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Would you date a girl who has a kid?
#19287324 - 12/17/13 06:13 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well i'm single, and sometimes i peruse the Facebook and check out some of the many beautiful women on there. So many physically attractive single women seem to have kids. I'm 24, and i'm talking around the same age range. I hate to be shallow, but if a girl has kids, it's an instant turn off for a serious relationship, dtf is fine though.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287327 - 12/17/13 06:14 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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As long as the kids legal.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287329 - 12/17/13 06:16 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I wouldn't at the moment, but that's just because I want to get my ducks in a row first(finish school etc).
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta] 3
#19287334 - 12/17/13 06:17 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287345 - 12/17/13 06:28 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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The amount of times you used the word lionesses got me hard for some reason.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287348 - 12/17/13 06:32 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I know, its extremely hard to find a single woman without kids. Hell, most women have multiple kids from multiple guys. Finding a woman without kids is like winning the lottery.
Im with you op, kids pretty much destroy the chance of a serious relationahip.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: MightyWhite]
#19287351 - 12/17/13 06:34 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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When I was 18, no. Now that I'm 26, definitely.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: highc]
#19287363 - 12/17/13 06:37 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Absolutely, Don't let an awesome person get away just cause there is a kid in the picture.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287368 - 12/17/13 06:40 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ellis Dee said: The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Into The Woods] 1
#19287376 - 12/17/13 06:45 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm pointing out the differences between a lion's life and a humans. Although we are all animals, we have different rules that tend to govern our respective cultures. What's OK for a lion isn't OK for a man.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287379 - 12/17/13 06:47 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you really like the girl than why not? Who knows you might even like the kid too. I think it all boils down to responsibility. Do you want that much responsibility in your life, or not? You need to be a good role model for them whenever you're around, and curb your drug and alcohol habits. You may need to pick them up one day and will most certainly be dealing with the father at some level.
I'm married to the girl whom I dated with a child and couldn't be happier. I also have a child with her now and I couldn't imagine my life without them. They changed me drastically in a very good way. There's a good chance that my wife's child saved my life to be honest.
If you're up for the responsibility, then go for it. If it's not something you have any intention of being serious about don't just go floating in and out of the kids life for no reason. That fucks with their heads and no kid deserves that.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: JonnyBtreed]
#19287386 - 12/17/13 06:52 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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JonnyBtreed said: If you really like the girl than why not? Who knows you might even like the kid too. I think it all boils down to responsibility. Do you want that much responsibility in your life, or not? You need to be a good role model for them whenever you're around, and curb your drug and alcohol habits. You may need to pick them up one day and will most certainly be dealing with the father at some level.
I'm married to the girl whom I dated with a child and couldn't be happier. I also have a child with her now and I couldn't imagine my life without them. They changed me drastically in a very good way. There's a good chance that my wife's child saved my life to be honest.
If you're up for the responsibility, then go for it. If it's not something you have any intention of being serious about don't just go floating in and out of the kids life for no reason. That fucks with their heads and no kid deserves that.
Pretty much this^
It wouldn't be a complete deal breaker, but would certainly give me pause. If the father is around and active in the kid's life, I honestly think I'd prefer to be a step-dad. It's like being a dad but with less responsibility.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287391 - 12/17/13 06:54 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ellis Dee said: I'm pointing out the differences between a lion's life and a humans. Although we are all animals, we have different rules that tend to govern our respective cultures. What's OK for a lion isn't OK for a man.
I suppose not.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Into The Woods]
#19287403 - 12/17/13 07:02 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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it would be super hard for me to do that. i dont blame people for their past, but raising someone elses kids is a serious turn off
i dont like kids. i dont ever want one. so why would i wanna raise someone elses?
the chick would have to be fucking perfect
chicks with kids probly arent gonna go out there and slut it up ya know?
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Bassfreak]
#19287451 - 12/17/13 07:32 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I wouldn't. I simply wouldn't date anyone cause my life is mess and abut to end. But I don't think anyone can suggest proper advice, you know. Sometimes just things happen. Exact moment, exact place. And once you are getting affected, your mind works differently. Who knows, what will/would happen.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: VeryStrangeMan] 1
#19287504 - 12/17/13 08:04 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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JonnyBtreed said: If you really like the girl than why not? Who knows you might even like the kid too. I think it all boils down to responsibility. Do you want that much responsibility in your life, or not? You need to be a good role model for them whenever you're around, and curb your drug and alcohol habits. You may need to pick them up one day and will most certainly be dealing with the father at some level.
I'm married to the girl whom I dated with a child and couldn't be happier. I also have a child with her now and I couldn't imagine my life without them. They changed me drastically in a very good way. There's a good chance that my wife's child saved my life to be honest.
If you're up for the responsibility, then go for it. If it's not something you have any intention of being serious about don't just go floating in and out of the kids life for no reason. That fucks with their heads and no kid deserves that.
Hey man good post. I really liked what you've said. I am not talking about any girl which i have a rapport with, but more so from a purely physical prospective whome has gained my curiosity. Because i don't know her/them, i don't even know if i like them yet.
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Ellis Dee said: The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
wait a minute, does that mean Nala and Simba were brother and sister? Sick!
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VeryStrangeMan said: I wouldn't. I simply wouldn't date anyone cause my life is mess and abut to end.
Sad to hear bro, hope it doesn't and gets better real soon.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta] 3
#19287548 - 12/17/13 08:17 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm about to turn 32, so this question has become particularly pressing for me recently. But my answer is still no though. Not because I don't like kids (I love them) but for a number of other reasons. I've heard it described as "playing someone else's save game" which I think is pretty accurate. You get a ready-made family but you miss out on all the fun and exciting parts along the way. Also, you'll never be as important to her as her kid, so you have to be okay with that going into things. And if she's a single mom with young children, it's a good indication that she might make poor decisions and/or isn't particularly loyal. Not to mention if things become serious and then go south, in some situations you can still be liable for child support even if you were never married or had any kids together. Just seems like a whole bunch of warning signs which can easily be avoided by screening out the ones with kids. Sorry ladies.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287562 - 12/17/13 08:23 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I would have to really REALLY like her.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: jewunit]
#19287580 - 12/17/13 08:30 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I dated a girl with 4 kids. Liked her so much I married her and we adopted 2 more!
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287582 - 12/17/13 08:30 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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wait a minute, does that mean Nala and Simba were brother and sister? Sick!
I don't think Disney animals are known for their accurate portrayal of the animals actual habitat and animal culture. There would only ever be one male lion around, Scar would never have been part of the pride, he could only be a lone lion on the savannah hoping to take over a pride of his own some day. And hyenas and lions do not get along well, like scar and the hyenas did. But if they did then Simba and Nala would be half siblings in fact, offspring of different lionesses both fathered by Mufasa.
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