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Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me
#19303861 - 12/20/13 04:50 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Life has been tough lately. I don't have many close friend, or really anyone that I talk to outside of school. I'm home from college for the holidays and I haven't talked to anyone my age since the holidays began and I came home. I always make acquaintances, but never like solid friendships. I just never meet anyone who I enjoy being around to that extent. I live in an area where I'm unhappy and won't be able to leave until I'm done with college in over two years.
I've realized that the only time I'm really very happy is when I have a girl in my life. Sadly, no girl I talk to seems to be interested in me. Like this one girl I had in my economics class was really cute, and I realized we had a mutual friends, so I asked her if she could talk to the girl and find out what she thought about me, so she did. The girl pretty much told her to tell me thanks for the interest, but made some excuse about how she dated this dude a few months back and he lied to her so she's a little touchy with guys at the moment, or some shit along those lines which is most likely a pile of shit.
I guess this post is just kinda me complaining, so go ahead and dog me if you want. I just want a girl I can give my affection to and talk about my day and do stuff with
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1] 3
#19303909 - 12/20/13 05:03 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I've realized that the only time I'm really very happy is when I have a girl in my life.
this is a serious issue, and is what you should be addressing
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: demiu5]
#19303926 - 12/20/13 05:07 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'd be happy without a girlfriend if I had close friends, but I don't have close friends, and a girlfriend always becomes my bestfriend, so I guess I'm just a person who craves to be around others, and I just prefer that to be in the form of a girlfriend. I haven't had a girlfriend for nearly a year and I've been fine with it up until the past month, now it's just getting old.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1] 4
#19303936 - 12/20/13 05:08 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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i'm saying the problem here is that you are not happy with yourself. this is why you are trying to find comfort in others
you need to be happy with you before you can be happy with others as well
edit: it's one thing to be lonely and craving of companionship, but it's another to be dissatisfied with the life one leads and think that people or a partner is the path to satisfaction [to put it in terms of your post, "happiness"]
Edited by demiu5 (12/20/13 05:12 PM)
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: demiu5] 1
#19303956 - 12/20/13 05:13 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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demiu5 said: i'm saying the problem here is that you are not happy with yourself. this is why you are trying to find comfort in others
you need to be happy with you before you can be happy with others as well
I was going to say exactly this. 
Look, you seem like a nice guy. You obviously have a big heart. I can tell you just talking to you there are plenty of chicks who would love to have you. But if you can't love yourself, you can never be confident in you, and what's more key than that?
Just chill and let the good times roll. Let life unfold on it's own, you can't force a good thing. I lived with this philosophy and still do. And I'll be damned if I'm not happy right now.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: demiu5] 1
#19303977 - 12/20/13 05:18 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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demiu5 said: i'm saying the problem here is that you are not happy with yourself. this is why you are trying to find comfort in others
you need to be happy with you before you can be happy with others as well "]
As it is now, you will suck them dry of energy, and eventually pull the loving companion into a hellhole with you..thus they are repulsed. And you have the choice to either hide it, atleast for a while, or deal with it..(do not feel bad.. most people live a life of suffering, and would choose to hide it rather than face it, though if you want to expereance true love, you must chose the latter)..
good qoute.
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Edited by Icyus (12/20/13 05:23 PM)
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Icyus]
#19304644 - 12/20/13 07:17 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sounds like you might be something of an introvert -- there are plenty of nice introverted gals out there, the problem is meeting them. If I was in your shoes, I'd probably get onto a couple of dating sites, put up an honest profile, keep an open mind and be patient.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Cruiser_66]
#19304685 - 12/20/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Cruiser_66 said: Sounds like you might be something of an introvert -- there are plenty of nice introverted gals out there, the problem is meeting them. If I was in your shoes, I'd probably get onto a couple of dating sites, put up an honest profile, keep an open mind and be patient.
No not really. I mean yes I am definitely shy, and I dislike most people I meet, but at the end of the day I'd much rather be at school, around other people constantly, than at home. I just enjoy being around others and in their presence.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19304720 - 12/20/13 07:30 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The point is he is sucking them dry.. like a vampire.. though not the powerful kind.. no offence offcourse..
one needs to love themselves before another.. sharing what they have. Anything else would only be crawing..
