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Would you date a girl who has a kid?
#19287324 - 12/17/13 06:13 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well i'm single, and sometimes i peruse the Facebook and check out some of the many beautiful women on there. So many physically attractive single women seem to have kids. I'm 24, and i'm talking around the same age range. I hate to be shallow, but if a girl has kids, it's an instant turn off for a serious relationship, dtf is fine though.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287327 - 12/17/13 06:14 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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As long as the kids legal.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287329 - 12/17/13 06:16 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I wouldn't at the moment, but that's just because I want to get my ducks in a row first(finish school etc).
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta] 3
#19287334 - 12/17/13 06:17 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287345 - 12/17/13 06:28 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The amount of times you used the word lionesses got me hard for some reason.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287348 - 12/17/13 06:32 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I know, its extremely hard to find a single woman without kids. Hell, most women have multiple kids from multiple guys. Finding a woman without kids is like winning the lottery.
Im with you op, kids pretty much destroy the chance of a serious relationahip.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: MightyWhite]
#19287351 - 12/17/13 06:34 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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When I was 18, no. Now that I'm 26, definitely.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: highc]
#19287363 - 12/17/13 06:37 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Absolutely, Don't let an awesome person get away just cause there is a kid in the picture.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287368 - 12/17/13 06:40 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ellis Dee said: The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Into The Woods] 1
#19287376 - 12/17/13 06:45 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm pointing out the differences between a lion's life and a humans. Although we are all animals, we have different rules that tend to govern our respective cultures. What's OK for a lion isn't OK for a man.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287379 - 12/17/13 06:47 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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If you really like the girl than why not? Who knows you might even like the kid too. I think it all boils down to responsibility. Do you want that much responsibility in your life, or not? You need to be a good role model for them whenever you're around, and curb your drug and alcohol habits. You may need to pick them up one day and will most certainly be dealing with the father at some level.
I'm married to the girl whom I dated with a child and couldn't be happier. I also have a child with her now and I couldn't imagine my life without them. They changed me drastically in a very good way. There's a good chance that my wife's child saved my life to be honest.
If you're up for the responsibility, then go for it. If it's not something you have any intention of being serious about don't just go floating in and out of the kids life for no reason. That fucks with their heads and no kid deserves that.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: JonnyBtreed]
#19287386 - 12/17/13 06:52 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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JonnyBtreed said: If you really like the girl than why not? Who knows you might even like the kid too. I think it all boils down to responsibility. Do you want that much responsibility in your life, or not? You need to be a good role model for them whenever you're around, and curb your drug and alcohol habits. You may need to pick them up one day and will most certainly be dealing with the father at some level.
I'm married to the girl whom I dated with a child and couldn't be happier. I also have a child with her now and I couldn't imagine my life without them. They changed me drastically in a very good way. There's a good chance that my wife's child saved my life to be honest.
If you're up for the responsibility, then go for it. If it's not something you have any intention of being serious about don't just go floating in and out of the kids life for no reason. That fucks with their heads and no kid deserves that.
Pretty much this^
It wouldn't be a complete deal breaker, but would certainly give me pause. If the father is around and active in the kid's life, I honestly think I'd prefer to be a step-dad. It's like being a dad but with less responsibility.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287391 - 12/17/13 06:54 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ellis Dee said: I'm pointing out the differences between a lion's life and a humans. Although we are all animals, we have different rules that tend to govern our respective cultures. What's OK for a lion isn't OK for a man.
I suppose not.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Into The Woods]
#19287403 - 12/17/13 07:02 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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it would be super hard for me to do that. i dont blame people for their past, but raising someone elses kids is a serious turn off
i dont like kids. i dont ever want one. so why would i wanna raise someone elses?
the chick would have to be fucking perfect
chicks with kids probly arent gonna go out there and slut it up ya know?
