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999
Number Nine?



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Making Changes
#19287779 - 12/17/13 09:47 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Im trying to get out of a relationship that I feel is nice, but has been holding me back for 44 months. Its not going anywhere. I'm 19, fit, handsome, with a modestly paying job, and I've been all over the states. Anyway, I feel "okay" about myself, but I guess I need to force myself to get out of this relationship.. I just wouldn't know where to start. I haven't been single in so long... Any advice or help for me? I don't drink very often, or smoke pot anymore, I just use kratom now and then, and trip a few times a year.. if that matters. Also, I'm about to move to California. What do girls look for? How do I push myself to let go of this relationship, so I can let someone new in?
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psyconaught
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Re: Making Changes [Re: 999]
#19287975 - 12/17/13 10:46 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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i'm pretty much in the exact same situation. Moving to California as well actually and am dealing with having a long distance relationship for the past year and a half while possibly continuing it.
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999
Number Nine?



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+5... Hey, I did it. I talked to her, even cried into that little stupid frog she sent me at the beginning of our relationship, 3 months in... it was like a really strong, truth revealing trip that makes you cry, even though normally you have so much keeping you from letting go... Oh god. Now what? We're going to be friends, but I told her that we can't talk for a month, and when she is in a different situation I can handle better, and she can actually visit me, (after she works on herself), I'd love to see her and possibly continue our relationship there. That'll be awhile from now, if ever. I'll be her friend, of course, but not for at least a month. I can't have any distractions. I need room to grow.
I go home for the holidays soon, anyway, and I'd like to be able to enjoy it fully.. God, I feel like a big chunk of cheese was removed from the bottom left-hand corner of my brain. It's so weird.
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Lynnch
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Re: Making Changes [Re: 999]
#19288449 - 12/17/13 12:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Its funny, I recently realized I really like myself better when i'm single. I'm more interested in people, in going out and doing things, and in taking care of myself. When I'm with someone I tend to not give a fuck anymore.
Enjoy the freedom dude, take a bit to stretch out and live for yourself. Don't be in a huge rush to meet a new girl- trying to meet people sucks; going out and doing cool things and winding up meeting cool people is awesome. You're gonna get lonely at some point. You're gonna deal with it just fine. Go grow! Feels good to take a step forward in life huh?
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pwnasaurus
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Re: Making Changes [Re: Lynnch]
#19288575 - 12/17/13 01:12 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am recently single from a little over a one-year relationship as of Sunday. I definitely do prefer being in a relationship, but this break-up has been the easiest yet.
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999
Number Nine?



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! I'm so happy, now, but I'm just worried I'll start regretting it and try to go back.. I need a few months to myself, yo. It'll be a struggle of will power.
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Patlal
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Quote:
pwnasaurus said: I am recently single from a little over a one-year relationship as of Sunday. I definitely do prefer being in a relationship, but this break-up has been the easiest yet.
How did you fuck it up?
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pwnasaurus
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Re: Making Changes [Re: Patlal]
#19289405 - 12/17/13 04:29 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Spark just kinda fizzled out I guess. We weren't connecting very well anymore. She also just got back from a 9 week trip to Africa, just graduated school in April and doesn't really know where she's going in life whereas I have a career already.
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