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JPDancer
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her facebook no longer says in a relationship. FUCK IM SCARED NOW
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: JPDancer]
#19351405 - 12/31/13 02:45 PM (10 years, 30 days ago) |
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Hopefully that means you're up. Just remember to stamp your name into that pussy. You really gotta get it
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JPDancer
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: Big_Dave]
#19351450 - 12/31/13 02:55 PM (10 years, 30 days ago) |
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Whelp, contact initiated. We'll see how this goes. I was gonna try to wait til after new years to be all independent and stuffs, but now? 
Of course I found out she broke up with him by looking at her FB page so I have to tip toe around that not to sound like a fucking creeper who was just waiting to pounce. I mean I did see it coming, I don't know if I expected it so soon but yeah.. now I have to just make the transition to look we get along so well and are so comfortable and honest around eachother and now we can continue doing that, but we can touch eachothers naughty places too
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JPDancer
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: JPDancer]
#19374253 - 01/05/14 06:35 PM (10 years, 25 days ago) |
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LOL so...
I thought she had broken up with her boyfriend but apparently she just removed her relationship information from showing up right on her main page or whatever? who does that?
So I told her we were chilling saturday, yesterday, a few days beforehand and she was down. I decided to try and keep it casual by including a good friend into the evening who gets along with everybody. the plan was to meet at friends house, let them smoke up (I don't smoke anymore), go to hookah bar and chill, go grab grub someplace quick like chipotle or chick fila, and then head over to a larger party type gathering for the eagles playoff game, so lots of people, booze, and pot.
Hookah bar was chill. I sat on a seperate seat from her, kept it casual. But like when she needed to go up front to look at the muffins available, she neeeeded me to go with her. So like I kinda felt like her man, needing me to go do shit or something I dno. ended up ordering all our food there instead(fckin stoners!) but it was a general chill decent time.
Got to the party and she just kinda chilled in the back and smoked and chatted with a few of the people not into the game, like me. Spent alot of time on her phone playing games. She was texting somebody at one point and I asked who and she said my boyfriend. I had been under the impression the entire evening til then that it had ended. So I was bummed for a bit but still just enjoyed myself talked to alot of old pals there.
So I don't smoke anymore because it magnifies my social anxiety, which can sometimes multiply in too pure paranoia and panic attacks. But I somehow came to the conclusion, drinking heartily, that if I was gonna be able to smoke around anybody, it would be her and the friend I brought the whole night. Both people I don't play games around, I feel like I can just be me( and that's why I like her so much!).
So I take a hit of the blunt right before I leave, having already told them both like ok I'm gonna smoke tonight and then let's go be high at steves house. So during the car ride home it hit's me. I don't know what I was freaking out about but I was, and I was actually able to voice it aloud because I didn't want to hide anything from these people. So we get back to steves and he starts cooking some food, while I'm on the counter rambling about how this was a bad idea. And then finally I hit this point where I'm just busting up laughing, I had expressed my concerns and concquered my fear and I was just chillin(but not chillin, i was on a fucking rocket ship!).
So everything was good again, steve put on some jerry garcia band and I pranced around and danced in my long underwear. Good shit I knew if somebody would be good to smoke around it would be these 2 beautiful souls. Then we all scarfed down our food, and they were ready to go to bed. It was like 3 am. Uhh one problem, I'm on cloud fucking nine.
So Steve went to his room and I start guilt tripping her for wanting to go to sleep. "dude cmon, you wanted to smoke with me and now I'm high as fuckin hell and your just gonna crash?!". And I'm getting nowhere and so at some point I reveal my crush and she's like oh no guys always do this and then I just have to cut them out of my life and it sucks. and I'm like shit, but I already opened pandoras fucking box to I keep plowing on to tell her some of the things I thought about her relationship, she gets really mad, pretends to be asleep, night over.
In the morning we talk about it a little, and after that our natural easiness around eachother is back. I guess I'd rather have her as a friend then just gone, so that's what I'm gonna aim for at this moment. I texted her once after dropping her off today, saying how i had a MOSTLY good time and hopes she at least had some fun as well(and she did), but I think I'm gonna lay off contacting her for at least a week give her some breathing space and myself as well. Need to find someplace else to aim my affections for this moment in time
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: JPDancer]
#19374283 - 01/05/14 06:43 PM (10 years, 25 days ago) |
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If she's not married, and they're not living together, she's single. There's no reason you should feel guilty seeing her romantically or as a friend.
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pwnasaurus
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: sprinkles]
#19374525 - 01/05/14 07:46 PM (10 years, 25 days ago) |
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Quote:
sprinkles said: If she's not married, and they're not living together, she's single. There's no reason you should feel guilty seeing her romantically or as a friend.
Actually she has a boyfriend. Sounds like you missed reading that. Or do you seriously consider that only marriage constitutes a relationship?
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JPDancer
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19374530 - 01/05/14 07:48 PM (10 years, 25 days ago) |
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Yeah I mean I guess I understand the viewpoint he's trying to put across, but I don't exactly agree
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Re: Girl with a boyfirend? what do [Re: JPDancer]
#19374701 - 01/05/14 08:36 PM (10 years, 25 days ago) |
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I can't say I understand it at all. Just be honest. If you are OK violating people's relationships then go ahead and do it. Don't try to give yourself some moral high ground by pretending they're single though .
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