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Bassfreak]
#19287451 - 12/17/13 07:32 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I wouldn't. I simply wouldn't date anyone cause my life is mess and abut to end. But I don't think anyone can suggest proper advice, you know. Sometimes just things happen. Exact moment, exact place. And once you are getting affected, your mind works differently. Who knows, what will/would happen.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: VeryStrangeMan] 1
#19287504 - 12/17/13 08:04 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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JonnyBtreed said: If you really like the girl than why not? Who knows you might even like the kid too. I think it all boils down to responsibility. Do you want that much responsibility in your life, or not? You need to be a good role model for them whenever you're around, and curb your drug and alcohol habits. You may need to pick them up one day and will most certainly be dealing with the father at some level.
I'm married to the girl whom I dated with a child and couldn't be happier. I also have a child with her now and I couldn't imagine my life without them. They changed me drastically in a very good way. There's a good chance that my wife's child saved my life to be honest.
If you're up for the responsibility, then go for it. If it's not something you have any intention of being serious about don't just go floating in and out of the kids life for no reason. That fucks with their heads and no kid deserves that.
Hey man good post. I really liked what you've said. I am not talking about any girl which i have a rapport with, but more so from a purely physical prospective whome has gained my curiosity. Because i don't know her/them, i don't even know if i like them yet.
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Ellis Dee said: The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
wait a minute, does that mean Nala and Simba were brother and sister? Sick!
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Sad to hear bro, hope it doesn't and gets better real soon.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta] 3
#19287548 - 12/17/13 08:17 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm about to turn 32, so this question has become particularly pressing for me recently. But my answer is still no though. Not because I don't like kids (I love them) but for a number of other reasons. I've heard it described as "playing someone else's save game" which I think is pretty accurate. You get a ready-made family but you miss out on all the fun and exciting parts along the way. Also, you'll never be as important to her as her kid, so you have to be okay with that going into things. And if she's a single mom with young children, it's a good indication that she might make poor decisions and/or isn't particularly loyal. Not to mention if things become serious and then go south, in some situations you can still be liable for child support even if you were never married or had any kids together. Just seems like a whole bunch of warning signs which can easily be avoided by screening out the ones with kids. Sorry ladies.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287562 - 12/17/13 08:23 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would have to really REALLY like her.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: jewunit]
#19287580 - 12/17/13 08:30 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I dated a girl with 4 kids. Liked her so much I married her and we adopted 2 more!
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287582 - 12/17/13 08:30 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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wait a minute, does that mean Nala and Simba were brother and sister? Sick!
I don't think Disney animals are known for their accurate portrayal of the animals actual habitat and animal culture. There would only ever be one male lion around, Scar would never have been part of the pride, he could only be a lone lion on the savannah hoping to take over a pride of his own some day. And hyenas and lions do not get along well, like scar and the hyenas did. But if they did then Simba and Nala would be half siblings in fact, offspring of different lionesses both fathered by Mufasa.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287588 - 12/17/13 08:32 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have. It was OK. Not really what I'm looking for, but it could be OK if it was the right lady.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ythan]
#19287605 - 12/17/13 08:38 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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in some situations you can still be liable for child support even if you were never married or had any kids together.
Whaaaat? Being in my late thirties in the desert SW, I don't seem to have any other choice. Many women around here in their 30's are freakin grandmothers. Kids are great, but i don't want anything to do with teens.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Middleman]
#19287643 - 12/17/13 08:55 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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in some situations you can still be liable for child support even if you were never married or had any kids together.
Whaaaat? Being in my late thirties in the desert SW, I don't seem to have any other choice. Many women around here in their 30's are freakin grandmothers. Kids are great, but i don't want anything to do with teens.
lol ya thats bullshit. i would appeal the shit out of that
realistcially id probly just tell her to fuck off
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Middleman]
#19287657 - 12/17/13 08:59 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Probably not. I'm only 24, I don't want to have anything to do with kids for AT LEAST 5 more years if ever.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19287817 - 12/17/13 09:56 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
This crazy motherfucker right here....
