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What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out
    #19305438 - 12/20/13 10:17 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Hello Shroomery,

Apologies in advance for the length. Thanks for reading!

I'm a virgin. I've never been in a relationship, and the last time I kissed a girl was in middle school.

A woman has recently stumbled into my life. She dropped by my house by chance one night with my roommate's ex who came to pick him up for something. The moment she entered the door, before I could even see her face, I sensed something. There was something about this girl that immediately got my spidy senses tingling. She and my buddy's ex hung out at my place for a while. We briefly ate some dinner and conversed (the four of us) before they left.

Afterwards I could not get her out of my mind. My intuition was buzzing big time, and I decided to do what I could to try and meet her again.

A few weeks later, my roommate was able to arrange for all three of us to hang out together (they had been speaking prior to this, and she expressed a desire to have sex - fortunately he doesn't find her attractive). I happily agreed, although by this time my interest was beginning to dwindle. Anyways, we all met up and had a couple of drinks. I found that I was able to speak with this girl pretty freely. The conversation was deep and meaningful, and my social anxiety was pretty minimal, which is unusual for me. Sex came up during the conversation, and I surprised even myself by openly admitting to my virginity without so much as a flushed face. She gave me a high five and that was that.

That is, until my roommate suggested we all take acid together. To me this sounded like a horrible idea. I had just met this person! To my dismay, she was down to trip (her second time doing LSD ever I later learned), so we grabbed some L and each took 1 hit (probably 100ug-150ug). I won't go into detail, but the trip ended up being really fun (although I admittedly took some kratom to ease the anxiety), and I was able to open up even more with this girl, who also seemed to have a good time. I mean hell, I don't think I've EVER been so open and honest with anyone during our first time hanging out, male or female.

The next day we all hung out and continued to have meaningful conversation. I began to notice that this girl's personality resembled mine quite a bit, and that her past was similar to mine in a few key ways. Ultimately, we clicked. I didn't fall for her, but we got along unusually well.

So the next day she calls and asks if I can drop off her purse which she forgot in my car. I oblige, and during the exchange I attempted to say "Let's hang out again sometime" in a casual way, but ended up stuttering a little. She said she was down, and I left.

Well, 30 seconds later I get a text from her inviting me into her apartment, clearly suggesting sex. I thought it was odd that she'd jump on me so quickly. She didn't come off as a slut, plus she knew I was a virgin. I wasn't able to right then (had some errands to run), so I told her that I could, but it wouldn't be until midnight. Her next text said that maybe it was too early to let me into her bed, and that we should go on a day date first. I agreed and suggested coffee.

Today we went on that date. I honestly had no idea what to expect. Was she going to bring me home and just fuck me on a whim? Were we actually going on a proper date? I really didn't know.

Well, it was just a coffee date. We went on a walk and had some interesting conversation. It was fun and minimally awkward, although I didn't feel like we were breaking new ground until the very end, as I was dropping her off to work. We had a discussion about a sibling of mine with anorexia, during which I discovered that she once had a similar disorder. She offered to talk to my sister sometime, the context suggesting that we were going to see each other again.

Anyways, I dropped her off. No kiss or even a hug (we were in a car) but we both expressed a desire to see each other again.

SOOOO...

What message should I take from this? First she wants to fuck me immediately, and now it feels more like a friendship, or the beginnings of something more. Honestly, I want a relationship more than just sex. I like this girl, and I think something may develop. Even a new friendship would be nice.

I know that she recently broke up with a boyfriend. Today she mentioned that they were still friendly, and that he had given her a ride to the grocery store the day before. She doesn't seem caught up on him, but I really don't know.

What do you guys think is going through this girls head? What should my next move be?


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly] * 1
    #19306177 - 12/21/13 02:45 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Text her and tell her how you feel. That you'd like to see her again, and that she's entitled to the goodbye hug and kiss that she didn't get last time :thumbup:

Try to strike a balance between being clear about your being interested in her and not coming across as desperate - but you don't strike me as such, so I'd just recommend to continue down the path you're on and enjoy the journey!


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: koraks]
    #19306656 - 12/21/13 07:08 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

If you want it slow, then go slow. But you will never get anywhere if you consider her a slut for want of having sex with you. Once you have sex, it becomes a different beast and the way you look at it is different.

Think about this; what would be worse, getting in to a deep relationship only to find out whats in bed isn't for you, OR finding out before you get too invested?

She likes you. Let her. If you want to take it slow, tell her, maybe she will like that, or maybe she will want to jump your bones quicker. Sometimes girls like a virgin because that means you're all hers. Let her dominate you bro.

