.
To the OP, if only "losers" visited prostitutes, then why are highly successful men willing to pay top dollar ($5000-$10,000 per night) for high end escorts?
Just hire a whore and enjoy yourself, stop over thinking the whole thing.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: AD420]
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Dont do it OP. Not worth risking the STD. If i were u just suck it up and do the hard thing: talk to people>make friends>network>have casual social experiences with women>date
Once youre in it its not that difficult. Once u hook up with a girl its a rewarding feeling. Once u bang a hooker u feel dirty and used. Hooker sex also sucks cause its completely void of passion. Its just a shitty experience u should spare your mind and body the hassle of. Be a human, be awkward like the rest of humans who wanna get laid and put yourself out there.
Start hitting the gym too
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#19346846 - 12/30/13 03:38 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: Whats there to feel ashamed about? One adult wants sexual contact and is willing to pay, another adult wants money and is okay with offering sexual contact. Who the fuck has the right to get in between that and say its 'wrong' and 'illegal'. Stupid as fuck and fuck anyone who thinks its okay to push their bullshit 'morality' on to other people when it has NOTHING to do with them.
Having prostitution illegal only serves to create way more societal harm than having it legal.
Just to make things clear, this thread is NOT about shaming anybody who is visiting prostitutes or whatever. I mean, it is to an extent, but this thread runs much deeper than that. Read back to the first post where OP is talking about desiring intimacy and deep relationships.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Anonymous #1]
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The thing that puts me off paying for sex apart from not being able to afford it, is that making a woman cum is my favorite part of sex, so I'd be paying to make a woman cum...
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its really not a big deal. just remember
ur paying them to leave after, not for sex
ive personally never banged a hooker but if i had some blow and a hooker i def would, like a hot hooker, more like an escort. not some meth addicted whore on the side of the road with no teeth lol. talkin high class escorts here lol
one of my homies raw dogged a stripper once lol
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usulpsychonaut said: The thing that puts me off paying for sex apart from not being able to afford it, is that making a woman cum is my favorite part of sex, so I'd be paying to make a woman cum...
What makes you think you could make a whore cum?
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usulpsychonaut said: The thing that puts me off paying for sex apart from not being able to afford it, is that making a woman cum is my favorite part of sex, so I'd be paying to make a woman cum...
What makes you think you could make a whore cum? 
What makes you think you couldn't? I've known escorts, and a lot of them were regular women with ordinary jobs (escorting was just a side thing for them). I'm sure they like to, and can cum as much as any other woman.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
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if i were in a predicament where i had to sell my ass for money i dont think i would enjoy it enough to cum....i'm selling my ass for money
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: lunarpiscean]
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lunarpiscean said: if i were in a predicament where i had to sell my ass for money i dont think i would enjoy it enough to cum....i'm selling my ass for money

Why not? If you end up getting a buyer who's hot and good in bed, why wouldn't you cum? I'm pretty certain you would get over any hangups about having sex for money pretty quickly, like with anything else.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
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guys who are willing to pay for ass lose all appeal for me....because well...they're willing to pay for ass...
maybe the sex trade just doesnt appeal to me.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: lunarpiscean]
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lunarpiscean said: guys who are willing to pay for ass lose all appeal for me....because well...they're willing to pay for ass...
Guys who pay for sex lose appeal to me, but it's only because I realize how ignorant they are about political issues such as sex trafficking. The worst are the men who are aware of these issues, yet choose to remain ignorant by seeking out these services anyway. I would consider a guy who has paid for sex in the past, only if he was highly conscientious about making informed choices, by deliberately seeking out women who had no chance of being trafficked, or taken advantage of in some way.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Bassfreak]
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Bassfreak said: jesus christ 
Try using your words. What's your issue here?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
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lunarpiscean said: guys who are willing to pay for ass lose all appeal for me....because well...they're willing to pay for ass...
Guys who pay for sex lose appeal to me, but it's only because I realize how ignorant they are about political issues such as sex trafficking. The worst are the men who are aware of these issues, yet choose to remain ignorant by seeking out these services anyway. I would consider a guy who has paid for sex in the past, only if he was highly conscientious about making informed choices, by deliberately seeking out women who had no chance of being trafficked, or taken advantage of in some way.
Do you do the same when buying a crack rock? Do you make sure everything you buy wasn't made in a sweatshop? That the meat you're eating wasn't produced in a factory-farm?
