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I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please
    #19283358 - 12/16/13 11:19 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

I have essentially flunked out of college.

I have no job, no money, and my parents are kicking me out of the house.

I want to move somewhere new and start a life for myself, but really have no idea how to go about getting that started.

I am 19 years old and I desperatley seek the advice of those of you who are older than me and have successfully dealt with similar situations, so any input would be greatly appreciated.

Cheers and thanks in advance :sad::confused::sad::confused::sad::confused::sad::confused:


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283373 - 12/16/13 11:22 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

You have to borrow money from someone now then find a way to make money.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283392 - 12/16/13 11:26 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

A job waiting tables would probably be a good idea.  Jobs with tips are one of the easiest ways to support yourself when you just move out.  I supported myself by delivering pizza when I was 19.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d] * 2
    #19283416 - 12/16/13 11:33 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

My professor first year said a quote I'll never forget.

If you fail a course first semester, you retake it in the second semester. If you fail it again, you retake it in the summer. If you fail it a third time, you pick garbage off the floor.

Try your hardest to get a second shot at college, even if it means begging your parents and promising them you'll change. Reassess your study habits, set new ones, and succeed next year. Look into whether or not you have ADHD, people are often shocked when they realize how much their attention deficit is impeding them from reaching their true potential. Some concerta and ritalin here and there won't hurt your study sessions.

If you don't go back, you'll have to live the hard life. Who knows, you might hit it off and get big, but more likely you'll be stuck with a dead end job and a nasty manager who breathes down your throat.

Good luck man, take this situation seriously!


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Alexestalex]
    #19283429 - 12/16/13 11:38 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Alexestalex said:
Try your hardest to get a second shot at college, even if it means begging your parents and promising them you'll change. Reassess your study habits, set new ones, and succeed next year. Look into whether or not you have ADHD, people are often shocked when they realize how much their attention deficit is impeding them from reaching their true potential. Some concerta and ritalin here and there won't hurt your study sessions.

If you don't go back, you'll have to live the hard life. Who knows, you might hit it off and get big, but more likely you'll be stuck with a dead end job and a nasty manager who breathes down your throat.

Good luck man, take this situation seriously!



you may be a psychopath but you are completely right about this... lol :cheers:


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OfflinePatlal
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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Alexestalex]
    #19283433 - 12/16/13 11:40 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

So OP you are 19 years old and your parents are kicking you out. That pretty much means they gave up on you.

The question is why?

What can you do to make them change your mind about you?


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Alexestalex]
    #19283439 - 12/16/13 11:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Alexestalex said:
My professor first year said a quote I'll never forget.

If you fail a course first semester, you retake it in the second semester. If you fail it again, you retake it in the summer. If you fail it a third time, you pick garbage off the floor.

Try your hardest to get a second shot at college, even if it means begging your parents and promising them you'll change. Reassess your study habits, set new ones, and succeed next year. Look into whether or not you have ADHD, people are often shocked when they realize how much their attention deficit is impeding them from reaching their true potential. Some concerta and ritalin here and there won't hurt your study sessions.

If you don't go back, you'll have to live the hard life. Who knows, you might hit it off and get big, but more likely you'll be stuck with a dead end job and a nasty manager who breathes down your throat.

Good luck man, take this situation seriously!



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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283440 - 12/16/13 11:41 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Assuming you have made good friends at college, do not leave. You will not find a cheaper place to live. You need to find a job there and try to save. Go sign up to your local gym if you're going to couch serf so you can shower, or just use the campus facilities if your ID still works. Your life is about to get shitty, the fastest way to fix it is to get some income.

I have been in a very similar situation. And there really no is no easy way out of this. Besides selling dope anyway, and that can be complicated when you don't have a home. Go live with some one you know, and SPEND ALL FUCKING DAY EVERY DAY looking for a job. Your life is going to have to get thrifty real quick......

Good Luck OP


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Patlal]
    #19283446 - 12/16/13 11:42 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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Patlal said:
So OP you are 19 years old and your parents are kicking you out. That pretty much means they gave up on you.





It doesn't necessarily mean that at all.  It may mean that they are not rescuers and enablers, which is a good thing.  Being an enabler to somebody can easily be a sign of giving up on them.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283478 - 12/16/13 11:47 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

Luc1d said:
I have essentially flunked out of college.

I have no job, no money, and my parents are kicking me out of the house.

I want to move somewhere new and start a life for myself, but really have no idea how to go about getting that started.

I am 19 years old and I desperatley seek the advice of those of you who are older than me and have successfully dealt with similar situations, so any input would be greatly appreciated.