I chose to not have sex until I met the right person. Funny thing is, I had that same feeling you had when I met her, we slept together that night and we're more in love every day. It's been a good run. Some times you need to get a little dirty before you can see if it's what you want.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19308540 - 12/21/13 03:57 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Sounds like a good situation which you're handling fine. I pretty much second what koraks said.

I'm not sure what she's thinking but she might be on the rebound a bit from her last boyfriend and have unusually strong urges. Given they're also friendly, it's quite possibly she'll still be doing 'stuff' with him (especially if she was keen with you); so you may want to exercise some caution if you're expecting something purely exclusive. From what you say though, it sounds like she's genuinely interested in you - impossible for us to know what she's after though (she's probably not sure herself, yet).

If sex is secondary for you, you can just play it cool and keep doing what you're doing, I guess. If you're keen though, I'd suggest that you don't let the opportunity escape you (but don't give that desperate vibe either, as koraks said). If she's on the rebound and eager, she may get impatient/bored if things move too slowly, or if she gets the impression you're not as interested in that side of things.

Personally, I'd have taken up the apartment offer. Errands? Pfft... Let them slide. But perhaps you wanted a special first time and more of a relationship prior to sex, which is fair enough.

If you're a sensitive/talking kind of guy and she enjoys that exchange (which most women do, I'd say), I guess it's quite possible she'll be content with just a friendship. So if you want more than that, it may be worth acting on it quickly. But if you're happy with a friendship too - just keep it cool as you've been doing.

I hardly think it's worth considering her a 'slut' for wanting to have sex with someone she liked spending time with. Sounds like an ideal situation - given you're a virgin - but you mightn't want it like that.

Regarding what she's thinking and your next move: hard to know. It's possible she wants something quickly, but she also seems genuinely interested in you. Your next move depends on what you're after (friendship, relationship, sex). If you're still not sure, keep feeling it out with little dates but you may want to try for some extended time together or maybe a night?

Sounds like a good one though - hope it turns out well :thumbup:


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: KGB Is Go]
    #19310098 - 12/22/13 12:27 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

The thing is, I'm worried that any love that may grow within me will be unrequited. I have a tendency to become obsessed and infatuated very quickly. I'm afraid of developing strong feelings for this girl only to learn that they are not mutual. I really don't want to find myself hopelessly in unrequited love.

I also neglected to mention that while I've been basically isolating myself from the world for the past few years, while she has been traveling around, meeting people, and seeing the world. I've just recently stepped out of my shell, while she seems to be trying to form hers. I see this as potentially troublesome, although it could also be advantageous for both of us, as we have what each other needs.

Also of concern, and I can't believe I left this out because it's important - she just recently became independent. She's living on her home, had a job, ect, ect. I'm completely unemployed and living with my dad. Fortunately, I do have the whole college student thing on my side, but I'm concerned that this alone may be not be enough for her.

Fact of the matter is, if she revealed strong feelings for me, I'd probably fall for her that same day, partially because I am desperate for a girlfriend (I mean christ, I've never had one), and partially because I really like her, despite being a bit afraid to admit it.

I think tomorrow I'm going to text her (or should I call?) and ask if she wants to hang out on the following day. Maybe I'll try to throw in a hug or kiss if I can.

Thanks for the replies guys, I really do appreciate you all taking the time to read this.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19310138 - 12/22/13 12:48 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Do you guys have any suggestions as to how I should convey that I desire a sexual and/or romantic relationship without seeming too pushy? Should I try to kiss her goodbye next date? Maybe just a hug at first?

I've NEVER been in this kind of situation before, so I don't know what I'm doing!


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19310414 - 12/22/13 02:54 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

This is not really my forte either but maybe a night with some alcohol, or something else, which loosens you both up and gets the mood flowing a bit more. A movie night, perhaps? That might get you snuggly, with a chance to get close.

Try not to worry about your shortcomings, as far as the student thing is concerned. If you happen to visit her place more, because of it, perhaps try to make up for it by bringing some food or drinks over. But if she's into you, she probably won't mind so much. I guess she already knows your situation? She's probably accepted it to a sufficient degree.

Better to have loved and lost... If you don't go for it, you'll probably regret it. Personally, at this point, I'd try not to look for reasons that may make this not work for either of you. Just be open to the experience and see how it plays out - and take the chance to get close or say something which at least hints at how you feel about her. If you're texting, get some smileys happening :cool: :thumbup:

Unless you're particularly charming over the phone, I reckon a text is fine.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: KGB Is Go]
    #19311529 - 12/22/13 11:36 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Thanks a lot man. You've been a huge help. I agree completely.