Where do we stop?
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Try using your words. What's your issue here?
crystal G blabbering about sex trafficking

Uhm, as somebody who used to work in a strip club, if anything, this makes me MORE aware of the issues that women face in the sex industry more than the average person.
Just admit it, you won't STFU because I called you out and made you a little bitch in your stupid thread that got deleted in the Pub.
Do I come and follow your posts to try to discredit everything you say, simply because I disagree with you? No, I don't do that kind of thing, because I am smarter than you.
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lunarpiscean said: guys who are willing to pay for ass lose all appeal for me....because well...they're willing to pay for ass...
Guys who pay for sex lose appeal to me, but it's only because I realize how ignorant they are about political issues such as sex trafficking. The worst are the men who are aware of these issues, yet choose to remain ignorant by seeking out these services anyway. I would consider a guy who has paid for sex in the past, only if he was highly conscientious about making informed choices, by deliberately seeking out women who had no chance of being trafficked, or taken advantage of in some way.
Do you do the same when buying a crack rock? Do you make sure everything you buy wasn't made in a sweatshop? That the meat you're eating wasn't produced in a factory-farm?
Where do we stop?

I do not view buying things such as clothes or eating meat as tantamount to buying sex. Because simply put, even though you can TRY YOUR BEST to make conscientious choices with food and commercial products, you cannot escape buying from these sources every now and then. After all, EVERYBODY has to eat. EVERYBODY needs things like clothes and toilet paper. However, you do not NEED to have sex with a bunch of people, in the same way that you need to eat and buy groceries and necessities.
Simply put, you CHOOSE to have sex with all those people. You do not NEED to buy that $20 crack whore on the streets of Compton. You do not NEED to buy those 16 year old prostitute in Thailand. Whereas eating and buying necessities, you don't have a CHOICE in doing those things, you HAVE to do those things. The two actions are not even remotely or closely related, like at all.
And with things like food and necessities, you can THINK that you are making informed choices, when you might really not be. For example, you might buy organic food at Trader Joe's, and think that you are reducing factory farming by buying this type of food. But that organic food company could be owned by the same company that runs factory farms. (e.g., Chipotle, that "organic, cruelty-free" fast food chain is owned by the same company that operates Burger King.)
Also, that organic food company could be using techniques that barely fit the legal definition of "organic" or "humane," just so it can be certified and labeled "organic" or "cruelty-free," when it really might not be that far above factory farming. Or you might THINK that you are buying expensive Italian suits, but really they could be manufactured and mass-produced somewhere in Thailand or China, you just don't know about it. That is why even when you are making informed choices with mass-produced goods and food, you still might not be able to escape making good choices.
But yes, I do view corporate over-consumerism and commodity worshipping to be just as bad, and I would not want to be with somebody who was obsessed with buying luxury items either. I would also not date a man who is completely politically stupid and asinine about how the world works. Call me crazy, but as I've gotten older, I've found myself far more attracted to intelligence and conscientiousness. I view the man who buys trafficked sex workers to be just as bad as the man who buys three Lamborghinis instead of paying his workers a livable wage, because he has no sense and doesn't know how to spend money for the benefit of society. Why on earth would I want to date somebody like that, when their values are so different from mine?
Your comparison to drug use, is far more relatable to the sex industry than your comparison to foods and commodities. Because much like buying sex, you do not NEED to buy drugs (although you might strongly think that you need to while you are an addict). Buying drugs, much like buying sex, is a luxury and a commodity that people have endured hardships over the sale and trafficking of. Although at the very least, in the case of drug addicts, they still somewhat have an EXCUSE for why they continuously have to keep coming back to the drugs, even though they may very well despise their own behavior and usage. It is because their body and mind feels like it needs is, and feels excruciatingly in agony without it.
Somebody did call me out on my drug use, back when I was working for a human rights group. Said that I was completely hypocritical that I was doing philanthropic human rights activist work while I was giving money to the illicit drug trade. And it really made me view my life completely differently. I am sure that in my life, yes, I have donated tons of money to gangs and mafia due to my drug addiction. And that does make me a terrible person, and I can completely understand why somebody would despise me and not want to be with me for that reason.