-------------------- And thus begins the reverse-fusing of our one-dimentional understanding, and adds ever-expanding perspectives, in depth and number; splitting our perception, and in so doing, seemingly irrationally, creates yet more one-ness, with all that ever was, is and will ever be, streching across the infinite, inunderstood concept of everything, percievable and not.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Icyus]
#19305011 - 12/20/13 08:26 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Icyus said: The point is he is sucking them dry.. like a vampire.. though not the powerful kind.. no offence offcourse..
one needs to love themselves before another.. sharing what they have. Anything else would only be crawing..
Where are yo yall getting off saying I don't love myself? I personally like myself, I think I'm a pretty intelligent and funny guy. I love myself very much, now you are just making assumptions.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Icyus]
#19305031 - 12/20/13 08:32 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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What if you don't, but you think you do?
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Sagescruffy]
#19305106 - 12/20/13 08:50 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sagescruffy said: What if you don't, but you think you do?
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: demiu5]
#19305184 - 12/20/13 09:10 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I've realized that the only time I'm really very happy is when I have a girl in my life.
this is a serious issue, and is what you should be addressing
I wouldn't want to date you either.
You sound pretty lame and boring.
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19305200 - 12/20/13 09:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Icyus said: The point is he is sucking them dry.. like a vampire.. though not the powerful kind.. no offence offcourse..
one needs to love themselves before another.. sharing what they have. Anything else would only be crawing..
Where are yo yall getting off saying I don't love myself? I personally like myself, I think I'm a pretty intelligent and funny guy. I love myself very much, now you are just making assumptions.
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I've realized that the only time I'm really very happy is when I have a girl in my life.
this is a serious issue, and is what you should be addressing
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demiu5 said: i'm saying the problem here is that you are not happy with yourself. this is why you are trying to find comfort in others
you need to be happy with you before you can be happy with others as well
edit: it's one thing to be lonely and craving of companionship, but it's another to be dissatisfied with the life one leads and think that people or a partner is the path to satisfaction [to put it in terms of your post, "happiness"]
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Into The Woods]
#19305205 - 12/20/13 09:16 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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can see that shroomery is being typical known it all 20 somethings as usual. will try another forum
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#19305380 - 12/20/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#19305425 - 12/20/13 10:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Why bother asking if you're just going to dismiss perfectly reasonable responses because you don't like them?
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: xpl0de]
#19305496 - 12/20/13 10:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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xpl0de said:

-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Enjoywho] 2
#19305699 - 12/20/13 11:35 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Step 1: Relax. Most girls have their heads shoved so far up their a**es when they are in college that it sticks back up again on top their shoulders. There's a lot of reasons for this. I don't even try to speculate the numerous reasons why....
Step 2: Do things that make you feel good about life. For me, it's exercising. I feel like such a badass after a good mountain bike ride. I feel 100% me. Start doing some strength training. It doesn't have to be much, but learn proper technique and start with planks, and then do pushups and build a routine. Some muscle and good posture goes a long way with girls.
Step 3: Be a gentleman, no matter what. Good language, be kind, polite, caring, but also be decisive. You don't have to be flawless, but do show you are a quality citizen.
Step 4: Let it all sink in. Embrace that many girls have shitforbrains and all they care about is meaningless. That's good. You won't have to deal with these girls. Realize that some exercise is good for you and you feel better anyways. Then, you come to the realization that you are a good fellow. Then the golden realization occurs, you are a classy cat=confidence.
Talk to girls. Remember that they are in the same exact boat as you. Some may even be intimidated by you! They are in the same insecure place as you when it comes to relationships. We are all in this one together.
Also, plain chilling with girls is always good too. You can never predict what may happen with some time, a couch, and a blanket.....
With time, you will probably identify a classy lady or two and they may have an attraction to you too. See what happens!
Life and relationships isn't easy. Wish somebody told me this.
Edited by RickyJ (12/20/13 11:52 PM)
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: RickyJ]
#19305702 - 12/20/13 11:36 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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And if all else fails, get a job that makes a lot of money......
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: RickyJ]
#19305733 - 12/20/13 11:47 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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RickyJ said: Step 1: Relax. Most girls have their heads shoved so far up their a**es when they are in college that it sticks back up again on top their shoulders. There's a lot of reasons for this. I don't even try to speculate the numerous reasons why....
Step 2: Do things that make you feel good about life. For me, it's exercising. I feel like such a badass after a good mountain bike ride. I feel 100% me. Start doing some strength training. It doesn't have to be much, but learn proper technique and start with planks, and then do pushups and build a routine. Some muscle and good posture goes a long way with girls.