I'm going to just see where this takes me. I was thinking after one or two more dates, I might suggest that we take phenibut together. I would say alcohol, but drinking gives me wicked headaches. Phenibut is perfect for loosening someone up without completely clouding judgement. It also lasts all day and makes most people very horny!

I'll definitely go in for the hug next time, and see if I sense a longing for something more. I generally have pretty solid intuition, although in this situation it can be tricky to read.

Next date, I think I'll offer to drive us to a nice park to walk her dog as a start (she has no car). After that, well... I guess we'll see. There's only so much I can do with my fortune of student loans.

And I am awful on the phone, so I think I'll go with a text :tongue:

Also, it's not that I think she's a slut. I'm a very sexual person, and I hope for a partner who is very open and driven in bed. I was only a little shocked by the immediacy of her offer because I'm a virgin - not exactly one night stand material.


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Edited by psychoanomaly (12/22/13 11:41 AM)


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19313937 - 12/22/13 10:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Got an update!

Looks like I'm spending the night over there tomorrow :cool: The

We're going to play pin ball and take phenibut :lol: She wanted to go for drinks, but seemed to jump at my offer to take phenibut instead (I hate drinking).

I for one know that phenibut turns me and all of my friends into a horny wild animals, while still preserving most mental faculties. I swear it temporarily raises testosterone levels or something.

I'm actually really excited for this. I've always thought that if I were to loose my virginity on a drug, that drug would be phenibut. It's actually helped me make some major realizations throughout my life, including a recent one that led me to make some huge life changing decisions, including putting myself out there and overcoming my social anxiety, which has led me to this girl.

I'm VERY curious as to how this will play out. Not only is phenibut great for sex, but it also makes for very lucid, meaningful, honest, and emotional conversations.

I've embraced my desire for a deep relationship, but I've also placed myself in a state of weightlessness. If something comes of this, excellent. I'd like it too. However, if little does, that's okay too. I'm determined to find someone, and I will.

I'm optimistic though :rockon: I immediately felt some kind of almost psychical connection to this girl, and so far my intuition seems to have been spot on.

Read on for another odd, seemingly synchronistic event that parallels with this one...

I didn't mention this before because it would have taken up too much space, but another synchronistic event occurred alongside my discovery of this girl. For a while, it seemed as though I'd never meet her as nothing happened for a couple of weeks after our initial meeting. Out of desperation, I browsed through my recommended friends on Facebook. I clicked on one girl, purely by a hunch I got from her profile picture. It was accompanied by the all to familiar "Who knows, maybe she's the one?" and then overwhelming sense of doubt and improbability. Anyways, she accepted my request, and I was dumbfounded to discover that she seemed to fit almost every prerequisite I've ever held for finding the perfect mate. She seems to be into almost everything that I am in to. Same music, same movies, same spiritual concepts, same scientific interests. Same astrological sign (not that I place much emphasis on that). She's from my hometown, and oddly enough recently lived in the hometown of most of my family, an obscure place way the fuck across the country. She also seems to carry the personality traits I value most, those being introversion and intuitiveness. I think she is close to the same typology I am - INFJ - based upon her statuses, something I place far more emphasis on than astrological signs. Also, excellent physical match. One of her pictures is damn close to how I imagined my perfect physical match, or rather my feminine counterpart. She lives out of my state, so there's no chance of me meeting her, but to simply see someone so similar to myself has raised my standards considerably. This has allowed me to approach my current situation with this other girl in a far more objective and skeptical way than I would have ordinarily. Consequently, I've handled this whole thing with far more cool than I'd probably would have if I hadn't found this person. She's both far enough away to forget, but close enough for some vague hope to exist. I know, typical loner obsession!


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Edited by psychoanomaly (12/22/13 10:16 PM)


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19314175 - 12/22/13 11:28 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

That's awesome news, dude! :-D

I have no idea what phenibut is (pretty weird name, lol) but it sounds good, and perfect for the occasion.

Sounds like you're pretty in control with what's going on, so I don't think there's too much more to say. I guess just enjoy the 'date'-part for what it is and don't become pre-occupied with sex or what may come later. Obviously the sex is to be enjoyed and you both seem keen for it, so just relax and go with the flow, and don't ask too many questions.

Sounds like you're set for a great night. Don't forget the dingers (condoms)!

P.S. Might be advantageous to tell her she looks great (if it's true and you're genuine about it), to show you digging her, physically. I'm into candles and incense etc., I find it helps set a mood - may work for you too. Maybe even go for some massage if it fits and is not awkward to initiate. But you'll have your own style, no doubt.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: KGB Is Go]
    #19314350 - 12/23/13 12:49 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Solid advice again mate, thanks! This is literally my first time dating ever, so there are a ton of little details that I just haven't thought about yet.