I, however, would date a woman who has a child. Only because I have a thing for Mexican women.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Konichiwaffle]
#19287873 - 12/17/13 10:10 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I did it once. She was seventeen. So I can honestly say I once was with a jailbait MILF.
in the end she left me for her babys daddy when he finally decided to man up and take care of the kid he was responsible for birthing. I'm honestly happy for them all, they seem like a happy family
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: morrowasted]
#19287901 - 12/17/13 10:22 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't think I could do it. I'm way too young to deal with kids and hell I don't want anything to do with kids for the next decade at least.
They are just too much responsibility. I want to go crazy, travel, take drugs all the time, do things on the spot when I think of it, etc. Definitely not ready to take on the responsibility of being a father when everything has to be "planned" to do anything fun.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Uzziel]
#19287908 - 12/17/13 10:25 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Kids can be a drag on your social life and wallet. There were lots of times through the years where we the kids cost us dearly. College, health care, allowances, clothes, games, toys... The whole nine yards. You just have to change your focus to make it work. Not so much of me, me, me and a whole lot of us, us, us...
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: mpd]
#19287926 - 12/17/13 10:31 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm 21 so i'm gonna say HELL NO. I can barely take care of myself sometimes much less some kid that I don't even know
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287940 - 12/17/13 10:38 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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In my younger years I did. No problem with kids.
My present spouse had a 4 year old boy and a 7 year old girl when I met her. Now almost 20 years later, that little girl has provided us with a grand daughter and grand son... . . .
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#19287946 - 12/17/13 10:41 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm open to the idea. I don't mind decently mannered kids. Unless things got serious I'm not trying to be a care taker though.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: mpd]
#19287972 - 12/17/13 10:46 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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mpd said: Kids can be a drag on your social life and wallet. There were lots of times through the years where we the kids cost us dearly. College, health care, allowances, clothes, games, toys... The whole nine yards. You just have to change your focus to make it work. Not so much of me, me, me and a whole lot of us, us, us...
Yeah... I have no desire to change my focus.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Magenta]
#19287981 - 12/17/13 10:49 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would never date a dude with a kid. Never ever ever ever ever
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#19288021 - 12/17/13 11:00 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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VivaLaMushie said: I would never date a dude with a kid. Never ever ever ever ever
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#19288061 - 12/17/13 11:10 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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VivaLaMushie said: I would never date a dude with a kid. Never ever ever ever ever
If its a really great guy and the kids arent satans spawn then sure, I might.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#19288070 - 12/17/13 11:11 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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This all depends on several factors is the father part of his life? and if so, is he a lunatic?
How old the kid is, sorry ladies but I would never step into a situation with an adolescent. :hairpull:
Am I stepping in as a father? eg. biological father is nowhere in the kids life.. NO
Do you see yourself with this girl for a long time? if the answer is no, move on. Believe me, the kid will get attached, and you don't want to hurt the little person.
Remember, this girl knows she doesn't want to raise a kid by herself forever, so she is looking for help from a man. marriage, money, and a mans discipline. If you're in it for just sex, you're going to be finding yourself in a world of shit.
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Re: Would you date a girl who has a kid? [Re: Ellis Dee]
#19288071 - 12/17/13 11:11 AM (10 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ellis Dee said: The male lion has no problem in taking over a pride of lionesses who have kids. His first duty is to dispose of the lion cubs fathered by anyone other than him, by killing them. He then creates new cubs by inseminating the lionesses. In human society it is not so simple as disposing of the previous guy's kids, due to laws calling such acts criminal for instance. For that reason I generally avoid women that already have kids.
My mane man!
Yeah but lionesses are great bro. It's their job to spend the day working to bring back meat while I relax. Lion society is a wonderful thing.
I imagine while relaxing I'd throw some shroomery browsing into the mix.
As long as the kid isn't some liger crossbreed I don't see how it would be an issue.
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