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dreygoth
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Living with people that annoy you.
#19297729 - 12/19/13 12:08 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I am working on getting out of my depression. My issue is I live with my brother a stoned cunt who means well but is too stupid most of the time. When I wake up I kinda want to have the place to myself and no one around to disturb me, but he decides to be all like good morning! and shit when I tell his stupid ass "hey Im not a morning person." Other then that hes always fucking talking to me about bullshit that "Think about it in my shoe's wouldn't it be cool?" even though I dont share shit with him he goes "well you can share you stuff with me."
Or maybe he come's home around 11:00 and instantly im like "fuck" and my whole mood goes down hill.
So since no one thinks I should be able to commit suicide because "thats wrong" Anyone have an idea how to help?
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Krik
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: dreygoth]
#19297753 - 12/19/13 12:14 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have a roommate that I hate and my solution is I just shit talk her every chance I get. Being that it's your brother though you shouldn't really just let your relationship burn down. Just straight up tell him what shit he does that annoys you, without being rude or aggressive. Your brother kinda sounds like a nice dude though, to be honest.
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dreygoth
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: dreygoth]
#19297755 - 12/19/13 12:15 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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oh and past that the computers right beside the back door and he'll leave it fuckign open for 2-3 minutes while he packs and smokes his shit. WHich guess what, now its freezing in here while he goes to the living room. What a cunt!
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dreygoth
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: Krik]
#19297764 - 12/19/13 12:17 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Honestly its communication but guess what hes a stupid stoner and you have to remind him every fukin day. Thank you for the advice though. I did shit talk him one time it made me feel so good cuz I never used to stick up for myself.
sorry for the double post and yeah ill get the stick out of my ass, however I would still like the best advice you guys can give and I thank you for yours.
Edited by dreygoth (12/19/13 12:18 PM)
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: dreygoth]
#19297786 - 12/19/13 12:22 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Work hard, save up and get a place of your own. Roommates are hell.
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I tried living with my brother, for 4 months he couldn't find work...bullshit he is just lazy. I kicked him out lol now he's my neighbor...god he annoys me lol.
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: HerbJunkette]
#19297815 - 12/19/13 12:30 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Does he get back home at 11 pm?
Start going to bed and getting up earlier. You'll have your mornings to yourself and less time with him overall.
(But some earplugs so you can sleep through his return home.)
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dreygoth
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Me_Roy said: Does he get back home at 11 pm?
Start going to bed and getting up earlier. You'll have your mornings to yourself and less time with him overall.
(But some earplugs so you can sleep through his return home.)
I have on health reasons and was very happy to wake up at 9am today feeling better! 
Na he's home all the time, almost. Hes looking for work now, waiting on it. Plus he "lives" in the living room of the house, even fucking sleeps on the couch. Honestly I need to find a job thats fucking 3-9pm every mother fucking day. I hate it here. Actually it will really suck because hes taking the night shift.
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HerbJunkette said: I tried living with my brother, for 4 months he couldn't find work...bullshit he is just lazy. I kicked him out lol now he's my neighbor...god he annoys me lol.
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RiparianZoneJunky said: Work hard, save up and get a place of your own. Roommates are hell.
I need to get a job too, dont know where to start really. Im a little fearful about work though because I usually dont feel like getting up. I started going back to school to get my last class finished. I signed up in november and I only been too 3 classes since; Only god in one assigment as well.
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: dreygoth]
#19297903 - 12/19/13 12:54 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Im really confused. However I want to thank all you beautiful people for reading and replying. Im going to start doing some planning today. Thank you for helping me build momentum. Im going too fix up my resume, get a nice pair of cloths and get out there.
Peace and God bless.
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: dreygoth]
#19297916 - 12/19/13 12:59 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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dreygoth said: I need to get a job too, dont know where to start really. Im a little fearful about work though because I usually dont feel like getting up. I started going back to school to get my last class finished. I signed up in november and I only been too 3 classes since; Only god in one assigment as well.