Part of the huge reason I stopped doing drugs, except for pharmaceuticals lately. Pharmaceuticals go from doctor to patient, usually a suburban patient, who then sells it to me. Very little conflict when you buy pharmaceuticals. Lately the only drugs I'll ever do anymore are roxies. And even those I eventually stopped doing, because I kept feeling like the dealer was taking advantage of me, and deliberately trying to get me hooked on them just so he could profit off me. We don't like to admit it on this forum, but the drug industry is a damn shady business, even the semi-legal drug businesses.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
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LOL you called me out?
please elaborate
and you smarter than me?
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
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You pretty much summed up my point in a few different ways, on any level there's only so much a consumer can do. If one is going to pick up a hooker, trying to figure out who's a sex slave and who's not would be an impractical exercise
Factory farming is a much bigger issue to me, eating meat is as voluntary as picking up a hooker and the torture animals go through growing up and being slaughtered in that environment is hellish beyond comprehension.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Crystal G]
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Somebody did call me out on my drug use, back when I was working for a human rights group. Said that I was completely hypocritical that I was doing philanthropic human rights activist work while I was giving money to the illicit drug trade. And it really made me view my life completely differently. I am sure that in my life, yes, I have donated tons of money to gangs and mafia due to my drug addiction. And that does make me a terrible person, and I can completely understand why somebody would despise me and not want to be with me for that reason.
Part of the huge reason I stopped doing drugs, except for pharmaceuticals lately. Pharmaceuticals go from doctor to patient, usually a suburban patient, who then sells it to me. Very little conflict when you buy pharmaceuticals. Lately the only drugs I'll ever do anymore are roxies. And even those I eventually stopped doing, because I kept feeling like the dealer was taking advantage of me, and deliberately trying to get me hooked on them just so he could profit off me. We don't like to admit it on this forum, but the drug industry is a damn shady business, even the semi-legal drug businesses.
That's at the fault of prohibition, when prohibition is repealed those same industries will have to take their assets into another business. The Mafia moved a lot of their assets into gambling post alcohol-prohibition, albeit there's still racketeering and all that.
Being who I am and having done a lot of shady things in the past, my conscious isn't marred by dealing with shady people. The underground isn't as ugly as what one can see of the oligarchy from a distant distance, and there's an element of freedom it grants which I appreciate poetically as well as practically. Humans are strange beasts
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Repertoire89 said: You pretty much summed up my point in a few different ways, on any level there's only so much a consumer can do. If one is going to pick up a hooker, trying to figure out who's a sex slave and who's not would be an impractical exercise
That is completely false. You might not be able to figure out 100% of the time, definitely, but you can definitely make logical assumptions.
Take for example, two different stories that my friend told me. I have one friend who is in the military, who is also very politically cognizant and conscious about the decisions he makes in society. He does buy prostitutes, but he ensures that he goes to places where they are not trafficked or exploited. So for example, one place he likes to pick them up, is a strip club. It is highly, highly unlikely that your average woman at a strip club is there involuntarily.
Now, compare this with the story that my other friend told me. He and his friend were drunk in Thailand, and asked the cabby to take them to a brothel. The cab driver drove about 30 minutes to the middle of nowhere, and took them to a WOMEN'S PRISON (literally a prison, all fenced in with bars, with police officers and security guards and shit), where they had all the female prisoners line up so that the customers could choose to have sex with them. You think any of them wanted to have sex voluntarily? You think any of them were even getting PAID to have sex?
So, even when it comes to the sex industry, you have the choice to make a wise one or a bad one.
And, the other thing to bear in mind, is that if you are buying a hooker specifically in a third world country, even if she specifically hasn't been trafficked BY FORCE, you have to bear in mind that the only reason women in those countries voluntarily go into prostitution is because they are heavily socioeconomically disadvantaged and uneducated. So, in that sense, she is still being exploited, and being taken advantage of. By buying a prostitute in a place like Thailand, even if she was not forced physically into her job, you as a consumer are still exploiting and taking advantage of her destitution and desperation to avoid going hungry. It is a specific type of exploitation that is much more avoidable in the USA.
With escorts in first-world countries, it is not necessarily always like that. Some escorts in this country have university degrees, some even have graduate degrees, they simply want to make fast and easy cash in a short period of time while working another job that maybe pays only $30 an hour or less. One of the escorts that I knew had a college degree, and her main job was a registered nurse. She simply found it easier to make $300 in 1 hour, since that would give her a lot more free time. As opposed to working a full-time job, she could work 25 hours as a nurse and then make the same pay with only a couple hours of sex work. Then there's high-class escorts, such as the one that NY governor got caught having an affair with--she was supposedly studying for her master's degree in something. So, even sex workers in this country can be educated with good careers. Avoiding exploitation is absolutely do-able.