Step 3: Be a gentleman, no matter what. Good language, be kind, polite, caring, but also be decisive. You don't have to be flawless, but do show you are a quality citizen.
Step 4: Let it all sink in. Embrace that many girls have shitforbrains and all they care about is meaningless. That's good. You won't have to deal with these girls. Realize that some exercise is good for you and you feel better anyways. Then, you come to the realization that you are a good fellow. Then the golden realization occurs, you are a classy cat=confidence.
Talk to girls. Remember that they are in the same exact boat as you. Some may even be intimidated by you! They are in the same insecure place as you when it comes to relationships. We are all in this one together.
Also, plain chilling with girls is always good too. You can never predict what may happen with some time, a couch, and a blanket.....
With time, you will probably identify a classy lady or two and they may have an attraction to you too. See what happens!
Life and relationships isn't easy. Wish somebody told me this....
See guys, now if all of Shroomery was like this guy it'd be a real quality forum instead of the incoherent drivel that is 95% of it.
And I'm not whining like a lot of you are saying, it's simply that you are all drawing false assumptions about me not liking myself and bullshit like that, when I am perfectly happy with myself, just not my situation in life at the moment. Thanks man!
Edited by Anonymous (12/20/13 11:48 PM)
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19305788 - 12/21/13 12:01 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I got your back!
Steering through the collegiate life is tough. There are a lot of people, but somehow connecting deeper can be really challenging. Follow these guidelines and at least at the end of the day,you have the satisfaction of knowing that you are a respectable fellow who is contributing good to this world. A fine lady will realize this and will want join up with you eventually!
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19306626 - 12/21/13 06:54 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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RickyJ said: Step 1: Relax. Most girls have their heads shoved so far up their a**es when they are in college that it sticks back up again on top their shoulders. There's a lot of reasons for this. I don't even try to speculate the numerous reasons why....
Step 2: Do things that make you feel good about life. For me, it's exercising. I feel like such a badass after a good mountain bike ride. I feel 100% me. Start doing some strength training. It doesn't have to be much, but learn proper technique and start with planks, and then do pushups and build a routine. Some muscle and good posture goes a long way with girls.
Step 3: Be a gentleman, no matter what. Good language, be kind, polite, caring, but also be decisive. You don't have to be flawless, but do show you are a quality citizen.
Step 4: Let it all sink in. Embrace that many girls have shitforbrains and all they care about is meaningless. That's good. You won't have to deal with these girls. Realize that some exercise is good for you and you feel better anyways. Then, you come to the realization that you are a good fellow. Then the golden realization occurs, you are a classy cat=confidence.
Talk to girls. Remember that they are in the same exact boat as you. Some may even be intimidated by you! They are in the same insecure place as you when it comes to relationships. We are all in this one together.
Also, plain chilling with girls is always good too. You can never predict what may happen with some time, a couch, and a blanket.....
With time, you will probably identify a classy lady or two and they may have an attraction to you too. See what happens!
Life and relationships isn't easy. Wish somebody told me this....
See guys, now if all of Shroomery was like this guy it'd be a real quality forum instead of the incoherent drivel that is 95% of it.
And I'm not whining like a lot of you are saying, it's simply that you are all drawing false assumptions about me not liking myself and bullshit like that, when I am perfectly happy with myself, just not my situation in life at the moment. Thanks man! 
carry on, nothing to see here
can i have my time back, please?
you're kind of an asshole, too. that might have something to do with it
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Re: Tired of having no girlfriend, but no girl wants to date me [Re: demiu5]
#19308571 - 12/21/13 04:09 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Many people don't have very positive self images, are insecure, lack confidence, and don't love themselves. It's absolutely silly for you to offer as serious advice "you need to love yourself before you can love somebody else." To me it says you have no understanding of the problem of depression, low self-esteem or things like that. Don't you think if it was as easy as changing one's mind, people who do not like them selves would have changed it long ago?
If you love your self, great. Whoopty-fucking-do for you. But just understand that there are plenty of people in the world who don't. And that it's not an easy problem to solve. I am willing to bet there are lots of people in healthy happy relationships but don't love themselves. It's not unreasonable to feel unhappy/insecure as a single person. And even more importantly, it's not unreasonable to be happy with a person who makes you happy, no matter what kind of bullshit someone tries to tell you in this forum.
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