|
EDM
Stranger


Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 856
Last seen: 5 years, 6 months
|
How did you cope with losing a loved one?
#19329986 - 12/26/13 06:25 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
My diabetic brother died at 31. He was a half brother and had a very rough life growing up and within the last two years he has become blind partially due to not keeping up with his insulin. Found in a fucking motel room. A god damn motel room. Toxicology report wont come in for a few more weeks(he did dabble in drugs). I am guessing it was his diabetes though. They are still looking for the girl who rented out the motel room with him, she is younger and probably freaked when he either had a seizure or found him dead.
I just want to know how you handled losing a close relative or friend. I am killing myself inside knowing that I should of spent more time with him when I was in Florida back in March. I always looked up to him, he had such a great attitude about things. At least now I know what it feels like to lose someone you love. He wanted to take a picture with me, I had to catch a plane and figured "ill see you again". yea. great fucking choice on my side. You take shit for granted and you receive pain. It hurts. It hurts so damn much.
-------------------- Yahweh is lying to you... I will show you the way. Trust me.
|
404
error


Registered: 08/20/10
Posts: 14,539
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: EDM]
#19330013 - 12/26/13 06:31 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
ive lost some souls that were close to me, it hurts real bad at first but then the open wound starts to close. i dont really cope with death of people and beings that are close to me, i just ride it out till the pain is not as bad. I hope he didn't suffer long, and i'm sure his spirit has moved on to the next chapter.
try not to dwell on it so much, the more you can occupy your mind the better... but sometimes you will just need to cry it out. i sincerely hope you feel better.
|
EDM
Stranger


Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 856
Last seen: 5 years, 6 months
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: 404]
#19330053 - 12/26/13 06:38 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Thank you for that reply. I do not believe in any after life so all I can think is that he is gone forever. I can never hear his voice again or call him. Its like done. fuck. Ride it out until the pain is not as bad... Sounds like there is always going be some pain, lesser pain sounds good though. Thanks.
-------------------- Yahweh is lying to you... I will show you the way. Trust me.
|
404
error


Registered: 08/20/10
Posts: 14,539
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: EDM]
#19330134 - 12/26/13 07:07 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I personally think that the body is just a vessel.
anwya, pain is inevitable, your attatchement to it governs your suffering.
|
chicksgrowtoo


Registered: 12/01/13
Posts: 3,422
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? *DELETED* [Re: EDM]
#19330303 - 12/26/13 07:49 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Post deleted by chicksgrowtooReason for deletion: Z
|
EDM
Stranger


Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 856
Last seen: 5 years, 6 months
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
#19330810 - 12/26/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Thank you for your story. I am mentally hurt hearing that. So sorry.
-------------------- Yahweh is lying to you... I will show you the way. Trust me.
|
Jack yo Self foo
The Artful Dodger



Registered: 06/28/08
Posts: 3,096
Loc: Where the red fern grows....
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: EDM]
#19330999 - 12/26/13 10:51 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
opiates...lots of opiates
was comatose from beginning to end...if i had a chance to do it again i'd...well i dunno...
good luck to you
you cope however you can i suppose
-------------------- You learn something new everyday, so be sure you learn something from it.
|
404
error


Registered: 08/20/10
Posts: 14,539
|
|
doing tons of opiates is a horrible way to deal with problems. it just creates more.
|
EDM
Stranger


Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 856
Last seen: 5 years, 6 months
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: 404]
#19331315 - 12/27/13 12:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
stateofmind404 thank you again for your reply. Jacksonian opiates is not the way in my opinion. Then again I have been drinking myself to death. I have seen my one and only other brother lose practically everything to the presc pills. Its fucking pathetic. Me drinking myself to stupid is pretty dumb as well. Yea. It sucks. really does.
-------------------- Yahweh is lying to you... I will show you the way. Trust me.
|
Pureless
Crushed it


Registered: 07/16/12
Posts: 1,979
Loc: Blueridge
Last seen: 8 years, 11 months
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: EDM]
#19332175 - 12/27/13 08:55 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I at one point coped with death in a foolish manner. Drinking incessantly after it initially happened. The only way I found to deal with death properly is to let your mind comprehend and accept it. grieve and ultimately understand the death. I had to face the reality of the situation before I could even catch a glimpse of the light at the end of the tunnel. No amount of "keeping myself busy" helped me. It simply took lots of painful time and memories to get over the event. Although everyone deals with grief in vastly different ways. Drinking or drugging will never help.
|
EDM
Stranger


Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 856
Last seen: 5 years, 6 months
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: Pureless]
#19333149 - 12/27/13 02:10 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
That is what I am worried about. My head has been spinning since I found out. I am not sure if it is from the serious drinking that I have been doing or the sadness. I have been waking up drunk. I am a hypocrite to the opiate reply because here I am, drinking. Drinking to just forget life right now. I can't even make coherent thoughts. Its fucking pathetic. Thank you for your reply Pureless.
-------------------- Yahweh is lying to you... I will show you the way. Trust me.
|
redgreenvines
irregular verb


Registered: 04/08/04
Posts: 37,534
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: EDM]
#19333483 - 12/27/13 03:58 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
I heard a recording by Martín Prechtel called Grief and Praise
I find it a valuable thing
I lost my brother 10 years ago
--------------------
_ 🧠 _
|
TheFakeSunRa
Bitch Splitter



Registered: 03/01/05
Posts: 16,449
Loc: Dirdy SOUF
|
Re: How did you cope with losing a loved one? [Re: EDM]
#19333743 - 12/27/13 05:26 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
|
|
Time
But you still get sad even after many years
-------------------- [quote]Asante said: You constantly make posts thatr fling middle school insults at people you don't like mixed in with maladjusted psychopathic comments about wanting to beat up the other poster with a crowbar. You know how shit you are, you just don't give a fuck for precisely that reason. I disendorse you.[/quote]
|
|