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Factory farming is a much bigger issue to me, eating meat is as voluntary as picking up a hooker and the torture animals go through growing up and being slaughtered in that environment is hellish beyond comprehension.
I actually disagree that vegetarianism is any less harmful to animals than eating meat. For example, agriculture is inherently destructive and requires constant expansion, which destroys the natural habitat of wild animals as well as numerous animal species. You can escape farming by consuming only fish and seafood, but then of course you run into another entirely new problem, which is that you risk wiping out entire species in the ocean. The fact of life is that if you are a human, you are going to destroy some part of the environmental ecosystem or life form in one way or another, that is something you simply cannot escape.
Additionally, while you CAN choose to forgo eating meat and all animal byproducts, there is strong debate among nutritionalists over whether a vegan lifestyle is truly healthy. After all, if you want to reduce factory farming, simply being vegetarian wouldn't be good enough, you would probably have to be vegan, since chickens and cows are kept in terrible conditions for their eggs and milk. So, by forgoing meat and all animal byproducts, it comes at a risk to your health, which again is why it's not as comparable as buying sex, which is a luxury and not a necessity.
That said, in the future, there will likely be lab-grown meat available in the future. And when that day comes, you can bet your ass that I will be buying the cruelty-free brand.
Edit: But, I have no idea why you consider factory farming to be a bigger issue than sexual slavery?? The suffering, poverty, and hunger of humans is far more important than the suffering of any animal. I would personally shoot and kill 10 animals if it meant saving 1 human, unless that person was some awful, terrible rapist or murderer or exploiter of people (such as one of those human traffickers, or Mexican mafia head of drug cartel, or head of corporation running slave factories) or something. Those people can just die as far as I'm concerned. The world doesn't need people like them.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Repertoire89]
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Repertoire89 said: That's at the fault of prohibition, when prohibition is repealed those same industries will have to take their assets into another business. The Mafia moved a lot of their assets into gambling post alcohol-prohibition, albeit there's still racketeering and all that.
Being who I am and having done a lot of shady things in the past, my conscious isn't marred by dealing with shady people. The underground isn't as ugly as what one can see of the oligarchy from a distant distance, and there's an element of freedom it grants which I appreciate poetically as well as practically. Humans are strange beasts

The prohibition issue actually runs a little deeper than what most people claim. A lot of people think that by making something legal, it instantly revokes any of the ramifications of the black market, but this is not necessarily true. For example, even in Amsterdam where prostitution is legal, women are sometimes still trafficked, usually from Russia or Eastern Europe. The problem is, that because these women do not retain any legal citizenship status in Holland, they fear deportation if they were to come out and report their exploitation. So the problem is actually not just about legal/illegal actions, it is also about right to work and legal residence/citizenship issues as well.
You mentioned gambling. Well, gambling used to be completely legal, yet who profited the most from gambling? It was the mafia. It wasn't until the 1980's that the FBI raided all those casinos and finally captured the mafia, that the gambling industry became owned by "legitimate" business-owners. This means, that even when something is "legal," the mafia is still able to profit from these industries.
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There is NOTHING wrong with visiting prostitutes, and it always makes me mad when people say otherwise. Prostitutes are real people, with real lives and real stories. A woman becomes a prostitute to support herself or those she loves, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. And there is absolutly nothing wrong with supporting these women either.
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Go to a bar. Drink a shit load of tequila. Find a woman who's there by herself, really drunk, or any woman that looks like she has low self esteem. Strike up a conversation, make her laugh, bitch about your job, tell her she's pretty, offer to buy her a drink.. You'll find things to make conversation if you're drinking fun stuff. The bar tab will cost about as much as a hooker, but its more fun and you're hopefully not banging some woman 5 other guys already had that day. Maybe you'll meet a friend, and its practice for meeting quality women later.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Janna]
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Janna said: There is NOTHING wrong with visiting prostitutes, and it always makes me mad when people say otherwise. Prostitutes are real people, with real lives and real stories. A woman becomes a prostitute to support herself or those she loves, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. And there is absolutly nothing wrong with supporting these women either.