I probably would have waited too long to compliment her looks. She's almost my exact physical type, so she'd have to be a total wreck for me to find her unattractive.

I'm doing my best to focus on the now and leave the future to unwind as it will. Not so much an indifference, but definitely a sense of weightlessness in terms of expectation. It probably wouldn't be this easy if not for that little Facebook encounter.

I'm closer than ever to finding a girlfriend. Now that I got a taste, I won't be stopping until I've found it :sunny:

At the very least, I should be waking up on Christmas Eve no longer a virgin. The only way I see it not happening is if the Phenibut makes her tired or something, which is a possibility. With phenibut, the best that could happen is that it allows us to see a deeper side of each other, hopefully igniting a spark. The worst is that it could sedate her or cause nausea. I'd say the risks are lighter than alcohol at least, and I honestly feel like it will make the first time more special. Super stoked :mjdance:


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19314360 - 12/23/13 12:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Didn't get to read all your post but I too am a virgin and I am also meeting up with a girl I'm very close tomorrow night. I've hung out with her several times but she made it quite obvious that tomorrow we'd be having sex. I never thought about using phenibut, damn that is fantastic idea. Phenibut definitely makes me more horny and less anxious but I wasn't sure how itd effect stamina and the ability to orgasm. I'll probably give it a go anyway, think I'll play it safe and stick with 1g. Normally I take 1.5 or 2 but that messes with my cognitive functioning a bit.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck man!


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: OliverJames]
    #19314401 - 12/23/13 01:21 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Thanks man! That's crazy that you're in for a similar venture tomorrow.

I'm taking 1g as well. My usual is 1.5, but some of my best experiences have been on 1g.

From my... experiments on phenibut, I've noticed that I can go longer and my stamina often seems to be increased.

I've always considered phenibut to be one of the best aphrodisiacs available.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19314437 - 12/23/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

I'm not sure when the best time to comment on looks is. Obviously you notice it when you first see her but I feel it's kind of expected/cliche to say it at that moment and therefore more difficult to sound genuine - it can sound like a routine comment - even if you mean it (that's just me - I can't help but think of those other parameters and be put off by it - I'm the same way when it comes to thanking people for buying dinner sometimes :undecided:). I also don't like that moment because then it's kind of normal for her to comment on your appearance... Personally, I don't like that expectation and the attention that brings to me; plus, while I'm not hideous, I'm not Brad Pitt either so I don't want her pressured into potentially 'lying' or for me to accept the 'lie'. But first contact also happens to be a good moment because it should make her feel more comfortable about things, and hopefully make things less awkward for both of you. That said, maybe she's pretty laid back about the whole thing either way and doesn't need the comment - but she should still appreciate the gesture *shrug*

Sorry, I complicated that but as long as you're genuine and don't say it awkwardly, it'll be fine.

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psychoanomaly said:
I'm closer than ever to finding a girlfriend. Now that I got a taste, I won't be stopping until I've found it :sunny:



It's quite inspiring, isn't it, when you find a girl who you like, and she likes you? In comes some confidence and hope.

I was pretty much in your position maybe 2.5 or so years ago. There was less synchronicity and I didn't have the kind of match that you have but I finally stepped into a world which I'd longed for. It's very exciting and almost unreal (to me, anyway). It's taken a while but I now make much more effort to get out and be sociable (not necessarily for the purpose of finding a woman, so much, but just getting out there). I'd be much better prepared for hanging out with a girl these days, I reckon (haven't done so though, as I only just broke up with said girl from ~2.5 years ago - but planning to see her NYE :wink:).


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: KGB Is Go]
    #19314482 - 12/23/13 02:19 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

I lost my virginity when i was 15 years old to a beautiful and expensive prostitute...i was just a kid...so you are bouth lucky...you are not giving money mate:stoned::hehehe:P.S. to both of you let them do the job for you...they know you are virgin so stay cool:cheers:


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: BU4O]
    #19314508 - 12/23/13 02:33 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Unless she is straight horn-ball/pushy then you'll probably have to make the move. You need a situation where you both crash at the same place. Always start off reading the vibe, look at body language, n eye contact. Then make the move. I'd say get drunk one night, and have it so you both need to sleep. If the girl is interested she will most likely be totally down after that.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: Gorlax]
    #19328738 - 12/26/13 12:51 PM (10 years, 1 month ago)

So how'd it go?


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: KGB Is Go]
    #19339743 - 12/29/13 12:29 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Sorry it's taken me a while to update. A lot has been going on outside of this whole thing.