Dude, mang, bro -- I say this from a place of love:
Quit being such a fucking fuck-up. Get your shit together. Start building a life you're proud of.
[brohug]
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: dreygoth]
#19297935 - 12/19/13 01:02 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Is your brother weird or does he just treat you like that because you're always talking about fucking offing yourself? I have 2 brothers and if one of us is in a bad mood we just completely ignore any inquiry from one another. The point is made and no words even have to pass between us about it most of the time, unless the question is of some immediate importance.
But I don't have a worry that my little brother is going to hang himself after I leave the room either.
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: Me_Roy]
#19298190 - 12/19/13 02:13 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Juicin said: Is your brother weird or does he just treat you like that because you're always talking about fucking offing yourself? I have 2 brothers and if one of us is in a bad mood we just completely ignore any inquiry from one another. The point is made and no words even have to pass between us about it most of the time, unless the question is of some immediate importance.
But I don't have a worry that my little brother is going to hang himself after I leave the room either.
Na, he's a weirdo!
I dont really talk about killing myself, I dont really talk at all unless i'm feeling good. If im feeling bad I pretty much just look depressed, mopey and mumble. You cant even talk to him because he'll start talking about something he's thinking about mid way through you're speech. Or maybe hes coming up to you ever 30 minutes talking about conspiracy shit or problems in his life. (or the worst depressing stories of shit he saw or read coming home.) "I wont worry about it till it comes" Its actually been pretty good today because I told him to shh im working, which I am a little.
But Im a grab bag bro!
Another day im excited and happy about life. Then yelling happens for some reason, I feel down dont know how to get up. the next day im depressed and down, maybe for days wanting to get better but not knowing how.
Thats my main issue is when conflict happens. HOW CAN I FIX THIS?! that would be like a golden spot light. How do I shoot those rockets into space?
Being a pussy kinda takes me to the next thing which is I do bottle pretty much everything up. I dont get angry I get sad and defensive. I dont like talking or anything. Im scared to say things because of the way people will react. I have a therapist but I dont even like talking to her that much. I just feel ruined man, no self confidence, not much motivation... I dont have any friends, im not good at socializing.
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dreygoth said: I need to get a job too, dont know where to start really. Im a little fearful about work though because I usually dont feel like getting up. I started going back to school to get my last class finished. I signed up in november and I only been too 3 classes since; Only god in one assigment as well.
Dude, mang, bro -- I say this from a place of love:
Quit being such a fucking fuck-up. Get your shit together. Start building a life you're proud of.
[brohug]
I know it comes from love. Its what I tell myself, dont be the sorrowed man.
Im trying. But how do you feel better inside from anxiety and such? Almost every week shit goes down and I don't know where my strength went. I hopping its the drugs and withdrawl that make me feel like shit and that im normal. (Another reason I act shitty towards my bro these days is because I have almost quit twice but he offers it to me even though I told him my doctor said I should take a break to see if it improves my mood)
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. *DELETED* [Re: dreygoth]
#19306019 - 12/21/13 01:25 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Post deleted by m00ncalfReason for deletion: Not really about the OP's question
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Re: Living with people that annoy you. [Re: m00ncalf]
#19308101 - 12/21/13 01:37 PM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I live eith my mom and she complains about/picks fights with my dad. Thats pretty annoying but its their house. Im really just grateful to have a place to sleep. My parents are awesome actually haha.
As for your brother. Hopefully u find a bond with him op, family is everything in my book. Try and see him as just your brother and throw out everything else. Then find a common ground with him and use that is a way to grow together. I watch football with one of my brothers, we play boardgames and stupid shit like that but its fun as hell. My other brother we talk more finances and music. My sister used to kick my ass all over the place haha. we clashed the most but now were super close too. Its a nice feeling when u know ud jump in front of a truck to save someone you love, i love life but would give it up without hesitation for any of my siblings.
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