There's something wrong with it for the guy, in my opinion. It's degrading, to an extent.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: s240779]
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I visited a prostitute because I was mentally ill and still a virgin at 23 or so. Being mentally ill you can't even hold down friends let alone girlfriends. I actually told the chick I was a virgin, kind of in front of the other prostitutes before we went into the room, because honestly I was kinda nervous and not paying attention, just wanted her not to expect me to launch into it... And when I got out of there and went past the other prostitutes again they were all smiling really kindly at me, it was awesome. It was my little rite of passage finally complete, and they were glad for me I guess. Even the receptionist had this huge grin.
For some reason when I told these friends I sorta used to have they laughed and seemed to try to mock me a bit, try and get more info like how much I paid etc. I guess if I was mentally healthy and I went to a prostitute to lose my virginity it would be a bit of a drop in class, but I was fucking insane so I feel zero shame. I guess in their culture it must be really funny or something. They didn't hate me afterwards or anything but I think that helped us lose contact later.
I feel I shouldn't go telling any decent chicks, especially really classy, self-respecting ones. I had a great excuse but still I think a quality woman would dump you right there.
I wouldn't judge anyone that did it personally. I wouldn't care at all. So you needed sex, so you had to pay for it. But the culture is always setting standards for behaviour, usually pretty arbitrarily, so you might find if you're a real socialite that you wouldn't want to talk about it.
If you can't speak to women and all that, especially since there's a lot of friendly self-respecting women out there, there's a bit of an issue. Could be mental health, some anxiety, depression, phobia. I used to make excuses, feel afraid, etc. but now I realise it's a real issue if you're like that. Specifically me for me it was schizophrenia making me like that. No matter how hard I tried I just caved in under pressure. There was no 'working at it'.
You might want to seek some kind of help with dealing with women if you're not terribly mentally ill. You should be able to work at the issue and get somewhere.
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circastes said: I visited a prostitute because I was mentally ill and still a virgin at 23 or so. Being mentally ill you can't even hold down friends let alone girlfriends. I actually told the chick I was a virgin, kind of in front of the other prostitutes before we went into the room, because honestly I was kinda nervous and not paying attention, just wanted her not to expect me to launch into it... And when I got out of there and went past the other prostitutes again they were all smiling really kindly at me, it was awesome. It was my little rite of passage finally complete, and they were glad for me I guess. Even the receptionist had this huge grin.
What kind of a place was this and what was their ethnicity, just out of curiosity?
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Janna said: There is NOTHING wrong with visiting prostitutes, and it always makes me mad when people say otherwise. Prostitutes are real people, with real lives and real stories. A woman becomes a prostitute to support herself or those she loves, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. And there is absolutly nothing wrong with supporting these women either.
There's nothing wrong with BEING a prostitute, ill agree with you on that definitely. However, to say there is nothing wrong with visiting prostitutes 100% of the time (such as the thai jailhouse example I gave earlier), or that there is nothing wrong with HOW the industry works makes me realize you are not politically cognizant or aware of human rights issues.
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circastes said: I visited a prostitute because I was mentally ill and still a virgin at 23 or so. Being mentally ill you can't even hold down friends let alone girlfriends. I actually told the chick I was a virgin, kind of in front of the other prostitutes before we went into the room, because honestly I was kinda nervous and not paying attention, just wanted her not to expect me to launch into it... And when I got out of there and went past the other prostitutes again they were all smiling really kindly at me, it was awesome. It was my little rite of passage finally complete, and they were glad for me I guess. Even the receptionist had this huge grin.
What kind of a place was this and what was their ethnicity, just out of curiosity?
It was actually a pretty expensive place in the CBD of Melbourne, Australia. The room had a spa, shower and the bed/lounge was this big semi circle, the place was hella expensive looking. The girl was Romanian/white. Blonde, brown eyes I think, tall, skinny, and pretty damn hot.
I don't want to go into how much it cost me because it's a bit embarrassing but another little way out for me here is that being mentally ill the government was giving me a lot of money and I wasn't working, so basically the taxpayers paid for my stylish little virginity extinguishment.
I wasn't going to go to some cheap place. I did have some self-respect.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: circastes]
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I would feel much more comfortable saying that I visit a prostitute who gets checked for STDs on the regular than saying that I go to the bar to pick up random women.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Hobozen]
#19376807 - 01/06/14 11:06 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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Me personally I don't understand where the gratification comes from if you have to pay for it.
