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Speak for yourself? For all you know, OP's friend may be having some serious second thoughts about it all. Since they were 9 he was acting straight.
I think you need to trust people. You need to grow up.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: koods]
#19292764 - 12/18/13 10:47 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Speak for yourself? For all you know, OP's friend may be having some serious second thoughts about it all. Since they were 9 he was acting straight.
I think you need to trust people. You need to grow up.
i think you shouldnt talk on what you do not know, which is what your doing.
seems more like your talking from a personal experience, relieving insecurities.
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#19292772 - 12/18/13 10:49 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: i think you shouldnt talk on what you do not know, which is what your doing.
seems more like your talking from a personal experience, relieving insecurities.
And what exactly are you doing? 
From the OP:
"The next day when he was sober he asked me AGAIN after I thought he forgot about everything that he had said he night before. I know there are some guys like many of my friends who become (pretty fuckin' gay) after they drink and I just thought he was one of them. I was pretty surprised by the fact he asked me again and just kept avoiding it."
This guy didn't get raped or something. He was genuinely wanting this interaction.
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Speak for yourself? For all you know, OP's friend may be having some serious second thoughts about it all. Since they were 9 he was acting straight.
I think you need to trust people. You need to grow up.
i think you shouldnt talk on what you do not know, which is what your doing.
seems more like your talking from a personal experience, relieving insecurities.
Yes. Personal experience. It's never been a problem. Sounds like you are the one full of insecurities. OPs friend sounds like he knew exactly what he wanted, you are pulling his "serious second thoughts" out of the blue.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: Sleepwalker]
#19292776 - 12/18/13 10:50 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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So you guys know what OP's friend is thinking right now? In this EXACT moment?
Hmm.. Do tell..
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Anonymous said: So you guys know what OP's friend is thinking right now? In this EXACT moment?
Hmm.. Do tell..
Neither do you. Don't put your own emotional baggage onto other people. I doubt most people are as fucked up as you appear to be.
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Do you know what his friend is thinking?
Hey OP, is this anon your friend?
We can only go off of what the OP has told us, and from that it sounds like the guy knew exactly what he wanted. You seem to be projecting your own issues.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: Sleepwalker]
#19292824 - 12/18/13 11:04 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Discovering something new about someone you've known for a long time and sharing a little intimacy sounds like a totally awesome experience.
I hope OP keeps us updated on how things develop in the future.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: koods]
#19292832 - 12/18/13 11:07 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: So you guys know what OP's friend is thinking right now? In this EXACT moment?
Hmm.. Do tell..
Neither do you. Don't put your own emotional baggage onto other people. I doubt most people are as fucked up as you appear to be.
Now your just taking it personal.
All ive said is hopefully the friendship doesnt get ruined in the long run..
Now you guys think you know what OP's friend is thinking. When I just said HOPEFULLY there is no second thoughts.
Make it seem as if there are assumptions jumping around. I havent projected one single opinion, either.
I didnt mean to rustle all your jimmies in a bunch
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: koods]
#19292944 - 12/18/13 11:42 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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koods said: Discovering something new about someone you've known for a long time and sharing a little intimacy sounds like a totally awesome experience.
I hope OP keeps us updated on how things develop in the future.
Alas, another update!
Woke up at his place today, we went out with our mutual friend's parents' last night for some dinner and wine. It was pretty fun. We didn't have sex or anything, and nothing's awkward at all. I'm actually kind of glad I got to share this experience with him the other day. It kinda put how we know each other to a new level.
We were actually talking about it over a joint last night after we got back. We both agreed that it was a good experience and after thinking about it for a while, it just doesn't seem like a big deal at all. It's just sex, it's natural human interaction. There's nothing awkward between us at all, if anything, I feel that we're closer now.

I even apologized for making it an awkward situation for him when I kept changing the subject. He expressed to me that it made him feel like I was just lying about whether or not he was attractive or not. Of course he apologized to me too, he was under the impression that if a gay guy is asked to have sex with another man he'll just whip it out - which isn't necessarily the case for me and frankly a lot of gay guys.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: matttt]
#19292949 - 12/18/13 11:44 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Also.... what's with the rustling of the jimmies?
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: matttt]
#19292950 - 12/18/13 11:44 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's awesome OP.
To be young again.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: koods]
#19292968 - 12/18/13 11:49 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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koods said: That's awesome OP.
To be young again.
How old are you anyways man?
You're a pretty smart dude. With age comes wisdom.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: matttt]
#19292974 - 12/18/13 11:50 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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koods said: That's awesome OP.
To be young again.
How old are you anyways man?
You're a pretty smart dude. With age comes wisdom.
I wish. 44.
So, what do you think is going on with your friend? Is he coming out of the closet? Was he just curious? Maybe he just wanted to be closer to you?
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: koods]
#19293210 - 12/18/13 12:44 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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koods said: That's awesome OP.
To be young again.
How old are you anyways man?
You're a pretty smart dude. With age comes wisdom.
I wish. 44.
So, what do you think is going on with your friend? Is he coming out of the closet? Was he just curious? Maybe he just wanted to be closer to you?
He's not ready to I don't think. I know he's bisexual or gay though. He has some buddies who would give him shit about it so I think he wouldn't come out until he gets that past him. Like I said earlier, at this point I'm the only one who knows that he's had sex with a guy. He's gonna probably keep trying to be secretive about it. Hell, even if he is gay and not bi I wouldn't be surprised if he married a woman and had kids. I don't think he wants to be gay or bi, he just is.
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Re: What does this even mean? [Re: matttt]
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That's cool. At least you were there for him. I'm sure he's feeling a lot more comfortable with himself than he was. In the end, not making a big deal about it was the friendliest move you could make.
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