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Deprived of of cuddles.....
#19305024 - 12/20/13 08:30 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's been over 7 years since I've had any cuddles or physical contact with a person, other than a handshake or casual hug.
Shit's depressing as fuck...
One of my favorite aspects of the human experience is becoming enveloped in the warm & fuzzy feeling that permeates every bit of me, that I get when cuddled with a lady. It's like the epitome of being content, every fabric of my being is washed over with serene-bliss.
Having been in a 4 year relationship and having my fair share of cuddles when I was in my early 20s, I know how incredible and nourishing a simple cuddle session is to my soul...that takes me higher in ways no drug ever could.
Don't even know the point to this thread....anyone else get high as fuck off cuddles? Those of you that get the cuddles frequently, embrace that shit, you have no idea how lucky you are.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: openmind] 1
#19305382 - 12/20/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yep. I really long for that kind of contact, but it just seems to become more and more elusive the more desperately I want/need it. I think I'd be better off with a dog - they don't have fucked up issues like people do. Imagine rolling with people and nobody's even touching anybody - that is serious uptight.
I'm having a hard enough time just knowing people who I can have a conversation with.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: koods]
#19305416 - 12/20/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's one of the biggest reasons I feel lonely. I miss the cuddles
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: Rhizohunter]
#19305423 - 12/20/13 10:14 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Honestly, right now I could just go for a stupid conversation. I'm pretty much on my own for the next couple weeks.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: Rhizohunter]
#19305509 - 12/20/13 10:38 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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koods said: Yep. I really long for that kind of contact, but it just seems to become more and more elusive the more desperately I want/need it. I think I'd be better off with a dog - they don't have fucked up issues like people do. Imagine rolling with people and nobody's even touching anybody - that is serious uptight.
I'm having a hard enough time just knowing people who I can have a conversation with.
I've kinda taken a break from caring about it, or feeling like I really want/need it, it wasn't something that was at the forefront of my thoughts....But it's starting to eat at me in recent times. Usually this time of year as well.
And what do you mean rolling where no one is touching each other? As in you've rolled with folks where everyone was that up tight that no one was getting cuddly or touchy?
"I'm having a hard enough time just knowing people who I can have a conversation with."
I know how that goes all to well. I don't have anyone in my life to have genuine hearty conversation with. There are many days where I literally don't even speak a word, today has been one of them. Always stuck in this head of mine, so much I want to pour out but nothing to pour it into besides this here keyboard.
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Rhizohunter said: That's one of the biggest reasons I feel lonely. I miss the cuddles:(
For me it's a combination of having no one to really talk to or really clicking and meshing with, even feeling isolated when around the few friends/acquaintances I have.
The lack of cuddles, and the lack of even just casual interaction with a lady, is only salt poured on top of that.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: openmind]
#19305546 - 12/20/13 10:48 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am lacking in all sorts of departments since my psychosis. I am having trouble communicating with people to a massive degree. It's like I am feeling negative emotions in the room and I feel out of place everywhere I go.
I've been isolating myself for the most part. When I'm not around people it makes things easy, but it sucks because I am craving that person who I can connect with.
I got a couple counselors who seem pretty cool at least.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: openmind]
#19305568 - 12/20/13 10:54 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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And what do you mean rolling where no one is touching each other? As in you've rolled with folks where everyone was that up tight that no one was getting cuddly or touchy?
That's what I'm saying. Who knew it was even possible. But, I don't have anyone to roll with now, so I guess beggars shouldn't be choosers.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: openmind]
#19305580 - 12/20/13 10:56 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've never had a girlfriend I'm always longing for that kind physical connection, sometimes more than intercourse.
I've cuddled with my sisters, but that's obviously very different and less intimate, although I will say that it's comforting.
I've always imagined cuddling with a lover to feel much as you described.
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I never had problems connecting with people before. I'm worried that I've fallen too far to one side of the bell curve, and there's no getting back to normal. People sense the damage and shun you, which just does more damage. My experience with trying to come out of my shell has not gone well,
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psychoanomaly said: I've never had a girlfriend I'm always longing for that kind physical connection, sometimes more than intercourse.
I've cuddled with my sisters, but that's obviously very different and less intimate, although I will say that it's comforting.
I've always imagined cuddling with a lover to feel much as you described.
You're pretty young, aren't you? I'm just saying that I remember thinking if I can't find someone by the time I'm 20, then my life is over. In hindsight, it hadn't even begun. Things fall into place. The key is to find your confidence. Confidence is the magic that can make anything happen. I lost mine, but I'm trying to get it back. I'm doing better, but it's hard sometimes to hold onto it. I'm scared about what happens if I lose it again.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: koods] 1
#19305654 - 12/20/13 11:19 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I know how that goes all to well. I don't have anyone in my life to have genuine hearty conversation with. There are many days where I literally don't even speak a word, today has been one of them. Always stuck in this head of mine, so much I want to pour out but nothing to pour it into besides this here keyboard.
OM, you and me are so alike it's kinda scary. I know the feels.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: openmind]
#19305664 - 12/20/13 11:22 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I cuddle my pillow every night but it is cold comfort, for the pillow does not cuddle back.
I feel deprived as well. My last real cuddle was about 2 years ago. 
The only physical contact I get these days is when I hug my mom on the one or two days per month that I go visit her. That's about 5 seconds of human contact per month or so.
My dad and I just do the one hand-shake + shoulder bump thing. That's another second or two per month.
I do wrestle with my five year old nephew a few times per month so I guess that counts for a bit more. It usually involves him jumping on me and sitting on my head, and then I tickle him in retribution.
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I know how that goes all to well. I don't have anyone in my life to have genuine hearty conversation with. There are many days where I literally don't even speak a word, today has been one of them. Always stuck in this head of mine, so much I want to pour out but nothing to pour it into besides this here keyboard.
OM, you and me are so alike it's kinda scary. I know the feels.
My post count is like a barometer.
I never give a shit about Christmas, but there's no tree this year and nobody to open presents with. I guess I just took it for granted. Actually, I really don't care that much, but I do feel like that may be some kind of notable ignominious landmark.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: openmind]
#19305669 - 12/20/13 11:24 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: koods]
#19305679 - 12/20/13 11:26 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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what's that supposed to mean?
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LittleDipster said: what's that supposed to mean?
It peaks when I'm really lonely.
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Re: Deprived of of cuddles..... [Re: koods]
#19305692 - 12/20/13 11:31 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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same here. I can look at my post count chart and see the times where I've been happy and active or lonely and depressed these passed few years
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I'm trying not to wallow in negativity, which is something I am draw to do. I think I've done much better at catching myself and readjusting my attitude fairly quickly. This has been a pretty tough week for me, and i needed to vent my negativity.
I hope everybody gets the hugs we need, and has a nice Christmas. 
Saw that the light was on in the neighbors kitchen. He was curled up over the kitchen table, reading a book. No hair, due to radiation treatment. He didn't look very comfortable. Perspective right there.
I think I'll go have a conversation with him tomorrow - he's a former NASA scientist, and one of the top experts in his field.
One more positive thought. Today is the shortest day of the year, so it only gets better from here.
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NotSheekle said “if I believed she was 16 I would become unattracted to her”
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