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Hobozen

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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: SeaShrooms]
#19376965 - 01/06/14 11:40 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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The gratification for me comes from the fact that I can have sex with an unbelievably beautiful asian woman who also seems to take pleasure in the sexual exchange. This just wouldnt happen otherwise. I dont let our stuck up cultural norms sway my enjoyment here. Plus, whose to say I cant be friends with my hookers.
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Hobozen] 2
#19376973 - 01/06/14 11:42 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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i visit prostitutes just so i can keep the sex trafficking business alive
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Repertoire89
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Bassfreak]
#19376986 - 01/06/14 11:45 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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Bassfreak said: i visit prostitutes just so i can keep the sex trafficking business alive
I'd +5 you for this but I've opted out
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Bassfreak]
#19376987 - 01/06/14 11:46 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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People are so fuckin straight edged these days. If its illegal it must be wrong. Were born to be tools nowadays.
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Bassfreak
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Repertoire89]
#19376998 - 01/06/14 11:50 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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Quote:
Repertoire89 said:
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Bassfreak said: i visit prostitutes just so i can keep the sex trafficking business alive
I'd +5 you for this but I've opted out
eh dont opt out
i think a lot of the ratings i get are hilarious. but since i got back from my 6 month ban ive had to tone myself down a bit to stay unbanned. so ive lacked funny ratings, but still. its funny how serious some people take the internetz
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Bassfreak]
#19377013 - 01/06/14 11:54 AM (10 years, 24 days ago) |
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dont opt out, dont visit hookers, same shit different pile
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: circastes]
#19392439 - 01/09/14 06:37 AM (10 years, 22 days ago) |
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circastes, don't bother justifying yourself about using the service of prostitutes to anyone. Enjoy it.
I know I do!
Love the cheap Asian brothels here in Australia.
It's a power imbalance that a woman can lay there, get banged and earn more than you do in a day than you would in a week.
Feminism is so biased.
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Beanhead
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Hobozen]
#19392862 - 01/09/14 09:48 AM (10 years, 21 days ago) |
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blankk said: The gratification for me comes from the fact that I can have sex with an unbelievably beautiful asian woman who also seems to take pleasure in the sexual exchange. This just wouldnt happen otherwise. I dont let our stuck up cultural norms sway my enjoyment here. Plus, whose to say I cant be friends with my hookers.
I know right? Where else am I going to find these shibaru lovers 

Other then visiting mistresses for a certain niche I don't think i'd pay for a prostitute. The build-up towards an orgasm is far more exciting then the orgasm itself and knowing these women are professionals... 
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Re: is it ok to visit prostitutes? [Re: Beanhead]
#19401416 - 01/10/14 10:12 PM (10 years, 20 days ago) |
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To op: It depends on what your definition of intimacy is. It's true that just being with someone and sharing a conversation or exchange is intimacy. Sex is also a form of intimacy, and love can be a form as well. Morality aside, you seem to be struggling with self-image issues among your moral standpoint on prostitution. Those issues may be a blockage for your socializing with other people. Socializing with new people can be hard when you haven't done it for a while. The longer you go without doing it, the more the fear grows in facing the change. But change comes with benefits if you keep at it. Like a self-imposed molting of yourself into a new, shiner skin more to your liking. The prostitutes and visiting/viewing them could be seen as a "safe" route to love and/or intimacy. This could also play into them being so tempting and alluring outside of other people. Asking yourself why they are so tempting to you may reveal some answers.
I believe that prostitution should be legal, and I believe this because then you can remove the legal barriers that prevent working girls from getting the medical/mental/moral support that they need. I also think that as quoted before that prostitution is similar to drugs in that you do not really know where the money is going, or what is going to be done with that money. There is an illegal side to everything in the world simply because there will always be people who don't want to follow rules and guidelines to things imposed in society. But, people, men and women, seek out sex workers for various reasons, and just because they are in it for various reasons they should not be condemned. You don't blame a homeless person for using discarded cardboard to make a shelter with when it's cold, do you? I believe people love and lust for many reasons. Some people want to exchange money for that lust. I think that the people who Willingly want to make that exchange should be allowed to without scrutiny and shame.
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SeaShrooms
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I know a lot of street workers in NYC, they are fine people, just know they make fun of you when you leave.
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