I've seen her twice since I last posted. The night on phenibut went pretty well. We hung out at an arcade and talked about life. I felt that she revealed a deeper side of herself, although it was only for a moment. Afterwards we went back to her place, and I stupidly smoked a ton of weed. She was quite tired and climbed into bed, as I stupidly sat aside trying to read the situation. She had even mentioned that I was welcome to sleep in the bed, but I guess I was so nervous that I couldn't really process it. Luckily she invited me in.

Once I was in, she sort of pulled me towards her to spoon. I awkwardly placed my arm over her side, stiff as a board, and she quickly realized that I had never been in bed with a woman before (she asked me). When I told her no, she insisted on flipping the spoon so that she'd be on the outside, so we did. She took control and caressed me a bit before falling asleep.

That morning we hung on and talked casually. She eventually told me that she wasn't looking for anything serious, to which I responded that I wasn't really either, and that in the end I didn't really know what I was looking for. She seemed to take relief in that. Before I left I casually revealed to her some tramadol that I was planning to take for Christmas. When she saw it, her eyes lit up immediately and she asked for some. I obliged and she seemed quite pleased.

After that, Christmas commenced, and then she texted me again to come over the day after Christmas. I did, and we ended up spending most of our time over at her place. She was quite tired, but ended up talking very honestly and personally to me. I felt a bit more comfortable around her this time, and generally handled myself better. She essentially told me her life story, and revealed a host of very intimate, personal details from her childhood onwards. Because this girl is generally very outspoken in public, I initially assumed that she was telling me something that she's told most of those to whom she's close with, although during this talk I thought I noticed her choke up a little; in fact, I almost choked up a little at the same time. I think she may have told me some very personal, secret things, although I can't be sure.

That night she invited me into her bed again, and I was able to spoon much more confidently. All around the spooning was a bit more intimate and sexual, although there was no kissing. She caressed my side down near my thigh, and I briefly thought that she might go for it, but it didn't happen.

That morning (I didn't sleep - I'm finding it very hard to sleep while spooning) she told me to lie on my back. Once I did, she kissed me up my chest and landing on my lips. We kissed for about 30 seconds - it was a little awkward but all around pretty passionate. It was her birthday as well, so we hung out for a little while. I took her to walk her dog at the park, and somewhere along the line she commented on being cold. I eventually asked if she needed some warmth and tried to hug her, only to hear "I'm not into PDA". I've never heard PDA before, but I caught the ques easily enough, and quickly figured out what it abbreviated.

When we got back, she seemed tired and eventually mentioned that she wanted some alone time. She said that it had nothing to do with me and that she had a good time. At first I worried that it was me, but in retrospect I think that she was genuinely tired and wanted alone time. She is clearly very introverted, and as a fellow introvert I can relate completely. I was actually pretty tired myself, and ready for some me time.

Anyways, she had told me that she was going to the bar with some friends and possibly her ex for free birthday drinks. She casually invited me ("You're welcome to show up..."). I ended up not going, and I guess she ended up not going either (so she told me in response to a text I sent to inform her that I wouldn't be there).

So that's about it so far. Her birthday was yesterday, and I haven't texted her today. I'm thinking I will tomorrow.


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19339758 - 12/29/13 12:36 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Dude... she wants you to bang her.  Badly.  Get on that!


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Re: What are this girl's intentions? Help a *virgin* out [Re: psychoanomaly]
    #19340194 - 12/29/13 03:57 AM (10 years, 1 month ago)

Sounds like some quality time was spent. However, I must say I was a little disappointed to hear you didn't get it on but if you're ok with it, that's what's important.

Surely you would have been feeling horny during spooning and/or kissing? If you get hard, get close and give her a little nudge here and there. Surely you caressed her bits? I reckon, start by cupping her breasts gently and maybe rub your nose upon her neck, then start to give a more firm squeeze and her nipples little plucks, and maybe start giving her neck a few little pecks with your lips and slide your hand down her stomach to her panties. Without removing or dipping inside, rub the outside of her panties up and down, slowly but firmly, without being too hard, focusing a bit more on her clit-region. If she starts heavily breathing or squirming, that should be a good sign.

That should get her wet and in the mood a bit more and I doubt she'd want to stop, unless something happened. Not trying to tell you what to do - just a suggestion - so go with your own pace and style... But I'd definitely be taking the chance, and wary of things becoming too emotional... If you're in her bed and spooning, I reckon that's it - go for it and get it done, before you regret it! If she still enjoys talking to you, I doubt you'll lose her as a friend over sexual encounters (if you're worried about that).

Just my 2c...


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