Cheers and thanks in advance :sad::confused::sad::confused::sad::confused::sad::confused:




I was in a similar situation (except I didn't flunk college I just didn't see it helping me), I sold all my shit and started walking.  I traversed all of the US (didn't have the balls to go outside the US.)  I highly recommend it.

I'm going to do it again soon, except this time I'm going to the southern Tip of Chile zig zagging all over central and south america.
You'll never have a better sense of "god" than whilst traveling alone with nothing. You discover, you're not alone at all. (Unless you're some retard that avoids people...that shit'll get you killed.)


Edited by Allisterem (12/16/13 11:52 AM)


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: DieCommie]
    #19283507 - 12/16/13 11:54 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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DieCommie said:
Quote:

Patlal said:
So OP you are 19 years old and your parents are kicking you out. That pretty much means they gave up on you.





It doesn't necessarily mean that at all.  It may mean that they are not rescuers and enablers, which is a good thing.  Being an enabler to somebody can easily be a sign of giving up on them.




Good family relations = better chance at life

Bad family relations = High risk of criminality.


I don't really see how they can be enablers if they live with and love their son.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: DieCommie]
    #19283513 - 12/16/13 11:56 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

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DieCommie said:
A job waiting tables would probably be a good idea.  Jobs with tips are one of the easiest ways to support yourself when you just move out.  I supported myself by delivering pizza when I was 19.



OP you would be very surprised at how much you can make delivering pizzas out of a good privately owned shop. My first year I made 37,000 in cash which equals out to about 50 k on a check. You could do it for 5 or 6 months till you get back on your feet.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Patlal]
    #19283526 - 12/16/13 11:59 AM (10 years, 2 months ago)

No, its not that simple.  Criminality?  You act as though thats a bad thing...

If they loved their son they wouldn't hobble him by having him live at home as an adult.  That is verging on enabling.  The enabler cant understand how saying "no" is the best thing for somebody so they constantly rescue their loved one and enable their loved one to stay on the same path to nowhere.

Im not saying this the OP's case.  I dont know him at all.  But it does happen, particularly with families where substance use and abuse goes on.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283545 - 12/16/13 12:05 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

Luc1d said:
I have essentially flunked out of college.

I have no job, no money, and my parents are kicking me out of the house.

I want to move somewhere new and start a life for myself, but really have no idea how to go about getting that started.

I am 19 years old and I desperatley seek the advice of those of you who are older than me and have successfully dealt with similar situations, so any input would be greatly appreciated.

Cheers and thanks in advance :sad::confused::sad::confused::sad::confused::sad::confused:





I'm in a very similar situation actually. I'd recommend asking a friend to stay with them until you can start working (or however you make money) and get back on your feet. Did any of your friends drop out? Maybe they would be interested in splitting rent in an apartment.

:shrug:

Best of luck to you!


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: RockyRaccoon] * 2
    #19283557 - 12/16/13 12:09 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

First piece of advice: don't take advice from people on drug forums who are probably mostly lazy stoners.

Second piece of advice: Start selling drugs.

Third piece of advice: Before following second piece of advice, refer once again to the first piece of advice.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283663 - 12/16/13 12:30 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Sounds like your first priority is getting a job and housing.  Get both ASAP.

Once that is done take a breath and regroup.  It sounds like college isn't for you.  You might be interested in some of the trades (e.g. plumber, electrician, etc.).  Start to develop a plan.


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...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely.

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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Luc1d]
    #19283682 - 12/16/13 12:34 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Don't feel like your life is ruined as a result of this. In reality, your life is just beginning. Everything happens the way it is supposed to. It's your great opportunity to figure out what YOU want to do with your life instead of thinking about what society, your parents, or anyone else wants you to do.

What are your dreams? What would you love to do if you could do anything? Where have you always dreamed of living? Now's the time to chase them dreams down. You may need a little monetary help along the way. Find a job, save up some money.


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: nicechrisman]
    #19283797 - 12/16/13 12:59 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

Patch things up with your parents while filling out applications to jobs. Part time, full time, either one is going to give you more of a shot than fending for yourself with no money. Tell your parents how you are looking for work and promise them a new and improved you


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: plektheplek]
    #19283863 - 12/16/13 01:14 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

join the navy

i know people on good terms with their parents

you need to get out of the house

it's natural

fuck em


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Re: I have essentially flunked out of college, and now I'm fucked. Any advice? please [Re: Konyap]
    #19284148 - 12/16/13 02:17 PM (10 years, 2 months ago)

define "failing out of college". did you have a shitty semester and your parents are pulling the plug or did you actually get expelled from school due to your grades?


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